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Dating Age |OT$6| Just ask her out already

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AcridMeat

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What's your best unsolicited request from these apps?

I just remembered a time when a girl said I looked cool and asked if I had any adderall to sell her because she was leaving for Amsterdam in a day. The drugs are there. I laughed quite a while at that, it was a lengthy paragraph explaining the situation.
Now Im with bloomberg dude with 3 other girls. Haha solo missions can be great. The bartender at the pub we were at wants to me up as well as one of the servers. Good times brehs. Good times.
This sounds excellent.

You know if I visited all we'd do is get drunk and talk rocket league.
 

Vimes

Member
Tired of fucking kids joining games just to trade. I dont give a fuck just play the fucking game.

Are you playing pokémon cards down at the pub?

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No, I didn't forget that. But then he needs to GTFO or just stay in his room or something. Ridiculous that it has gone on this long.

It's not so much the asshole roommate than it is the issue that we live kinda far. If I go hang out in her area, it's basically guaranteed that I won't be able to get to even second base.

If we hang out in my area that's a different story.

But it gets predictable, you know?
 
It's not so much the asshole roommate than it is the issue that we live kinda far. If I go hang out in her area, it's basically guaranteed that I won't be able to get to even second base.

If we hang out in my area that's a different story.

But it gets predictable, you know?
Her mom and your roommate are cockblocking you two so hard 😭
 
A snpachat filter is almost an immediate no. So is a duck face. Or group photos without a selfie or a solo pic. You better have an amazing profile to cover up those flaws.
 
I keep not wanting to go to the gym but every time I see a ripped dude on insta or in a game or movie or anime or whatever I'm just like "Fuuuuuuuck I want that so bad". I've never been super happy with my body, so I need to rectify that with hard work. Can't really expect others to dig my looks if I don't.
 

M52B28

Banned
Well, I know I don't need a relationship, but I'm open now after a little thing I had going on, I only hope I can return to it later.

I'm going to a new University to finish my degree, so it's going to be interesting meeting a lot of the women, especially since the college is considered that of an older crowd.

It's the times where you're not really searching where you get into a relationship. I'm not going to try - just float along and see what comes across.

One women I know came out of nowhere and started talking to me after us not speaking for a year - even showed up to a place I frequent. We talked for a bit, but I tried not to fall into the trap. She begged me to visit her at a new state she moved to and told me she thinks about me quite a bit.

I feel guilty because I can travel very easily, but I just don't want to bother with any of it as of now. She knows I have no excuses and I've probably hurt her feelings.
 
It's the times where you're not really searching where you get into a relationship. I'm not going to try - just float along and see what comes across.

Nah. I've been doing that for like 4 years and haven't had anything last much longer than a month in that time. Maybe it's different for everybody though.

Don't feel guilty, you're not in a relationship so you've really got no obligation to meet up with her.
 
Hey guys, this .. is a weird post haha, just read on you will find out.

Any advice for someone who .. i know labels irk some people.. but in all sense is Demisexual?

I'm finding that i am only sexually attracted to women once i have known them for a good while. I'm a 31 male and i've felt a lot of pressure and anxiety over my dating/love life in the last three years. All of my close best friends have all gotten married in the last two years, and , particularly from the female side of the equation i get a lot of questions and when the opportunity allows it to be set up with people. It just makes me feel uncomfortable. Before all this I was never bothered by it, i was so a normal person who just got on with life, enjoyed his hobbies, but that has been turned upside down.

Throughout my teenage years, and being in my twenties, i presumed that i was a normal straight bloke, but as i have been reading more and more in the last few years it seems maybe i'm not? I always had a strong physical attraction to girls - where i was worried at one point i was coming across as somewhat perverted - the thing is i'v come to realise that those physical attractions in reality meant nothing to me. I have only experienced strong sexual attraction a few times, only after getting to know that person over the course of a good while.

I thought maybe that perhaps i was not straight and gay instead, but i've never thought about men in that way, never been sexually attracted to them. Although that question for some reason has caused great anxiety in me - but i think that is down to ocd and intrusive thoughts - its been eating me up for almost three years now - i think it is ocd because the ruminations are 24/7, constantly check and seek reassurance and the thoughts are irrational, and i know have told me lies - i have also had variations of topics under scrutiny - for example i convinced myself i wanted to be a women for a few months a couple of years ago (which looking back on it , just makes me laugh)

The problem is i don't have a way of meeting new people - my friends are now transitioning to full adult lives- they got their own lives to lead, in some cases children and i fully accept that and happy for them- but at the same time it kind of limits any potential additions to our friend group. I don't socialise at all anymore. I also live in a rural village so again my chances of meeting someone are slim. I also have social anxiety which again which puts pressure on me.

