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[Lone_Prodigy]

Weird...over the last six months the number of responses I get on OKC has dropped to almost zero. I used to have a pretty good rate of girls returning initial messages, now almost nothing

Your profile is probably less visible or the matches you're getting aren't as good. Answer questions and edit your profile to improve visibility.

If all else fails, delete and make a new account. I got more matches and unsolicited messages after doing so. I think the matching algorithm prioritizes new accounts to suck you in.

 

[geestack]

Just got back from an amazing night. We ended up meeting before the roller derby at a bar to grab something to drink and had a really good conversation. Continued it as we walked to the venue and kept talking through the match. There were a few pauses, but nothing super awkward since she's quite adept at keeping the conversation flowing. I'm confident in my ability to carry a conversation, but it was nice not having to take the entire load since she enjoys talking about herself and is really open. We even talked about her openness and how she loves to share things, so that's always a plus.

She's got a degree in English, so the conversation naturally flowed to books and things like that, which was awesome because she's clearly passionate about her work and likes to talk about literature. I can sort of hold my own when talking about literature, especially as I steered the conversation towards the books that you always read during high school, so it was great to find the common ground. The conversation just flows so effortlessly with her. Ended up grabbing a late dinner after the match and continued the conversation there, went through a whole laundry list of topics. Night ended with a kiss, so there's definite interest on her end which is a 180 from our last date. Already got a good confirmation of another date, so I gotta think of something to do next week. All in all, a weird week, but ended very nicely.

I gotta ask, how do you guys feel about focusing on one person versus keeping others in play? I mean, I got a few conversations going right now on OKC and Tinder that will lead to dates, but I'd prefer to focus on this girl especially since I like her and now she's reciprocated. It's a numbers game, but there's only so many numbers you can keep in your mind at a time.

 

[davepoobond]

Just got back from an amazing night. We ended up meeting before the roller derby at a bar to grab something to drink and had a really good conversation. Continued it as we walked to the venue and kept talking through the match. There were a few pauses, but nothing super awkward since she's quite adept at keeping the conversation flowing. I'm confident in my ability to carry a conversation, but it was nice not having to take the entire load since she enjoys talking about herself and is really open. We even talked about her openness and how she loves to share things, so that's always a plus.

She's got a degree in English, so the conversation naturally flowed to books and things like that, which was awesome because she's clearly passionate about her work and likes to talk about literature. I can sort of hold my own when talking about literature, especially as I steered the conversation towards the books that you always read during high school, so it was great to find the common ground. The conversation just flows so effortlessly with her. Ended up grabbing a late dinner after the match and continued the conversation there, went through a whole laundry list of topics. Night ended with a kiss, so there's definite interest on her end which is a 180 from our last date. Already got a good confirmation of another date, so I gotta think of something to do next week. All in all, a weird week, but ended very nicely.

sounds like a swell time. hope it works out

I gotta ask, how do you guys feel about focusing on one person versus keeping others in play? I mean, I got a few conversations going right now on OKC and Tinder that will lead to dates, but I'd prefer to focus on this girl especially since I like her and now she's reciprocated. It's a numbers game, but there's only so many numbers you can keep in your mind at a time.

from my experience, I'd say it depends on how much work is involved...

for some god awful reason, i had two people i was actually texting at the same point (and they both had similar names, so that didn't help) and I was stressed out keeping both going. one of them ended up not being interested, so i didn't have to maintain that anymore, but the other one turned into a psycho so i had to start ignoring her completely.


.......... i guess it just depends on how much time you want to spend on it.

 

[GoodMorningPluto]

Just got home from a date. It was my first date I set-up online and it was... frightening. Girl looked nothing like her photos – at least twice the weight, face full of acne, etc. I didn't had the courage to straight out say no to her, so we walked and talked for half an hour, then she said she wanted to eat, so I left her at nearby Burger King, wished her farewell and bailed out.
I'm going to another in a few hours, but at least I know while the girl is not that attractive, she is not an overweight monster and I only seek friendship with her.
There was also third girl who said yes to my suggestion to hang out and gave me her number. We texted for a bit, then I called her to set up a time a place. She didn't picked up the phone. I called her again after an hour, and this time she just declined a phone call, which led me to wonder why she even bothered to give me her number if she didn't intend to meet.

