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Someone came up to me when I was at the park with my son (half-black). He was 30-ish I guess? Skinny dude, short hair. Anyway, he asked why I thought it was okay to bring my "nigger baby" to the park.

My son heard him say that. My son was 4 at the time.

Anyway, guy continued to inform me I was a race traitor and the such.

I should also put into context that I was 22 at the time (I made some poor choices [hue hue hue ] when I was younger.) and as such, I wasn't as uh....level-headed as I am now?



Yeah, I decked him as hard as I could. I'm not entirely proud of it, but I sucker-punched a dude as hard as I could. He went down because he was a stick.

My son gave me an earful on the way back to his mothers though about "mommy says we're supposed to keep our hands to ourselves and you didn't keep your hands to your self."



I still don't regret it.

 

[Doctor_Thomas]

The worst I ever experienced was a taxi driver referring to a black woman as a "niggress".

I, legitimately, have only ever heard that term once and, legitimately, couldn't even respond I was that shocked. I believe he was sacked from the depo he worked at not long after.

 

[TheOfficeMut]

Someone came up to me when I was at the park with my son (half-black). He was 30-ish I guess? Skinny dude, short hair. Anyway, he asked why I thought it was okay to bring my "nigger baby" to the park.

My son heard him say that. My son was 4 at the time.

Anyway, guy continued to inform me I was a race traitor and the such.

I should also put into context that I was 22 at the time (I made some poor choices [hue hue hue ] when I was younger.) and as such, I wasn't as uh....level-headed as I am now?



Yeah, I decked him as hard as I could. I'm not entirely proud of it, but I sucker-punched a dude as hard as I could. He went down because he was a stick.

My son gave me an earful on the way back to his mothers though about "mommy says we're supposed to keep our hands to ourselves and you didn't keep your hands to your self."



I still don't regret it.

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[Westbahnhof]

First: "Neger" is the German N-word, but it could be argued that it is a bit less offensive than the English equivalent, but I don't know.
It doesn't matter anyway, as the offensive part is obviously not just the word being used.

Talking "future technology" with a friend of a friend I had met that evening, the topic turned to healing diseases which are currently incurable. AIDS popped up, and I talked about some articles I had read, articles indicating we could still live to see HIV cured.
His comment?
"Ja, aber wer will schon Sex mit einer Negerin haben?"
"Yes, but who wants to have sex with a female n-word anyway?"
Out of the blue. Needless to say, he was shut out of any further conversations.
Just disgusting.

And then there was the guy who said he'd never adopt a black baby, because black people small bad. Stink, actually. I wasn't there, but my sister called me to rant about it. She was so mad.

I've seen much much more racism against turkish and former yugoslavian people, but that's very casual racism, which is unpleasant, but not as "WHAT?" inducing as my two little examples. Probably because sadly, I'm used to them.

 

[themadcowtipper]

Been stopped and frisked many times in my lifetime. Had my car searched for leaving a know drug area( even though was just leaving my house).

 

[Beefy]

Just this week:
I went into a jewelry shop to look at new stud for my ear. Dude showed me a tray and pointed to one with loads of fake diamonds on it. Dude then said "you'd look like a drug dealer with that"

But way too much to remember in my short life

 

[Violence Jack]

My mother was walking me to a school activity one evening when I was like 7 or 8 years old. As we crossed over the railroad tracks, there was a KKK rally going on a few feet from where we had to cross the street. I still remember bits and pieces of the things said, thrown, or done to me and my mother in that moment. And after we reported it to the police in our bumfuck nowhere town at the time (it's been built up since then, and by built up I mean they kicked out the minorities while tearing down homes), they waved it off like we were lying or something.

Outside of that, just a couple of restaurants in Georgia, Louisiana, and Mississippi with waitresses that refused to serve me when I was either with my wife or my group of mostly white friends.

Of course there was also the myriad of "I don't date black men (some even called me the N-word)" responses I used to get while dating.

 

[-tetsuo-]

I played on Xbox Live when it was in beta

 

[RoyaleDuke]

My dad regularly calls juryrigging Nword rigging.

Recently, he almost beat me because I challenged his views and it lead to a huge shouting match where he finally told me why he feels it is okay to be a racist.

Spoiler

Spoiler: Because he can.

