So I'm clear, we're offended by his salmon analogy, but not this cake analogy:
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The divide is that I used a rule of threes to establish a pattern and illustrate where a line can be drawn. I also explicitly noted the "finished products" - the slices of cake - were functionally identical, indistinguishable from one another without being explicitly labeled as such. The salmon / vegetable analogy does nothing to highlight the
other side of the conundrum, which is telling in that his viewpoint is extremely one-dimensional. Likewise, it adds in subjective factors regarding the food he's talking about without actually associating them as being a person's subjective opinion. "'This isn't a
real cake,' the dude replied," is completely different from "It can be proven that these vegetables are not as good. It's just a paper-thin way of the separate but equal "I'll treat them like women but won't see them as women" argument.
"Progress" and "willingness to listen" in this sense specifically pertain to other people listening to and/or entertaining propositions you put forward or already agree with.
Alright, let me clarify because I've tried building bridges with people on either side of the argument. I admit I'm human and prone to error, and thousands of years from now we could be a collective genderfluid culture and my views would be vastly outdated. I understand that. But I don't want people thinking you have to "see things my way to be right." That's not at all what I'm trying to accomplish. All I'm - we're - asking for are
discussion. Some kind of actual, factual basis or grounding to the opinions being put in here. You cannot ground a subjective opinion with subjective evidence. "She doesn't have a real vagina because it's not a vagina" is completely opinionated. "She doesn't have a real vagina because I personally only view people by the sex they were born with" is, while harsh, rooted in some degree of objectivity. Nobody's attempting to justify their opinions with anything resembling that, though.
I also really want to stress that I'm not in 100% agreement with anyone; infinitesimally close to 100% maybe, but everyone has personal experience that prevents that from happening. Last night, there were a handful of people advocating semantics - not using "a transgender" or "transgenered," etc. - but were doing so in a way that understandably comes off as abrasive to the other side. I went out of my way to PM a poster regarding their methods, highlighting that this is a forum with a majority of sheltered individuals that have a hard time making distinctions between objectivity and subjectivity, let alone ones in possession of the attention span to actually read back more than two pages. I was nothing but cordial. And, you know what?
They were nothing but cordial back. I was not shouted out of their inbox for being "cishet scum" or for "being ignorant about the other side." I was
thanked for highlighting the environment that's been cultivated here, and we left it at that. There's room for both sides to improve, but the difference is that one side is providing substantially more objective evidence than the other.
We really need some kind of ban on drive-by posts without actual explanations at this point. We get at least two or three new posters every page that pop in, say "I'm cool with trans women. I'd just never date a trans woman." and leave it at that, never to post again. We're getting upset with those people because they aren't backing up their arguments with tangible information.