 

[GK86]

Ended up getting stood up by the woman. Waited around 25 mins before deciding to leave. She later apologized. I doubt I will bother with her anymore.

I turned the night into a guys night with Jipan and Dr. evil, so it wasn't a total loss.

 

[Septimius]

I gotta ask, how do you guys feel about focusing on one person versus keeping others in play? I mean, I got a few conversations going right now on OKC and Tinder that will lead to dates, but I'd prefer to focus on this girl especially since I like her and now she's reciprocated. It's a numbers game, but there's only so many numbers you can keep in your mind at a time.

When you start to feel good about one girl you're seeing, I can't really see why I'd make it more complicated for myself by seeing more girls at the same time. The moment you find someone you like and you have a great connection, keep building that up. Why spend energy elsewhere when you've already found something you want to focus on?

Don't tell all the other girls to go away. There's nothing wrong with keeping conversations going. But, perhaps preclude yourself from going on a date with any of them, while you're figuring out this girl? Otherwise, you'll either sit at a date, and find they're not as good as the current girl, then basically waste both people's time. Or, you'll find someone that peaks your interest, and your mind will be all syduck: and you won't know what to do. So.. I think it makes sense to have one at a time, when you feel things are interesting and might go somewhere.

Just got home from a date. It was my first date I set-up online and it was... frightening. Girl looked nothing like her photos – at least twice the weight, face full of acne, etc. I didn't had the courage to straight out say no to her, so we walked and talked for half an hour, then she said she wanted to eat, so I left her at nearby Burger King, wished her farewell and bailed out.

Ahaha. Amazing stuff Hope it gets better from here, man

 

[davepoobond]

Ended up getting stood up by the woman. Waited around 25 mins before deciding to leave. She later apologized. I doubt I will bother with her anymore.

I turned the night into a guys night with Jipan and Dr. evil, so it wasn't a total loss.

Did she have an excuse? Surprised she even bothered apologizing, like wtf is she doing, "whoops forgot to get ready for the date I planned"

 

[GK86]

Did she have an excuse? Surprised she even bothered apologizing, like wtf is she doing, "whoops forgot to get ready for the date I planned"

Yeah, she said she got called into a meeting last minute. Regardless if the excuse was legit, I can't bother with anyone that doesn't have the courtesy to give the other person a heads up on what is happening.

 

[Septimius]

Yeah, she said she got called into a meeting last minute. Regardless if the excuse was legit, I can't bother with anyone that doesn't have the courtesy to give the other person a heads up on what is happening.

If she got called into a meeting, and the first thing she did wasn't to let you know she couldn't make it? That's just bad form.

 

[EloquentM]

Ok guys. First date with the future wifey today. Wish me luck

 

[Septimius]

Ok guys. First date with the future wifey today. Wish me luck

I think it's nice that you think that way. But remember not to come on more strongly than she is. That can be off-putting to her

 

[EloquentM]

I think it's nice that you think that way. But remember not to come on more strongly than she is. That can be off-putting to her

But I can't help it, she's the one! I know it.

 

[GK86]

But I can't help it, she's the one! I know it.

You are putting unnecessary pressure on yourself and on her.

 

[EloquentM]

Lol No one ever see's through my dramatic posting style. Truth is she's a great girl that I haven't even met yet so expectations are indeed in check. Date will be light and spontaneous. Don't you worry about me guys, I'm a bit more level headed than I let on. Oh, we're going wine tasting btw ☺️ so here's to hoping things get more interesting than they already are, cheers! I'll let you know how it goes.

 

[Amalthea]

What's with random guys from different countrys contacting me on Facebook. Small talk, making compliment about my look. Then the last one asked me to go in vacation in his country. Of course I told him I can't and he stopped right there.

Are they just desperate or is this some kind of scam?

 

[EloquentM]

What's with random guys from different countrys contacting me on Facebook. Small talk, making compliment about my look. Then the last one asked me to go in vacation in his country. Of course I told him I can't and he stopped right there.

Are they just desperate or is this some kind of scam?

Lol probably both

 

[davepoobond]

I agree anyhow GK. IMO the meeting thing sounds like a bad excuse. Especially since she can at least send a quick text before it starts.

Kind of like "I'm washing my hair"

What's with random guys from different countrys contacting me on Facebook. Small talk, making compliment about my look. Then the last one asked me to go in vacation in his country. Of course I told him I can't and he stopped right there.