 

[Jeremy]

Family taught their dog a "party trick":

"Lucy, would you rather be a dead dog, or a n-----?"

*dog plays dead*

Nauseating.

 

[RangerX]

An old friend of mine called black children "niglets", which is about as disgusting as you can get. Safe to say we're not friends anymore.

 

[NandoGip]

Im a brown dude who only reaaally started hanging out with white guys in my late teens. Over the last 5-10 years, i've probably got in good with maybe 3-4 different groups of white dudes.

The most interesting form of open racism I've witnessed was how as soon as I got in good with them, it was surprising how often and easily they'd let the n-word with the hard R fly

 

[Kickz]

Took an American Literature class during my second year at the University of Miami. Class was taught by a young African American male. The syllabus listed all the material we would read during the class, and to my surprise most of it were the works of black and female poets and authors. After a week or so, a young White woman in the class raised her hand and threatened to complain to the dean that the material was inappropriate because the course was titled American Literature and not "African American" literature.

What a fuckin bitch

 

[daveo42]

I've heard my grandfather use racial slurs before when I've gone and visited family over the holidays. No one else seems to bat an eyelash at the comments and words outside of an "oh you" when it comes up.

 

[disappeared]

Nothing violent thank goodness, but I've heard a lot shit talked about the First Nations here in prairie-Canada. I've been utterly baffled sometimes.

 

[Supha_Volt]

I can't remember how many times I was called either a spic, wetback, or beaner when I was younger (elementary) until I snatched someone up by their mouth and they realized shit was about to go down real quick. I'll still get go back to the middle east or Mexico every once in awhile.

I do know my brother has it worse than me since he is quite a bit darker skin than I so he'll get called the n-word when we leave out certain parts of the city. Do remember my brother telling me about that when he played lacrosse how many times the opposing teams players and even some of the parents would call him that.

 

[Calm Mind]

Not Muslim but I have experienced Islamaphobia. It happened on the red line after a Cubs game of all places. I don't think I've ever been that angry in my life.

 

[RoyaleDuke]

I remember this one time a whole crowd of people, teachers included watched a black student get mobbed by other students, all the while shouting "you f--king n-word".

He had to go the hospital, nothing happened to the bullies, nothing happened on the news.

The more I think about it, the more I really hate this country.

 

[SuperOrez]

Middle School was pretty bad. The Mexican kids would always call me stupid gringo and stuff like that. Thing is I'm already half Mexican and always knew what they're saying. Guess I wasn't Mexican enough.

 

[Supha_Volt]

Middle School was pretty bad. The Mexican kids would always call me stupid gringo and stuff like that. Thing is I'm already half Mexican and always knew what they're saying. Guess I wasn't Mexican enough.

Been through that and it sucked although they didn't like me because I hung out with the black kids and was called a traitor.

 

[pablito]

Got cursed at and kicked out of a record store because I didn't need the guys help browsing. Probably thought I was going to steal something.

Had a black girl talk about how I wasn't black because I had a rock band patch on my backpack in highschool.

Had a guy ask me why I was trying to be white.

I've had many times black people talk about how I got that "good hair" (I'm mixed) and people would ask or try to touch it. They're giving me a compliment but it was always...weird.

Spoiler

I let it slide when girls wanted to play with my hair though lol

...now that I think about it I still get people wanting to braid my hair and shit today lol.

I met my ex's parents before we started dating. We (group of people) played pool with them and had a great time. Her father mentioned liking me particular, said I was a smart and funny guy. Different story when we started dating. I never saw him again after that, but of course she was forbidden to be with me. She didn't listen, but when we'd go out she was deathly afraid of being spotted with me by someone her parents knew, cuz they'd surely snitch. Her dad wouldn't even let her date darker Mexicans, let alone a black guy.

It could be worse. Haven't gotten any violent comments at me, aside from the record store guy. Never been called the n word, though me being mixed will have a bit to do with that. I get all kinds of different stuff when people try to guess my mix.

 

[Slayven]

Yeah, old Southerners say some oddly racist stuff. My mom is a nurse at an old folks home in South Georgia, everyday she has a story about some old white person talking about "getting a group of niggers to move their furniture," or something like that.

Sometimes as a kid my mom use to point out places in car rides where racist fuckery went on locally.

