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Would you date or hook up with someone who had HIV/AIDS?

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theecakee

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Given that they disclose it to you, would you do it if everything else about them was attractive to you? I don't have it myself, but have come across guys who do, and I've always been fairly hesitant on it. So I wanted to hear what you think GAF.

Edit: have not had, sorry grammar mistake.
 
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Megalosaro

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Maybe this makes me a piece of shit and I hate to admit it... but I don't think I could. I could still be friends with them, but I would always be worrying about it in the back of my mind if we were dating.
 
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Africanus

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Date, perhaps. Hook up, likely not.

I recognize the stigma as being harmful while still having an innate desire to not take risks with my health.
 
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bananafactory

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If I really liked them I'm pretty sure I wouldnt let it stand in the way. It's hard to say until I'm in that situation, though.
 
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No.

messed up story but worst first date i ever had was a woman who disclosed to me that she had genital warts and herpes. This was after kissing her.

Oh man I felt awful for her, told me how her boyfriend at the time gave it to her and he also took a student loan out in her name . crazy shit.

The whole drive back home i was really thinking hmm maybe then i was like yeah hell no. The only reason id ever is if we both had it.
 
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HStallion

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I'd like to say I wouldn't care and its about the person but I admit I would feel a bit uneasy and I realize that's fucked up. Still if I really really like the other person I don't think I'd let it get in the way.
 
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Vincent Grayson

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It would depend on a number of things, including how strong the chemistry was and my age at the time.

Would I hook up in a casual fling at 19? Nah. Too much chance we break up and I potentially have to then contend with the same thing.

But my age now, if I weren't married? Sure, if it seemed like things could be leading to something special.
 
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Date yes

Hook up no

And if I love them and they're the one, I'd marry them like any other person
 
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bananafactory

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Excuse my ignorance but can a person with HIV still carry a child to term?

I guess that would be my main concern as I do want to have children
 
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GeordieMark

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I wouldn't say no outright, but I would need to know more about the risks before I jumped into bed with them.
 
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No.

Edit: Unlike HIV, the vast majority of relationships don't last. It is just not worth the risk to me; regardless of how small that risk is today.
 
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IdreamofHIME

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I don't know. I'd like to think I was the good a person. One of my best friends did. She was the love of his life and he never cared.
Looking at their wedding photos is always a lesson of melancholy though.
 
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Dog Problems

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Sex? No. But I would definitely date someone with it and would even be fine with having a serious, committed relationship with them. I'm just not sure how the lack of sex would effect things.
 
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Lord Frieza

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bananafactory said:
If I really liked them I'm pretty sure I wouldnt let it stand in the way. It's hard to say until I'm in that situation, though.
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Pretty much. There's part of me that just wants to say no, but really, if there's ever a situation where I just fall in love with someone, I fell like I could make it work.
 
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bananafactory

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Lord Frieza said:
Pretty much. There's part of me that just wants to say no, but really, if there's ever a situation where I just fall in love with someone, I fell like I could make it work.
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Thats how I feel. If I i felt a strong connection to someone and like they could be someone I might have a very happy future with i would like to think I'd go on that journey with them.
 
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Mammoth Jones

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No. I would not. Sorry, I'm just old school.

Condoms aren't fool proof, lol...the fuck. Low viral load or not it's not something I'd ever willingly expose myself to.

Not shaming or anything, just stating a preference.
 
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I'm sorry, but no. There may be medication and advances but that's a huge risk.

Same goes with any uncureable disease. There are far too many people in this world to get involved with someone who could potentially infect you with a virus that will eventually kill you someday.

No to both dating and hooking up. Dating leads to other things.

I have a couple of friends who are infected. One of them is a gay man. I don't think he discloses his infection to any of his many partners. He hasn't even told his friends (me included) that he's infected. His sister told us after we thought he had cancer from the extreme weight loss. I will never confront him about it, but that shit is fucked up if he's not telling them--I don't care if he's undetectable and using protection.

Sorry if I sound like a prick.. I'm just being honest.
 
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SpecX

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Dating and maturing into a friendship, sure why note, but it wouldn't go further than that.
 
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theecakee

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Vincent Grayson said:
It would depend on a number of things, including how strong the chemistry was and my age at the time.

Would I hook up in a casual fling at 19? Nah. Too much chance we break up and I potentially have to then contend with the same thing.

But my age now, if I weren't married? Sure, if it seemed like things could be leading to something special.
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That's how I've felt about it as well, if I was older in like my early 30s or older I'd consider it more.
 
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andthebeatgoeson said:
Sure, I'll go with the facts of not putting my life at risk.
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So people with HIV are walking death sentences or something?

Honestly the biggest issue is the stigma. There's basically a morning after pill for HIV exposure now (but still have safe sex people). A lot has changed.
 
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E92 M3

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I believe there is only person "who had" HIV, but otherwise I would never. Why put myself at unnecessary risk?

Plenty of fish in the sea.

Just saw your edit lol.
 
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Aztechnology

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game-boi said:
This is the correct answer here, folks. There is also prep.
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That may be the answer for you. Like others have said I'd be willing to date and enter a long term relationship with. Even Marriage/commonlaw. But casual sex? Absolutely not.

I won't lie though, that puts up barriers for me in a relationship early on and I can't imagine that would be an easy hurdle to get over. They would have to be someone very very special.
 
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I would, a lot of the aids carriers are innocent of any misconduct and can live for 20-30 years.
 
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mkenyon

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Unless you want to contract HIV/AIDS, you can never have sex without a condom.

That'd kill the sex life, which would end up fucking up your long term relationship.


So, no.
 
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