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IndieStatik Founder apologizes for "inappropriate" comments to female game dev
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He should have never mentioned his brother or the alcohol, or anything. Even if he isn't, mentioning that stuff makes it look likes he's trying to formulate some excuse to deflect some of the heat away from him.
See, I read the entire first post when the thread went up and every ounce of it made me think that the apology was this weird hodgepodge of things and "circumstances" with no real apology in there and I didn't give it a second thought.
Then I see this post and it pretty much helped me reach the funny part I missed faster. Well played. :lol
Aquamarine
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I agree.
"I don't know the title of the game."
"I'll still kiss your vagina."
"Sorry I didn't have more info."
"Let me know if you need a penis for anything in the near future."
What the FUCK. I would have been seriously creeped out.
One of the Twitter responses basically conveyed that the female dev in question only did so because she didn't want bad coverage from Josh about the game she was involved in.
Pretty disgusting situation and speaks to yet another problem in the game journo/dev/publisher triangle, as well as the usual immaturity with regards to gender/women in video game culture.
jim-jam bongs
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In some cultures, offering to kiss a woman's vagina is the ultimate sign of respect.
Riposte
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Is she referring to the first or second time everyone hated on her?
User Name Here
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The first or second "I'll kiss your vagina" statement seemed like a joke. And the lady seemed to have taken it as a joke... and then it got creepy.
Pound_lb003
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Sorry dude, but it's gonna take a HELL of a lot of effort to come back from that. Your apology is barely a start.
Lol at that Navarro quote, brrrrriiilliiant!
Lol at that Navarro quote, brrrrriiilliiant!
Ninja Scooter
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He should get an honorary golden fedora for that kiss your vagina line. I cringed into another dimension reading that whole exchange.
I've updated the OP with the fully unblurred conversation.
http://i.imgur.com/kQ6XlXZ.png
Notice the timestamps and then decide for yourself if he was drunk for 8 hours straight.
http://i.imgur.com/kQ6XlXZ.png
Notice the timestamps and then decide for yourself if he was drunk for 8 hours straight.
Wolves Evolve
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It's true. She was treated like shit way out of proportion to what she did.
jim-jam bongs
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"I offered to kiss her vagina then got friendzoned" is a Reddit thread in the making.
Zabant
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If all it took to lessen the blowback of a bad mistake was blaming it on booze and a sob story that nobody would investigate or follow up on (it's bad taste) then it would happen a lot more.
Before you give this guy any sympathy remember he's only came forward with this apology AFTER word started getting around thanks to the tweet from Laralyn McWilliams.
Before you give this guy any sympathy remember he's only came forward with this apology AFTER word started getting around thanks to the tweet from Laralyn McWilliams.
Fried Food
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I'm finding the responses to his response way more pathetic than his response. The dude is messed up and he admits it. His reasons for being messed up are valid (lost brother, his own alcoholism, his current mental health state). He say's those reasons don't excuse his behavior and he doesn't intend for them to. I have no reason to think he is lying. He apologized to the person and I doubt the other person will turn it down. All these other people and groups jumping on the story is pretty sad. How much worse shit do you people hear on a daily basis without even thinking twice?
Holy shit at the blurred out message at the end. That is not sexting, that is full blowned auto-entroica 50 Shades of Grey bullshit.
The victim of the harassment likely felt ashamed, debased and trapped. A public shaming for Josh is the least she could give back.
Funky Functionality
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I'm dry heaving. Why, Indiestatik? Why?
Aquamarine
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That dumbass grin is the worst part about the whole thing.
NoirVisage
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Thank you.
I'm actually a fan of the dudes channel, piss poor behavior from him though, he's pretty much damaged his name, hopefully he can bounce back after paying some dues.. AFTER he seeks help for his issues, cause dudes got issues.
That's some truth. I'm sure Mattingly will hear about it for a long time, but doubt he'll be berated like Leigh still is for some silly drunken banter.
Riposte
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So, are you saying he's a very capable writer when drunk or 50 Shades of Grey sounds like a drunken sext?
SJRB
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What the...
And after all this time, she still misses the point.
At least me finding her incredibly annoying on the bombcast had nothing whatsoever to do with her being female. I guess that's the 'bro' cast she's refering to, right?
Also, what 'intense consequences" is she talking about?
"The clitoris actually has 14 more nerves than the head of the penis"
Its actually 4x more, if you are gonna be an harassing piece of dogshit at the very least respect the science.
He called the guy and everything, I have criticized Jason in the past for rushing to get a headline ready but I see nothing wrong with the article or trying to show some empathy towards one of the people involved.
Kinda shitty that she tried to turn this about her, tho. I wouldn't have expect a female writer supposedly concerned about the role on women in the industry to turn this horrible episode into an opportunity to get on that spotlight.
Its actually 4x more, if you are gonna be an harassing piece of dogshit at the very least respect the science.
He called the guy and everything, I have criticized Jason in the past for rushing to get a headline ready but I see nothing wrong with the article or trying to show some empathy towards one of the people involved.
Kinda shitty that she tried to turn this about her, tho. I wouldn't have expect a female writer supposedly concerned about the role on women in the industry to turn this horrible episode into an opportunity to get on that spotlight.
ReturnOfTheRAT
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Well good thing he kept it at just sexual harassment, then? Take that mentally unstable dude to the doc and have him examined before he does something worse to cope with his grief. He just kept on with the sexual bullshit even when she was ignoring it.
Wow, so he took about a 6 hour break and continued with the weird sexual stuff.
What did she do?
It might sound shady and it might be also the true... Who knows? But he did apologize, which is a first step
Sorcerer Supreme
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His career in video games is done.
PairOfFilthySocks
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Great, then get the facts. There's no need to refer to what you're covering as an "awful exchange" before you know what happened. That's tabloid-level reporting.
Sadly true.
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NoirVisage
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Its not, trust that (connections) he has mad dues to pay though.
you don't know people who pretty much stay drunk an entire weekend?
then you've got a blessed circle, i know a few too many.
It's a bullshit apology in the same vein as Penny Arcade's Gabe carting out a transgender 'friend' to apologize for his bigoted, transphobic nonsense.
Heh... The sacred industry of videogames.
to me it looks like he watched too many porn movies.
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