Simbabbad
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And in my experience, some friends have been drugged and raped, some friends have been purposefully contaminated by STDs by a partner who pretended to put on a condom and didn't, some friends were encouraged to use drugs or sexual practices that eventually killed them, some friends discovered that their one night stand stole stuff from their home, I've seen people punch holes in condoms in gay bars so they didn't offer protection from STDs... I've also seen how people can be nasty to each other, either because some people aren't attractive enough by their standards, or out of jealousy. Gay places are an extremely tough environment, and it's very far from being just my own experience. If I had a gay son, I'd be terrified for what could happen to him there. As soon as I got into a couple, I sure as Hell never went back there, and so eventually did all of my friends.I'm not sure your anecdotal experiences of having never felt harassed in mixed company has much bearing on the pretty extensive history of gay people being harmed and persecuted in society. Especially LGBT teens, who are often terrified of hostile and homophobic family or relatives finding out they're gay. Who are often physically harmed or murdered by someone for talking about being gay.
Here's my anecdotal experience: I'm gay, and a biological parent threatened to murder me. I ended up homeless for a decade because I had nowhere else to go. Also, as a gay adult, three straight men once tried to kill me because they suspected I was gay.
I sure would have appreciated one of those lunatic, unnecessary safe spaces when I needed protection and shelter from my own parents.
Nastiness can be everywhere, there's not one big bag labelled "victims" and one big bag labelled "persecutors". Some kids are beaten up by their parents or thrown out of their homes for tons of various reasons, and all those kids should find shelter regardless of said reason. From what I've seen and experienced, and from what all my friends saw and themselves experienced, communities aren't a shelter for anybody, they're dumps.