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I went to a 7-year old's CoD themed b-day party

So you want to parent them all or judge those who don't align with what you believe is ok for a 7 year old child.

I can't remember my age but I was playing the Grand theft auto's, Shin Megami Tensei, and other M rated titles. I never had that restriction. If it's not your kid it's not you're concern.


I'm an exception and not the rule. I've been exposed to much worse then a lol M rated game from my earliest memory.
Yes, I am judging. What they are doing? Their problem. I am just giving my opinion to this very topic. Did your parents let you have an m rated birthda themed party?
 

Orb

Member
I would've talked to his parents about this, shouldn't be happening
As shitty of parenting as it is, its not illegal and you really cant do anything about it besides quietly judge them.

I grew up with Conkers Bad Fur Day, South Park, and in later childhood Silent Hill. I was a pretty shitty person until i was a teenager, and i can easily pinpiint the reason to those games' sense of humor.

Call of duty is a gross fetishization of US military shit and to a normal functioning adult? Fine. But to a child? No.

Why are there so many people so ready to show tons of graphic violence and genocide to kids? Why do you want to ruin
 

Creaking

He touched the black heart of a mod
Reminds me of this

http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showthread.php?t=786483

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That's awful

I mean Ghosts? Eish.
 

Chocolate & Vanilla

Fuck Strawberry
I watched 18 rated films like RoboCop and Platoon as a young kid too. But I wouldn't let my 10 year old or 8 year old watch them or play games like CoD or GTA.

Just cause my parents were morons doesn't mean I should be one too.

It's definitely inappropriate.
 
Ill buy my kid a shooter game but a whole party themed after it seems strange. My 7 year olds 7th birthday party was a Pokemon themed party. And he wants Ninja Turtles as his next birthday theme. Either way Im not in the position to judge, even as a parent.
 

Milennia

Member
the games werent out or very main stage when i was that age, i remember playing halo at some point but it was mostly street fighter and nintendo games, its a little hard for me to relate

i remember getting halo young at least to the point where i needed someone to get it for me, i kinda think i had a violence disconnect however because it was really sci-fi and i put two and two together, like this would never happen sort of thing

earliest CoD i played was 2 on the 360 launch when i was 12

when i was younger friends in school had access to games like GTA which my parents knew was bad due to shows and news etc. so i was never allowed that particular series until i was around 12
 

thefro

Member
COD isn't appropriate but kids have been playing with military/police themed toys for decades now. I'm sure kids had GI Joe themed parties in the 80s.
 

Orb

Member
5 or 6 uncles put porn on the tv while they went into the other room to shoot up. I had a plastic gun and shot those toy sticky arrows at the porn stars. It's pretty funny thinking back when I hit a bullseye with the arrow.

7 or 8 I went into a burnt down apartment complex exploring with some neighborhood kids and found a dead hooker who looked like she OD.

5 and beyond. M rated horror movies, and other genre movies with nudity and sex scenes.

Games, yes I played all types from 5 and beyond.

This kid sounds pretty privileged that his parents are involved and knows what's he into.

It's safe to say I don't agree with your opinion.
Holy shit, ignoring the fact that your childhood was beyond fucked up, thats not a normal reaction a child would have to ANY of this.
 

FinKL

Member
Should have casually slipped the "FPS ruins your memory" report OP to the parents via anonymous text /s

I don't know if CoD should be a franchise you should be overly into. I mean sure he can play it and GTA, but making it a theme seems a bit much.
 

Ivellios

Member
I know people will not agree with me on this, but i dont think its inappropriate. It is just a cake of a game the kids like.

I played a ton of Goldeneye when i was around eight years for example.
 

ISee

Member
I remember playing a lot of DOOM when I was 10 (I never had a doom birthday party, but I "sneaked" into a LAN party my older brother was throwing back then).
I still grew up, finished school, studied, found a well payed job and married. Now I'm waiting for my kids to grow up, to reach my pension, to spoil my grandchildren and to die one day. You know, the usual stuff.

It all depends on how the kid is raised, on his surrounding, his family, his friends, his education, his character and some luck. It doesn't matter if he had a COD, a Power Ranger or a DBZ party. It's all the same to them (just something trending on the school yard) and the parents can estimate what their child is able to handle and what not.
 
