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Online Dating is Hard
- Thread starter JaseMath
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brandonh83
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Go to a bar
righthandmouse
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ask her if she feels pathetic degrading people on the internet.
ChrisMahoney
Banned
Now you know she thinks you're a loser before you waste time going on a date with her. You've just dated efficiently 
CarpeDeezNutz
Member
Omit
andythinkpad
Member
It depends how good looking are you?
PositiveGamer
Member
Hahahahah
It is the most superficial type of dating.. yes it is hard... but keep at it... eventually nice guys get lucky too ;-)
It is the most superficial type of dating.. yes it is hard... but keep at it... eventually nice guys get lucky too ;-)
and drink alone
Dark Ninja
Member
Eventually someone real will accidentally swipe right.Tinder is worse. Swipe right on everyone and only get bots.
JaseMath
Member
I'm a single father so that makes it difficult.
Puck Beaverton
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Gray Matter
Member
Fuck online dating, it's full of fake profiles and people who aren't even on it to get dates. Fuck everything about online dating.
Sunster
Member
Why?
SchrodingerC
Member
Kinda want to know as well. It's an oddly specific question for an online dating app or the OP to ask.
HideyoshiJP
Member
Why does OP think people who play games that long are losers?
Mammoth Jones
Member
This is as dumb as saying all gamers are losers. Guess what you'll find online dating? People. They're all different. Some will be ok with gaming as a hobby, some won't.
Personally where I'm at in my life I don't get many 8 hour gaming sessions. But I did for years and years. Nothing really wrong with it if you have the time and are handling your business otherwise.
But yea, sometimes relationships require compromise. One of them might be not gaming for 8 hours a day, lol. Or only doing so when she's busy.
I met my wife via online dating. Been together nearly 8 years. Married with a kid. I personally wouldn't date or marry someone that shits on gaming as a hobby. I can play within reason but I'm gonna throw down sometimes.
I took it as OP saying "Online dating is hard because people have views like [insert pic here]"
OKC allows users to submit questions when then gets evaluated. Answering these questions helps with your compatibility percentage with others.
Chuck Norris
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I don't think the ant sized photo is helping your cause
Goddammit.
I agree that online dating is hard, but that picture is a great example of online dating being easy. Girl is a jerk who is not worth your time. Boom, saved you the trouble of finding out the slow way.
Wolf Dawgz
Member
Just message her about how much of a NiceGuy you are.
eyeball_kid
Member
It's OKCupid. There's a ton of questions you can choose to answer, and other people can see your answers. It also factors into compatibility ratings.
Most women I saw on there did seem to answer negatively about any videogame questions.
Alcotholic
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I hate to burst her bubble, but most guys have at some point in their life.
CrocMother
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Seems like the matchmaking is working, you dodged a bullet there OP
OkCupid has a variety of questions that fit into different categories that you answer to build your profile and is used to gauge how good of a match someone is based on their answer. The questions are also weighed person answer for how important it is which affects the "match %" as well.
Yeah, I've pretty much given up entirely. I just don't have it in me.
OkCupid has a bunch of questions that you can answer. You also say what answers you'll accept from the other person. Using the questions that you've both answered, they build a compatibility percentage.
Both responses are red because they both chose an answer that the other person wouldn't accept.
OkCupid has a bunch of questions that you can answer. You also say what answers you'll accept from the other person. Using the questions that you've both answered, they build a compatibility percentage.
Both responses are red because they both chose an answer that the other person wouldn't accept.
brandonh83
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Syphon Filter
Member
lol
Mammoth Jones
Member
This. Like guys that post "No fat chicks!" on their profile. Saves you time knowing who's a jerk and who's not.
Wandering Robot
Member
That person isn't worth answering the question for. You'll find someone who respects your particular expensive hobby.
lol I'm sure she gets a lot of suitors with that attitude
Subpar Spatula
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I find people who obsessively play games for hours on end tend to be in the meme culture and thus sort of obnoxious. Like, I'm not gonna fault a woman for avoiding the gamer culture.
But going to a party splits into my 8 hour marathon of No Man's Sky.
I got priorities, man.
Mammoth Jones
Member
Dude. The fuck. You got the perfect wingman. Take that kid to the park. Local library events for the kids. Stuff like that. Dress nice. Smile. Single moms will be all over you.
On OkCupid there are a bunch of questions that you can answer.
When you view someones profile you can view their answers to these questions, but only if you have answered the question as well.
When you answer these questions (You're given multiple choices), you indicate which of the answers you would want your ideal match to have (you can select all of them if you don't really care too much). As part of their matching algorithm you can also choose how important it is that your match responded favorably to what you selected.
In this case, the OP chose "yes", the match chose "People that do that are losers"... they both said that each other's answers were unacceptable.
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Anyways, OP, outing yourself as a huge gamer can be a red flag to a lot of people. It's okay to kind of mention it in your profile but don't be like "omg yeah I'm a huge nerd!"... girls will flee from your profile.
Mammoth Jones
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Agreed but there's less obnoxious ways of going about it. The key to everything is moderation. I've known a few dudes lose their GF to MMO addiction for example.
Host Samurai
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Bumble had been good. Got over 60 matches this week while being picky. Tinder feels like it's been barren for months.
brickarts295
Member
Welp im a loser too T_T
I honestly don't blame her for being like that, the gamer culture can be pretty intimidating as I'm constantly reminded by my sister XD
I honestly don't blame her for being like that, the gamer culture can be pretty intimidating as I'm constantly reminded by my sister XD
I never have problems in the beginning phases.
But so many dates I get online end up like this for some reason.
Me: Hey, nice meeting you yesterday.
Her: (5 minutes later) Yes it was so much fun! We definitely have to do it again sometime
Next week
Me: Let's get together this Friday if you have time
Her: (2 days later) SO SORRY BUSY FOREVER
It's a mindfuck. I seriously barely dated anyone for five months after the last time it happened to me. I had a great date earlier this week and I think it's happening again (don't wanna jump to conclusions since she just started a new job but given past experiences... )
But so many dates I get online end up like this for some reason.
Me: Hey, nice meeting you yesterday.
Her: (5 minutes later) Yes it was so much fun! We definitely have to do it again sometime
Next week
Me: Let's get together this Friday if you have time
Her: (2 days later) SO SORRY BUSY FOREVER
It's a mindfuck. I seriously barely dated anyone for five months after the last time it happened to me. I had a great date earlier this week and I think it's happening again (don't wanna jump to conclusions since she just started a new job but given past experiences...
)Syphon Filter
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lol what she be saying?
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