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GAF, I'm 25 now and I got questions about being a man

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The Artisan

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Good morning. First of all, I want to once more thank everybody for the support you gave me in the confessions thread. It means a lot of for every single one of you to take time to write your responses. My mental stability hasn't healed completely but it never truly will, but things have gotten a little bit better.

Secondly, it's my birthday...I can't believe I made it to 25, yo. I feel like I lost that youth factor. I'm not a little young man now, now I'm just a little man, a pathetic little man (I'm 5'6"!)

---but anyways, even at this age I've got some questions about being a man that I should've figured out several years ago.

1. Is it bad to always use an electric shaver? (here's another confession) I never learned how to truly shave...I mean I've done it once or twice in my life but I cut half my face off each time. So since I was 16/17, I've been using an electric.

I hear it's like, messing up my face, and that it's getting worse. When the stubble grows back it looks like it is "poking" through.

2. This is a bit more...complicated but at my workplace one time during break this one guy was like, "I got a bunch of pictures on my phone of a girl I used to fuck you wanna see? It's on an app that I deleted, I just redownload it and it comes back" --I didn't know what the fuck to say but that already made me feel awkward. He went ahead downloaded it and
started showing me these things that I really didn't want to see.

Honestly, that made me feel pretty uncomfortable. I'm still new at the job so I didn't want to say anything (I haven't told anyone at the work place). I told my cousin, the same cousin I spoke about in the Ramadan and confessions thread about, and he said that...that stuff is normal, that that's typical "water cooler" talk, and stuff I should get used to. I'm paraphrasing here, but I disagreed with him. Didn't argue with him, not coz he was right but because he's the type of person you just can't argue with. BUT, I think I had every legitimate right to feel uncomfortable there. No disrespect to the guy, I like working with him and everything, but that right there I didn't really appeciate.

3. This last one is pretty personal but, for those of you wanting to find out another secret of mine,
other than my latest confession of not being an artisan in real life:

I haven't had sex yet. So yes, I am now the 25 year old virgin. I'm mentioning this because like, I have no idea when it will be, so fucked am I gonna be and how prepared should I be and what not...you know?

4. What is "interest"? Like, I have deferred my loans again so the interest is accruing, what does that mean? A higher interest rate is bad, why? You have to pay back a certain amount, don't you?

Agh, I probably got more but I have to get ready for work now. I couldn't figure out a way to do a tl;dr so this thread may not get much traction. But I'll be happy for any advice/responses I get. Thanks, gaf.
 
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Prime crotch

Banned
Electric razors used to mess up your face, dunno how it goes nowadays, I always used a razor to shave, only use electric to trim.
Try not to fret over smalltalk, just nod and go along. Eventually the dude will take the hint, and lose interest.
 
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Ultima_5

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Shaving is easy. Get shaving cream. Rub on face. Rub razor on it. Don't push hard. If you have some growth. Get a beard trimmer and use that first.

That dude showing you naked pics is creepy and shouldn't happen in a professional work place.

Sex isn't that big of a deal. Most women won't care that you're a virgin and some will like it. Just start dating a bit if you want to.

Interest accrues based on how much money you owe. If you have 10% interest on $100, the total would be $110. Always pay more than the minimum payment and make getting it of debt a priority. Someone should elaborate on this More
 
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Moff

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when I as 15 I chose to shave with a razor, I stuck with it
I don't think anything bad about men who chose electric, it's a choice and a pretty unimportant one

they guy with the pictures, it would have depended a lot on what kind of relationship I have with that guy. if he is more or less a stranger I rarely talk to, I would probably have seen that as bragging and disliked it. it would probably not have made me feel uncomfortable, though.

interest is what you need to pay back on top of the loan. so yeah, higher is worse for you.
 
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VendettaRed07

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Being a man is simple

You must be swift as a coursing river

With all the force of a great typhoon

Have all the strength of the raging fire

Be mysterious as the dark side of the moon

Remember all that and you should be good.

But seriously happy birthday and good luck. I'll be 25 soon too so I'm right there with you
 
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Zepp Twofist

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1. I dunno. I use an electric one as well. Depends on how close of a shave you need to look freshly shaved I guess. I got pretty light hairs.

2. Tell him you don't want to see that shit if it makes you uncomfortable. Rest of gaf is probably going to tell you to report him or something.

