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LGBTQIA+ |OT9| The Return of the Queen
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That's by far the most important thing.
It's easy to lose yourself in a relationship to the point where you basically need to re-learn what matters to you and what defines you. You'll do just fine with the attitude you have tbh! It's going to be OK.
Fantastical
Death Prophet
Weird I was just talking about this with a friend last night haha
I don't even like in porn when it's just shots of anatomy... Like literally just a dick into a butt for long periods of time.
Gibbs
Member
I hope you're doing ok buddy. I been meaning to write you but have been insanely busy.
The only isolated body part I like getting pics of are torsos, the torso is the best body part on a guy.
Tbqh, that aesthetic does things to me, I'm so into it. Do you also have tattoos and piercings?
Um so I made a grindr you guys...
The thirst is too strong.
I've already got a few replies.
Lord some of these dudes and trans women are just...
Like I personally don't think I'm very good looking. But apparently dadbod punk rockers with bald heads and a beard are in now. :O
Tbqh, that aesthetic does things to me, I'm so into it. Do you also have tattoos and piercings?
It's ok, bud. I hope you are well.
I saw some stuff from you and I'm very worried! I'm feeling a bit down because I broke his heart again. He is a great guy, and while I was drunk I told him how I would love to date him again, but then I woke up and I was so sure of what I had to do. Seeing him crying is the worst thing in the world.
I love him so much. I feel like I am a monster for having destroyed him. He started taking meds for panic attacks after I broke up with him, and now this. I don't know, man. He deserved so much better.
RoyaleDuke
Banned
No piercings or tattoos yet but I want to get Eddy(from Iron Maiden) and Iggy Pop on my back. I pretty much owe my life to those two bands for saving my life during very dark times.
Aarglefarg
Member
Help, what is happening.
shinra-bansho
Member
Gibbs
Member
Holy shit that kingdom hearts 3 trailer. TOY STORY!!!!! I love Toy Story, i'm so passionate about the movies hahaha.
Oh and RoyalDuke has me laughing hysterically right now. Dammit.
I know it hurts currently that you seemly broke his heart, but maybe its best to be honest now than do it later? Is there any possible way you two could make things work? Though if you can find a healthy balance of a friendship would be wonderful, as you never know what can happen down the road. Life throws some interesting things at you.
As much as it hurts to type this, you did the right thing. My ex was in your shoes, and I truly know what it feels like to be destroyed, but honestly, your happiness does matter. Though true feelings do come out when someone is intoxicated.
BTW, i am doing better, struggling a bit still but I'm getting there. =)
Oh and RoyalDuke has me laughing hysterically right now. Dammit.
It's ok, bud. I hope you are well.
I'm feeling a bit down because I broke his heart again. He is a great guy, and while I was drunk I told him how I would love to date him again, but then I woke up and I was so sure of what I had to do. Seeing him crying is the worst thing in the world.
I love him so much. I feel like I am a monster for having destroyed him. He started taking meds for panic attacks after I broke up with him, and now this. I don't know, man. He deserved so much better.
I know it hurts currently that you seemly broke his heart, but maybe its best to be honest now than do it later? Is there any possible way you two could make things work? Though if you can find a healthy balance of a friendship would be wonderful, as you never know what can happen down the road. Life throws some interesting things at you.
As much as it hurts to type this, you did the right thing. My ex was in your shoes, and I truly know what it feels like to be destroyed, but honestly, your happiness does matter. Though true feelings do come out when someone is intoxicated.
BTW, i am doing better, struggling a bit still but I'm getting there. =)
Tell him to move with you, easy. GG
Dont think he will leave his bf for me. 😜
RoyaleDuke
Banned
PopGAF. I called Christina Aguilera's accident at Etta James funeral an irresponsible vagina leak.
Whew, wig gone at this maturity!
Omg this gif... Vazduh you truly are the gif champion.
Gibbs
Member
This guy I've been talking to, we'll call him B. I've mentioned him here previously.
