Lupingosei
Banned
Sorry for the clickbait like title, but I think on of the problems of today and a big part of what lead to the climate of tribalism of today is the idea of absolute happiness.
This idea that you MUST have a happy life. No, you will not have that. You may have a good life and you will have moments of happiness, but you will also know sadness, anger, regret and all other feelings. And most of the time your life will just be ok. That is not a terrible thing, it only means everything is good and but of course not great.
This obsession with happiness is what leads us to the idea of safe places or closed communities, where you are only surrounded by people who are agreeing with you. If that not works, well there is this opium epidemic which also a part of this pursuit of happiness, to feel no ill and no pain. But sorry, that is part of your life. Sometimes it does suck and sometimes you are fighting with your partner, sometimes your children are annoying little pricks. But that is not always the case.
And sorry, just giving up is not a solution. Life is not Twitter where you can block everybody who you are agreeing with. You can not use chemicals to make you happier or to make your children nicer and just giving up on your partner as soon as it gets difficult is no way to become happier. There is no instant gratification in life, sometimes you will have to work for things you want.
Which leads to something else. You can not be everything. I am for example only average or bad in most sports, also I am a bad singer and you don’t want to see me dance. Also, I am a little lazy. So, several fields work are closed for me. Which is not bad, I have other options, so do other people. Not all your dreams can come true, but some will. And most of us will not have a career, but only a job. We will have to trade life time for money. You can have a good job, you may not like but also not hate. Most people can not get their dream job, but that is not terrible. A good job is worth a lot already.
You can not plan your life. There will be surprises, good ones, and bad ones. But that is not a bad thing. A surprise is so much better if you did not see it coming and we can learn from a bad experience. You will not get everything you want, sometimes people will not behave like you want it. You will have to accept that and not throw a tantrum like a small child or victimize yourself or move into an even more gated community.
Life is good, not always but sometimes and I think that is worth a lot. And yes this includes, that most of us sometimes will just work to pay the bills and taxes and you can not get everything you want. I know that sucks, but that is part of life as well.
This idea that you MUST have a happy life. No, you will not have that. You may have a good life and you will have moments of happiness, but you will also know sadness, anger, regret and all other feelings. And most of the time your life will just be ok. That is not a terrible thing, it only means everything is good and but of course not great.
This obsession with happiness is what leads us to the idea of safe places or closed communities, where you are only surrounded by people who are agreeing with you. If that not works, well there is this opium epidemic which also a part of this pursuit of happiness, to feel no ill and no pain. But sorry, that is part of your life. Sometimes it does suck and sometimes you are fighting with your partner, sometimes your children are annoying little pricks. But that is not always the case.
And sorry, just giving up is not a solution. Life is not Twitter where you can block everybody who you are agreeing with. You can not use chemicals to make you happier or to make your children nicer and just giving up on your partner as soon as it gets difficult is no way to become happier. There is no instant gratification in life, sometimes you will have to work for things you want.
Which leads to something else. You can not be everything. I am for example only average or bad in most sports, also I am a bad singer and you don’t want to see me dance. Also, I am a little lazy. So, several fields work are closed for me. Which is not bad, I have other options, so do other people. Not all your dreams can come true, but some will. And most of us will not have a career, but only a job. We will have to trade life time for money. You can have a good job, you may not like but also not hate. Most people can not get their dream job, but that is not terrible. A good job is worth a lot already.
You can not plan your life. There will be surprises, good ones, and bad ones. But that is not a bad thing. A surprise is so much better if you did not see it coming and we can learn from a bad experience. You will not get everything you want, sometimes people will not behave like you want it. You will have to accept that and not throw a tantrum like a small child or victimize yourself or move into an even more gated community.
Life is good, not always but sometimes and I think that is worth a lot. And yes this includes, that most of us sometimes will just work to pay the bills and taxes and you can not get everything you want. I know that sucks, but that is part of life as well.