 

[MogCakes]

"We don't want asians in our city"

 

[Nepenthe]

- Was told by a white friend's father that I'm eloquent for using the word "feral" to describe stray cats.

- Was followed profusely by a white mall cop in a Hot Topic; my friend, also black, got him off us by saying "Nigga, can I help you?" (I laugh at this shit to this day.)

- Witnessed my mom get into it at another store in the mall because a white lady assumed that she couldn't pay for a purse that she brought to check-out, because it makes sense to try and purchase things you can't afford.

- Have had my hair fawned over profusely by Germans when I was a toddler.

- Went to a Furry con and got a strange look from a guy who gets off on the confederate flag when I took my own costume head off.

I'll probably think of more later.

 

[BlackJace]

First week of college a while ago:

"Oh are you here for sports?"

"No"

*Gives me a puzzled face*

 

[OriginofHysteria]

Not me personally but my dad got yelled at by these people after 9/11 because they thought he was Muslim.

He's actually a Catholic Filipino.

I've mostly received them in jest from members of my hockey team growing up, esp when I was in HS and playing juniors but nothing bad. Worst i got was 'i can literally floss your eyelids'. We're still friends to this day lol.

 

[vikki]

My freshman year of high school, me and some friends went to the city's firework show for some city festival. After they were done, we were headed back to my buddy's house, when out of the crowd comes this guy that I've known since I was about 7. Him and my dad weren't friends, but they coached rival peewee football teams in the city. Well, he singled out my Puerto Rican friend and just started calling him a punk. The guy had no idea who my friend was , even though he was in the same grade as his daughter, but he felt the need to single my friend out and call him a punk multiple times.

My friend responded with fuck you, who do you think you are? My response was "(guy's name) what are you doing?" He didn't care and just continued until we went our separate ways. Told my father and he was like "yeah, he was probably drunk."

 

[SoulUnison]

I'm of mixed race and apparently when I was a baby we traveled to the east coast to visit family and one of my uncles refused to allow us (specifically me) in his house, so my mom and I slept on the front porch and left in the morning.

 

[CortexVortex]

After a night of heavy drinking we wanted to get a pizza. Right behind of us was a black woman and the people behind were drunk af.
They were repeatedly saying things like “cant believe a fucking nigga is gonna get served before us“ and even tried to grab her ass because “she is just a nigga bitch“
After a while I stepped in, drunk as fuck myself, and these fucks didnt have the balls fight me.
The girl paid for my pizza but that night proved that nothing good ever happens after 3am.

 

[Golden_Pigeon]

A drunk subway security officer told me to "go home" when i was 13. I didn't knew what he meant by that at the time since i was actually in my way home.

I was called terrorist many time in the street, mainly from trucks drivers passing by (sorry truck drivers). Some drunk guy told me that it should be great to be allowed to punch one's wife. Some relative use to think i was mourning the day Bin Laden died.

I could fill entire threads with all the racists comments i heard in my life, including from people of my own family against other member of my family (i'm "bi-racial").

It's very hard however to quantify racism, i've seen neo-nazis gang hunting non-whites in the street and giving nazi salutes, maybe this win the prize ?

 

[……forgetit]

Sometimes as a kid my mom use to point out places in car rides where racist fuckery went on locally.

You're from Georgia right? Did she just point at everything?

 

[Wood Man]

Someone came up to me when I was at the park with my son (half-black). He was 30-ish I guess? Skinny dude, short hair. Anyway, he asked why I thought it was okay to bring my "nigger baby" to the park.

My son heard him say that. My son was 4 at the time.

Anyway, guy continued to inform me I was a race traitor and the such.

I should also put into context that I was 22 at the time (I made some poor choices [hue hue hue ] when I was younger.) and as such, I wasn't as uh....level-headed as I am now?



Yeah, I decked him as hard as I could. I'm not entirely proud of it, but I sucker-punched a dude as hard as I could. He went down because he was a stick.

My son gave me an earful on the way back to his mothers though about "mommy says we're supposed to keep our hands to ourselves and you didn't keep your hands to your self."



I still don't regret it.

You can't expect to walk up to a father & son, say something nasty like that and not get punched in the face. Asshole deserved it. Downside was your kid saw it. Still, it would make my blood boil too.

