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The Interracial Dating Thread |OT|

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Ducarmel

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Dabanton said:
The indian girl her folks were ok they were artists so weren't too taken aback. The Pakistani girls parents weren't to happy to be honest her mum in particular was outraged it just got too much for her so we broke up.
How did you meet these girls?

In my neighborhood their is a a growing community of middle eastern folks. I don't really know how to approach any of them, most of the girls are never alone always with their mom or some older women. I'm about to be in my final semester of college but because of my major none of them are in any of my classes, the one chick I met was Moroccan but she was taken. The rest are always in a group of like 4 or more and I don't have a wing man and since I an atheist I cant really say I would join any of their Muslim/Islam clubs.
 
GhaleonEB said:
My first girlfriend was Hispanic but that's not the interesting detail. She was also a psychopath, and after our relationship ended turned lesbian. Anyone else have that particular experience?
Lou Diamond Phillips, except his wife left him for Melissa Etheridge.
 
I only had one girlfriend/relationship and I'm White and she was Hispanic. Won't go into too much detail here except to say I really loved her and am still all screwed up over our breakup. :(
 

Dabanton

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Ducarmel said:
How did you meet these girls?

In my neighborhood their is a a growing community of middle eastern folks. I don't really know how to approach any of them, most of the girls are never alone always with their mom or some older women. I'm about to be in my final semester of college but because of my major none of them are in any of my classes, the one chick I met was Moroccan but she was taken. The rest are always in a group of like 4 or more and I don't have a wing man and since I an atheist I cant really say I would join any of their Muslim/Islam clubs.

The indian girl i met doing a film course and the pakistani girl was through a friend at college.
 

jeremyxc

Banned
I'm Black and I haven't dated my own race yet :( although I want to I just seem to "click" better with different races. There are too many underlining stereotypes for my race. I am not a gangster or even really dress how "stereotypical" black people do. My first gf was white and my current love is asian ( 5 years strong ). I would argue that in major cities there are more interracial dating couples than ever, probably 50% by now. I live in Atlanta.

Oh, I've dated. White, Hispanic, Asian, and Mixed girls. All amazing.
 

Ranger X

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Crescendo170 said:
I find myself drawn to mainly black and ethnic looking girls... probably cause there is such and overload of beautiful blondes here in Sweden that they kind of all blend together. :p
Beautiful black women are definitely more rare in these parts, and there's something incredibly alluring about them. It's definitely a challenge for a skinny white boy such as myself to get their attention however, but that doesn't stop me from trying. :p

I've also dated an asian girl once that had the body of a little boy and was incredibly passive in bed; I basically had to do all the work which isn't very fun. Once when I had whiskey-dick I told her to help me get going and her response was that she 'didn't know how'. What the hell? It's not that difficult really, you just stroke it til it's hard. It's not rocket-science.

I wouldn't say that. More a stereotype or cliché if you ask me. They might like to meet a "white" guy way more than you think.
 

Lard

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jon bones said:
Girls are beautiful, regardless of race.

Couldn't have said it better.

Have dated both Korean and Japanese girls. Plan on being an ESL teacher next year once I graduate University. Have no issue dating a non-white girl. I know plenty of guys at work who will not even look at a girl if she is not white. Total facepalm.
 

NinjaMouse

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I'm white and my wife is Asian. The only difficulties we've seen is from when we first started dating. Besides family difficulties (stemming mainly from my side), we usually get the dirtiest looks from older white couples and I've had some of the nastiest glares from Asian guys while out and about. I don't even pay attention to it, now...whatevz.
 

scotcheggz

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I've been dating an Asian girl for the last four years and before that had been out with girls of other races. I don't really see the big deal or need to label it as interracial. The problems we've had have occasionally been cultural, but more often than not, they're no different or more complex than relationships between two people of the same race.

I appreciate the term interracial isn't derogatory or anything, but often I think it just emphasises something that doesn't really matter. If anything I think it tends to make people pigeonhole your relationship into an interracial stereotype, White man dating Asian woman, your relationship must be like such and such. Black woman dating Asian man, oh they must have such and such problems. Ultimately it's just not relevant, assumptions by well meaning people are often wrong and an interracial relationship will have equal hardships and happy times as any other.

