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Oh, Ashodin. For some reason, I thought you got a perma banned. Welcome back!
Red_taiyaki
Member
Never had a chance to meet or talk to you before, but I have heard about your epic story....anyways congrats and welcome back!
LumpOfCole
Member
I've traditionally had much more luck on OKCupid than POF, and yes, I've always hated POF's layout.
Seems like there's at least as many people and almost everyone on Match is someone that I've never seen on POF and OKC.
Red_taiyaki
Member
This is why I use OKC more than any other service. Most of the other UIs on other dating sites suck ass.
Cow Mengde
Banned
Wait, weren't you the guy who... never mind.
FelixOrion
Poet Centuriate
Ruuuuuuuuuuuuude.
jamesinclair
Banned
I don't mean it rude.
Happened to a friend. She was stood up, asked what happened, was told guy saw her, thought she was ugly in person and bailed.
It's ludicrous in her place because she's cute
Oh man, ouch, what a douche move.
Ruuuude on their behalf, I mean.
An I that unattractiven in person? Lol. How unfortunate.
jamesinclair
Banned
No idea, haven't seen what you look like.
And even if you are, shouldn't be an issue if your pics don't attempt to distort reality
Cow Mengde
Banned
Please tell me you don't write like that to the girls...
You're embarrassing the rest of us Asians here. Being able to write normal sentences is a must.
if u honestly think it embarrasses you, then I'm glad to write like that!!
dem girls aint lookin at sentences, all they want is the dolla dolla bill yall!!
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johnny_park
Member
I've met up with girls who I wasn't attracted to. The thought of standing them up or bailing never crossed my mind. One of them is a really good friend now. She's super funny and an all around cool person.
Darkmakaimura
Can You Imagine What SureAI Is Going To Do With Garfield?
As long as you're not putting up fake pics. Sounds like you just met a lot of d-bags.
See, that's the thing. JUST DON'T BE RUUUUDE. Lol.
You're a good guy then
Not really. I mean, a couple are the "yep I'm trying to hide how I look" pictures but then I also have a full body picture that isn't hiding, and a couple of not-in-mood-light-that-hides-flaws lighting, so I'd say I'm not misrepresenting. I've got different things there, not just one head shot or anything.
Just all assholes apparently. Is POF/OKC just all jerks? Haha.
Jerks, jerks errywhere.
Atramental
Banned
Leeness. Be honest with me.
Are you creating a false narrative about running into all these "shitty and mean guys" in order to garner attention and pity from GAF?
My inner skeptic has a hard time believing your claims. Especially when I see all these guys on GAF clamoring to comfort and console you.
Are you creating a false narrative about running into all these "shitty and mean guys" in order to garner attention and pity from GAF?
My inner skeptic has a hard time believing your claims. Especially when I see all these guys on GAF clamoring to comfort and console you.
Atramental
Banned
where are you even located? maybe that has something to do with it.
SquiddyCracker
Banned
Well THAT sounds genuine!
Atramental, bro, you know very well how hard it can be good looking people to get dates.
It's all about confidence more than anything, really.
Oh, and nothing personal for calling you out, 'tis just a bit of banter.
You're an alright, mate.
TestOfTide
Banned
There is no afterparty.
Cow Mengde
Banned
How do you go about showing confidence through text online anyway? I never quite got the hang of it. It either sounds stupid or arrogant. My thought right now is to be over the top and use hyperbole, but not sure how well that'll work.
Maddocks
Member
the after party is a pants party.
Darkmakaimura
Can You Imagine What SureAI Is Going To Do With Garfield?
Well, thank you. Even if you don't believe me
Vancouver area, where everyone is hot
Trying to work on that. Haha. I'm starting to kind of get it in therapy though. Kind of. Still a while off, but working on it.
SquiddyCracker
Banned
Well, how would you go about showing confidence in real life?
The annoying answer is - you wouldn't if you don't know how to do it already.
You have to actually be confident before you will show confidence (automatically) - whether it is online or in real life.
That's why I recommend that you work on yourself, trying to improve yourself and become happy with who you are - rather than chasing tail and trying different pick-up lines.
Because once you accept who you are, and are both confident in yourself and in your abilities - you'll suddenly find that chatting up the potential romantic interests is a lot easier than before.
Yes, this is very vague, sorry
Darkmakaimura
Can You Imagine What SureAI Is Going To Do With Garfield?
I know that feel. Pretty much all of my friends are in a relationship or have someone they're seeing/has someone who loves them. I am forever alone alone.
Yep haha. All my friends are either in a relationship or are seeing someone/dating around.
Vancouver area, where everyone is hot
as an american, i have a natural compulsion to say something about canada, but i guess that's a pretty good-sized city.
What were you gonna say?
just sparser in general. 600k in vancouver and who knows how many else in the surrounding areas.
every city out here has somewhere between 100k-300k people. in a 50 mile radius, there's probably a good 4-5 million residents.
Cow Mengde
Banned
Well, how would you go about showing confidence in real life?
The annoying answer is - you wouldn't if you don't know how to do it already.
You have to actually be confident before you will show confidence (automatically) - whether it is online or in real life.
That's why I recommend that you work on yourself, trying to improve yourself and become happy with who you are - rather than chasing tail and trying different pick-up lines.
Because once you accept who you are, and are both confident in yourself and in your abilities - you'll suddenly find that chatting up the potential romantic interests is a lot easier than before.
Yes, this is very vague, sorry
No, it's not that. My problem has more to do with writing. Showing confidence in real life is very different from writing to me. I'm very good at what I do. The problem is, dating is not something I'm good at. Being out of touch and having the wrong mind set will do that to you.
I think Metro Vancouver/Lower Mainland is roughly 1.5 Mio? If I remember right. And yeah, tons of pretty people. Everywhere.
TestOfTide
Banned
there isn't any.... I'm definitely going to try my best to end the short date in a way that makes makes here anticipated for part 2, which will likely be 5-7 days from part 1.
Freezie KO
Banned
Signed on to this site after a month or so off. It's still awful for me. Trying to change up the profile a bit and add a couple pictures.
Los Angeles dating is the worst.
Los Angeles dating is the worst.
grap3fruitman
Banned
I've run out of things to say. wat do??
Say more things.
ask her out.
Cow Mengde
Banned
Say outrageous things. That's what I tend to do.
jamesinclair
Banned
Thats what dick pics were made for
hypostasis
Banned
Transition to the cell phone phase of communication if you haven't already. Assuming things have gone well thus far, you can have fun exchanging pics. If she likes what she sees and is willing to reciprocate, things can escalate quickly and decidedly in your favor. I don't even mean to imply you'll get sexts, though that is possible (clearly, it depends on the chick). Rather, with some modicum of physical attractiveness established spontaneously, she's more likely to want to meet up.
I think there's a difference between this and feeling some attraction to a woman's profile pics -- it's sort of hot that she is taking new pics just for you, and vice versa. It's rather more personal.
This strategy is a gamble that a physical connection will exist. But are not most relationships begun on the basis of physical attraction anyway, and many not because of a lack of it?
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