My ex-girlfriend did all the driving in her own car, and sometimes in my car except when she specifically did not want to drive (e.g. going to a party and she wanted to get wasted). That was nice, because my car was stick shift and she knew how to drive it (only woman I've known who knew how to do that), and also because I hate driving and will avoid it if I can. My dad was the same way, my mom would always drive when they were together.
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Escape Goat
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My mom drives with my dad. SHe is a terrible passenger and he just gave up early in the marriage.
IndieJones
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I have an hour drive each day to and from work. That's not long, but it's still more driving than I'd like. On the weekends, if we have to drive anywhere (and we do; the bus service since we moved to the suburbs is shitty), my wife drives.
I usually drive unless we go out and I'm drinking (I drink a lot more than she does). We have unintentionally fallen into the generic gender roles for the most part. I drive, take out the garbage, replace the toilet paper, fix stuff. She does everything else, and I'm a good man and help her a lot with most of it.
shadyspace
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You realize that's not what the OP is about at all? It's the "Bro, I'm not gonna have MY woman drive me around" mentality. Has nothing to do with a woman's expectations or lack there of.
Vermillion
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Dad always drives with my parents. Along the lines of "guy opens the doors, pumps gas, walks on the sidewalk closest to the street," things like that. Not particularly necessary.
Devolution
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I want to buy a motorcycle with a sidecar and put Timedog in the sidecar.
That's a good reason for me NOT to let a boyfriend drive. I've known several that don't seem to ever know where the heck things are in a city nor have a reasonable sense of direction, even if they've lived there for years and I'm just visiting.
And they drive like my grandma on the freeway. It's not fun to be chauffeured if it takes twice as long to get there.
I think he's more rebutting the posts that were attacking the very thought that the man driving most of the time is 'SO stupid' in this day and age. Such as:
The guy's friend in the OP is obviously an extreme case and it's pretty lame based on his two sentence description of the situation, but males in most societies are the 'protector' and driving is one of the many ways for men to 'protect' their women. There are obviously exceptions but I can see why he attempted to defend his position.
But why? I've never seen anyone do it.
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Stabby McSter
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I've driven about 95% of the time. I hate driving. 
RedNalgene
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I dated a girl a bunch of years ago who was from a very traditional Italian family and she always wanted me to drive whenever we went anywhere. She just felt like it was more "normal" for the man to drive the car - her Dad and Grandfather were always the drivers whenever the family went out as a group, so she felt more comfortable if I drove when we were together. It was a little weird when she'd come pick me up, get out of the car and switch to the passenger seat but not that big a deal - I don't mind driving.
My current GF and I just drive whenever one of us feels like it. There isn't a steadfast rule or anything.
My current GF and I just drive whenever one of us feels like it. There isn't a steadfast rule or anything.
oneils
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Seriously? You have never seen anyone hold a door open for anyone? I'm lost. Or are you talking about driving?
I don't want her to lift a finger if she doesn't have to. It is no commentary on her ability to do anything, and as long as she is fine with it, I'll always grab a door before her, including car doors. Its yet another bonus for finding a good guy.
Just the way I've found myself being at this point in life.
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and thats not to say that good guy = opening doors. I do it, and I also pay on a first date if I invite you somewhere.
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-Pyromaniac-
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If the person isn't a shitty driver that I'm with, I'm absolutely fine with them driving. But I'll also happily drive if they don't want to.
I give thee the Dragona-lite stare of disapproval
Anyways, I always drive unless my wife is dropping me off somewhere. It's more fun for her to natter in my ear about how I'm doing it wrong. At least, that's how it appears.
My girlfriend doesn't like being in a car and not driving. I don't have my license.
That said, I can't wait to pass it (already done the hours and passed the theoretical exam) just for the long drives.
OP, your friend is a macho idiot (unless his girlfriend is the one asking him to, but that's not what your post made it sound like).
That said, I can't wait to pass it (already done the hours and passed the theoretical exam) just for the long drives.
OP, your friend is a macho idiot (unless his girlfriend is the one asking him to, but that's not what your post made it sound like).
YesNOnoNOYes
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When I go back home (it's a third world country where traffic is insane), I get my dad to drive. When dad visits me here in Australia, I drive.
Fine, I changed it, what do you really think about me?!?
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My girlfriend only drives when I'm too intoxicated to drive and she has had zero alcohol, and that's the way she goddamn likes it. On the rare occasion we've driven somewhere with her mom in her mom's car, I still have to drive because that's the way her mom likes it too. I don't fucking know why, but considering how crazy of a driver my GF is, I'll take one for the team if it means not getting a speeding ticket.
Muffdraul
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My wife has never had a driver's license and she's never driven my car. As far as I know she's never driven at all in the nine years we've been together. I think she knows how to drive though. Pretty sure she mentioned that long ago.
The first time I went out with a girl who had her own car, the first time we went somewhere in it, we both went to get in on the passenger side. I asked "You want me to drive your car?" and she said "Yeah" in a way that was basically "Duh, of course." It caught me off guard but I never really thought about it since. There were definitely a few times that she drove us, but I had to pretty much make her.
The first time I went out with a girl who had her own car, the first time we went somewhere in it, we both went to get in on the passenger side. I asked "You want me to drive your car?" and she said "Yeah" in a way that was basically "Duh, of course." It caught me off guard but I never really thought about it since. There were definitely a few times that she drove us, but I had to pretty much make her.
DanteFox
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that's because women tend to overcook meat.
Although some men suck balls at grilling too haha.Angry Grimace
Two cannibals are eating a clown. One turns to the other and says "does something taste funny to you?"
Uh, you realize that you're not following the conversation at all, right? Not every post in a thread is responding to the thread starter.
My absolute favorite is when my wife demands I drive around a person who is driving too slow despite the fact that there is no safe way to get around them. Another old favorite is complaining that I'm driving her car too fast when I speed up to make a (camera-enforced) light but then also complaining when I stop for red lights because its bad for the brakes.
black_vegeta
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I do it out of habit and neither my wife or I have a problem with it.
Only time my wife drives (in most cases) is if we're on a long road trip and I get tired.
Only time my wife drives (in most cases) is if we're on a long road trip and I get tired.
Wow, that's kind of mean. What the hell man? What did I do to you?
fatigues_gasolini
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My gf refuses to drive anywhere because she doesnt like driving. I have to drive, when I ask her to, she tells me she will teach me to drive stick and I can drive her car. Of course I pay for gas too.
Deathmistress
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My boyfriend generally drives because he actually likes to drive and has better vision than me. We each drive to work, but in terms of random trips, it's essentially all him. I don't remember ever really discussing it, just kind of happened. I don't mind driving, but it's nice when I don't have to.
In terms of it being cultural, my mother has her license but hasn't driven since 1998 because she doesn't want to and considers it my step-dad's responsibility. Eastern European- cultured women tend to be like that, though.
In terms of it being cultural, my mother has her license but hasn't driven since 1998 because she doesn't want to and considers it my step-dad's responsibility. Eastern European- cultured women tend to be like that, though.
Think of it this way: You don't even have a car and you know how to drive stick.
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Yep. I was like 2 years in to my marriage before I noticed, lol.
My father in law always opens the door for my mother in law. She will actually sit in the car and won't get out until he opens her door. Honestly if my wife did that I would probably laugh at her.
I do drive most of the time though unless there's some restaurant or something she really wants to go she'll drive. I also hate being the passenger in cars so that probably plays into it, too.
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