This recent PSA from the UKs This is Abuse campaign takes aim at the misconception that rape is something that only happens in dark alleys and at the hands of a stranger.
Anyone who has been pressured to have sex without giving their consent has been raped, the campaigns website stresses. The video makes it even simpler: Sex with someone who doesnt want to is rape.
I really like the framing of this if you could see yourself, would you see rape? because so many studies show that men who would be okay with coercing a woman into sex wouldnt consider it rape. Most guys, if asked, will acknowledge that of course, rape is awful. But, as Thomas Macaulay Millar wrote at Yes Means Yes! a few years ago, if a survey asks men, for example, if they ever had sexual intercourse with somone, even though they did not want to, because they were too intoxicated (on alcohol or drugs) to resist your sexual advances, some of them will say yes, as long as the questions dont use the R word.
I also like that, as confronting as it is to watch, this PSA challenges the conception that I think a lot of guys have, which is that rapists are the Other. One of the reasons this video is so very hard to watch is that its about acknowledging the possibility, at least, that you are capable of sexual violence, especially if you dont know where the line between consensual sex and rape lies. This is not about the Other, some stranger in an alleyway somewhere. This could be one of your mates. It could be your brother. It could be you.
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The video is very very edgy (I don't think it crosses the line though) but it has a great message that really should be understood by more people.