a. The marriage principle stated here is based upon the dynamic of sameness yet difference; a man and wife can truly come together in a
one-flesh relationship, yet they must
be joined. It doesn't happen by accident or chance.
b. This passage forms the foundation for the Bible's understanding of marriage and family. Both Jesus (
Matthew 19:5) and Paul (
Ephesians 5:31) quote it in reference to marriage.
i. "The institution of monogamous marriage, home, and family as the basic medium for the propagation of the race and the training of the young is so common to human history that people seldom pause to reflect on how or why such a custom came into being." (Morris)
ii. Today, people want to make you think the monogamous, two-parent family was invented in the 1950's by Ozzie and Harriet, but this is the original family. This is God's ideal family. This isn't polygamy. This isn't concubinage. This isn't the keeping of mistresses. This isn't adultery. This isn't promiscuity. This isn't living together outside the marriage bond. This isn't serial marriage. This is God's ideal for the family, and even when we don't live up to it, it is still important to set it forth as God's ideal.
c. The idea of
one flesh is taken by many to be mainly a way of expressing sexual union. While sexual union is certainly related to the idea of
one flesh, it is only one part of what it means to be
one flesh. There are also important spiritual dimensions to
one flesh.
i. Paul makes it clear the sexual union has one flesh implications even when we don't intend so, as when a man has sex with a prostitute (
1 Corinthians 6:16). Husband and wife become "one flesh" under God's blessing. In extramarital sex, the partners become "one flesh" under God's curse.
ii. In this sense, there is no such thing as "casual sex." Every sexual relationship at least begins a one-flesh bond. Will the bond be something beautiful (like the beautiful dancing of Fred Astaire and Ginger Rogers) or will it be something grotesque (like Siamese twins)?
iii. It depends on whether the bonding takes place in a relationship with the right conditions: committed love, demonstrated by the marriage commitment, and a pursuit of true intimacy. Just because sex is taking place in marriage doesn't mean it is truly fulfilling God's purpose of bonding together a one-flesh relationship.
d. Though the initial bond in a one flesh relationship can be formed at the first sexual relationship a couple has, the fullness of what God wants to do in the
one flesh relationship takes time:
they shall become one flesh.
e. Before the fall, Adam and Eve were both
naked . . . and not ashamed. The idea of "nakedness" is far more than mere nudity. It has the sense of being totally open and exposed as a person before God and man. To be
naked . . . and not ashamed means you have no sin, nothing to be rightly ashamed of. You really can be an "open book" to another person.
i. Adam and Eve knew they were physically naked - nude - before the fall. What they did not know was a sinful, fallen condition, because they were not in such a condition before their rebellion.
ii. How do you feel when someone stares at you? Does it make you uncomfortable? Why? Because we associate staring with prying, and we don't want people to pry into our lives. We want to remain hidden, to only reveal to other people what we want to reveal.
iii. When we want to be most attractive to someone else, we do the most to change our normal appearance. We have the thought, "If I really want to impress this person, I have to fix myself up." None of this feeling was present with Adam and Eve when they were
naked . . . and not ashamed.