3. I have no good tips here. I was drunk my first few times. Can't recommend that approach.

4. You should really learn about this stuff. Basically the higher interest, the more money in addition to the original sum you have to pay. If you just let it run, your debt will become huge and your life will be fucked. This should be nr. 1 of your problems, not nr 4.
 
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Sunset Samurai

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When it comes down to first time having sex, wear a condom. Because you don't know how long you might last and your pull out game will be weak af since it's your first time. So it's better to wear protection

But if you ever go unprotected, (some gaffers might disagree) but precum on the "first round" of sex does NOT get a girl pregnant.
 
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Goose_Se7en

Banned
VendettaRed07 said:
Being a man is simple

You must be swift as a coursing river

With all the force of a great typhoon

Have all the strength of the raging fire

Be mysterious as the dark side of the moon

Remember all that and you should be good.

But seriously happy birthday and good luck. I'll be 25 soon too so I'm right there with you
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This post was amazing. Immediately started singing along.
one of my happiest memories as a kid was my mom taking me to see Mulan
 
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SkeptiMism

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First of all, you're not pathetic. Stop telling that to yourself, even as a joke.

1. Is it bad to always use an electric shaver? (here's another confession) I never learned how to truly shave...I mean I've done it once or twice in my life but I cut half my face off each time. So since I was 16/17, I've been using an electric.
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Do whatever works for you. Manhood doesn't mean that you have to things the hard way or anything.

2. This is a bit more...complicated but at my workplace one time during break this one guy was like, "I got a bunch of pictures on my phone of a girl I used to fuck you wanna see? It's on an app that I deleted, I just redownload it and it comes back" --I didn't know what the fuck to say but that already made me feel awkward. He went ahead downloaded it and
started showing me these things that I really didn't want to see.

Honestly, that made me feel pretty uncomfortable. I'm still new at the job so I didn't want to say anything (I haven't told anyone at the work place). I told my cousin, the same cousin I spoke about in the Ramadan and confessions thread about, and he said that...that stuff is normal, that that's typical "water cooler" talk, and stuff I should get used to. I'm paraphrasing here, but I disagreed with him. Didn't argue with him, not coz he was right but because he's the type of person you just can't argue with. BUT, I think I had every legitimate right to feel uncomfortable there. No disrespect to the guy, I like working with him and everything, but that right there I didn't really appeciate.
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I'd felt very uncomfortable too. Nothing wrong with that, but in fact I'd say the guy was being very inappropriate.

Manhood doesn't mean that you have to be some horny guy who wants to see naked women all the time.

3. This last one is pretty personal but, for those of you wanting to find out another secret of mine,
other than my latest confession of not being an artisan in real life:

I haven't had sex yet. So yes, I am now the 25 year old virgin. I'm mentioning this because like, I have no idea when it will be, so fucked am I gonna be and how prepared should I be and what not...you know?
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Don't worry about it. If you'll meet someone you really like, then just talk with her (or him). Be open about it. There's no shame in it.

Sex isn't really that complex. You don't need to practice it. The first time very possibly won't be all that perfect, but if you're open about your lack of experience, it will be a lot easier.

4. What is "interest"? Like, I have deferred my loans again so the interest is accruing, what does that mean? A higher interest rate is bad, why? You have to pay back a certain amount, don't you?
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When you borrow money, you're not paying only that back, but there will be interest that you also have to pay. It's basically a compensation to the loaner for the money that you loan.

Can't go much into more detail sorry, since it's not my native tongue and I'm not an expert anyway.
 
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psynergylover

Member
I always use an electric shaver, if I use a straight razor I get shave bumps all over my face and it last about 2-4 days and it itches/hurts, UGH!!!!

electric shaver for life!!!
 
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Mathieran

Banned
Dudes showing you nude pictures is not regular water cooler chat, and that was a serious invasion of privacy for that girl be used to know.

I don't shave, I just use a beard trimmer to keep stubble on my face, so that's an option if you don't want to shave.

Interest is bad. You want to pay down those loans as quickly as possible and any other debt you may have. The longer it takes to pay the more money you will have to pay. If you have a 10 percent annual percentage rate you will be charged 10 percent of the balance every year.

Don't worry about losing your virginity, it will happen at the right time. Don't get desperate, wait until someone you like and trust comes along

Edit: I would argue part of "being a man" would be telling that guy to go to hell next time he shows you naked pics of girls he used to know. If he shows you actual porn well it's awkward but not an invasion of privacy. But if you don't like it just politely say no thanks, I'm good.
 
