Thatonemoor
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Is that okc? If so drop that site. Nothing but a waste of time.
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Online Dating is Hard
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Messofanego
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mordecaii83
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I mean I get escaping reality in a game for a bit, but yikes...
RedAssedApe
Banned
I've seen a number of girls post something similar in their profile (i.e. don't message me if you play video games)
Which is fine. It might just save you the time. Or if you're game, you just withhold the information and it comes up when it come up. Most girls won't care if they like you enough after a couple of dates. They probably just do it on purpose to try and weed people out tbh.
Its just another one of those filters.
Which is fine. It might just save you the time. Or if you're game, you just withhold the information and it comes up when it come up. Most girls won't care if they like you enough after a couple of dates. They probably just do it on purpose to try and weed people out tbh.
Its just another one of those filters.
JaseMath
Member
It's a random question in a questionnaire designed to match you with the "right person". The girl whose questions I was answering had me at something like a 92% match. It fell to 0% for me after that question.
Host Samurai
Member
I put in my profile that I'am a huge nerd 🤓
Where do you guys go to meet girls that aren't all over social media? You know, the kind of girls who have an aura of mystery to them - a bit like your favourite Dark Souls game.
What sort of hobbies/interests would I have to fake to get into social circles where the type of girl described above is common?
What sort of hobbies/interests would I have to fake to get into social circles where the type of girl described above is common?
TissueBox
Member
HOT
Professor Renegade
Banned
You've got a long way to go if you're gonna let something like that get you down, OP.
lol!
Just set the answer to that question to be very important, and don't check the profile of anyone with a match % less than 80%.
Geek2Geek
http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showthread.php?t=507838
Geek2Geek
http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showthread.php?t=507838
Sunster
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tearsintherain
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Recently making the rounds, guy tries dating without using any online tools. Its awkward and cringe at the beginning but gets very sweet
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6DIeL4-wwBo
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6DIeL4-wwBo
Wag
Member
Ask her why she needs a dating site to get a man.
Labombadog
Member
LOL!
Ya traveling, wine tasting, and being sarcastic.
RedAssedApe
Banned
work hard play hard
blue_phazon
Member
She's right.
8 hours straight is overkill. I couldn't do that even when I was a kid
8 hours straight is overkill. I couldn't do that even when I was a kid
CrimsonSquall
Member
U gotta be attractive online. Especially if u ain't white bruh, hit da gym yesterday gentlemen
Try Plenty of Fish OP, I hear it's great!
Played games? Sure.
Played 8 hours in a row? I doubt that.
Played games? Sure.
Played 8 hours in a row? I doubt that.
God Dayumm
Banned
Don't take it seriously, she is probably being cheeky.
Also I recommend dropping OKC and use Tinder instead. You will have as much success (or as little) but with a lot less effort, and therefore less frustration
Also I recommend dropping OKC and use Tinder instead. You will have as much success (or as little) but with a lot less effort, and therefore less frustration
Change gaming to binge watching a TV show and it sounds pretty normal. Now if you're an adult and you have 8 hour gaming/binging sessions multiple times a week that's may be a red flag.
Unless you're a game designer or do lets plays for a living I wouldn't brag about it on my dating profile or hold it against anyone who didn't find it attractive.
Now if being a 'Gamer' is a core part of your identity shoot your shot OP.
Unless you're a game designer or do lets plays for a living I wouldn't brag about it on my dating profile or hold it against anyone who didn't find it attractive.
Now if being a 'Gamer' is a core part of your identity shoot your shot OP.
BlueTsunami
there is joy in sucking dick
I blame Bethesda
Goro Majima
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You can just not answer that question
And I would always save the whole "I'm a gamer" thing until like the 5th or 6th date. Now I'm engaged to a wonderful woman I met online and she's cool with my video game hobby.
It's just that a lot of dudes play a lot of games, girls aren't ignorant about that...it's more about showing that it's not your *whole* life which a lot of chicks will assume if they get a whiff of that early on.
I used Match FYI. For me the quality of girls and matches were way better than OKCupid.
And I would always save the whole "I'm a gamer" thing until like the 5th or 6th date. Now I'm engaged to a wonderful woman I met online and she's cool with my video game hobby.
It's just that a lot of dudes play a lot of games, girls aren't ignorant about that...it's more about showing that it's not your *whole* life which a lot of chicks will assume if they get a whiff of that early on.
I used Match FYI. For me the quality of girls and matches were way better than OKCupid.
The Wise Old Man
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Meeting people online is challenging to be sure. Youre already handcapped due to the inherent communication barriers and other persons natural biases, but the key to success in finding a proper mate is:
1) honesty
2) a sense of humor
3) a willingness to listen
4) patience
5) strong sense to self worth
6) an open mind
1) honesty
2) a sense of humor
3) a willingness to listen
4) patience
5) strong sense to self worth
6) an open mind
Puck Beaverton
Banned
As long as gaming doesn't define your life (meaning you ain't getting paid for it) then I doubt most would care.
