LookAtMeGo
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OP's girl when hes on the dancefloor and when hes off the dancefloor
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Am I overreacting about my girlfriend?
- Thread starter sanstesy
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If my boyfriend compared everything in life to Mario I might also give in to temptation elsewhere.
Id talk with her and if she tried to defend her actions, I'd ditch her. Her actions were blatantly disrespectful to you. If you went and danced with some girls while your girlfriend watched, and she was upset, gaf would scold the shit out of you. Imagine what she does when you aren't there if that's where she sets her boundaries when you're watching. Even if she intentionally did it "just to make you jealous," she's still a shit person.
tonysidaway
Member
Defend dancing? I've been married for over thirty years and still flirt with my wife. Imagine how long our marriage would have lasted if I had hauled her over the coals every time she looked at a handsome man.
If you wouldn't say something to your wife if she danced with other men in front of you then that's your problem. Definitely not a person I would want to be married to though.
Widdle Puppy
Banned
Uh, how the fuck do you do this knowingly while with your partner? I don't care if you're drunk. You obviously know you shouldn't do this. I wouldn't be comfortable with this either. Talk to her and ask her how she would feel if you did this in front of her. Alcohol should never be an excuse for disrespect.
tonysidaway
Member
We are both adults and treat one another as adults. The relationship has never relied on coercion. Had my wife danced with other men, it might have been a sign that she did not want such a long relationship. Telling her who she could and could not dance with wouldn't have changed the facts, though. It's completely up to her what she does. I don't own her.
Yeah, I agree with this. Therefore, if op wants a serious longterm relationship and his girlfriend defends her actions to dance with strangers, then it's time to ditch her ass.
tonysidaway
Member
Time will tell. Ditching somebody for something this trivial, essentially for demonstrating an attraction for other people, doesn't make sense. It's precisely the kind of coercive attitude to avoid.
superdeluxe
Member
She danced with a random dude while drunk and your going to dump her over it? Yeah over reacting
Jason's Ultimatum
Member
Sounds fucking weird to dance with other guys if you're in a relationship. Anytime I've seen that happen with friends and their SO it doesnt end well.
Is this some culture thing where dancing is somehow like making out?
In my culture, if my girl is dancing with other men while I stand there watching and twiddling my thumbs, there's a problem. It may not necessarily call for a breakup, but it certainly calls for a serious discussion about respecting me and our relationship.
Dancing with strangers in a night club is usually flirtatious. It's not really the same as, say, a salsa club.
Now here's a guy who knows how to respect boundaries in a relationship!
Earthbound64
Banned
You make it sound like she went to a strip club loaded up with Benjamins or something.
hey_it's_that_dog
benevolent sexism
If dancing with strange men for 20 seconds makes her feel happy/desirable/good about herself then let it happen and redirect that energy she gets into your own bedroom.
If you think she's doing it specifically to bother you then you need to have a talk.
If you think she's doing it specifically to bother you then you need to have a talk.
Sho_Nuff82
Member
If she went home with you and didn't give this guy her number, let it go.
All of y'all were drunk, all of y'all were dancing with mixed company, she definitely messed up but you should be able to move on from this.
All of y'all were drunk, all of y'all were dancing with mixed company, she definitely messed up but you should be able to move on from this.
Discotheque
Banned
I wanna play that Mario game where browser tries to cuck you. God damn. Nintendo branching out to the M for Mature crowd
Chmpocalypse
Blizzard
Sure, but it's a pretty telling signpost of MRA mysoginistic assholes these days. I'd never use such a sexist term.
Chmpocalypse
Blizzard
Sounds like your culture has some serious problems with toxic masculinity, then.
travisbickle
Member
20 seconds is ok, 25 seconds or more is worrying.
I suggest you make a thread about it on Neogaf.
Make me believe of the strength of your relationship by comparing it to video game characters.
Monkeyball
Banned
For relationship threads it would be nice if it said under all posters names "Had a relationship of at least a year yes/no".
Because some of the replies here really make it seem they never had a relationship.
Because some of the replies here really make it seem they never had a relationship.
Ristifer
Member
Easy now. They don't call them "movers" for no reason.
Is there a buzzword for the female version of this? Like how one of my buddies had to have a shitty bachelor party since his fiance/wife gets jealous.
Not really, have a think why that might be though.
I don't know that's why I asked lol.
Is the term itself inherently sexist though? Before 4chan started running with it I only ever saw it associated with the sex kink or porn subcategories
mordecaii83
Member
If it really bothered you that much OP, just talk to her about it. Yeah it sucks trying to figure out why she would do that in front of you, so instead of guessing and freaking out about it just find out straight from her. And tell her it bothers you.
You said yourself that you were both drunk. If 20 seconds of dancing with someone else is the worst she does while drunk then I'm not seeing much of a problem.
You said yourself that you were both drunk. If 20 seconds of dancing with someone else is the worst she does while drunk then I'm not seeing much of a problem.
If that makes me toxic, then so be it. If not being ok with my partner dancing with other men is a sign of masculinity, then I'm the manliest guy there is. That shit isn't ok, and if you're cool with your girl dancing with other men, then I wish you two all the best of luck in the future.
Again, would you dance with other women in front of your girlfriend?
Earthbound64
Banned
Alright.
I take it that you're the kinda guy who will put up with literally anything because he's happy just to have a girlfriend, huh?
Earthbound64
Banned
No, but thanks for trying.
This would bother me as well. Then again, I've never been the club type and the idea of dancing with a stranger makes me uncomfortable. My wife is more extroverted than I am, but she agreed that it doesn't seem cool.
However, there are a lot of people ITT who say it's ok, and maybe your girlfriend is like them. Have a conversation with her and let her know how you feel. If this is a big deal for you, and having the freedom to continue doing it is a big deal to her, you may not be as compatible as you thunk.
However, there are a lot of people ITT who say it's ok, and maybe your girlfriend is like them. Have a conversation with her and let her know how you feel. If this is a big deal for you, and having the freedom to continue doing it is a big deal to her, you may not be as compatible as you thunk.
Where exactly do you think Bowser Jr. came from?
Wafflecakes
Member
Holy shit, you are defensive AF.
It might be best if you do break up with your GF. She deserves better.
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