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Tabris

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1) Just use a good quality electric razor and you're fine. I use a Braun Series 7.

2) Well how you describe it, it's a bit weird and creepy how he said it and showing you them but I don't have the context of the conversation before. But yeah, it's normal for guys to talk about subjects like that. "This one girl I was fucking ... etc". Did you not experience that at all during school or you mainly kept to yourself? I assume it's the later due to a lot of these questions, which is fine, but it's waking up time :)

It's OK to not feel comfortable when those kinds of subject come up, and that will probably be normal for you until you deal with #3, but unless it breaches any kind of personal safety or ethics line, you don't want them to feel uncomfortable talking to you about that stuff.

You should work on being a bit of a chameleon on the outside to be able to interact with different types of people and groups. This will allow you to be included and will benefit you in your life. People that have told you just to be yourself, well sometimes it may not apply to you. Especially in business, because how you represent yourself to your customers (external or internal aka co-workers) matters.

Watch Ben Affleck talk you through it a bit: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oTFU9c9MrkE

3) Start working on #2 and it will start helping #3. The more you can get along, the more extrovert you become to start being able to talk to girls more and hopefully that leads to some relationships for you.

4) Whenever you are dealing with debt, there are a couple important things you want to understand. First, you have your interest rate. Unless you are dealing with a mortgage, your interest rate will most likely be annualized fixed. That means take your current debt, times it by the interest rate (ex $10,000 * .20) and then divide by 12. That's your current monthly interest payment. As you pay off the principle of your debt (any money you put towards your debt after your interest payment), the amount of interest you need to pay decreases. Then most debt has a minimum payment required, which usually covers part of, or all of the interest.

General rule of thumb when trying to budget how much you want to pay each month. Cover the interest cost + as much principle as you can afford. Faster you pay off your debt the less money wasted in interest payments. If you've deferred them, it means that monthly interest payment is being added on top of your debt which is then increasing your interest payment because your next interest payment is ($10,000 + your last interest charge * .20) / 12 which keeps going on until you start paying off that principle and covering your interest payments.
 
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Oreoleo

Member
You were not wrong about being uncomfortable seeing naked pics of this dude's ex. When he says "wanna see?" Your response should've been, "Naw, man." Would've been the end of it.

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Being a virgin at 25 is not a big deal unless you make it a big deal. If you're self-conscious about it you've already lost. Own it. When the right girl comes along she won't care. She'll think it's endearing. Really!

If you want to get it out of the way start hittin' the bars and clubs and do your best to leave with someone. When it's time to get down to business don't say anything and let it happen. If the sex is shit so what. Plenty of people who aren't virgins are still shit at sex.

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Interest is like tax. You buy something at the store, you're gonna pay a little tax on top. You get a loan, you gotta pay back a little bit extra on top. That's interest. Pretty simple.
 
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ClosingADoor

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The Artisan said:
1. Is it bad to always use an electric shaver? (here's another confession) I never learned how to truly shave...I mean I've done it once or twice in my life but I cut half my face off each time. So since I was 16/17, I've been using an electric.
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I'm 26 and doing the same. My face is fine, don't worry about it. Do get a decent one with one of those cleaning stations.

2. This is a bit more...complicated but at my workplace one time during break this one guy was like, "I got a bunch of pictures on my phone of a girl I used to fuck you wanna see? It's on an app that I deleted, I just redownload it and it comes back" --I didn't know what the fuck to say but that already made me feel awkward. He went ahead downloaded it and
started showing me these things that I really didn't want to see.
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"Nah, I'm cool" and change the subject or continue your work.

3. This last one is pretty personal but, for those of you wanting to find out another secret of mine,
other than my latest confession of not being an artisan in real life:

I haven't had sex yet. So yes, I am now the 25 year old virgin. I'm mentioning this because like, I have no idea when it will be, so fucked am I gonna be and how prepared should I be and what not...you know?
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Don't worry too much about it, but be sure you are actually putting yourself out there and don't end up in an isolated environment. It's hard, but nothing is going to happen if you don't push yourself.