I want to actively put this to one side and get on with other stuff in my life, but i just can't seem to allow it. I can't focus on anything else and i'm not sure how to rectify that.

It is also crossed my mind that maybe that i am a normal bloke and i'm putting myself under so much pressure that it's dulling any attractions i do have or overthinking everything that i'm not allowing nature to take it course or recognising it, basically i am so consumed in thought that i can't allow my self to relax like i used to. Basically depression and anxiety could be playing it's hand. The girls i have developed sexual attraction for for example i initially did check them out and noticed them before we were friends. The friendship obviously courted stronger feelings of sexual attraction, so in a way that is no different to dating right?

I've 75% decided to take a year out next year and go travelling to actively take me out of everything around me - and it is something i always wanted to do, but i just feel like a pressure pot about to go off and worried i won't enjoy it because of all this. I try and go cycling once a week as i thought exercise would help clear my head - it works sometimes , others it is just a time to overthink everything. I'm also considering moving to a city to see whether it just my mind needs occupying and that would help.

The thing is.. despite all this anxiety and confusion, in the last two years i have had stronger sexual emotions than i have had probably throughout my entire life - I got really close to one friend which got a bit awkward because she had a long term boyfriend. We had been friends for a few years and confided in each other a lot, i know that the feelings we had for each for other were mutal. Awkwardly, i have current strong sexual attraction to a colleague at work (who again has a long term boyfriend, but there is a chemistry there- can't be a douche though!) and there is another girl at the moment that i been thinking about at home ; i often think of wanting to ask her out, but at the moment i think it is more of a romantic attraction - i see my self doing day stuff with her or travelling and that. I see her quite often, some days it feels good to see her, the other days it doesn't, but again i don't know if that is the pressure i am putting myself under. Perhaps all this is relatively new to me (late bloomer perhaps), whilst i eyed up girls for example i only ever been actively interested in a couple.

Eh.. started of a dating question and ended up as something else. i think you can see how irrational my thought process is at the moment, and the mess i have knotted myself up in. It is probably making me appear ugly to other people, i've lost confidence in myself and my self esteem is low. I have a speech impediment that has gotten worse, and i struggle to hold a conversation. Just think i have reached that point where its about to bubble over and not sure what to do. I want to take a break from it, but don't know how? Writing this out as helped a bit because it shows how silly it all is, particularly what is going on in my head, but i know that 'relieve' will be temporary. Everything feels so abstract.

Sorry for the long and rambling post.
 
Hey guys, this .. is a weird post haha, just read on you will find out.

Any advice for someone who .. i know labels irk some people.. but in all sense is Demisexual?

I'm finding that i am only sexually attracted to women once i have known them for a good while. I'm a 31 male and i've felt a lot of pressure and anxiety over my dating/love life in the last three years. All of my close best friends have all gotten married in the last two years, and , particularly from the female side of the equation i get a lot of questions and when the opportunity allows it to be set up with people. It just makes me feel uncomfortable. Before all this I was never bothered by it, i was so a normal person who just got on with life, enjoyed his hobbies, but that has been turned upside down.

Throughout my teenage years, and being in my twenties, i presumed that i was a normal straight bloke, but as i have been reading more and more in the last few years it seems maybe i'm not? I always had a strong physical attraction to girls - where i was worried at one point i was coming across as somewhat perverted - the thing is i'v come to realise that those physical attractions in reality meant nothing to me. I have only experienced strong sexual attraction a few times, only after getting to know that person over the course of a good while.

I thought maybe that perhaps i was not straight and gay instead, but i've never thought about men in that way, never been sexually attracted to them. Although that question for some reason has caused great anxiety in me - but i think that is down to ocd and intrusive thoughts - its been eating me up for almost three years now - i think it is ocd because the ruminations are 24/7, constantly check and seek reassurance and the thoughts are irrational, and i know have told me lies - i have also had variations of topics under scrutiny - for example i convinced myself i wanted to be a women for a few months a couple of years ago (which looking back on it , just makes me laugh)

The problem is i don't have a way of meeting new people - my friends are now transitioning to full adult lives- they got their own lives to lead, in some cases children and i fully accept that and happy for them- but at the same time it kind of limits any potential additions to our friend group. I don't socialise at all anymore. I also live in a rural village so again my chances of meeting someone are slim. I also have social anxiety which again which puts pressure on me.

