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GAF, how do you figure out when someone is bullshitting you ?

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Kenka

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I know GAF is not exactly the place to gather daddy-like advices but it is always a pleasure to count on regular posters in here that take the time to share about everything and nothing, and suprisingly, enough in a meaningful way.

Today, a female friend of mine told she has cancer. We entered the early stages of romance/sex and she is qutie younger than I am. We haven't met long ago. My question is : do you think she's trying to pull a joke on me or something ? She often claimed she's a rather cold person, trying to take advnatage of her youth to have fun. She is somehow extremely nice but pretty crauy.

If those hints are useful, how, do you think, does she act by saying that she's ill ?

I know that people are quite complex and this discussion may not prove fruitful but I would like some comments, thanks :)
 
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JumpJeff84

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If you're even entertaining the thought that she's making this up, there's something seriously wrong with both of you.
 
Revolutionary

Revolutionary

Member
If someone tells me they've got cancer, I'm inclined to believe them. I don't see the point of making something like that up. I also don't see why you would think she's bullshitting you, based on what you've written.

Also, GAR? Gaming-Age Retards? EDIT: Ah, you edited it within that window. :p
 
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Shanadeus

Banned
Ask them.

Q: Are you bullshitting me?

A: Yes

They are bullshitting you!

Q: Are you bullshitting me?

A: No

They are bullshitting you!
 
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bjork

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I can't do april fool's jokes any more because I did a similar joke several years ago. My very good friend hit me a bunch of times and made me promise not to do that to her again, so I haven't.
 
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otake

Doesn't know that "You" is used in both the singular and plural
Cancer is not a joke. The fact that you doubt her sincerity is an indication that you aren't that close. How do you know if she's lying or not? People who have cancer are seriously fucked up in the head because they all of a sudden have to deal with their mortality. You would notice a change in how she views things, subjects to talk about, overall behavior.
 
The Elite

The Elite

BOSS
Why the hell would you assume she's faking something like that? Who gives a shit if she's cold or wants to enjoy her youth, you haven't given sufficient reason to suggest why you would think she was lying about that. It's good to know she will have a friend to lean on with you.

If, however, you find out she is lying. You can hold it over her head for the rest of eternity.
 
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Celsior

Member
Who the fuck jokes about cancer? But seriously does she go to the doctor a lot, that could be a good hint on fake or truth.
 
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BananaBomb

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DoctorWho said:
Why the hell would you assume she's faking something like that? Who gives a shit if she's cold or wants to enjoy her youth, you haven't given sufficient reason to suggest why you would think she was lying about that. It's good to know she will have a friend to lean on with you.

If, however, you find out she is lying. You can hold it over her head for the rest of eternity.
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How about instead you make it so she doesn't have a head at all for the rest of eternity.
 
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Zenith

Banned
Revolutionary said:
If someone tells me they've got cancer, I'm inclined to believe them. I don't see the point of making something like that up. I also don't see why you would think she's bullshitting you, based on what you've written.

Also, GAR? Gaming-Age Retards? EDIT: Ah, you edited it within that window. :p
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I knew a girl whose boyfriend claimed his sister had cancer to get money out of her to pay for "treatment".
 
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esquire

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You don't trust your lady-friend?

What kind of relationship do you guys have where your partner tells you something important about themselves and you don't follow it up with any discussion on the matter? You can't be all that close or serious about this person.
 
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Ominym

Banned
At least on something like cancer, I would believe someone. If they are lying, tell them to eat shit and die and never talk to them again.
 
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ProudClod

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My first girlfriend told me she had breast cancer after I broke up with her. I was incredibly worried and became depressed. I talked to her every day. She'd tell me about going in for treatment, and going in to have the growth removed. "Don't worry," she said, "I'm getting scar removal." She contradicted herself quite a few times, and would often tell me different stories, but I was too depressed to notice (or maybe I was in denial). One day, she wasn't on MSN, and I got a little worried. I messaged her best friend, and asked her if she was at the doctor's. Her best friend was confused. "Why would she be at the doctor's?"

"Treatment for the breast cancer?" I replied.

"What...?" the best friend was puzzled.

I figured that maybe she was too embarrassed to tell anyone other than me, but I just wanted to make sure. Next time she was online, I messaged her and asked her about it... She began to deny ever claiming she had cancer (after weeks of feeding me bullshit about surgery, therapy, medicine etc.). I got really fucking pissed off, and sent her the chat logs (my MSN autosaved all of the conversations I had) of her telling me all of this shit. She stopped responding. Haven't talked to her since then. It's been 6 years, and she's tried to reconnect with me a few times (but to no success). To this day, I don't know what motivated her to make up that bullshit. But my experiences go to show that there are people fucked up enough to make this sort of shit up.

