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Who can I go to when I get bullied? It makes me want to die. :(

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I keep getting bullied on Facebook by former high school students (even when I don't have them as a friend on Facebook), and I just entered university. My parents and family (cousins) all bully me and treat me like dirt as well.

My only "close friends", let's say Roh and Nosh, I feel always use me for help with editing their essays and doing math for them, but when I ever need help, they always use an excuse. For example, when I needed help doing one math question, Nosh wouldn't help me despite me pleading for help and editing her essays multiple times (even when I had a lot of work to do). Roh only talks to me when he needs something or is bored.

Vard and Tah are pretty good people, but everyone tells me they only talk to me because they feel bad for me. I would say Tah, Don, Re, Hus are pretty good friends from middle school but I don't talk to any of them much anymore. :(

Then there is Ken and Sun who bully me on Facebook. Ken is a guy I used to buy lunch for an entire semester. But he bullies me all the time. One time, he used my debit card without permission to buy a McChicken combo and still hasn't owed me back yet. He keeps saying "next time", but always calls me useless on Facebook. And a lot of people liked his post. Shya is another guy who tries to pretend to be nice, but bullies me. He's friends with this girl named Sar, but he always tries to make fun of me by going "Did you know she likes ;)" in a way to make fun of me. Sun always calls me a fat rhino, despite him being twice my size. There's Fai who treats me like shit, but I supposed this is in a "friend" kind of way? I don't know.

My cousins are no better. Sas, Kol, Ramg, Roj, Kav, Nis, Sur, Dile all don't like me. I don't know what I did to them. :( The only people that even talk to me at weddings and family functions are Abb and Mel. They think I'm some sort of Nintendo or Mario freak. They all hate me too. Like despise me. I think their parents hate me too.

And my dad hates me. He despises me, and always tells me things that puts me down, on the same vein as Ken and Sun. He is so materialistic, and says everything is "his" so I gave him everything back.

Next is Sab and Gib, two people I would've called confidants and "friends" a year ago, but both hate me. Gib hates me because I started talking about school a lot (I needed to start caring about school! My marks were horrible to start with and I wanted to go to a proper university). He ultimately stopped talking to me when I called him out for lying to me about his biology test mark. According to Roh, he lied so he could seem "above me" academically. Sab is a person I would've called a sister, and bought so much lunch for before, but ultimately she hates me for no reason. She stopped talking, and whenever I tried making contact, she just ignores me or has a quick conversation and kills it. It kills me inside.

I really, really am contemplating suicide. I have no one to go to. I am alone. Please help me.

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First thing first, why are you friends with these people? Go to their pages, and hit the "Unfriend" button. That's one problem solved. Next, you may want to set up block feature for these leechers so they can no longer contact you again. Change your email/phone if necessary. Finally, find new friends, genuine friends who actually like you because you are you and not because you help them with other stuff.
 
Going by the names for your "friends" you dont live in America. But if you did I would beat all these people up for you bro.
 
how can they bully you if you don't have them friended? do you have your profile as public? if you do then make it private and only let those you have friended able to see it.
 
Parallax said:
are you still in high school?
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and I just entered university
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Replicant said:
First thing first, why are you friends with these people? Go to their pages, and hit the "Unfriend" button. That's one problem solved. Next, you may want to set up block feature for these leechers so they can no longer contact you again. Change your email/phone if necessary. Finally, find new friends, genuine friends who actually like you because you are you and not because you help them with other stuff.
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(even when I don't have them as a friend on Facebook)
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These things are answered in the OP...
 
First off, welcome to university where there will be no more drama because it is not high school. People actually want to be at school and there will be no more BS.

Secondly, block them on facebook or better yet, simply don't go on facebook. Don't deal with their crap. At university, no one cares where you're from or what you were like. Leave high school behind.

Also, your university has outlets (well, usually). Clubs you can join to make friends or health services. I suggest trying both out.

Based on your other thread, you are in Ontario. I am a student at a university also in Ontario. Your university will have mental health services or be able to put you in touch. Your school has clubs and activities you can join. Trust me on this stuff. Like gaming? Find the gaming club. Or anything. It'll be better.
 
Get off facebook. Get away from the harassment. Cut off all contact from the people who are being aggressive towards you. It will only make things worse to keep coming back to them.

Then get yourself to a doctor or counsellor. If you aren't well, they can try and find out why and hopefully start you on a path to dealing with it. You aren't the only one who goes through this, lots of people do and thus there are lots of ways to get help.

Find out whichever state/country you are in what free mental health services are available (your university should have some info too).

And get exercising. Take out some of your stress in the gym.
 
if it gives you that much trouble then just delete your facebook OP. sounds like only a few people are friendly towards you and if that's the case just communicate with them through text messages and phone calls.
 
If your biggest problems in life are people not paying you back for a McChicken and lying to you about their test results you really need to put things in perspective. Don't kill yourself, it's really not worth it.
 
You bought someone lunch for a whole semester? WTF? You're literally feeding their behavior. Treat these people like they deserve to be treated.
 
Asking GAF for Bully Help is like walking into a hungry lion's den wearing a lady gaga meat-dress

Do these people know how you feel? Get assertive, tell them to stop. Maybe they are unaware. I can't imagine someone saying "Fat rhyno" in a manner to mean serious harm.
 
Hylian7 said:
These things are answered in the OP...
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Then they shouldn't even be able to contact him. If that's not the case it's a simple exercise of setting up permission and making your email private. Then just use ban list to ban specific people from contacting him.
 