B likes me and admitted to it, but said he would never date me until I "gained some self confidence and believed I was good enough" to be with him. Ok, fair enough. I've been working on myself, and yesterday he says "Duh I told you I've liked you now for a while lol" but everytime I mention that we should hang out, get dinner or something he gets cold feet and it never happens.
We snapchat daily and have FB communication, but it seems like at times he will go dark, but if I don't send him anything, he'll come and get my attention. Kinda giving me that "PLAN B!" vibe.
It seems the only time he wants to get together is when he wants to have sex... and I have too much respect for myself to sleep around, or outside of a relationship. I mean, if people do that fantastic, but for me, I just can't. Should I distance myself so I don't get hurt anymore than I have? I do like him a lot.
B likes me and admitted to it, but said he would never date me until I "gained some self confidence and believed I was good enough" to be with him. Ok, fair enough. I've been working on myself, and yesterday he says "Duh I told you I've liked you now for a while lol" but everytime I mention that we should hang out, get dinner or something he gets cold feet and it never happens.
We snapchat daily and have FB communication, but it seems like at times he will go dark, but if I don't send him anything, he'll come and get my attention. Kinda giving me that "PLAN B!" vibe.
It seems the only time he wants to get together is when he wants to have sex... and I have too much respect for myself to sleep around, or outside of a relationship. I mean, if people do that fantastic, but for me, I just can't. Should I distance myself so I don't get hurt anymore than I have? I do like him a lot.
he is shady. very shady. you deserve better
Gibbs
Member
Right! A friend told me she believes he's shady. He is extremely attractive, and I... am not. I mean, it has shown me there is possibly a life without my ex, but it still hurts you know. Like this guy can make me smile and give me hope... but he also can tank my day too.
I wish I could hug you btw and tell you everything will be ok <3
Don't do this to you. "He is attractive and I'm not"... That's what keeps you getting yourself into these situations. "oh if i don't do what he wants i will never get another chance like that" etc.
thank you for the love. at least next week i'm traveling so my life will feel fresh for once
Gibbs
Member
Oh I don't let the whole "he's attractive thing" consume anything into how I feel about him. I think it just comes down to that someone actually likes me, because to be fair, since my ex bailed, he replaced me instantly, and me? I have had literally zero luck, and it'll be two years in September. I just feel disposable... and i'm thinking that I am his backup now and ugh, don't like it.
I mean, I did meet up with B, but he barely said much.
I'll write you before you leave to catchup. I hope you have a great time. You deserve and need this greatly.
Oh girl, same. 1.5 years since my ex dumped my ass. Replaced within the month. They're still together and I'm jacking off alone in a sauna LMAO
But anyway if someone doesn't appreciate you, at the very least, for the immense effort you've put in yourself in terms of weight loss, then If You Seek A-them.
Okay Soo... Your bf/love interest/crush whatever it is you are attracted to is better looking than you, but so what? They are not you, and will never be you. I think that's very powerful.
I take pride in my self, or at least trying to, so that I can build self confidence and I think we all should
I take pride in my self, or at least trying to, so that I can build self confidence and I think we all should
This sounds like bad news to me. I've been down this road. People who tell you/hint that they like you but never seem to want to commit to anything should be treated with deep suspicion (especially the good-looking ones). My friend described them as tom cats. They just like to come around, get you worked up with hints and promises so they can enjoy the attention and admiration and then scoot. If you fall for him in this type of dynamic it could spell big trouble.
Even if this is not the reason he does it, you pinning for him while he's in this mode is only going to bring you down.
Honestly, if you've tried explicitly to pin him down on something concrete and he's still being elusive, I would just leave him be. They'll always come back though, like you've said. Especially if they think you are losing interest. But I would just literally cut him off completely for the sake of your emotional wellbeing.
Sorry if that sounds cynical. In the plus column though: being cut off might spur him into actually putting his chips down if he really likes you.
Monocle
Member
The best porn shows the muscles working and the performers reacting. Zoomed in penetration is super boring unless it's brief.
Gibbs
Member
My friend told me that he seems like a flake. Exactly what your friend has said, minus she called him a flake lol.
