CrushDance
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- Sep 9, 2006
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As some of you may know I work as assistant chef/prep/whatever in a restaurant and as such i watch over other people and help out when I'm done my duties for the day.
I was hired along with a "guy" who came the following day. The head chef who had trained m introduced me to "him", but a few minutes later after the new hire had walked off to get ready he chuckled and said "Danielle" I looked at him and said "What?" he responded by saying "Oh, that's a guy." it was at this point that I smirked and thought while it was kind of funny it wouldn't be out of the ordinary for a guy to have a name like that. After all, a name is a name. But I kind of said to myself: "Well he might be gay"
Unbenknownst to me and the head chef, Danielle was actually a girl. How did I find out? Not in the way I would have liked...
the following weeks went by and me and Danielle worked together and it's at this point that I started feeling like a storm was coming. I was preparing some food along with him for use and we started talking about various things. But this part was key:
Her: Yeah, I'm 18. I got this job because I hadn't worked for about 2 weeks after leaving my other job and was bored at home. I'd worked here before though along with my sister. But she only works like 2 days a week.
Me: You don't look 18(I said jokingly..but she really doesn't)
Her: (laughs)
Me: Haha, that's pretty cool.
Later on this little snippet occured while we were listening to some music together.
Her: "Didn't you hear what I said?"
Me: "Erm, nope. What did you say?"
Her: (laughs) sometimes when I'm doing something while talking I kind of just talk and sometimes say things that I don't mean to.
OMFG.
Me: Me to! But I kind of let my emotions carry me instead and end up saying things I wish I could take back.
OMFGX2
-later in the week-
her: I've got such a bad schedule this week! This wasn't what I signed up for.
Me: "Same here, it's kind of GAY"
Right after I said that word I stopped what I was doing and it seemed like time stopped for a second. I nervously but carefully glanced a look at her and she was blushing(Might have been from the heat though) but we both just eyed each other for a split second and went on with our talk as if nothing happened.
-END-
After that conversation I got a sinking feeling that something wasn't right. but wasn't sure what to do. We were both friendly with each other though and things went great between us. It wasn't until today that a corrosion of conformity occurred:
-TODAY-
Me: Where'd the head chef* put the prep list?
Her: Oh hey *My name*!
Me: Hi.
Girl cooking: Not sure, Danielle finished all of it though. So the head chef* is probably making a new one for you to work on tonight.
Me: Cool. So why is he on grill?
Girl cooking: Well Danielle will be done soon and since there's nothing to do he's just watching me cook.
-SKIP to after she finished work-
The girl who was cooking comes up to me:
Girl cook: "Did you say he earlier?"
Me: (Heart stops) "Y..yeah..."
Girl cook: "Oh. Because Danielle is a girl, you didn't know that?"
Me: (O.M.F.G just let me die now) "What...?"
Girl cook: "Yeah I wasn't sure myself either until her sister came in yesterday and said that her little sister had already started work here."
Me:
" "But...the head chef* said...wow...I feel so bad for calling her a he this whoel time!"
Girl cook: "Don't worry, I don't think she minded. But when you walked away earlier she said [that guy is weird]"
Me: (Ugh. Shit.)
Throughout the rest of my shift I was really out of it and not able to focus at all on what I was supposed to be doing. Some other guy came up to me and while laughing said "She's pretty androgynous hey?" I kind of just played along with him. But I felt and still feel like crap.
As corny as this may sound I'm a pretty chivalrous guy and have tremendous respect for women. I don't swear around them, act aggressively or crack jokes that I would with other guys. But the whole time I was acting like she was "One of the guys" and saying things that I now deeply regret. I really hate myself for automatically labeling her as a "gay guy" ad being so quick to set up a mindset about her. I know it's human nature with first impressions, but i really believed she was a guy.
I mean...the hair was always under her cap so I couldn't see well and whenever she was done and would be leaving, she always looked about "halfway" so I always thought it was just a gay guy...Even her chest was kind of flat, but it's like now everyone is saying "If you look closely you can see that she actually has boobs lolz" and all these things that I now ask myself "Why didn't I notice that!?"
What should I say or do? The one girl told me not to worry about it and to not mention it. But I feel really bad about calling her "Him", "He" etc this whole time. I'm thinking the best thing would be to not just say anything to hurt her more but somehow apologize but I think saying 'Sorry for calling you a guy' would be of epic fail proportions.