I want to actively put this to one side and get on with other stuff in my life, but i just can't seem to allow it. I can't focus on anything else and i'm not sure how to rectify that.

It is also crossed my mind that maybe that i am a normal bloke and i'm putting myself under so much pressure that it's dulling any attractions i do have or overthinking everything that i'm not allowing nature to take it course or recognising it, basically i am so consumed in thought that i can't allow my self to relax like i used to. Basically depression and anxiety could be playing it's hand. The girls i have developed sexual attraction for for example i initially did check them out and noticed them before we were friends. The friendship obviously courted stronger feelings of sexual attraction, so in a way that is no different to dating right?

I've 75% decided to take a year out next year and go travelling to actively take me out of everything around me - and it is something i always wanted to do, but i just feel like a pressure pot about to go off and worried i won't enjoy it because of all this. I try and go cycling once a week as i thought exercise would help clear my head - it works sometimes , others it is just a time to overthink everything. I'm also considering moving to a city to see whether it just my mind needs occupying and that would help.

The thing is.. despite all this anxiety and confusion, in the last two years i have had stronger sexual emotions than i have had probably throughout my entire life - I got really close to one friend which got a bit awkward because she had a long term boyfriend. We had been friends for a few years and confided in each other a lot, i know that the feelings we had for each for other were mutal. Awkwardly, i have current strong sexual attraction to a colleague at work (who again has a long term boyfriend, but there is a chemistry there- can't be a douche though!) and there is another girl at the moment that i been thinking about at home ; i often think of wanting to ask her out, but at the moment i think it is more of a romantic attraction - i see my self doing day stuff with her or travelling and that. I see her quite often, some days it feels good to see her, the other days it doesn't, but again i don't know if that is the pressure i am putting myself under. Perhaps all this is relatively new to me (late bloomer perhaps), whilst i eyed up girls for example i only ever been actively interested in a couple.

Eh.. started of a dating question and ended up as something else. i think you can see how irrational my thought process is at the moment, and the mess i have knotted myself up in. It is probably making me appear ugly to other people, i've lost confidence in myself and my self esteem is low. I have a speech impediment that has gotten worse, and i struggle to hold a conversation. Just think i have reached that point where its about to bubble over and not sure what to do. I want to take a break from it, but don't know how? Writing this out as helped a bit because it shows how silly it all is, particularly what is going on in my head, but i know that 'relieve' will be temporary. Everything feels so abstract.

Sorry for the long and rambling post.
You know what the advice is gonna be. Work on yourself. Sort out your self-esteem, depression, social anxiety, OCD, and other issues before you start dating. You might come across a girl who's accepting of all of this but these shouldn't be a part of your identity as a way of selling yourself. They're not gonna be your therapist. Not to say cure them, honestly we all have these issues at some points in our lives and there is a case to make that these are useful sometimes but we learn to balance it out with other positive thoughts. Travelling might help if it boosts your confidence in doing new and exciting things and not being fearful.

You're in a rural village but you're posting on the internet, and unless if you're in the post-apocalypse village of men, there are bound to be women about. I'm sure you're used to talking to other people at work or other girls at work, right? Do the same with other women, just strike up a conversation with some context and go from there.

Don't bother with women in relationships, that's a no go zone. Watch this video on why.
 

gaiages

Banned
I'm surprised people didn't know that old people fucked all the time. What else would you do in a retirement home?

It's true though, they have the worst accent.

Well, maybe not the worst, and they should generally be quite good at English, but the accent is still bad.

The worst accent for for me to parse out, personally, is a Scotish one. Though that's likely due to the fact that I've never met a Scotish person before.

What's your best unsolicited request from these apps?

I just remembered a time when a girl said I looked cool and asked if I had any adderall to sell her because she was leaving for Amsterdam in a day. The drugs are there. I laughed quite a while at that, it was a lengthy paragraph explaining the situation.
This sounds excellent.

You know if I visited all we'd do is get drunk and talk rocket league.