 

[DragoonKain]

Was walking home one night and a white dude and his I guess girlfriend who were a little bit ahead of me were walking past a group of guys hanging out on a step. One of them sucker punched the guy for no reason whatsoever with his woman watching and they all started cracking up calling him "white boy" this and that. I ran over and asked him if he was ok. He was a little rattled but seemed to be ok. Walked with him to the end of the street and he parted ways after that.

 

[jetjevons]

I am the living definition of CIS white but the things I've been called for sticking up for minorites.

 

[Geist-]

I remember something that happened when I was younger and it's burned into my memory. My Dad and Uncle are pretty dark skinned because they're half-Filipino. My mom's family are the whitest of white. One day my mom's mom and my aunt are visiting, and so is my Uncle, and my parents go on a date, leaving me and my siblings with them until they get back.

When they leave my mom's family kind of huddle together and ask my Uncle to leave, because they don't feel safe with him there. Even as a pretty young kid, I was shocked. For context, my Dad's family is around a lot more than my Mom's because we all lived in the same city, so I trust my Uncle far more than my aunt and grandma. He was pissed, but left, slamming the door behind him.

I've had a strained relationship with them ever since.

 

[Golden_Pigeon]

Someone came up to me when I was at the park with my son (half-black). He was 30-ish I guess? Skinny dude, short hair. Anyway, he asked why I thought it was okay to bring my "nigger baby" to the park.

My son heard him say that. My son was 4 at the time.

Anyway, guy continued to inform me I was a race traitor and the such.

I should also put into context that I was 22 at the time (I made some poor choices [hue hue hue ] when I was younger.) and as such, I wasn't as uh....level-headed as I am now?



Yeah, I decked him as hard as I could. I'm not entirely proud of it, but I sucker-punched a dude as hard as I could. He went down because he was a stick.

My son gave me an earful on the way back to his mothers though about "mommy says we're supposed to keep our hands to ourselves and you didn't keep your hands to your self."



I still don't regret it.

Kudos to you. I would do the exact same.

 

[DukeSilverHaze]

My father in law is a cop. I was asking him where the term cop comes from and he told me it's history and what it stood for. (constable on patrol)

I segue from that into asking him what about the term popos and his reply....

"that's a nigger term"

I was so taken aback by such casual racism that I literally almost fell out of my chair.

He's a cop, pretty par for the course, were you expecting different?

 

[RoseBell69]

Oh that reminds me of something I saw semi-recently. I was waiting with a friend for our martial arts class to start, basically waiting outside of the practice room to free up. A very douchey-looking gymbro (he seriously seemed straight out of Jersey Shore) and his black friend (?) walk by us. They see our uniforms and ask about the martial art we practice, so I tell them and we start making small talk, the black dude says he used to do karate and such. Then his buddy says something like this:

Gymbro: Are you guys are fine with people like him doing Japanese martial arts?
Me: Er, what do you mean "like him"...
Gymbro: 'Cause he's black as fuck!
Black dude: *chuckles*
Me: *very puzzled and a bit uncomfortable* Um, of course, why wouldn't we be? I mean we're white people practicing a Japanese art --
Gymbro: *interrupting with a goofy grin* Yeah, who knew these people aren't only good for eating bananas eh?
Black dude: *laughing even harder now*
Me: *even more uncomfortable* Hah... hah...?

Then they left shortly after, leaving me and my friend to look at each others in utter confusion. So I guess they were friends and the black dude was OK with him making racist jokes, or they were just trolling us, or... I have no idea. Unlike in your story I don't think the dude was being malicious, since his friend didn't seem to mind, but boy was it very awkward.

Aw man, I wouldn't know how to pull that situation off. I would be flushed with silence in that kind of scenario.

 

[Darth Pinche]

I'm Hispanic and I was at a party during graduate school with other Psychology Ph.D.'s and candidates during which we were just talking about fun stuff we used to do as kids with family. As I started sharing with the group, a friend of my wife (at the time) interrupted and said "you guys were picking strawberries all day right?" with a sneer. I was going to say going to Disneyland a lot.

For context in Orange County, CA growing up, Hispanic and Mexican laborers were called "strawberry pickers", even if they were a doctor. I could not believe what she said and it was clear that her intention was to put me down for some reason.

