I'm not opposed to level banding or anything like that, but I think you're getting too worked up over this. If you don't want to PvP, there are PvE servers right there waiting. And really, if it's consensual, how is it any different from duels? There would be no point. If you want consensual PvP, that's available on PvE servers in the form of GvG, duels, battlegrounds, and deathmatches. I don't really care about the populations, the game is not going to do well anyway - the west is far too prejudiced against eastern games (especially with Aion fresh in the memories of many). As long as it has a small but dedicated population, that will be enough.
Safe zones need one-shotters for Outlaws, but that's an easy fix. Mob training happens on both PvE and PvP servers, not sure what it has to do with PvP.
Really, it's a closed beta. There will be time for things to change, but it honestly sounds like you just don't want to PvP - and that's fine, but that's why you play on PvE server instead.