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What is the point of trying so hard?

JimmyRustler

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I've seen a doctor. T was slightly low. Like 430. But not low enough to be classified as "low t". My doctor said that viagra probably wouldn't help because they think it's probably psychological (like why I can get hard watching porn but not during sex).
It‘s because your wife looks down on you. Don‘t worry, your not alone. Had the same problem.
Also went to the doctor afterwards and had my T checked because I was worried. It was normal. Was quite relieved after I got the news. Take it as a badge of honor that I wasn‘t able to fuck that bitch. I assume only a dude can who is able to rape a women.
 

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I have 3 things I’d try if I were in your situation:

1. Get a blood test to check testosterone levels
2. Get boner pills
3. Join us in the fitness OT and start getting in shape. If your dr gives you testosterone therapy, it would give a huge boost with this and you’d feel better. Also once in shape you’ll be better positioned to dominate your current wife, and if that doesn’t work, find a new one.
Treating the symptoms won't necessarily treat the underlying disease, fitness is going to help but I've heard erectile dysfunction can be an early warning sign of atherosclerosis. That means probable heart attack down the line. Should get that checked and investigate about preventive measures.

edit: from the additional data it might not be an early sign of atherosclerosis if the issue doesn't present under different circumstances.
 
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Ionian

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It‘s because your wife looks down on you. Don‘t worry, your not alone. Had the same problem.
Also went to the doctor afterwards and had my T checked because I was worried. It was normal. Was quite relieved after I got the news. Take it as a badge of honor that I wasn‘t able to fuck that bitch. I assume only a dude can who is able to rape a women.

Well that certainly is an odd comment.

Wasn't able to "fuck that bitch" and then go on to talking about rape?

Classy guy.
 

JimmyRustler

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Well that certainly is an odd comment.

Wasn't able to "fuck that bitch" and then go on to talking about rape?

Classy guy.
Doubt you'd say that if you'd know her personally...
I may be wrong because I obviously do not know how much tolerance to what is said and done in the bed guys usually have to stay hard but I do think that you have to be a certain type of male to sleep with this kind of a women.
 
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DeafTourette

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I'll say this...

She's gaslighting you. No sex since BEFORE marriage? Something is amiss here. I mean, I get not having sex before marriage but none AFTER?!

Your ED... Do you EVER get an erection? If you do but can't get it up for her, it's not ED. You don't look forward to sex with her. It's like a mental block. I've been there but for different reasons.

As for your job situation... If things don't get better after your training, look into working from home or go to college after work (online most likely... I'm doing that).

As for your marriage... She has to get with the program. Try to going to couples counseling. A GOOD counselor will talk with you individually as well as together. It may be that this wasn't meant to be or she isn't being truthful somehow.
 
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I've seen a doctor. T was slightly low. Like 430. But not low enough to be classified as "low t". My doctor said that viagra probably wouldn't help because they think it's probably psychological (like why I can get hard watching porn but not during sex).

Stop watching porn. It will take time but your erections will come back, along with a strong desire to be sexually dominant. Porn ruins relationships.
 

nush

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Yeah I took one for the team once too man, never again. I'll leave the whaling to Japan.

My first girlfriend was at my upper wight limit when we first got together. Then she put on that comfortable relationship weight. She said one time "I'm trying to loose weight"while at the same time she was drinking a 2 liter bottle of coke and eating a big chocolate bar. Really.

Anyway this one time she was laying naked in bed ready for sexing and I looked at her blobby spread legged mass and thought "I just can't do this anymore". I broke up with her a couple of days later for reasons that were definitely not but really were "because you got too fat". She got motivated to lose weight after that.

Don't get me wrong big girls are great in bed, but there's a line between big and just plain fat.
 

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I've seen a doctor. T was slightly low. Like 430. But not low enough to be classified as "low t". My doctor said that viagra probably wouldn't help because they think it's probably psychological (like why I can get hard watching porn but not during sex).

WTF is "probably". Nothing wrong with trying.
Get Viagra (I think Cialis is better, longer lasting).
It is Viagra for God's sake, not Oxycontin

However, regarding the bolded part - do you find your wife sexually attractive?
 

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WTF is "probably". Nothing wrong with trying.
Get Viagra (I think Cialis is better, longer lasting).
It is Viagra for God's sake, not Oxycontin

However, regarding the bolded part - do you find your wife sexually attractive?

I find her attractive. She's got a cute face and she has the goods. But these days I'm too disheartened to really say I desire her
 

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She blames me. Says thay there is no ppint in getting turned on since I have erectile dysfunction.
That's an easy fix.

1. Get good at pleasing her without using your dick, both physically and emotionally.
2. Work out more and get in shape. Cardiovascular health is important to dick function.
3. Get some Viagra or Cialis. It's generic now so it's cheap and most doctors will prescribe it to you no problem just ask your general physician.
 
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nush

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I find her attractive. She's got a cute face and she has the goods. But these days I'm too disheartened to really say I desire her

I can relate. I moved in with a girlfriend and after a time she didn't want sex anymore. But I'd still see her walking around naked, great tits and all, it added blueballing to the inevitable rejection. The frustration and resentment grew too much, we broke up. So I said to myself if I was ever in that situation agian I'd just take care of business elsewhere because I'd already tried everything suggested. Intimacy is super important in a relationship and if at the absolute bare minimum she can't lie on her back for ten minutes and make positive noises at least once a week (Technically just three times a month because of rag week) then she's absolutely being selfish/lazy/uncaring and treating you like a new "Dad" who gives her money, attention and she can just boss around and make you follow the "Relationship" rules that suit her.

 
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People being smarter is a fallacy, iq is not to be taken seriously, they've just done more net effort in building their world view. If you wanna get smart, take on something and get good at it, 10,000 hours... Even if they means just thinking for 10,000 hours..

Problems with your wife.. you need counseling... I have a feeling your internal idea about being dumber is probably far from the truth of your wife's motivations.

Erectile dysfunction, can you get horny from porn? Then you don't have it. The right things will turn you on, she's not doing them. You're not doing them, together.
 
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Might need to talk to a professional about your depression. It does not have to be this way, it won’t always be this way.
 
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Fuckin all of my friends are now having kids and buying homes meanwhile I can't. And soon I won't be able to.
Consider it a blessing in disguise. Just think how hard off everyone is that's stuck in a bad marriage because of kids. It's good you're getting into shape, but if you have someone at home putting you down, ditch her. I've spoken to plenty of older people who got divorced, and they all say similar things. "I realized I'm just wasting time staying in a situation where I'm not happy." If you're not emotionally into someone, it can also have a big effect on getting excited. I've had trouble with that too, so don't worry about it. After you get your home life together, fix your work.
 

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I went to a trade school for 2 years, that got me a career job and now I own a house and a new car. Had to pay off student loans but wasn't hard at all if you budget your money.

Best decision of my life so far.
this is what I'm doing too, wasted too much time in universities with courses that have nothing to do with doing actual work or getting into jobs.
 
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This is going to make the OP happy but where a smile and shut up you gotta be considered ungrateful.
Bang Bang Bang Reaction GIF by Kim's Convenience
 

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I find her attractive. She's got a cute face and she has the goods. But these days I'm too disheartened to really say I desire her

Sounds like depression to me, but I'm no doc. Cognitive behavior therapy is worth looking into.

Has she given a reason she won't bang?

Additionally, what are the happiest moments of your life? Are there certain activities or places that bring you happiness?