 

[Kin5290]

I was volunteering at a soup kitchen with my church group way back when. One guy turned down a plate of homemade food (sweet and sour chicken) after loudly proclaiming "I won't eat chink food!" to my face.

Okay buddy, your loss.

This was in New Hampshire, so it was pretty white. Most of the clientele at the soup kitchen was white, although they enjoyed the food just fine.

 

[Jombie]

My brother-in-law throwing a fit because a black girl showed up at his kids' bday party.

 

[SomTervo]

Snuck into a frat party with a few friends during my senior year of high school. The band was dressed like KKK members.

There was one other black guy there and we exchanged "time to get the fuck out of here" looks from across the yard.

Here's another. Went to a slumber party at a friends house during sixth grade (a nice guy that got me into Tolkien) I was outside talking to his mom while she was tending to her plants. When she was done she said to me "Now my hands are as black as you.".

That one stung.

This thread is fucking horrific, but holy fuck at the bolded.

 

[Generalpsyduck]

A kid in my gym class said he was joining the Marines too "kill sand niggers".

 

[ILoveMcChickens]

Personally experienced? I'm of Indian background and live in Canada. Let's see..

In school:
- Called 'paki' in high school. Not a lot, but you know... After 9/11, the pejorative became 'terrorist'. I was called that a few times by passersby when I was walking on the sidewalk.

- Plenty of instances of being teased for smelly food, <fill in the stereotype here> in elementary and middle school..

In the workplace:
- Been told that they're so glad that I turned out to be nice because they've had issues with other South Asians. Gee, thanks guys, almost like we're individuals or something.

- Been told by one of the HR folks how sick they are of seeing people with names they can't pronounce in their resumes and how they just toss those. Oh, but I'm good though.

- Being told by another HR person how Indians are always trying to scam worker's comp. Again, "oh not you, you're great!"

Interestingly, the worst comments I heard were when I was still junior in my career. Now I'm more senior, I don't hear that kind of thing anymore. I have no doubt that's what some are thinking though.

That's just what I remember off the top of my head.

 

[Roufianos]

Afghan guy at my school refused to speak to white people.

 

[Dougieflesh]

Former friend of mine in 1st grade's dad told him to "not hang around that Nigger child". My former friend told me his dad didn't want me around him and I told my father those words. My pops randomly picked me up after school one day (it was usally my mother) and waited for my friends dad to arrive. My father confronted my friends father and whooped his ass after he called me a niglet.

 

[Turin]

Someone came up to me when I was at the park with my son (half-black). He was 30-ish I guess? Skinny dude, short hair. Anyway, he asked why I thought it was okay to bring my "nigger baby" to the park.

My son heard him say that. My son was 4 at the time.

Anyway, guy continued to inform me I was a race traitor and the such.

I should also put into context that I was 22 at the time (I made some poor choices [hue hue hue ] when I was younger.) and as such, I wasn't as uh....level-headed as I am now?



Yeah, I decked him as hard as I could. I'm not entirely proud of it, but I sucker-punched a dude as hard as I could. He went down because he was a stick.

My son gave me an earful on the way back to his mothers though about "mommy says we're supposed to keep our hands to ourselves and you didn't keep your hands to your self."



I still don't regret it.

I think you were well within the right to punch his teeth out.

 

[MastAndo]

In junior high, one black kid with his group of friends snatched my hat right off my head during lunch and held it above me asking "who's the master now, white boy?" while his friends laughed their asses off as I jumped to try to reach it. I had no idea what he meant at the time (other than the literal), and how much weight was behind that comment. I've been called white boy a million times in my life, had money taken for being a white boy in the wrong place, but this was particularly demoralizing.

It was ironic because I had just moved this neighborhood a few years back from a much more racially diverse one. I was one of the only white kids on the block and at my elementary school, but I didn't even realize it at the time or pay any mind to it. It wasn't an issue. We were all just kids, no color. It's unfortunate how quickly in life that changes.

 

[Eidan]

My grandfather and I were called niggers in Philly.

 

[SomewhatGroovy]

I walked into a business with my backpack and the folks working there called the cops. Cops arrived with guns pointing at me. One got close enough and pressed his gun against my head and escorted me outside .They looked up the contents of my backpack and find cat food I bought at an adjacent store. They took my driver's license with them back to the police department and later mailed it back to me.

I'm Arab btw.