This topic too me has always been something I was confused about as I was growing up and am still to this day confused about.
In general, why should I care so much if my partner decides to have sex one day with someone else based purely around the idea that said sex is purely for the good feelings that are invoked from sex. Why is this such a huge deal? Why should my partner care that I'm having sex with another person for the sole purpose of feeling good?
The only reliable answers ive found are these
1) STD's - can be avoided with condoms and practicing safe sex
2) Jealousy of partners - My current partner would never want me too have sex with another person due to her own sense of jealousy. And while this is a reason for in this personal relationship for me not too cheat, it seems incredibly petty and nonlogical to become such a social norm that any type of outside sexual relationships are terrible
3) Pregnancy - can be avoided with safe sex
4) People who have sex can start to form emotional attachments - This is silly to me. People do not need sex to form emotional attachments to other people, and having sex does need an emotional attachment to the other person. I guess it's more likely, but then should we disallow typical date night like situations. I'd feel an emotional attachment can be made between people regardless of sex.
This isnt to say that I support people "cheating" and such, with todays social norms, it is a huge deal for people to cheat and it does ruin a lot of trust, and I can understand to a certain extent as too why these things existed in the old days before condoms and the pill existed, but now it just seems like a dated societal norm since most of the danger is gone.
So why are we so against other people having sex so much? Is there a logical reason behind it or is it just a societal norm that no one is willing to go against?
In general, why should I care so much if my partner decides to have sex one day with someone else based purely around the idea that said sex is purely for the good feelings that are invoked from sex. Why is this such a huge deal? Why should my partner care that I'm having sex with another person for the sole purpose of feeling good?
The only reliable answers ive found are these
1) STD's - can be avoided with condoms and practicing safe sex
2) Jealousy of partners - My current partner would never want me too have sex with another person due to her own sense of jealousy. And while this is a reason for in this personal relationship for me not too cheat, it seems incredibly petty and nonlogical to become such a social norm that any type of outside sexual relationships are terrible
3) Pregnancy - can be avoided with safe sex
4) People who have sex can start to form emotional attachments - This is silly to me. People do not need sex to form emotional attachments to other people, and having sex does need an emotional attachment to the other person. I guess it's more likely, but then should we disallow typical date night like situations. I'd feel an emotional attachment can be made between people regardless of sex.
This isnt to say that I support people "cheating" and such, with todays social norms, it is a huge deal for people to cheat and it does ruin a lot of trust, and I can understand to a certain extent as too why these things existed in the old days before condoms and the pill existed, but now it just seems like a dated societal norm since most of the danger is gone.
So why are we so against other people having sex so much? Is there a logical reason behind it or is it just a societal norm that no one is willing to go against?
