Playing as Sarcastic Female Hawke made Dragon Age 2 bearable, so no, I can't relate.
I don't see how it /can't/ be sexist, especially if the person is - as OP states - a decent person by other metrics.
I mean, he could be in denial to the point he's unaware of his sexist ideals, but surely being unable to relate to a female protagonist means difficult or inability to relate with women in general?
That has to come from a sexist place.
I've been trying to put myself in OP's friend's shoes to see if there would be some reasonable explanation that doesn't point to some kind of subconscious sexism (for all that OP states his friend is generally very accepting and inclusive in everyday life).
I mean, I've put down books that many of my friends have loved because I found the female protagonist completely "unrelatable" - maybe that's due to poor writing, but I just found it impossible to identify with the character's motivations and reactions despite being the same gender. So I won't write off the possibility that OP's friend finds some things in certain female characters' motivations that don't really mix well with how he'd react to things. That seems like it would be more on a case-by-case basis rather than as a general rule, however. Maybe he got burned by it before and just projects onto all of them now?
You're making a mistake thinking of it in terms of a book. You're not being a character in a book. You're supposed to be pretending to be a character in a game. I prefer to play as opposite sex, opposite personality, opposite everything because I prefer to step into the shoes of someone as far from me as possible because I'm me all the time. What's wrong with someone who thinks differently and would rather step into their own shoes inside of a video game world? Nothing.
I mean as a woman, I really wouldn't play many games if I couldn't....
Personally I'm not sure you need to be able to totally relate anyway, a character can still be interesting, and you can still be invested in their struggles. It's called empathy.
To be absolutely honest, I have NEVER related to any video game protagonist; male, female, human, or alien.
I'm hearing great things about "Night in The Woods," though, so maybe that'll change my tune.
I've been trying to put myself in OP's friend's shoes to see if there would be some reasonable explanation that doesn't point to some kind of subconscious sexism (for all that OP states his friend is generally very accepting and inclusive in everyday life).
I mean, I've put down books that many of my friends have loved because I found the female protagonist completely "unrelatable" - maybe that's due to poor writing, but I just found it impossible to identify with the character's motivations and reactions despite being the same gender. So I won't write off the possibility that OP's friend finds some things in certain female characters' motivations that don't really mix well with how he'd react to things. That seems like it would be more on a case-by-case basis rather than as a general rule, however. Maybe he got burned by it before and just projects onto all of them now?
I felt this way when I was younger. I think it speaks to a very immature world view...
I think this is bang on. It very likely doesn't come from a place of mean-spirited sexism, just institutionalized sexism. It doesn't make the OP's friend an awful human being, but it does speak to some form of prejudice that they aren't able to empathize with someone that belongs to another gender.
I don't like playing as a female in games if I have the choice. Never have and probably never will. I don't think it's a big deal though and I'm not against female characters, it's just not what I want to play as.
That's me as well, it's the same for movies and everything, I'm playing/watching a character that I enjoy but I don't identify to him or her.
Cause I don't want to play as one. That's all. Just my preferred way to play. Im not against it, when my girls are around when I make a character in a game they usually want a girl which I make. It's no biggie. A game with a female star wouldn't even cross my mind as a reason not to buy either. Just not my preference.Have you ever asked yourself why this is?
I don't understand why you'd even need to "relate to" a videogame character to play a game. It's not a book or a movie.
Do you need to relate to the racecar to play monopoly?
Holy shit, I did the exact same thing lol. The VA is great, the same actress who did Ciri in The Witcher 3 if I'm not mistaken.
As a black guy I've been forced to relate to white male protagonists for the last two decades. Playing as a woman ain't so bad.
I also don't treat video games as self inserts (unless that's the purpose of a game)
I don't understand why you'd even need to "relate to" a videogame character to play a game. It's not a book or a movie.
You're making a mistake thinking of it in terms of a book. You're not being a character in a book. You're supposed to be pretending to be a character in a game..
Um... what? Did you stop gaming in 1980?
This. It's completely absurd. I actually at as a female more often than not when there's a choice.Personally, I find this to be absolutely absurd. Does he also not watch films where the main character is a woman, or refuse to read books with a female main character? That's a lot of great media he's missing out on