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Am I overreacting about my girlfriend?

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hipbabboom

Huh? What did I say? Did I screw up again? :(
OP, why don't you test her love for you if your so confident and ask her to have sex with another man while you watch. If she still loves you after the sex then she's a keeper for sure.
 
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John Rabbit

Banned
sanstesy said:
II've never had a relationship with someone this comfortable, open-minded and just overall respectful in every aspect.
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The fact you made a thread on GAF about this instead of talking to her is proof that the above is a complete and total fabrication. Either that or it's completely one-sided.
 
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iFirez

Member
It sounds like you can be quite jealous. I understand the fact that she danced with other dudes which pisses you off but she didn’t kiss any of them or anything - she was just having fun. Even if you would never go dance with other girls, we’re all different people, she seems like the social type. Now a girl dancing around a load of random guys can give those guys the wrong idea - I get that but even in a drunk state she should be able to dodge their advances and point towards you showing them that your her bf... Drunk is drunk, you should still be able to remember you have a partner you love very much... which she probably did and she as just having fun on the dance floor.
 
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Fliesen

Member
I can imagine your girlfriend liking the attention of guys that are not you. It gives her confidence and maybe she likes the ‘thrill' of seeing how someone reacted to her just approaching them and dancing for 20 seconds. Big whoop.

The secret to a good relationship is both partners being equally confident. Insecurities (like the ones you're demonstrating) are relationship poison.

Also, she's not ”taken". She's in a relationship.
 
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Bruce Wayne1

Member
Unless this happens often I personally would not worry about it. Also have to consider she was a bit drunk into the equation and we all do things that we wouldn't do sober. Maybe I'm looking at this optimistically but if you've talked to her and still don't trust her idk what to tell you.

Take my opinion with a grain of salt.

B.W. out
 
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peanutbutterlatte

Member
My girlfriend takes dance classes where she dances with other guys all the time. It's a different context though I guess, I wouldn't necessarily be happy with her "club dancing" like many do.

I'd probably initially react in a bit of a jealous way. That said, she knew you were there watching!
 
Osukaa

Osukaa

Member
sanstesy said:
I've been with her for almost 2 years now and me and her agree that we fit together like Mario and Peach. I've never had a relationship with someone this comfortable, open-minded and just overall respectful in every aspect. It couldn't much better. Like when Bowser kidnaps her and tries to cuck me she straight ditches him.

So now imagine you go out to the club with your friends and get really drunk. Like a little too much. You're on the dancefloor poppin' with your girl plus friends and everyone is dancing with everyone here and there. No problem if me or she dances with someone else in the group because we all know each other very well. Inbetween, one friend in my group talked to a completely unrelated dude on the floor and after a while he seemed a little interested in my girl not sure she was alread taken. Though it seemed he got the message and went off to go on dancing somewhere else - suddenly your girl goes off to that exact dude not even approaching her at all and starts dancing with him for around 20 sec. Afterwards she then grabs some other random dudes arm, dances with him with for 20sec and comes back to us and dances with me again as nothing happend. I don't know why she did that and she is too aware to not know that he was interested in her when he was dancing with us.

The bigger problem is though, that this happend in a similar fashion one month ago. Then it wasn't something to break up over as we afterwards then discussed it, told her that I didn't like it and peacefully moved on. At both instances we were pretty drunk to a point that it's too much but that it keeps happening like this doesn't work with me. Similary it seems silly to break up over something that only happens when we are too high on alcohol. But we both love to go out and party regularly.

I'm not sure how to handle this situation. Confused and generally conflicted is my first reaction.
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OP I think your overreacting.... But... To be honest this is Gaf and most of these relationship stories got me reaching straight for my bowl of popcorn. Just tell her how u feel and keep us updated.
I do think she was just being harmless though.
 
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Saucestin_Roast

Member
You should be having a non-agressive conversation with her about this rather than making a thread here.

There's no harm in letting her know you were uncomfortable with what she did. Different people have different boundaries of what they find acceptable in relationships.

If you guys aren't compatible with this then it might just keep bothering you when it happens again and again.
 
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Weckum

Member
Could be nothing, could be something. I had something similar happen where she went of and danced with other guys and this led to her flirting with them. Usually I wouldn't give a shit because I'm not a big fan of being jealous, but in this case it was a bit too much I think.

I talked to the girl about it when we both weren't drunk anymore about how it made me feel a bit uncomfortable and during that conversation she broke up with me because she hadn't been feeling us together anymore. To be fair, we were only together for five months, not two years like you.

So yeah, might be nothing, might be something. Just talk to her and see where you stand.
 
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Septic360

Banned
OP, you're not overreacting.

You two are adults and you discussed precisely the kind of behaviour she exhibited previously and she's done that again.

Let it slide for now but if it happens again then make a conscious effort to record it.

Then have a chat to her and show her the clip. Just talk it out in a calm manner.

So yeah obviously nothing to really worry about now but something to bear in mind mate.
 
Glass Rebel

Glass Rebel

Member
I've been with her for almost 2 years now and me and her agree that we fit together like Mario and Peach. I've never had a relationship with someone this comfortable, open-minded and just overall respectful in every aspect. It couldn't much better. Like when Bowser kidnaps her and tries to cuck me she straight ditches him.
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nampad said:
Maybe she just wants to switch *finger snap* 👌
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lmao!
 
Roufianos

Roufianos

Member
Drunk girls like to dance. I've seen girls who are single dance with 10+ guys a night, doesn't mean they're interested in them. No reason to worry OP.
 
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Always-honest

Banned
Not sure. What is considered "dancing" these days?

Many men aren't able to deal with an openminded, joyful, independent woman.
But what helps is this: talk to each other.

Maybe watch less cuck porn? Or maybe get used to the idea that you actually kinda want that?
Be honest to her and to yourself.

Mostly it's men being insecure and not suited for living with an independent woman.
 
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Orbis

Member
Massive jump from dancing to anything else. I wouldn't give it a second thought unless you have other reasons to distrust.

Also I'm not gonna post without expressing my disapproval of the Mario references in the OP. Not cool man.
 
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Kevtones

Member
If you're 26 to older you should speak with your GF and then make your decision.



If you're younger, don't text or call her for a few days. Then pick up friendly and act like everything's cool. If she's mad, keep your cool and just say 'I'll call you when you've relaxed'. CLICK.
 
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SlipperyFishes

Banned
If you’re worried about being “cucked” (what an awful concept/term) then there’s already trust problems there.

I’d remove this accusation and turd term from your vocabulary.
 
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OmegaTreeFish

Banned
OP.... Nothing did happen. Seriously. Dancing with someone for 20 seconds is literally nothing to be annoyed over.

Also those mario analogies were beyond terrible.
 
Jzero

Jzero

Member
Honestly I don't blame OP for worrying, I've had women that are already taken make out with me and have gotten gropey at concerts but she was doing it right in front of you OP so you should be fine.
 
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tonysidaway

Member
Kevtones said:
If you're younger, don't text or call her for a few days. Then pick up friendly and act like everything's cool. If she's mad, keep your cool and just say 'I'll call you when you've relaxed'. CLICK.
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You're coaching the original poster to be _that guy_? Or maybe an in-joke, hard to tell in NeoGAF.
 
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