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Halo is Dead

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So I’m actually starting to care about the daughter of the girl I’m dating. I never knew I could get attached to someone else’s kid. I’m afraid to tell her this as to not scare her off but she just recently told me that she thinks that I would be a good role model to her.

This is all so new and foreign to me just a year ago I would never consider dating someone with a kid
 

Jaxx_377

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Take a step back and re-assess the relationship with the mom and think really hard about what you want and where this relationship is going and where you want it to go. Make damn sure its what you want before you make that move. Taking on this responsability isnt something that should be done lightly and without a lot of forethought. Just know going in just as if that kid was your own they now come first and foremost. And if you arent ready for that it may he bettet to just walk away before someone gets hurt

That being said I met my wife 19 years ago this month and she was a single mother of a 5 year old girl. It wasnt always easy but it has always been worth it.

Best of luck with whatever you decide just always do whats best for the kid.
 

Halo is Dead

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Take a step back and re-assess the relationship with the mom and think really hard about what you want and where this relationship is going and where you want it to go. Make damn sure its what you want before you make that move. Taking on this responsability isnt something that should be done lightly and without a lot of forethought. Just know going in just as if that kid was your own they now come first and foremost. And if you arent ready for that it may he bettet to just walk away before someone gets hurt

That being said I met my wife 19 years ago this month and she was a single mother of a 5 year old girl. It wasnt always easy but it has always been worth it.

Best of luck with whatever you decide just always do whats best for the kid.
I would love to be the step dad. I find myself wanting to engage with the kid too. We have already kind of discussed this. I told her my education is really important to me and I want to finish that first before I start thinking about supporting them both. I just worry she would still want to be with me when I am ready to be a supportive member of the family
 

DunDunDunpachi

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I would love to be the step dad. I find myself wanting to engage with the kid too. We have already kind of discussed this. I told her my education is really important to me and I want to finish that first before I start thinking about supporting them both. I just worry she would still want to be with me when I am ready to be a supportive member of the family
If your girlfriend is worth anything as a future spouse, she should be thrilled someone wants to be a parent to her daughter and would wait for you patiently.

If she in any way tries to string you along with promises of being a "real dad" to her daughter or tries to push toward you taking the role in an official capacity before you've squared away your own goals, run.
 

Jaxx_377

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My only advice would be to just be open and honest with mom and have that discussion So you both know where you are coming from. As great as kids can be make sure you dont get too close until you know there is a future there so as to not be another man that leaves.

When I started dating my wife It was a month before we did things together with the 3 of us and I didnt even stay there past bedtime for 6 months and we talked long and often about what we wanted and how we would handle it. I know people who have moved faster in this situation and it was fine so you do t need to be as cautious as me but like I said just always put the kids needs first and wether it works out with mom or not you did the right thing.
 
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Elcid

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I don't know OP. How old is the kid? Where is the father? These are factors that matter.
 

Whataburger

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Be cautious. This is your brain telling you that maybe you shouldn't get attached to someone else's kid.
 
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