Truth.
So anybody that spent a Saturday 15 years ago playing Halo is a loser? Having 12+ of us spread out around a room playing CTF on Blood Gulch are some of my favorite memories.
Sunster
Member
I met my fiance on an app called, Juamo. Took like one week to find her. Not a bad experience, no bots, a few jerks, weirdos
and some really cool people. That was years ago though. maybe the online dating scene has changed or I was one of the lucky ones.
one girl said she wanted to find me and take my eyes
MiketheBSG
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So I do have something stupid to share on this matter.
After not being in a relationship up to a couple years after college graduation, I thought I'd give myself a stab at online dating. This is back in the mid-2000s, and I tried Match.com and True.com and eHarmony. I am 6'8" and black and had and still have a very successful career.
I had my concerns about discrimination prior to trying these sites, but boy did the truth come out when I was going through profiles. Not sure why True and Match allowed this back then but you could pick the height and race of who you wanted to date. I ran into a double whammy, most girls didn't want someone taller than 6'4" or black. Kinda hard to find someone when no one is tall enough to not limit height, and there were barely any black girls on these sites back then, so it was very difficult to find a match.
I actually did find 1 girl on both Match and True that said they would date both a tall black man like myself, and both of them responded back to me, while trying to talk to anyone that said they wouldn't date a black person or someone as tall as me always led to silence. These sites truly taught me how jacked up and racist girls and their thinking processes can be and confirmed why I was having such trouble.
So I tried a little experiment where I would find a tall, black girl, eliminating those as reasons why a girl wouldn't date me, and lo and behold, I found someone like this on MySpace of all places, and we have now known each other for 10 years and have been married for going on 8 years. We are also going to be parents this year, and our marriage has been wonderful. And you know what? She's not a gamer and hates games. We don't have a lot in common, but we love our differences. Really goes to show all the losers that wouldn't give me a chance something, perhaps are STILL looking for someone. But it was also disappointing too to know how cruel the world can be to someone like me.
After not being in a relationship up to a couple years after college graduation, I thought I'd give myself a stab at online dating. This is back in the mid-2000s, and I tried Match.com and True.com and eHarmony. I am 6'8" and black and had and still have a very successful career.
I had my concerns about discrimination prior to trying these sites, but boy did the truth come out when I was going through profiles. Not sure why True and Match allowed this back then but you could pick the height and race of who you wanted to date. I ran into a double whammy, most girls didn't want someone taller than 6'4" or black. Kinda hard to find someone when no one is tall enough to not limit height, and there were barely any black girls on these sites back then, so it was very difficult to find a match.
I actually did find 1 girl on both Match and True that said they would date both a tall black man like myself, and both of them responded back to me, while trying to talk to anyone that said they wouldn't date a black person or someone as tall as me always led to silence. These sites truly taught me how jacked up and racist girls and their thinking processes can be and confirmed why I was having such trouble.
So I tried a little experiment where I would find a tall, black girl, eliminating those as reasons why a girl wouldn't date me, and lo and behold, I found someone like this on MySpace of all places, and we have now known each other for 10 years and have been married for going on 8 years. We are also going to be parents this year, and our marriage has been wonderful. And you know what? She's not a gamer and hates games. We don't have a lot in common, but we love our differences. Really goes to show all the losers that wouldn't give me a chance something, perhaps are STILL looking for someone. But it was also disappointing too to know how cruel the world can be to someone like me.
BlueTsunami
there is joy in sucking dick
Past 30 years old id say its a reasonable concern. Problem is, the original question doesn't specify this.
Goddammit.
Behavior like this is a boon and a time saver, not something to feel bad about or take personally. It instantly lets you know the person a) does not share in and b) will not respect your hobbies or passions, which allows you to move on to the next person and not waste your time. I met my partner of 14 years online and we share a love for gaming and 90% of the same music, which are two of the most important things to me. I ran into tons of people I wasn't compatible with along the way. Don't feel bad about it; just shrug it off and move forward.
i gotta disagree xelios. just because someone doesnt respect your passions doesnt mean they wont like you though. People that say that are just being picky af and it literally means nothing
and mikethebsg yeah, that's fucked up. From what i can tell tinder seems to be a microcosm of race relations in America. many people are racist af, we all know this, but somehow no one wants to own up or acknowledge the glaring problems we have when it comes down to it
and mikethebsg yeah, that's fucked up. From what i can tell tinder seems to be a microcosm of race relations in America. many people are racist af, we all know this, but somehow no one wants to own up or acknowledge the glaring problems we have when it comes down to it
Idk if it's always like this, but years ago I made an OKC account for fun (like, just to see what profiles looked like and because I like answering random questions), and would go on there occasionally. Then years later I made a for real account but made it different because I didn't want to go as GamerJM on there for real, and tried looking up someone I matched with on my first account but for some reason the site wouldn't let me view her profile on my new account.