Hylian7 said:
These things are answered in the OP...
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since that has been answered, im just gonna say this. start from scratch. keep the people you want around you around, but sink everything connected to who you were in high school.
 
GavinGT said:
WTF? You're literally feeding their behavior.
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Haha

Also burn some bridges dude. Cut ties. Take a chance in a new environment to leave your old reputation behind and grow a backbone. Do well in the University and go see how those bullies are doing four years from now.
 
1. GET OFF FACEBOOK
2. People that are mean to you or don't care for you are not friends, this includes family. TELL THEM TO FUCK OFF
3. Your going to a university, so start exploring! There is always people who share your interest and likes, and guess what some are looking for friends just like you.
 
Uh, one of your old threads kinda conflicts with this...

So, in early 2009, I met this girl who was younger than me by a year on MSN through mutual friends. Naturally, we talked more and progressed into a really good friendship. We talked a lot on MSN and then we became good friends in real life too. However in Grade 11 (late 2010), I hung out with... the wrong group of people. She had gym the same time we did, and they made fun of her by calling her fatass rhino and having me text her pictures of a rhino. Being the idiot I am, I went along with them until she caught on that we were making fun of her weight. She blocked me on MSN and Facebook, and I didn't care. However, I just found her Twitter and now I feel incredibly bad and want to apologize. But I don't want to have it sound that I'm desperate for her friendship either.

How would I go about this GAF? And yes, I realize I was an idiot back then.
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http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showthread.php?t=492379
 
If the bullying is just in Facebook, then don't go on Facebook. You don't need a social network to talk to people in college. Talk to people, random people you might find interesting. Get out of your high school shell and make something new without anyone else's help. It isn't hard, you'll just feel awkward.
 
OP I strongly suggest deleting your Facebook and cutting ties with all those that make you feel so badly and fill your time working on improving yourself, even if you feel there is no room for improvement. Read (more) books, work out more. Do you. I dunno how else to phrase it but it's not worth killing yourself over. You are worthwhile and you do mean something. It hurts to stop talking to people who you thought were your friends and I imagine it will hurt a lot more to cut off ties with family. Explain to your family how horrible they are making you feel, after giving yourself time to yourself and to breathe, and maybe they will come to their senses. In the meantime, in your quest of focusing on yourself you may meet new people and friends that like/love you for you. Keep your chin up, please.
 
Delete your Facebook, it's useless.
You're your own person now at University, leave all of that mess in the past and start life anew.

There should be counselors at the school you can speak with but it's time to to let all of them go until they grow up.
 
First, all these problems are temporary and not permanent; killing yourself is. Don't take the easy path down life and pull the trigger. Just know this, that everything will work its way out in the end.
 
First things first, delete your FB account. Doesn't look like you're using it for anything other than being bullied, it's bringing nothing positive to your life right now.

Second off, cut off ties with the people who make you feel uncomfortable if you can (as in, if you don't unavoidably see them on a day-to-day basis). I'm including the "friends" who keep mooching off you but don't give a shit about you at any other time. They, too, are not bringing anything positive to you right now.

You'll probably think "but then I have nobody", but that's not really very true. The wonderful thing about being at a university is that you're surrounded with thousands of people who are of your age group, and right when you start uni is the ripest time to meet new folks and make new friends. Many people I know slowly drifted away from their highschool friends and are now surrounded by completely new people, you don't have to cling on to anyone.
 
onlyindreams said:
Uh, one of your old threads kinda conflicts with this...



http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showthread.php?t=492379
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Yes. This was a result of me trying to fit in with Fai and Brand. They hated her and kept calling her Rhino, so I called her Rhino to fit in. We were "friends" for a semester. Fai used Rhino to refer to other fat girls with his other friends (Sun is one of them). After a while, I just stopped trying to fit in by making other people horrible.

I apologized to her deep heartedly and I honestly regret this.
 
I'm going to echo what a few other people said and say to leave all of that behind you. You have a great oppurtunity to start over and do whatever you want with your life. Show those assholes that they can't hold you back! I know it's not like flipping a switch, but there are plenty of places to get help from people that want to help you. You can do this man.
 
Metroid Hunter said:
They bully me on other people's statuses below my comment. :(
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Well, then it's time to find new set of friends. People who have no connections or relations with your old 'friends'. That way if they try to comment those people will delete those comments immediately.

Alternatively, you can always stop using Facebook. But most of all, don't take what they say to heart.
 
You're too adamant about needing acceptance from your peers. That's why you went along with the rhino thing and bought the kid lunch. It's also painfully obvious to these people that you want them to like you, and that's exactly why they're bullying you.

So, stop seeking these people's acceptance. Also, pucker up, because college is a different world from high school. They simply don't act this way in college. Break all those old ties and don't make the same mistakes again.
 
nhlducks35 said:
First world problems.


First, all these problems are temporary and not permanent; killing yourself is. Don't take the easy path down life and pull the trigger. Just know this, that everything will work its way out in the end.
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I wouldn't call it first world problems because that implies he's crying over nothing. Bullying is a serious problem.
 
Can't say it enough:

Dude, just DELETE FACEBOOK and never look back.

Get new friends. These people sound like jerks. If your family is abusive, don't associate with them any other time than it's necessary. Start over and move on. Find people who are interested in being your friend because you are you. Don't gather pity friends.
 
I definitely concur with everybody saying to delete your facebook. If you don't feel like you really have any friends on there, then just get off it. We're always here to be friends with you, and you can try to make some friends at your university. You just need to get away from those people in your life that bully and mistreat you.
 
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