4. What is "interest"? Like, I have deferred my loans again so the interest is accruing, what does that mean? A higher interest rate is bad, why? You have to pay back a certain amount, don't you?
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Interest is the money you pay over your loan. So if you borrow $100 with a 10% interest rate, you need to pay back an additional $10 every year you have that loan still running.

If for that loan you don't pay the interest in the mean time, it will grow. So the second year you could end up needing to pay an additional 10% over the now $110 loan ($100 + the $10 original interest).
 
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NateDog

Member
Shaving is no bother, just don't cheap out. Get decent disposable razors and decent shaving cream + aftershave gel / cream. Genuinely can't beat the feel of that sort of shave. Unless you use a cutthroat perhaps but start with disposables.

That is weird no matter what and I wouldn't have pictures of an ex like that either, if I did I sure as hell wouldn't brag that I do it.

As for the last, don't worry. It'll come. I was 24 and met my dream girl and I lost my virginity to her. Been together almost 2 years now but I already plan on marrying her. Some of us have to wait until longer and often the first few times aren't perfect anyway (didn't work out first time we planned to do it and then we did it on a whim another day and it was what we hoped for). It'll happen though, I know it's not easy just waiting longer and longer and just hoping, but it will.
 
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Cappa

Banned
1) electric shaver bad? What?who's the dope who told you that. My problem is electric shavers never give me a close enough shave so I'll usually end up using a razor after using the electric shaver but no it doesn't damage your face

2)yes that's normal. What makes you feel uncomfortable? Do you think he's hitting on you and that's why? Naked pictures or videos or whatever happens all the time at work. My WhatsApp group chat is filled with that crap. I think it's stupid but most of these people think it's funny and it's pretty innocent. I don't think it's a big deal. If you don't like it just act like you really don't care when he shows it to you. He'll get the point.

3)youre a virgin at 25? Congratulations you're just like hundreds of thousands of people out there. It's actually more normal to be a virgin At 25 than you probably think. Society made it seem like me losing virginity at 17 years old was to old already, it's not. Your first time is going to suck, regardless if it's the love of your life or not. Don't worry about it it's not a big deal. Sex is not a big deal. Once you're in a relationship and you need to keep the relationship sexually active is where you need to worry.

4)im dumb can't help you there
 
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Kain

Member
1- I only use electric because I never shave completely and I like to trim the edges that way, but shaving with a razor is not hard and you will not die of blood loss. And cutting yourself while doing it is normal the first few times. Just try it if you want, forget it if you don't.

2- That's not... something very unusual, at least in my experience. If you feel uncomfortable just tell the guy, he won't get offended unless you start lecturing him about personal space or some shit like that.

3- I believe sex is overrated but even so it's fun, just don't get anxious. I would advise to buy condoms but don't carry them with you at all times, here's the thing: if you get intimate with a girl and you reach the point of sex, tell her you didn't bring condoms along because you are not that kind of guy and you didn't expect sex that day (which is usually the case unless it's a sure thing or she's your partner anyway). That way you don't come as the typical jock going for sex everywhere and she will want to hang out again. Probably, this is not a science, but it doesn't hurt being nice to people.
 
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Bishop89

Member
ive always shaved with an electric razer.. a good 13 or so years now.. No issues whatsover.

Dry shaving is the best, no need to put creams or anything. Just wash your face after you have shaved it
 
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Sunset Samurai

Member
kavanf1 said:
This is really bad advice.
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Just letting him know just case he freaks out after going unprotected and changes his mind during mid sex.
 
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SkeptiMism

Member
Tabris said:
2) Well how you describe it, it's a bit weird and creepy how he said it and showing you them but I don't have the context of the conversation before. But yeah, it's normal for guys to talk about subjects like that. "This one girl I was fucking ... etc". Did you not experience that at all during school or you mainly kept to yourself? I assume it's the later due to a lot of these questions, which is fine, but it's waking up time :)
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A lot of men don't talk like that though. I don't think I've been in such circles since upper comprehensive school.

Personally I really don't wanna talk about my sex stories with people and I don't wanna be near people who talk about their sex stories. If OP doesn't want to either, there's nothing wrong with that.
 
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AlphaDump

Gold Member
what being a man is, in regards to your coworker, is having integrity when people arent looking (like his wife). demonstrate respect and you'll become an adult before you know it.


Either way, I wouldn't sweat women or experience. Right now it is just important you put yourself out there and temper your own expectations with reality. Talk to girls, dont be afraid to fail. Practice makes perfect, or at least better than what you were.

