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Blade Runner stuff)
In hindsight, that scene is creepy and cringey and awful, but it is intended as a love scene. Kissing a woman until she says yes, commanding a woman to kiss you, lips say no, etc. show up in a lot of films of the '70s and '80s. I think the scene was intended to show Rachel how to be more human (which is weird, because Deckard is a replicant), but it plays very differently today.
EDIT:
Warm Machine covers that scene a lot better than I did. That's what I get for jumping to post instead of reading.
I'd argue a few things in that scene's favor:
1. It's a deliberately old-fashioned scene, like something out of a noir film. It goes back further than the 70s. I'm also not convinced if it really plays that differently today, it was an edgy throwback even at release.
2. Both of them are basically kids, at least emotionally. These aren't mature adults who should know better or have life experiences to manage the situation better. They're acting out old cliches about courtship because that's the best they have.
3. The scene is more about Rachel being nervous than her actually not wanting it. In context we are supposed to assume she wants it, and she wants to be forced a little. (I know this perspective has a deservedly poor reputation, but pretending it's not a real thing experienced by many women/girls is dishonest.)
I am absolutely an affirmative consent person, but I've always seen that scene as kind of romantic. It's supposed to come off as aggressive, maybe even a little dangerous because neither of them has a handle on their emotions, but I feel that's the extent of it. It's a seduction that both characters want, a game they're playing, and both of them are happy with the way it plays out.
Sadly I don't especially have an example of my own. There are movies I love which are hard to watch because they are so emotionally devastating (
Mulholland Drive, for example), but I can't point to any single scene. I rewatched
Neon Demon last night and was dreading a certain 'love' scene that made me gag in theaters, but it's just so absurd that all I could think about during it was stuff like
How did she get talked into doing this? Have I ever seen an actress do something like this in a film? and
Does Refn think this is a clever statement or is it just shock for the sake of it? Just like the rest of that empty little movie, there's no real power there.
EDIT: Nevermind, I immediately forgot about
the Neverending Story scene in this thread because my emotions can't handle it. That scene wins.