Saying all that, I have a question. How many here in IR relationships have spent time thinking if they like their partner because of what they are rather than who they are? when I was younger, I didn't tend to think at all about see things, but with my current gf, I admit I spent a night or two awake wondering this. In the end I was confident that it was who and not what and I think time has told that to be true. In fact I think my post has probably come from this line of thinking. At the beginning of our relationship, when I considered these things I also tended to think of us as being in an interracial relationship. This turned out to be just because the relationship was new I think, over time I stopped thinking of us in those terms and to be honest, until I saw this thread haven't even really considered any of that stuff, so really I can't help but see the term interracial as something that's slightly frustrating. I think it carries connotations when it really shouldn't, even for the people in the relationships themselves.

Anyway, this is basically a mess of a rant. I suppose what I'm trying to say is when you're in a loving relationship, these things just shouldn't matter or be considered. It's too bad they matter to some third parties since those are the people that cause most of the problems. Again though, even that can be true in same race relationships.

Reading this back I'm not sure it makes sense :s
 

ikkemenx

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Undubbed said:
You know what I've never seen? An Asian man and a black women. They've got to be around somewhere.

We must search!

Now that I think of it I rarely see a Asian dude with a non Asian girlfriend(relatively speaking). And when I search for porn I think I've only seen one Asian man in western porn. I always wondered how Asian men are treated in American porn.

Not too well I don't think.
 
In the past I only ever had a relationship with one white woman, a substitute teacher at my school, all the other white (well I guess you would call them girls rather than women) girls I knew were vapid and vulgar. So I dated every ethnic group but white women pretty much.

Looking back I think it was kind of problematic, as the women I dated weren't always any better. When I went to Uni I realised all white women weren't like those in my high school, but by then I was in a long term monogamous relationship with a Portuguese/Filipino woman, and then her best friend, who was Chinese Indonesian. Then I became Muslim and stopped dating til I met my wife, who trumps all of them in the looks/smarts/awesome stakes. She is from Bangladesh.

I think people make false attributions when it comes to ethnicity. I am not convinced of the whole 'types' thing. I don't think people have types. I think they do sometimes have fetishes though.

This was a real worry for my wife, who wondered if I liked her for who she was, or if I liked her because I had some weird fetish about women from the subcontinent/Middle East/South East Asia. She sent me links to these videos dropping hints lol.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xarc5PFknfw

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eXSyP545gtc

I don't think it is that. At least that's what I tell myself. I think circumstances led me to not date white girls, because those I knew came from a certain part of white culture that I found annoying (racist, ignorant) and the non-white women I knew were a little less so. Then again who knows, maybe it is a fetish thing, converted to get an in on the Muslim women angle?
 
OttomanScribe said:
In the past I only ever had a relationship with one white woman, a substitute teacher at my school, all the other white (well I guess you would call them girls rather than women) girls I knew were vapid and vulgar. So I dated every ethnic group but white women pretty much.

Looking back I think it was kind of problematic, as the women I dated weren't always any better. When I went to Uni I realised all white women weren't like those in my high school, but by then I was in a long term monogamous relationship with a Portuguese/Filipino woman, and then her best friend, who was Chinese Indonesian. Then I became Muslim and stopped dating til I met my wife, who trumps all of them in the looks/smarts/awesome stakes. She is from Bangladesh.

I think people make false attributions when it comes to ethnicity. I am not convinced of the whole 'types' thing. I don't think people have types. I think they do sometimes have fetishes though.

This was a real worry for my wife, who wondered if I liked her for who she was, or if I liked her because I had some weird fetish about women from the subcontinent/Middle East/South East Asia. She sent me links to these videos dropping hints lol.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xarc5PFknfw

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eXSyP545gtc

I don't think it is that. At least that's what I tell myself. I think circumstances led me to not date white girls, because those I knew came from a certain part of white culture that I found annoying (racist, ignorant) and the non-white women I knew were a little less so. Then again who knows, maybe it is a fetish thing, converted to get an in on the Muslim women angle?
You had a relationship with a teacher at your school?
 