Try not to keep yourself down. We all go through this.
 
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Tabris

Member
SkeptiMism said:
A lot of men don't talk like that though. I don't think I've been in such circles since upper comprehensive school.

Personally I really don't wanna talk about my sex stories with people and I don't wanna be near people who talk about their sex stories. If OP doesn't want to either, there's nothing wrong with that.
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To be successful in business, you need to be able to chameleon a bit to whoever you are talking to, whether that customer is external or internal (co-worker). You don't want to have it cost your integrity though. It's a balance.

I guess it all depends what kind of industry and role you are in, and how much you are customer facing and how much that is relationship based. I'm in sales, so I'm more relationship-based with external customers. But I think a lot of roles may not require it, but to be successful in a company, you need to build relationships.

But this isn't a friendship. You aren't looking for people you like or feel comfortable around. You are looking to make relationships to appropriate people, whether you like them or not, to advance your career.

If you're not willing to do that, you'll find yourself closing doors to opportunities, whether consciously or subconsciously.
 
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SkeptiMism

Member
Tabris said:
To be successful in business, you need to be able to chameleon a bit to whoever you are talking to, whether that customer is external or internal (co-worker). You don't want to have it cost your integrity though. It's a balance.

I guess it all depends what kind of industry and role you are in, and how much you are customer facing and how much that is relationship based. I'm in sales, so I'm more relationship-based with external customers. But I think a lot of roles may not require it, but to be successful in a company, you need to build relationships.

But this isn't a friendship. You aren't looking for people you like or feel comfortable around. You are looking to make relationships to appropriate people, whether you like them or not, to advance your career.

If you're not willing to do that, you'll find yourself closing doors to opportunities, whether consciously or subconsciously.
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Well I was more commenting on a friend situation, though you're right, the original context was in work.

Personally I find it hard to see how participating in such discussions in a professional work situation would be any "mandatory". Like sure I agree that building relationships is important, but I do think it's fine to say "sorry I'm really not interested" and stuff like that. Balance is indeed important though, but maybe I'm looking at it from a slightly different angle.
 
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SeanR1221

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I hate electric shavers so I'd learn to use a bladed razor. I never feel like the electric shaves close enough and leaves my neck feeling raw (I haven't used one since high school though).

Don't get hung up on being a virgin. Focus on building yourself up before you look at dating just to have sex.

This isn't one of those "just be more confident posts!" Because that's useless.

What hobbies do you have (besides gaming presumably)? Maybe it's time to expand your scope and meet new people. I'm biased but lifting is one of the better hobbies you can take up. Not only will it make you stronger, better looking and more confident, but lifting can raise testosterone levels which will make you feel less sluggish and gloomy.
 
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John Kowalski

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I've never used an electric shaver, they looks rather uncomfortable to be honest.

Interest is basically an added cost to loan paybacks, you can think of it as the cost of having been given a loan. Peeps need their profit.
 
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Tabris

Member
SkeptiMism said:
Well I was more commenting on a friend situation, though you're right, the original context was in work.

Personally I find it hard to see how participating in such discussions in a professional work situation would be any "mandatory". Like sure I agree that building relationships is important, but I do think it's fine to say "sorry I'm really not interested" and stuff like that. Balance is indeed important though, but maybe I'm looking at it from a slightly different angle.
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You may not see it or be included, and it's possible it's not present at your company as each one is different, but a lot of companies have the "boys club" / bro culture situation, especially when dealing with older C-level suite executives. You may not be into sports, you may find some of things said sexist (this is getting better), you may not be comfortable doing business at a bar or even a strip club - but that's the reality of a lot of business. It's done behind closed doors and if you aren't apart, then you're missing out on opportunities. From a sales perspective, you may spend weeks delivering solution presentations and on-site meetings, but then taking them out to dinner and a bunch of drinks ends up being worth just as much for the sale.

People open up and trust you more when they feel you're one of the "bros". I've been told exactly what I needed to say in an interview as I went out drinking with one of the people on the committee (internal promotion interview).

I honestly got into NFL football simply for business over a decade ago. Ended up absolutely loving it and it's now my favourite sport (only watched hockey and baseball before then) but the original reason I started paying attention is to chameleon with American clients. I have little interest in it but I pay attention to college football specifically for this reason.