Someone asked me if I wanted to play Wii U with them. I asked them is that was an innuendo and he said "it can be if you want it to be ;)". I thought it was a pretty good response lol

Boring compared to most, but it was better than the 50th 'hi' of the week LOL

Question: are you a male? If so, why are you using the flower crown filter?

What's wrong with some flowers on a guy's head?
 

Astral

Member
A few people told me to remove the flower crown pic that a friend of mine took from my okc profile because filters are bad, or too many people use them, or it shows that I wanna hide something. Now some of you all are saying it can be good. Make up your minds!
 

brawly

Member
Crush from work: is that a Superman shirt? (it's semi-hidden under my lab coat)

Me: Uh, yeah...

CfW: Looks good on you.

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You know what the advice is gonna be. Work on yourself. Sort out your self-esteem, depression, social anxiety, OCD, and other issues before you start dating. You might come across a girl who's accepting of all of this but these shouldn't be a part of your identity as a way of selling yourself. They're not gonna be your therapist. Not to say cure them, honestly we all have these issues at some points in our lives and there is a case to make that these are useful sometimes but we learn to balance it out with other positive thoughts. Travelling might help if it boosts your confidence in doing new and exciting things and not being fearful.

You're in a rural village but you're posting on the internet, and unless if you're in the post-apocalypse village of men, there are bound to be women about. I'm sure you're used to talking to other people at work or other girls at work, right? Do the same with other women, just strike up a conversation with some context and go from there.

Don't bother with women in relationships, that's a no go zone. Watch this video on why.

Thanks for your reply. Yeah i know what the advice was going to be, just needed a time and place to vent. I'm hoping the travelling will do as you say, but also give me a chance to work on myself, get in touch with what i used to identify with and work on my photography.
 

gaiages

Banned
A few people told me to remove the flower crown pic that a friend of mine took from my okc profile because filters are bad, or too many people use them, or it shows that I wanna hide something. Now some of you all are saying it can be good. Make up your minds!

Oh, yeah, filters on the profile pics aren't really the best thing, at least not for your main pic if it is. If you have a clear pic of your face before the filtered one it should be fine.

I was just challenging the guy being like "flower crowns aren't for guys" :p
 

Ralemont

not me
The problem with really bad texters is you can't infer something's wrong when their texting gets worse over a week. Seeing her tonight so we'll see what the body language says.
 

Kyne

Member
I don't really think online dating is for me.. or rather, I think that I need some better pictures.

Problem with that is that I don't want them to be faked or taken for the sake of an online dating profile. I want them to be authentic and full of life experiences.

What that taught me is that I need to get out more and have these experiences first. I guess I'll work on that now and once I've compiled some nice memories in picture form I'll try again.

Until then I'll try a bit harder in the real world to meet/talk to women.
 
I don't really think online dating is for me.. or rather, I think that I need some better pictures.

Problem with that is that I don't want them to be faked or taken for the sake of an online dating profile. I want them to be authentic and full of life experiences.

What that taught me is that I need to get out more and have these experiences first. I guess I'll work on that now and once I've compiled some nice memories in picture form I'll try again.

Until then I'll try a bit harder in the real world to meet/talk to women.

Sometimes all pictueres have to do is convey you like to have fun. I dont do crazy interesting things but I still try to do fun different stuff if it comes up. I'm going climbing today with a friend. Random but yolo. Will be fun.

Just do random fun stuff and get soneone to snap some pics.
 

Neoweee

Member
I don't really think online dating is for me.. or rather, I think that I need some better pictures.

Problem with that is that I don't want them to be faked or taken for the sake of an online dating profile. I want them to be authentic and full of life experiences.

What that taught me is that I need to get out more and have these experiences first. I guess I'll work on that now and once I've compiled some nice memories in picture form I'll try again.

Until then I'll try a bit harder in the real world to meet/talk to women.

Dating, in general, is very competitive, but it will push you to be a better you. Just live your life, ask friends to take photos and give help, and eventually you'll have a hell of a profile. Your profile and pictures will get better and better with every iteration.

Getting good pictures is a lot easier when you're in shape and have clothes that fit / look good on you / are fashionable. Pictures just magically start to turn out great when things are going well in general.
 
Some people are just not photogenic or might come out a little strange in pics. I put myself in that category. Still, a good variety of active pictures showing an interesting life, a goofy/fun personality combined with grooming, gym, and nice clothes will make up for almost anything.