Measley said:
I'm mixed race (amerindian, black, white) and my wife is white. I've dated just about every ethnicity. Only a fool would limit their options.
Now whenever I see this I can't help but think about that thread someone on GAF posted from Stormfront about how they would eliminate the black race using interracial sex as a weapon lol.

The idea was basically:

black man + white woman = black/white child

black/white child + white woman = 1/4 black/white child

1/4 black/white child + white woman = white therefore "eliminating the black seed"


Yeah it was pretty crazy.
 
Chamber said:
Pretty sure we got Tiger in the racial draft.
We got the Wu Tang Clan, so it's all good.

But yeah, I'm Filipino and the wife is British white. I've been with all sorts of women before that though (filipina, japanese/korean mix, mexican, puerto rican omg dat ass, turkish, black). Like dude said earlier, no need to discriminate because the race won't matter in the end.

Lol, what's with the asian girl hate?

Lol, it'll come mostly from asian guys. But it's not so much hate, but more about finding someone "different."

Hahaha, so true.
 

genjiZERO

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Almost all of the girls I've dated in the last 6 or so years have been Indian. I'm Caucasian. Not sure why, but it's probably because of the social group I associate with. I have a lot of Indian friends in general. At first, I was really hesitant about it because of all the cultural baggage Indian girls carry around, but I learned prettily easily on how to deal with it. Actually, I'm lying - I know exactly why I go for Indian girls. Frankly, it's because they have morals, family values and strong work ethics, but accept science, social progress and don't have all that American-Christian bullshit to deal with. They also often tend to be skinny, and like to go on dates (like actual proper dinner and a movie dates. In my experience with Caucasian women they just seem to want to go drinking and screw - maybe that appeals to some people, but if I don't have to work for it I get bored).

The "game" is different though. If you want to get a "good girl" you have to balance being nice and aggressive. The jerk routine doesn't work. You also have to have some sort of social status and potential. Helps to be a med student or PhD candidate. You also have to know, sincerely, a fair amount about their culture. Don't ask dumb ass questions like "which god do you follow?" or "what's up with the caste system?". Be able to pronounce words fairly correctly - especially the different regions and languages. For example, "channa" is pronounced 'chuhnna' not 'chahnna', and Tamil is pronounced "thuhmil" not "taamil".
 
MWS Natural said:
Now whenever I see this I can't help but think about that thread someone on GAF posted from Stormfront about how they would eliminate the black race using interracial sex as a weapon lol.

The idea was basically:

black man + white woman = black/white child

black/white child + white woman = 1/4 black/white child

1/4 black/white child + white woman = white therefore "eliminating the black seed"


Yeah it was pretty crazy.
That was Australian government policy at one point.

Dr. Cecil Cook, Northern Territory 'Chief Protector of Natives' in the 1930s wrote:
Generally by the fifth and invariably by the sixth generation, all native characteristics of the Australian Aborigine are eradicated. The problem of our half-castes will quickly be eliminated by the complete disappearance of the black race, and the swift submergence of their progeny in the white.
and Mr. Neville, 'Chief Protector of Aborigines' also in the 30s:
Eliminate the full-blood and permit the white admixture to half-castes and eventually the race will become white

Different in the states though right? They had the whole 'one drop' thing?
 

y2dvd

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Asian dude dated Hispanic, white, and Asian. I could find a chick of any race hot tho, tho I lean more towards Hispanics and white.
 

gwarm01

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Dreams-Visions said:
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Bill Maher knows what's good.
Oh wow. I tip my hat to you, Mr. Maher.
 
BamYouHaveAids said:
You had a relationship with a teacher at your school?
Student teacher. She was like 21, no biggie. It wasn't really a 'relationship' anyway. Don't really want to talk about it, the important thing was that she was white.
 

smurfx

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i've dated white girls but these days i generally find myself only attracted to hispanic girls. i would be open to dating an asian girl but only is she was tall. lots of the asian girls i see are too short for my tastes.
 