But this is just one kind of situation you need to chameleon for. You need to be able to go the other way as well. I have to work with a lot of CTO's and developers in my role sometimes, and you need to also be able to speak their language and interests and that may not be the same as the "boys club". Everyone's different too, I'm just generalizing for these examples but you don't want to put yourself in a situation where someone actively thinks you are not "one of them". That's why you chameleon a bit to the audience you are dealing with in that business circumstance. May take one person out for drinks at a bar and another person out for coffee and talk to their interests.

All that said though, showing someone naked pictures of your ex is odd.
 
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Into

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2. This is a bit more...complicated but at my workplace one time during break this one guy was like, "I got a bunch of pictures on my phone of a girl I used to fuck you wanna see? It's on an app that I deleted, I just redownload it and it comes back" --I didn't know what the fuck to say but that already made me feel awkward. He went ahead downloaded it and started showing me these things that I really didn't want to see.
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Why? I wont tell you how to feel, but i dont understand how guys who consume essentially daily pornography suddenly get so shy and awkward about it. Correct me if i am wrong but i am sure you have seen Lisa Ann shove a giant dildo up inside her and thought "Well done Mrs. Ann!". And seen probably much more graphic stuff. So why the sudden shift? I concede that i am making many assumptions about you, so if i am wrong, i apologize.

Think of it like icebreaker, some guys will want to show you some video of a touchdown or some guy falling off a bike or, in your case pics of women. Just play along, becuase its a good starting point. No topic will ever stay the same, you can always steer it away from the nudes to something else and find other interests.
 
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Zach

Member
I am 31 and have used an electric razor most of my life. My face and skin are beautiful. Beautiful!!
 
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Jimrpg

Member
Happy Birthday Artisan!

25 is not too old, though I'm glad you realised it is time to start growing up. Honestly I think the more mature somebody is, the more successful they become in life. If only I knew that when I was younger.

You need to talk to more girls, whether it be online or in person (better in person) before you even start thinking about having sex. Get comfortable with the opposite sex first. Small steps.

As for interest, in general pay off your debts ASAP. There are good debts and there are bad debts. By the sounds of things "deferring your debts" it sounds like you are accruing a lot of interest and you will have to pay back a lot of interest. That's bad! Pay it off ASAP.

Good debts are when you borrow money to make more money than you borrowed plus the interest. A good example would be borrowing money to buy a house and you can rent it out to make money and sell the house in the future for profit.
 
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MikeDip

God bless all my old friends/And god bless me too, why pretend?
Mate most of that stuff is no biggie, you can figure it out through experiences. But please for the sake of your future please go read a few wiki articles about interest and debt

Oh and happy birth day
 
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LordOfChaos

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4. What is "interest"? Like, I have deferred my loans again so the interest is accruing, what does that mean? A higher interest rate is bad, why? You have to pay back a certain amount, don't you?
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Err, let's circle back around to the sex talk after this one. Interest bad, mmkay? Or rather, at least when it's working against you.

Say you owe 100,000 dollars, for simplicity. At 7% interest rate, you'll owe 107,000, in year 2 114,490, year 3 133,954...

So you see, because interest counts against itself as well, it compounds very quickly. You do not want to get into a situation where you can only afford to pay the interest, and not the principal sum itself.

Rack up high enough interest payments and you'll be the 40 year old virgin.
 
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Sunset Samurai

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kavanf1 said:
The point is, it's not true - pre-cum absolutely can get a girl pregnant.
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Precum is cowper's gland. Only meant to lubricate the vagina. Neutralize acidic for safe passage of semen. Now it's a different story if after first ejaculation they go straight at it again. Semen can still be inside the penis. I always prefer to use the bathroom then go again.
 
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NeloAnjelo

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1 . I have used electric since I was 18 or so. I am 30 now. Just invest in a good quality one that uses shaving cream and can work in the wet. Braun and Phillips are good.

2. This should not happen at work, especially with a guy you hardly know. I would just stay away from him. Good luck with the job.

3. This is fine. Read up on it. Watch some good porn (not the rough stuff), and talk to as many women as you can. It get easier, and to be honest many will not care too much.

4. Learn about this online. The more you know the better. Try to have no debt, pay above the minimum payment.

My only debt is my house, and I am changing jobs after 10 years in the same company. BIG CHANGE for me. Embrace your age... Happy Birthday dude.
 
