Physically assaulted and wondering about what to do next

[TheVampire]

It was all over the TV and my brother!

Im 31 and he is 29 and we live together in our own small house.

I wanted to play a game as he had been using the TV for a few hours already but he didn't want to give it up. I suggested how about an hour later and he said no again. I sarcastically reminded him that I technically own the PS4 and TV......not as If I would actually lug that big TV away into my room where there's no space for it anyway and he told me to fuck off.

So I tossed a soft pillow at his back in my frustration and walked away and then he went into a rage and ran after me punched me in the back hard four or five times and once in the face all while I had my hands up in the air not defending myself at all because if I did that it would've been a fight and this was now an assault.

My mum who had came to visit that day saw the last of the assault being my face getting cracked and I have pictures of the bruises to my back.

He reckons he was defending himself....against a once off soft pillow throw which I then walked away from.

He can be a real dick sometimes so Im wondering what I should do about this like going to the cops and filing an assault charge or not?
We have lived together for a year now and this is our first fight.

-updated page 12

 

[Geno Breaker]

File a charge. If he gets that pent up over a pillow then he has issues. Maybe you should make sure he's checked for mental issues.

 

[HiiiLife]

take a baseball bat to his teeth

 

[Straight Edge]

Yes file charges and kick him out or move.

 

[blame space]

Email the police a link to this thread.

 

[jellies_two]

you've known him your whole life, you probably know by now if he is dangerous or not?

 

[the_batman]

Yes file charges and kick him out or move.

i'd do this.

 

[GHG]

You want to file for assult against your brother over a petty fight involving the TV that started with a pillow being thrown...? Unless this is a regular occurrence then no, that is not the best thing to do.

Try speaking to him first. Go out the house with him to somewhere public and neutral like a coffee bar and talk it out with him like adults. See how you go from there.

 

[Matt]

It's your brother...only you can really answer this question.

 

[Verelios]

Wow, that was some crazy escalation. I don't think you'll want to press charges on your own brother, unless you do which is completely in your right, but you should bring that up to him. Because what he did wasn't cool even in a moment of passion.

 

[TheVampire]

you've known him your whole life, you probably know by now if he is dangerous or not?

Hes not and we get along 90% of the time but im pissed right now

 

[Keyser Soze]

I would not live with this person even if they are family. Even if this is his first such outburst he seems to have an ongoing childish/selfish mentality that will always result in issues.

 

[PsychoRaven]

Simple. File charges on his ass. Follow this up by evicting his ass.

 

[akira28]

Yes file charges and kick him out or move.

Do all three. So when he gets out of jail, he doesn't have a brother around and maybe he'll regret being a jerk.

 

[Yado]

Why not fight back if you're reluctant to press charges anyway?

 

[SoRuffShoNuff]

Do you really want your brother in jail? Do you really want to potentially ruin his life over this? If anything just start the process on yall getting separate living arrangements but don't send him to jail, that makes everything worse permanently.

 

[-Stranger-]

Kick him out your own brother shouldn't do that

 

[whitehawk]

You don't have to file charges now, but it'd be good to go to the police and file any evidence so if this happens again you have more on him if you decide to charge him.

 

[HiiiLife]

Hes not and we get along 90% of the time.

The other ten percent he's beating you up? I wouldn't file against my brother but I'd consider moving out.

 

[Keri]

What the hell is going on in your brother's life, that would cause him to have such a violent response, over something so simple? You're justified in pressing charges against him, but it's really such a shame you're relationship with your brother is so bad. If you own the house with him, expect things to get complicated and ugly. I'd start planning to move and put the house up for sale, and hope that he doesn't fight you on going your separate ways.

 

[Meatfist]

Yikes, that sounds like shit my brother and I would do when we were 12 and 16

If this is the first time he's done that I'd have a talk with him once everyone is cooled off, but if it's a common occurrence I'd call the cops for sure

 

[Verelios]

Hes not and we get along 90% of the time.

Then just talk to him, maybe work out what triggered him that day.

Some of you guys in here make me wonder if you're only children. There's some real penitence chanting going on.

 

[Korey]

Press charges, stop living with him, cut him out of your life.

 

[17 Seconds]

uhh, unless there is a history of this happening, no. don't call the cops on your brother because you got into a minor scrap.

 

[Figgles]

I think there is a typo in the OP. You're 11 and he's 9, right?

 

[Skyzard]

First step is to move the TV and PS4 into your room and get a lock.