:/
I was hired along with a "guy" who came the following day. The head chef who had trained m introduced me to "him", but a few minutes later after the new hire had walked off to get ready he chuckled and said "Danielle" I looked at him and said "What?" he responded by saying "Oh, that's a guy." it was at this point that I smirked and thought while it was kind of funny it wouldn't be out of the ordinary for a guy to have a name like that. After all, a name is a name. But I kind of said to myself: "Well he might be gay"
Unbenknownst to me and the head chef, Danielle was actually a girl. How did I find out? Not in the way I would have liked...
the following weeks went by and me and Danielle worked together and it's at this point that I started feeling like a storm was coming. I was preparing some food along with him for use and we started talking about various things. But this part was key:
Her: Yeah, I'm 18. I got this job because I hadn't worked for about 2 weeks after leaving my other job and was bored at home. I'd worked here before though along with my sister. But she only works like 2 days a week.
Me: You don't look 18(I said jokingly..but she really doesn't)
Her: (laughs)
Me: Haha, that's pretty cool.
Later on this little snippet occured while we were listening to some music together.
Her: "Didn't you hear what I said?"
Me: "Erm, nope. What did you say?"
Her: (laughs) sometimes when I'm doing something while talking I kind of just talk and sometimes say things that I don't mean to.
OMFG.
Me: Me to! But I kind of let my emotions carry me instead and end up saying things I wish I could take back.
OMFGX2
-later in the week-
her: I've got such a bad schedule this week! This wasn't what I signed up for.
Me: "Same here, it's kind of GAY"
Right after I said that word I stopped what I was doing and it seemed like time stopped for a second. I nervously but carefully glanced a look at her and she was blushing(Might have been from the heat though) but we both just eyed each other for a split second and went on with our talk as if nothing happened.
-END-
After that conversation I got a sinking feeling that something wasn't right. but wasn't sure what to do. We were both friendly with each other though and things went great between us. It wasn't until today that a corrosion of conformity occurred:
-TODAY-
Me: Where'd the head chef* put the prep list?
Her: Oh hey *My name*!
Me: Hi.
Girl cooking: Not sure, Danielle finished all of it though. So the head chef* is probably making a new one for you to work on tonight.
Me: Cool. So why is he on grill?
Girl cooking: Well Danielle will be done soon and since there's nothing to do he's just watching me cook.
-SKIP to after she finished work-
The girl who was cooking comes up to me:
Girl cook: "Did you say he earlier?"
Me: (Heart stops) "Y..yeah..."
Girl cook: "Oh. Because Danielle is a girl, you didn't know that?"
Me: (O.M.F.G just let me die now) "What...?"
Girl cook: "Yeah I wasn't sure myself either until her sister came in yesterday and said that her little sister had already started work here."
Me:
" "But...the head chef* said...wow...I feel so bad for calling her a he this whoel time!"Girl cook: "Don't worry, I don't think she minded. But when you walked away earlier she said [that guy is weird]"
Me: (Ugh. Shit.)
Throughout the rest of my shift I was really out of it and not able to focus at all on what I was supposed to be doing. Some other guy came up to me and while laughing said "She's pretty androgynous hey?" I kind of just played along with him. But I felt and still feel like crap.
As corny as this may sound I'm a pretty chivalrous guy and have tremendous respect for women. I don't swear around them, act aggressively or crack jokes that I would with other guys. But the whole time I was acting like she was "One of the guys" and saying things that I now deeply regret. I really hate myself for automatically labeling her as a "gay guy" ad being so quick to set up a mindset about her. I know it's human nature with first impressions, but i really believed she was a guy.
I mean...the hair was always under her cap so I couldn't see well and whenever she was done and would be leaving, she always looked about "halfway" so I always thought it was just a gay guy...Even her chest was kind of flat, but it's like now everyone is saying "If you look closely you can see that she actually has boobs lolz" and all these things that I now ask myself "Why didn't I notice that!?"
What should I say or do? The one girl told me not to worry about it and to not mention it. But I feel really bad about calling her "Him", "He" etc this whole time. I'm thinking the best thing would be to not just say anything to hurt her more but somehow apologize but I think saying 'Sorry for calling you a guy' would be of epic fail proportions.
:/