5 or 6 uncles put porn on the tv while they went into the other room to shoot up. I had a plastic gun and shot those toy sticky arrows at the porn stars. It's pretty funny thinking back when I hit a bullseye with the arrow.

7 or 8 I went into a burnt down apartment complex exploring with some neighborhood kids and found a dead hooker who looked like she OD.

5 and beyond. M rated horror movies, and other genre movies with nudity and sex scenes.

Games, yes I played all types from 5 and beyond.

This kid sounds pretty privileged that his parents are involved and knows what's he into.

It's safe to say I don't agree with your opinion.
Not to be rude, but I don't think your childhood should be the baseline for what is acceptable. Also sorry you had to go through all of that.
 
Holy shit, ignoring the fact that your childhood was beyond fucked up, thats not a normal reaction a child would have to ANY of this.


Why I said in a previous post, exception and not the rule.

I simply don't understand what's wrong IF the parents are involved.
 
5 or 6 uncles put porn on the tv while they went into the other room to shoot up. I had a plastic gun and shot those toy sticky arrows at the porn stars. It's pretty funny thinking back when I hit a bullseye with the arrow.

7 or 8 I went into a burnt down apartment complex exploring with some neighborhood kids and found a dead hooker who looked like she OD.

5 and beyond. M rated horror movies, and other genre movies with nudity and sex scenes.

Games, yes I played all types from 5 and beyond.

This kid sounds pretty privileged that his parents are involved and knows what's he into.

It's safe to say I don't agree with your opinion.

Sorry, but your youth wasn't and shouldn't be the norm.

The COD-games are M-rated for something. Holding military-style birthday parties for a 7 year old is not the norm and shouldn't be.
I know that everyone here's gangster and played all those games when they were kids, but it is still not appropriate.
That his parents are involved and don't seem to comprehend the situation and the games properly seems like a pretty big miss on their part, too.
 
Even if you think the violence is "imaginary" and not harmful, I would certainly have some concerns about the overt militaristic and nationalistic messages on display in those games.
 

Orb

Member
Why I said in a previous post, exception and not the rule.

I simply don't understand what's wrong IF the parents are involved.
Because it ruins a childhood? It doesnt really matter whether or not a parent lets them, it fuvks them up. Seeing genocide, gore, etc in lifelike graphics is a lightyears difference to 1998 mortal kombat.
 
I agree it's inappropriate. Pretty disgusting even.

Who in their right mind want a war/military-themed birthday-party? It's like straight outta a parody or something.
 
Not to be rude, but I don't think your childhood should be the baseline for what is acceptable. Also sorry you had to go through all of that.

Sorry, but your youth wasn't and shouldn't be the norm.

The COD-games are M-rated for something. Holding military-style birthday parties for a 7 year old is not the norm and shouldn't be.
I know that everyone here's gangster and played all those games when they were kids, but it is still not appropriate.




What's with the your childhood wasn't normal? Seriously. You all do know that this and MUCH WORSE happens to kids accross the United States and world. This isn't about me. This is about the point I am trying to make. The parents are involed and Gaf chooses to judge because of their personal standard.
 
You think call of duty is bad, I worked at Gamestop for nearly a decade. I'd have to ID people buying Grand Theft Auto and many parents would send the kids in by themselves (some as young as 4) and have them buy the game which I couldn't do without a parent and they would get SO upset...

Not because of the game they were trying to buy but because they had to come inside and show ID. When I'd tell them why I'd have to ID them (M rating) and with GTA I'd always warn the parents what was actually in it. Murder, drug use, sexual content, ect. Almost all of them would either say they didn't care or would say some excuse like 'oh they see that on TV all the time anyway' and it would just baffle the fuck out of me.

Very few would ever say 'oh no you can't play that' and most of the time when that actually happened the kid would throw a tantrum and the parent would buy it anyway. Hell I had one parent who held his ground, they left and like 15minutes they came back and said they couldn't take it anymore and bought it anyway.

Again, this wasn't teenagers this was like the OP 7, 8, 9, but again some even as little as 4 and 5 years old.

Hell some parents were stupid as hell and the kids would convince them 'oh they never do any of those bad things they just drive around' and I'd roll my eyes as the parents fell for it every.freaking.time.
 

