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Been married for a couple years now, so I've been way out of the loop with all these dating shenanigans, but I can remember back at UC Irvine it being like this about a decade ago when I was there. Just didn't think it was that big of a deal, especially when living in the dorms. Although I did end up in a 2 year relationship after a "hookup."
What say you college-GAF? Doing your thing or forever alone?
You just dont date at colleges, says Adams, 23, now a Fordham graduate student in urban studies.
But theres no shortage of casual sex on campus, she says - in part because Fordham, like many colleges, has significantly more women than men. Adams says that means guys have the upper hand when it comes to intimacy.
Its kind of like a competition, she says. The guys have their choice of whoever they want. So they think, Why would I date?
The relationship game among college-age adults today is a muddle of seemingly contradictory trends. Recent studies indicate that traditional dating on campuses has taken a back seat to no-strings relationships in which bonds between young men and women are increasingly brief and sexual. (A new website to arrange these encounters that began at the University of Chicago last month now is expanding to other campuses.)
But even as casual sex - often called hookups or friends with benefits - is a dominant part of campus life, a new report by the National Center for Health Statistics indicates the percentages of men and women 18-24 who say they are virgins also are increasing.
The women wind up competing with each other for access to the men, and often, that means relationships become sexual quicker, says Regnerus, co-author of Premarital Sex in America: How Young Americans Meet, Mate, and Think About Marrying, released earlier this year. It is based on an analysis of four national studies representing a total of 25,000 young people ages 18-23 and more than 200 additional interviews.
Men dont have to work as hard as they used to, to woo a woman, he says. Ive talked to various interviewees who had never been on a date, which doesnt really make sense, given theyre pretty attractive. Its just that less seems to be required to be in the company of a woman.
The percentage of those who claim virginity appears to be increasing, according to a National Center for Health Statistics study released this month of 2006-08 data. Among 18- and 19-year-olds, about one-quarter of men and women said they hadnt had sexual contact with another person, up from 17 percent of women and 22 percent of men in 2002. Among those ages 20-24, 12 percent of women and 13 percent of men said they were virgins, up from 8 percent for both sexes in 2002.
Friends my age have not said they have chosen to be virgins, says Ashley Thompson, 23, who will receive her masters degree in public health from Ohio State University-Columbus in June.
While sexual experimentation is a part of life for many young people, Reis-Dennis, a history and literature major, says there also are many who dont want to have a throwaway sexual experience.
Personally, a lot of my friends at school have had sex, she says. As many, if not more, havent.
Haron says his circle of friends, which includes about 15 guys, some with girlfriends, all have looked at porn and are trying to stay away from it. Porn is easy, he says. I think thats why a lot of guys are drawn to that. Its so easy to get and theyre not going to be rejected, so why try with a girl?
Been married for a couple years now, so I've been way out of the loop with all these dating shenanigans, but I can remember back at UC Irvine it being like this about a decade ago when I was there. Just didn't think it was that big of a deal, especially when living in the dorms. Although I did end up in a 2 year relationship after a "hookup."
What say you college-GAF? Doing your thing or forever alone?