Coeliacus

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My first girlfriend of six years is Aus born Chinese. We were comfortable together but we had some cultural hang ups that ended up getting in the way and we never dealt with them. I know a lot of asians who have very 'unpersonable' relationships with their families and don't talk things through with them. The next girl I went out with (white) was much better in that regard and I was much happier during the short time we went out.

I don't really care about ethnicity at all, but how a girl relates to their family overall is fairly important to me.
 
Can hispanic and black be considered "interracial"? Technically there are only three race classifications: Negroid, Caucasian, and Mongoloid.
Wouldn't hispanic fall under negloid?
 

Zzoram

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TacticalFox88 said:
Can hispanic and black be considered "interracial"? Technically there are only three race classifications: Negroid, Caucasian, and Mongoloid.
Wouldn't hispanic fall under negloid?

Hispanic is considered caucasian.

Categorizing by race is pointless anyways.
 
TacticalFox88 said:
Can hispanic and black be considered "interracial"? Technically there are only three race classifications: Negroid, Caucasian, and Mongoloid.
Wouldn't hispanic fall under negloid?

When I think interracial dating, I also think of cultures that differ enough to create problems seeing eye to eye on certain issues.
 
TacticalFox88 said:
Can hispanic and black be considered "interracial"? Technically there are only three race classifications: Negroid, Caucasian, and Mongoloid.
Wouldn't hispanic fall under negloid?
:lol Negroid. I completely forgot about that.
 

Pein

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I've dated White, Black, Hispanic and Indian girls. Never an Asian girl though, not for a lack of trying they just don't seem interested.

I'm Indian btw.
 
My wife is chinese and I am white. It's sort of odd though, because none of my friends think of us as interracial. Or didn't. A friend of mine married a Senegalese girl, and one of my friends said that he was the only person he knew that had an interracial relationship. I was like "Well, uhh, my wife isn't exactly white." I guess maybe there's less stigma attached to it? Or maybe it's because my wife sounds like a jewish girl from north jersey and not like a chinese girl at all.
 

Lamel

Banned
I'm Pakistani and my girl is Indian. I'm Muslim and she's Hindu. We've been making it work so well for 25 months exactly today. How you like them apples?
 

Measley

Junior Member
MWS Natural said:
Now whenever I see this I can't help but think about that thread someone on GAF posted from Stormfront about how they would eliminate the black race using interracial sex as a weapon lol.

The idea was basically:

black man + white woman = black/white child

black/white child + white woman = 1/4 black/white child

1/4 black/white child + white woman = white therefore "eliminating the black seed"


Yeah it was pretty crazy.

Well, its pretty unavoidable. Black men are being locked up at staggering rates. Black women aren't marrying as much. Black men date interracially at rates many times higher than black women. Its going to be interesting to see where this all leads us.

I know a lot of white racists like to believe that they're dying off. However, I've read one futurist article that talks about a mixed-race super-majority that considers itself white, and that still discriminates against black people. Frightening stuff.
 
Measley said:
Well, its pretty unavoidable. Black men are being locked up at staggering rates. Black women aren't marrying as much. Black men date interracially at rates many times higher than black women. Its going to be interesting to see where this all leads us.

I know a lot of white racists like to believe that they're dying off. However, I've read one futurist article that talks about a mixed-race super-majority that considers itself white, and that still discriminates against black people. Frightening stuff.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o3UXrnDhcf4

Save Europe from the Muslamic hordes! Have more babies!
 

Measley

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AbortedWalrusFetus said:
My wife is chinese and I am white. It's sort of odd though, because none of my friends think of us as interracial. Or didn't. A friend of mine married a Senegalese girl, and one of my friends said that he was the only person he knew that had an interracial relationship. I was like "Well, uhh, my wife isn't exactly white." I guess maybe there's less stigma attached to it? Or maybe it's because my wife sounds like a jewish girl from north jersey and not like a chinese girl at all.

Reminds me of interracial porn. Only sex with a black person is considered "interracial".

:-/
 

2San

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Dabanton said:
The indian girl her folks were ok they were artists so weren't too taken aback. The Pakistani girls parents weren't to happy to be honest her mum in particular was outraged it just got too much for her so we broke up.
Yeah that seems to be the story for most girls from that area breakup by stress induced by parental pressure.
 
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