Orb

Member
What's with the your childhood wasn't normal? Seriously. You all do know that this and MUCH WORSE happens to kids accross the United States and world. This isn't about me. This is about the point I am trying to make. The parents are involed and Gaf chooses to judge because of their personal standard.
Just because something does happen to multiple people, doesmt make it normal. Im sorry your childhood was fucked up, but using that to excuse letting other children expose themselves to horrific and violent games because "itll probably be fine, it was for me" is fucked
 
Yeah that's weird. I mean I started playing violent games around like age 10, COD not until a few years later. Games have age limits for a reason and while they might be a bit extreme in some cases (17 for a lot of M games is too strict I think and T for some games is also hilarious) I think playing call of duty at 7 is too far, let alone having a fucking birthday party over it. Just because a lot of us did turn out fine from playing violent video games in our youth doesn't mean there should be no restrictions at all and no possible way it could go awry with anyone.
 

Orb

Member
Like sure, id probably let a 11+ year old play some of this, but fucking 7? 7 year olds are talking about cooties. 7 year olds are on roblox and minecraft. 7 year olds should not be anywhere near this kinda shit, and the parents that let them are bad parents
 
Just because something does happen to multiple people, doesmt make it normal. Im sorry your childhood was fucked up, but using that to excuse letting other children expose themselves to horrific and violent games because "itll probably be fine, it was for me" is fucked


And from where I'm standing you need to get off your high horse.

It's Call of Duty. That's one game that's easy for a parent to put some context to and from what i read they are involved. I have never said to judge this kid to my standard.


Look my head now hurts. I will bow out the thread. Just know that I disagree with yours and some other opinion.
 
Your opinion sucks and anyone else's that thinks they should overly filter what kids play. Do whatever you feel is right with your kid, but imo real life circumstances can effect kids, not a freaking video game which is far off from reality.

Call of Duty is much closer to reality than low res fantasy like Doom or Mortal Kombat.

COD isn't appropriate but kids have been playing with military/police themed toys for decades now. I'm sure kids had GI Joe themed parties in the 80s.

There's an ongoing trend of gun glorification in US kids media and an ongoing problem with gun violence in the American "OBAMA WANTS MUH GUNS"-society. Hm...

I agree it's inappropriate. Pretty disgusting even.

Who in their right mind want a war/military-themed birthday-party? It's like straight outta a parody or something.

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What's with the your childhood wasn't normal? Seriously. You all do know that this and MUCH WORSE happens to kids accross the United States and world. This isn't about me. This is about the point I am trying to make. The parents are involed and Gaf chooses to judge because of their personal standard.
Because it's not normal and shouldn't be normal. If a parent decides to put on porn for their 5 year old and shoot up heroin, yeah it's the parent's decision - but it's also a shitty one and an example of bad parenting/child neglect.
 

Bucca

Fools are always so certain of themselves, but wiser men so full of doubts.
If someone threw me a Titanfall 2 themed bday party now I'd shit myself with excitement.

And I'm 22.
 

Orb

Member
And from where I'm standing you need to get off your high horse.

It's Call of Duty. That's one game that's easy for a parent to put some context to and from what i read they are involved. I have never said to judge this kid to my standard.


Look my head now hurts. I will bow out the thread. Just know that I disagree with yours and some other opinion.
Because not wanting parents intentionally ruinnibg a childs view of the world and giving them possible trauma later in life puts me on a high horse. Okay. Sure. Gotcha
 
What's with the your childhood wasn't normal? Seriously. You all do know that this and MUCH WORSE happens to kids accross the United States and world. This isn't about me. This is about the point I am trying to make. The parents are involed and Gaf chooses to judge because of their personal standard.
Just because something occurs fairly often doesn't mean it is OK. Your childhood, again no offense, sounds horrific and scarring in a lot of ways. I worked with low income kids, and most of them did not have as much childhood trauma as you just layed out in that post. Also parents being 'involved' Doesn't necessarily make them good parents. I've known plenty of parents who were controlling, judgemental, and abusive to their kids, but they were very 'involved' in their child's life.
 

gablekevin

Neo Member
Do the parents seem loving and attentive? Does the kid seem to be respectful and happy for the most part? Is either the parents or the kid causing harm to you mentally or physically? If you answered yes to any of those maybe there's an issue but then again most likely there's nothing wrong. Parent your kids how you want and stay out of other parents business.
 
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