UnemployedVillain
Member
It's a single question out of thousands. It's really not a big deal
If someone wants to pursue someone who calls them a loser from the very beginning because they've done something they love for a long period of time, like most people in the world have at some point in their lives, more power to them. I guess I have more self-respect than that.
NoctisVsStar
Member
Persistence OP, current girl I'm talking to is fantastic we known each other since oct and we chill every week. Don't know if we will become an item but she's awesome.
Everyone wanting money to make it work right is part of the problem. PlentyOfFish you have no idea who wants to meet you, unlike OKC which'll at least send you an email (sometimes), with a link to the profile.
Haven't had any luck since i restarted about a month ago, not a single message responded to, though the ongoing political trainwreck has kept me distracted.
Getting over that hurdle's the hard part. Maybe i'm overthinking my messages or my profile picture just sucks.
Haven't had any luck since i restarted about a month ago, not a single message responded to, though the ongoing political trainwreck has kept me distracted.
Getting over that hurdle's the hard part. Maybe i'm overthinking my messages or my profile picture just sucks.
KO Traveling Hobo
Member
I was a plain-looking skinnyfat dude, and I consistently got messaged first by women when I used OKC.
You just have to know how to sell yourself.
I'm pretty sure if you identify so strongly as a gamer, you're also a loser
I cringed, but if they're happy and they aren't hurting anybody, I don't see how that makes them a loser.
Vicetrailia
Member
It sucks if you aren't an elite looker as a male, you'll get disqualified for doing one thing wrong. There's a ton of competition so you gotta set the date up fast and be interesting.
The good part is access, and being able to go far outside your minefield. Is what it is.
The good part is access, and being able to go far outside your minefield. Is what it is.
spazchicken
Member
And she looks like she wears dentures anyway.
The Wise Old Man
Member
Yes best of luck OP. A few additional pointers:
1) When chatting with the ladies be sure to sell yourself properly. For example, do you have a ronco rotisserie oven in your house? If so you definitely need to bring that up. Women like watching meat glisten and rotate slowly over a heating element. Make sure this special lady knows the door is always open for her to come over to watch your rotisserie oven in action.
2) Use subtle clues. Be sure to work phallic references into your discussions. Nothing crass, just be sure to work in references to tall buildings you've been in, rocketships, nuclear submarines, crayons, flagpoles, and things of that ilk. Remember: they're always listening on some level!
3) When you arrange to meet for your first date, don't get nervous! Pick a neutral location like a coffee shop and show up a few minutes late so you can make a proper introduction. When entering the room, be sure to pause at the door entrance so you can properly "frame" yourself. Cough briefly to make sure she's looking. Then stroll over to her. Try to extend your pelvis outward ever so slightly in her direction as you approach her. It's a subtle but effective way of communicating your inherent manhood to any new acquaintance.
4) when having your first conversation, make an effort to seem engaged and interested. Fold your hands in the "steeple" position and prop your chin on them. This will demonstrate to her that your actively interested in her. Be sure to clear your throat before starting any sentence so it's obvious that's you now intend to speak.
5) if you don't have a ronco rotisserie over at home, either go buy one, or lie and tell her you have one. Women fucking love the ronco rotisserie oven, I'm telling you.
1) When chatting with the ladies be sure to sell yourself properly. For example, do you have a ronco rotisserie oven in your house? If so you definitely need to bring that up. Women like watching meat glisten and rotate slowly over a heating element. Make sure this special lady knows the door is always open for her to come over to watch your rotisserie oven in action.
2) Use subtle clues. Be sure to work phallic references into your discussions. Nothing crass, just be sure to work in references to tall buildings you've been in, rocketships, nuclear submarines, crayons, flagpoles, and things of that ilk. Remember: they're always listening on some level!
3) When you arrange to meet for your first date, don't get nervous! Pick a neutral location like a coffee shop and show up a few minutes late so you can make a proper introduction. When entering the room, be sure to pause at the door entrance so you can properly "frame" yourself. Cough briefly to make sure she's looking. Then stroll over to her. Try to extend your pelvis outward ever so slightly in her direction as you approach her. It's a subtle but effective way of communicating your inherent manhood to any new acquaintance.
4) when having your first conversation, make an effort to seem engaged and interested. Fold your hands in the "steeple" position and prop your chin on them. This will demonstrate to her that your actively interested in her. Be sure to clear your throat before starting any sentence so it's obvious that's you now intend to speak.
5) if you don't have a ronco rotisserie over at home, either go buy one, or lie and tell her you have one. Women fucking love the ronco rotisserie oven, I'm telling you.
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