I'm not getting the 5 dates a week some other gaffers are, but still end up able to go out with 2-3 girls a month, which is more than enough for me. I wouldn't have the time for more than that lol.
 

AcridMeat

Banned
Tired of fucking kids joining games just to trade. I dont give a fuck just play the fucking game.
You tryna cop my rims dood?
I keep not wanting to go to the gym but every time I see a ripped dude on insta or in a game or movie or anime or whatever I'm just like "Fuuuuuuuck I want that so bad". I've never been super happy with my body, so I need to rectify that with hard work. Can't really expect others to dig my looks if I don't.
The hardest part is making it a habit and starting out, because that's when you're the most anxious. Fortunately for me my gym is at a game company so there's a good mix of skinny dudes and ripped dudes.

The main thing is to stick with it for that first month or so. Once you start seeing results that's all the motivation you'll need from then on. It really does wonders for your confidence.
No the dog face filter is worse imo
Yep, absolutely.
I don't really think online dating is for me.. or rather, I think that I need some better pictures.

Problem with that is that I don't want them to be faked or taken for the sake of an online dating profile. I want them to be authentic and full of life experiences.

What that taught me is that I need to get out more and have these experiences first. I guess I'll work on that now and once I've compiled some nice memories in picture form I'll try again.

Until then I'll try a bit harder in the real world to meet/talk to women.
Do things you enjoy, have a camera ready along the way. Don't go into it stressing out that you need to document everything, but do keep an open mind for things you'd like to look back on.

I love the idea of going out for more life experiences for yourself, but if you're doing it solely to complete a profile I disagree with that. I'm more making sure but it sounds like you have the right mindset for this already.

Just enjoy life, dating (especially online) is not all there is. If you're enjoying your life you'll find dating much easier.
 

Astral

Member
You tryna cop my rims dood?

The hardest part is making it a habit and starting out, because that's when you're the most anxious. Fortunately for me my gym is at a game company so there's a good mix of skinny dudes and ripped dudes.

The main thing is to stick with it for that first month or so. Once you start seeing results that's all the motivation you'll need from then on. It really does wonders for your confidence.

Yep, absolutely.
Do things you enjoy, have a camera ready along the way. Don't go into it stressing out that you need to document everything, but do keep an open mind for things you'd like to look back on.

I love the idea of going out for more life experiences for yourself, but if you're doing it solely to complete a profile I disagree with that. I'm more making sure but it sounds like you have the right mindset for this already.

Just enjoy life, dating (especially online) is not all there is. If you're enjoying your life you'll find dating much easier.

I love going out for myself, but going out for myself doesn't involve asking people to take pictures of me doing these things. I'm just not a pictures guy. I rarely ever go back to view them. Therefore, by asking people to take pictures, it's no longer for myself but for a dating profile. In fact, not one of my pictures are for myself. The only pictures I take for myself are pics to monitor progress at the gym.
 
Taking pictures is sometimes the worst thing in the world lol. I make sure I hide in any group photo.

I dunno. I think there is a fine line between taking 1 or 2 pictures to highlight or capture an event and going picture crazy snapping at every moment. I get why some people dislike both but the excessive whining over the former is annoying.

All my friends pretty much know I'm not having an argumemt bout this topic anymore and get in the pictures these days lol.
 

Leeness

Member
I dunno. I think there is a fine line between taking 1 or 2 pictures to highlight or capture an event and going picture crazy snapping at every moment. I get why some people dislike both but the excessive whining over the former is annoying.

All my friends pretty much know I'm not having an argumemt bout this topic anymore and get in the pictures these days lol.

Yeah no, I would run out of the picture or hide behind people haha. Sorry :p
 
Yeah no, I would run out of the picture or hide behind people haha. Sorry :p

Like I said. My friends have given up. I'm not even the one taking the picture or suggesting it most of the time but I get visibly annoyed when we having 5 minute discussion over a 15s pivture process.
 
Thanks GAF. I was definitely over-reacting last week. Had a third date with her yesterday and her being into me, would be an understatement. Thanks for being the prodding arm that convince me that I was over-reacting GAF.

Accurate simulation of the sparks that occurred


I love going out for myself, but going out for myself doesn't involve asking people to take pictures of me doing these things. I'm just not a pictures guy. I rarely ever go back to view them. Therefore, by asking people to take pictures, it's no longer for myself but for a dating profile. In fact, not one of my pictures are for myself. The only pictures I take for myself are pics to monitor progress at the gym.