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Tabris

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I'll give you an example.

One of the companies I worked for had a decent sized-group hired at one time. During the first week, some of us got invited to go out drinking by some of the top people at the company. A couple people couldn't do it because they had kids at home or left early. And I think the rest wanted to be "professional" or didn't feel comfortable thinking they may embarrass themselves? I partied with them the entire night. Closer to the end of the night they felt I was "just one of the bros", and did coke right in front of me saying "Hey normally we wouldn't do this around a new hire but we like you. Don't say anything though".

Guess who got the promotion when it came up? The other guys were just as qualified (well some of them).

Don't be the guy who isn't a part of that because it may not be what you're into or don't feel exactly comfortable.
 
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Sotha_Sil

Member
1. It's easy. Watch a five minute video on YouTube if you have to.

2. Some people are assholes. It's not a big deal, but if it really bothers you, tell him you don't care about what girls he wants to sleep with.

3. Not a problem. I didn't have sex for a long time too, and it didn't take long to catch up. Watch some porn and find some intriguing positions/stuff (lol) that interests you and make it your thing. If you're still only interested in missionary, do more research.

4. Personal debt is a scourge everyone should be without. You should make the elimination of debt one of your highest priorities. If you have the means to start paying it off now, do so.
 
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Jag

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1. Just google shaving tips. There will be better advice on the web then on a gaming forum.

2. Agree with the chameleon comments. Like it or not, it is better to be seen as fitting in. The dude is probably bad news and you should keep your distance. However, you can't let him know that. Just seem unimpressed with the pics. Like "Whatever. Great you have creepy pics of your ex".

I also had to learn about sports just to keep up in conversations. I still don't love it, but I'm knowledgeable enough to have a discussion about it.

3. The first time will probably be awkward and stressful. Agree with being honest with a mate. Don't emulate porn. It's nothing like real life.

4. Interest is shit you need to get under control immediately.

Honestly this is probably the most important one to understand if you are going to function like an adult. It's not a hard concept and you should spend some time online understanding the basics.
 
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Sora the Cat

Member
Tabris said:
I'll give you an example.

One of the companies I worked for had a decent sized-group hired at one time. During the first week, some of us got invited to go out drinking by some of the top people at the company. A couple people couldn't do it because they had kids at home or left early. And I think the rest wanted to be "professional" or didn't feel comfortable thinking they may embarrass themselves? I partied with them the entire night. Closer to the end of the night they felt I was "just one of the bros", and did coke right in front of me saying "Hey normally we wouldn't do this around a new hire but we like you. Don't say anything though".

Guess who got the promotion when it came up? The other guys were just as qualified (well some of them).

Don't be the guy who isn't a part of that because it may not be what you're into or don't feel exactly comfortable.
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N.Domixis

Banned
What? I never heard electric shavers mangled your skin. Ives been using them for 7 years and my skin is baby smooth.

Also or the virginity part, just buy one of those hyper realistic sex dolls. It counts as losing your virginity from what I've heard.
 
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True Savior

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1- No
2- Next time tell him that's personal and you don't feel comfortable watching it.
3- Don't over-fantasy sex. It's just sex. Don't worry about it. It will probably be awkward and clunky. Maybe go to an escort.
4- Think of interest as the "cost" of the loan. If they borrow you money, you can't expect them to do it for free.
 
Sub_Level

Sub_Level

wants to fuck an Asian grill.
Being 5'6" means your dick looks bigger in proportion to overall body size even tho it may be completely average in reality.
 
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weshes195

Member
Tabris said:
I'll give you an example.

One of the companies I worked for had a decent sized-group hired at one time. During the first week, some of us got invited to go out drinking by some of the top people at the company. A couple people couldn't do it because they had kids at home or left early. And I think the rest wanted to be "professional" or didn't feel comfortable thinking they may embarrass themselves? I partied with them the entire night. Closer to the end of the night they felt I was "just one of the bros", and did coke right in front of me saying "Hey normally we wouldn't do this around a new hire but we like you. Don't say anything though".

Guess who got the promotion when it came up? The other guys were just as qualified (well some of them).

Don't be the guy who isn't a part of that because it may not be what you're into or don't feel exactly comfortable.
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lol That isn't really great advise. If you aren't comfortable with a situation, then there may be a reason for it. Like seeing your bosses doing coke in front of you lol
 
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