Also punch him while he's sleeping then run to your room and lock the door.


-don't call cops on your bro. get separate places if u have to

 

[gutter_trash]

this is the sort of shit me and my brother did to each other......... when we were kids

you two are physically adults but both are mentally still children.



the solution is for both to move out seperatly your own way and become adults




*PS: don't press charges. You are both man-children

 

[nomster]

honestly, if this isn't a pattern and you are ok, I'd suggest against the cops. You'd be in the right, but that kind of thing can stick to a person for their whole life. My two cents.

 

[the_batman]

Email the police a link to this thread.

nah..

 

[nekkid]

In not fighting back it seems like you already made your decision.

 

[The Driver]

When I first read this I thought y'alls spat was "all over the TV", like, somehow notable enough to make the news.

It added a whole nother level of incredulity to two grown men fighting over TV privileges.

 

[nullref]

I recommend you make your beds into bunk beds so you have more room for activities. I imagine that will help you patch things up.

Edit: Joking aside, it is pretty messed up that your brother got that violent.

 

[FZeroRacer]

You want to file for assult against your brother over a petty fight involving the TV that started with a pillow being thrown...? Unless this is a regular occurrence then no, that is not the best thing to do.

Try speaking to him first. Go out the house with him to somewhere public and neutral like a coffee bar and talk it out with him like adults. See how you go from there.

The adult thing to do is not to punch the shit out of your family in the first place, no matter how angry you get.

Also people saying 'both of you are manchildren!' when one resorted to actual violence is some shit.

 

[nekkid]

When I first read this I thought y'alls spat was "all over the TV", like, somehow notable enough to make the news.

I had to read OP a couple of times before I got it, I must be honest.

 

[sangreal]

You don't need the cops, talk to your brother. Youre not the first person go get it into a fist fight with their brother over something stupid.

 

[Pixieking]

honestly, if this isn't a pattern and you are ok, I'd suggest against the cops. You'd be in the right, but that kind of thing can stick to a person for their whole life. My two cents.

Whilst this post is right, bear in mind the knock-on effect of not going to the police if he has developed anger/violence/mental health issues - this time, he repeatedly hit you. If there's a next time, it could be your mom, a friend, a lover, a girlfriend. And that'll be on you, to some extent, if you don't report this.

Perhaps you can request that no charges be filed, but he has to seek counseling/therapy?

 

[TemplaerDude]

nah..

That's only true some of the time.

 

[CarpeDeezNutz]

The "threw a soft pillow" comment makes me think about the threads where more information comes out that paints the OP in a different light. We only know your side. I never had a brother but i grew up with relatives about the same age where we gave as good as we got, we were kids though.

 

[Bucca]

Your brother sounds like a piece of shit, no offense.

 

[Admiral Woofington]

You don't need the cops, talk to your brother. Youre not the first person go get it into a fist fight with their brother

what surprises me if that if OP hadn't mentioned they're in their late 20s/early 30s I would have thought it was two small kid brothers. The story just reads like exactly what a fight would escalate like between two kid brothers, particularly with mom breaking it up.

 

[Skeletron]

Did you touch his drumset?

 

[lastplayed]

Simple. File charges on his ass. Follow this up by evicting his ass.

That's a lot of ass.

 

[akira28]

did you throw the pillow as hard as you could, OP? Be honest.

hard throw cancels out soft pillow.

 

[TheFlow]

Tell him the cops will be called next time.

If you really want you can log this incident with the police along with pics of the attack. Don't press charges though. Like I said give him a fine warning, talk to your mum, and have a family sit down because he has clear issues.

Unless he normally beats you down like this then yea ignore what I said and call the cops. It is not a rare thing for family members to seriously hurt other family members over basic disputes.

 

[CarpeDeezNutz]

That's a lot of ass.

Destroy ass

 

[Permanently A]

In not fighting back it seems like you already made your decision.

 

[always crazy bacon]

In legal terms, YOU assaulted him 1st. Legally as that's the road you want to go down, it was self defense.

What's the outcome you are looking for? Sue your brother, put him in jail?

 

[akira28]

Destroy ass

5...4...3...2...

 

[aliengmr]

I wouldn't do anything. I mean, I'm not that close with my brother but I wouldn't call the cops on him over a few punches. I guess that's one of my "It's family" lines I won't cross.

 

[Servbot24]

File charges ASAP. Afterwards, kick his ass out. Doesn't matter if he's your brother, what he did is under no circumstances remotely acceptable.