I'm in the same boat overall. However when I decided to jump back on dating apps I realized I didn't have a normal photo of myself to use. When I first got tinder years ago I had much better luck at my younger age dating people around my age with the silly photos I had. As someone 3-4 years older than that now a lot of that doesn't really fly anymore. The good photos I have of myself. Since I don't really ask people to take photos of me ever I just have whatever my friends take/send of me. That unfortunately means a ton of photos with people in the background. I convinced myself I needed a photo of just me as my main photo and had my co-worker take me one and I immediately noticed an increase in my matches when I added that.
 

Leeness

Member
Like I said. My friends have given up. I'm not even the one taking the picture or suggesting it most of the time but I get visibly annoyed when we having 5 minute discussion over a 15s pivture process.

My friends have all given up in the opposite direction--they know not to take photos with me haha.
 

gaiages

Banned
Like I said. My friends have given up. I'm not even the one taking the picture or suggesting it most of the time but I get visibly annoyed when we having 5 minute discussion over a 15s pivture process.

It's like at that point just get it over with and if you don't like it you never have to look at it again lol

Only time I don't like pics is when someone is trying to catch me while I'm eating. Like bruh I'm a messy eater and fat, you don't need to feed the stereotype lolol

People get weird when I snap a picture but, like, I only do like one, maybe two at most. Doesn't anyone care about the memories when we all get Alzheimer's?!
 
It's like at that point just get it over with and if you don't like it you never have to look at it again lol

Only time I don't like pics is when someone is trying to catch me while I'm eating. Like bruh I'm a messy eater and fat, you don't need to feed the stereotype lolol

People get weird when I snap a picture but, like, I only do like one, maybe two at most. Doesn't anyone care about the memories when we all get Alzheimer's?!

This is pretty much where I am at. Like I get not liking a photo shoot. I find that annoying too but if we go somewhere as a group and someone wants a nice picture just get in the damn pic.
 
I primarily hate it because a lot of the pictures get taken at clubs or parties that I don't want to later get tagged in on social media. My future employment somewhat relies on me not looking like a drunk or delinquent on facebook lol.
 
I primarily hate it because a lot of the pictures get taken at clubs or parties that I don't want to later get tagged in on social media. My future employment somewhat relies on me not looking like a drunk or delinquent on facebook lol.

You can set your settings to not allow tagging.

This is pretty much where I am at. Like I get not liking a photo shoot. I find that annoying too but if we go somewhere as a group and someone wants a nice picture just get in the damn pic.
Yeah, I got over this a few years ago, and now I enjoy getting photographed. Even though I look awful in most of them. It's all in the game.
Most people who think they look terrible in photos most likely don't. Many of us are just super self conscious about it and immediately see all flaws. I know I do.
 
So I posted this at the time but it's eating me up so I gotta talk about it more.

Watched a movie at hers the other night, she seemed a bit distant, then told me she's feeling like crap, doesn't know if she's ready for a relationship, and doesn't want to lead me on, so I went home.

She texted me an hour or so later to apologise, and said I'm an amazing guy but she's just a mess right now. I told her to take some time and get her head straight.

It'll have been 2 days now with absolutely 0 contact between us. Should I reach out to her and ask how she's feeling, or just leave the ball in her court to hit me up when she's ready (if she ever does)?

I've never had as much immediate chemistry with someone as I have with this girl, our personalities are just so in line and I so don't want to lose her :\
 
So I posted this at the time but it's eating me up so I gotta talk about it more.

Watched a movie at hers the other night, she seemed a bit distant, then told me she's feeling like crap, doesn't know if she's ready for a relationship, and doesn't want to lead me on, so I went home.

She texted me an hour or so later to apologise, and said I'm an amazing guy but she's just a mess right now. I told her to take some time and get her head straight.

It'll have been 2 days now with absolutely 0 contact between us. Should I reach out to her and ask how she's feeling, or just leave the ball in her court to hit me up when she's ready (if she ever does)?

I've never had as much immediate chemistry with someone as I have with this girl, our personalities are just so in line and I so don't want to lose her :\

Either she doesn't want to be in a relationship with you or she's genuinely not ready for anything serious. Either way, get ready to move on and delete the number. There are many girls I have great chemistry with but it trails off for some reason, so don't be discouraged. There are plenty of people out there who want to be in a relationship with you. It's just that this girl might not be the one.
 
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