No, not cynical at all and I appreciate this. I actually debated on cutting him off, or just going cold and seeing if he would react differently. I mean, he was like me, obese, and we both lost a lot of weight. Maybe he is playing the field? Who knows, but I mean, if you tell me to "gain confidence" and I do, and you still are dodgy, then maybe its time I just back off and figure out my next move.
Okay Soo... Your bf/love interest/crush whatever it is you are attracted to is better looking than you, but so what? They are not you, and will never be you. I think that's very powerful.
I take pride in my self, or at least trying to, so that I can build self confidence and I think we all should
Building self confidence is everything, couldn't agree more.... BUUUUUT! it comes down to years, and years... did I mention years? Years of mental abuse that you aren't good enough.
Working through that though. If I could be as hot as that sloth in your profile picture, i would have all the self confidence.
My ex pretty much was already talking to men a week prior to leaving, and hell if I know how many people he messed with before he settled with the guy he is with. Which is hilarious, as he is dating everything he is against. I find it hilariously sad, I wonder if I was his lie, or if he is dating a lie. Have fun with that regardless.
I have tried to better myself, to look better, and feel better but honestly it hasn't done much. I think jerking off in a sauna sounds incredible and may fix my problems. Though my fleshlight is keeping me sane, for now..
I keep telling myself to keep working on myself and it'll fall int
Gibbs
Member
Thank god I haven't said that to you lmaooo. I agree though, when people say that to me, i'm like "uhh, why are you single sir?"
Yea I think the one thing that bothers me the most is that it disregards pretty much everything about you except for your looks. Like I'm a mess of a person of course I'm single sis!
dragonlife
Member
'Cause it makes it apparent these people don't like to think beyond the surface, and you're put in a position where all the reasons you're single flash in your mind, but you don't wanna tell someone who doesn't matter and get into a whole talk if you're an introvert.
"(Many) reasons" is my default. Although I haven't been called cute in years :thinking:
Gibbs
Member
I haven't had sex in over two years. I feel like my virginity is reclaiming its rightful spot.
How I see it, be 110% before you go back into the dating game because if you go in and you are struggling with stuff, it won't end well for you, and it'l affect him also.
I miss all the sex
Henchmen21
Banned
37. Still a virgin. My virginity has formed a hardened shell around me like an exoskeleton.
yeah, need to get my shit together, and that takes time.
shinra-bansho
Member
Congrats on the sex.
dragonlife
Member
May as well be called virginlife, tbh
Aarglefarg
Member
There is "congrats on the sex" cake, but I want "congrats on the cake" sex to be a thing.
So you want someone to have sex when you give them cake? What type of cake are we talking about?...
Monocle
Member
Eventually you'll lose it and discover it wasn't such a big deal. I'm not saying sex is overrated, I'm saying society gives the concept of virginity weird weight and symbolic power.
The way it actually works is, you're a virgin up until the day you're not. Maybe that triggers a psychological shift if you've waited until you're past your teens and 20s. But honestly, buying a new shirt could have a bigger tangible impact on your life. It's up to each person to decide how much of their conscious attention they spend on pursuing sex.
Aarglefarg
Member
"I see you have a cake, I will choose to have sex with you as an expression of congratulations for having a cake".
I don't know, I just thought the reversal was fun.
Henchmen21
Banned
Via Purifico
Banned
Gibbs, don't do it the guy is full of shit the end.
I gave up on this guy who I have known off and on and his non actions reminded me why I ditched him in the first place. They tell you they're interested but their actions tell a totally different story.
Fuck wasting your time on those who don't deserve it.
I gave up on this guy who I have known off and on and his non actions reminded me why I ditched him in the first place. They tell you they're interested but their actions tell a totally different story.
Fuck wasting your time on those who don't deserve it.
Gibbs
Member
DUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUDE!!!! You're alive! I've texted you a few times! Unless my text never went though =( but I've been thinking of you. How are you?
RIght! I decided to just go cold on him and thats it. I'll be friendly to him but i'll avoid the whole flirting thing.
Via Purifico
Banned
I never got them.
It is and then again you may have a candle to blow for the cake💁
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