My advice? Talk to her friends. Ask them about it. Be like "How's she doing with the cancer?" Try to find contradictions in her stories. Etc. I know it sounds fucked up, but if you have a suspicion she's making it up, at least covertly follow it up to put your paranoia to rest. I wish we could give everyone in the world the benefit of the doubt, but unfortunately, we live in a world full of liars and manipulators.
 
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JumpJeff84

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ProudClod said:
My first girlfriend told me she had breast cancer after I broke up with her. I was incredibly worried and became depressed. I talked to her every day. She'd tell me about going in for treatment, and going in to have the growth removed. "Don't worry," she said, "I'm getting scar removal." She contradicted herself quite a few times, and would often tell me different stories, but I was too depressed to notice (or maybe I was in denial). One day, she wasn't on MSN, and I got a little worried. I messaged her best friend, and asked her if she was at the doctor's. Her best friend was confused. "Why would she be at the doctor's?"

"Treatment for the breast cancer?" I replied.

"What...?" the best friend was puzzled.

I figured that maybe she was too embarrassed to tell anyone other than me, but I just wanted to make sure. Next time she was online, I messaged her and asked her about it... She began to deny ever claiming she had cancer (after weeks of feeding me bullshit about surgery, therapy, medicine etc.). I got really fucking pissed off, and sent her the chat logs (my MSN autosaved all of the conversations I had) of her telling me all of this shit. She stopped responding. Haven't talked to her since then. It's been 6 years, and she's tried to reconnect with me a few times (but to no success). To this day, I don't know what motivated her to make up that bullshit. But my experiences go to show that there are people fucked up enough to make this sort of shit up.

My advice? Talk to her friends. Ask them about it. Be like "How's she doing with the cancer?" Try to find contradictions in her stories. Etc. I know it sounds fucked up, but if you have a suspicion she's making it up, at least covertly follow it up to put your paranoia to rest. I wish we could give everyone in the world the benefit of the doubt, but unfortunately, we live in a world full of liars and manipulators.
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Damn whattabitch.
 
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backflip10019

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Celsior said:
Who the fuck jokes about cancer?
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I know, that's just something that you don't joke about. Who does tha...

bjork said:
I can't do april fool's jokes any more because I did a similar joke several years ago. My very good friend hit me a bunch of times and made me promise not to do that to her again, so I haven't.
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Oh.
 
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kagete

Member
I had a female friend that was like this in a crazy fun way. She would spew some serious BS and it was fun being in on it but I can definitely say that it screwed up some of our friends who now think pretty poorly of her.

On another note, both my mother and gf have had breast cancer "scares", minor really, wherein they felt considerable lumps and have had small growths removed under minor surgery. Ask her with genuine concern about the details, ask if you can feel the lump and joke about how her breasts feel perfect in your hands and that there couldnt possibly be anything wrong with them. Proceed with the heavy kissing and make sure you escalate the foreplay into some great sex and spend the night together. While basking in the afterglow, lightly nuzzle or even nibble on her breasts and while looking her straight in the eyes and without blinking, ask her if she was bullshitting you or not.

Report to GAF with results
 
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Confused101

Member
An ex of a friend of mine told him she had cancer as a reason for ending the relationship. She didn't want to put him through whatever she was going through. A year later we found out that bitch was lying. Boy that was fun.

So yeah, people are fucked up sometimes. She may not be joking about it, but it's possible she isn't being completely truthful. It's hard to tell though. Especially with a touchy subject like that.
 
MMaRsu

MMaRsu

Banned
I'm probably not the best advice giver on the subject of telling if someone is bullshitting you
 
MMaRsu

MMaRsu

Banned
But I wouldn't trust her. I've known a girl who constantly claimed new insane things from seeing ghosts to claiming diseases to gain attention.
 
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Alfarif

This picture? uhh I can explain really!
Um, what are you asking us, exactly? Whether you should keep on poking, start poking, or continue thinking about poking?
 
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Ultima_5

Member
I can tell someone is bs'ing me because when they do it, they smile. thats what high school taught me.
edit: I didn't read the OP. You think someone is joking about a terminal disease? What. The Fuck.
 
DietRob

DietRob

i've been begging for over 5 years.
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Who makes up that they have cancer though really?
 
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micster

Member
I knew a lass who said she had cancer once. Along with other lies such as muggers broke her legs, her mom also got cancer and various trivial shit. Do you have any other reasons as to why she'd be lying or why she'd be lying.
 
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Mr. B Natural

Member
Does it matter?

She either has cancer

or she's some crazy that thinks joking about cancer is funny.

Looks aren't everything, dude. It doesn't matter if she was joking or not.
 
Amakusa

Amakusa

Member
bjork said:
Sometimes I wish this said "all-time greatest porn retailer" or "Bo Jackson of Porn Retail" or something.
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I worked for Fairvilla Mega store in Orlando FL on OBT and Starship in Columbus GA on Victory Dr (woootz)

Both porn stores

Best work ever
 
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