Are they just desperate or is this some kind of scam?

You should come to America and take a vacation. Also give me your bank account info ASAP

 

[geestack]

When you start to feel good about one girl you're seeing, I can't really see why I'd make it more complicated for myself by seeing more girls at the same time. The moment you find someone you like and you have a great connection, keep building that up. Why spend energy elsewhere when you've already found something you want to focus on?

Don't tell all the other girls to go away. There's nothing wrong with keeping conversations going. But, perhaps preclude yourself from going on a date with any of them, while you're figuring out this girl? Otherwise, you'll either sit at a date, and find they're not as good as the current girl, then basically waste both people's time. Or, you'll find someone that peaks your interest, and your mind will be all syduck: and you won't know what to do. So.. I think it makes sense to have one at a time, when you feel things are interesting and might go somewhere.

Thanks for the insight Septimius. Sometimes it feels like you've got an expiration date with some of these convos though, the window can close on some people really fast.

As a side note, as I was driving home late last night (early this morning?) after the date, In The Air Tonight by Phil Collins came on over my Spotify, so totally felt straight out of Miami Vice.

Ok guys. First date with the future wifey today. Wish me luck

Good luck man!

 

[EloquentM]

When you start to feel good about one girl you're seeing, I can't really see why I'd make it more complicated for myself by seeing more girls at the same time. The moment you find someone you like and you have a great connection, keep building that up. Why spend energy elsewhere when you've already found something you want to focus on?

Don't tell all the other girls to go away. There's nothing wrong with keeping conversations going. But, perhaps preclude yourself from going on a date with any of them, while you're figuring out this girl? Otherwise, you'll either sit at a date, and find they're not as good as the current girl, then basically waste both people's time. Or, you'll find someone that peaks your interest, and your mind will be all syduck: and you won't know what to do. So.. I think it makes sense to have one at a time, when you feel things are interesting and might go somewhere.

I feel the same way. Some people don't and I've argued with them before (to no avail) but this is the way to go for me. Besides my brain is always moving anyway. It's hard for me to keep track of more than one woman.

 

[MrToughPants]

I'm joking. My point is

A) we talk and go out. Fuck. I dump her. She still goes to gym. It is awkward.

B) we talk. I don't agree to go out with her. See her at gym. It is awkward.

C) we don't talk. I ignore the shit out of her. See her at the gym. Am confronted about ignoring. It is awkward.

D) we get together and live happily ever after. I get fat and stop going to the gym.


All roads lead to nowhere man. I'm joking that I should just stop going to the gym before any of these options take place.

E) You meet, and fuck a few times. Puts her pictures back up on PoF while making plans with me and sleeping with me. Tells me shes married after using me as her fuck stud. You call her out on her lying, putting you at risk for STDs, and call her a whore. Still go to the same gym. She's back on POF after saying she needs to get her life straight and end her messy marriage.

 

[Septimius]

Thanks for the insight Septimius. Sometimes it feels like you've got an expiration date with some of these convos though, the window can close on some people really fast.

Then let those windows close. Who cares? Sure, many people say it's a numbers game. But when you start playing the numbers, you forget to meet the people. That's what this would be.

E) You meet, and fuck a few times. Puts her pictures back up on PoF while making plans with me and sleeping with me. Tells me shes married after using me as her fuck stud. You call her out on her lying, putting you at risk for STDs, and call her a whore. Still go to the same gym. She's back on POF after saying she needs to get her life straight and end her messy marriage.

F) They meet, go on a few dates, end up sleeping together. He's such a stud in bed that he fucks her so good she squirts. She's never done this before, so she's flabbergasted and nonplussed by the mess. Halcyon has to put these sheets away for laundry. On his way he slips and knocks his head. He goes into a coma and gets out weeks later. All his muscles have atrophied. She feels guilty and stays by his side. He gets through physical rehabilitation, and is miraculously back on his feet.

This is when she decides to tell him that she's been having an affair with you, MrToughPants, for the past three months. He wonders how the hell that could've happened, seen how they've been together for two and a half, but she shrugs. He gets bummed out and starts drinking. He punches some random dude at a bar. He gets knocked down, and has to go through the physical rehabilitation again. She's back, this time set to stay at his side, proper. He's later done with physical therapy, yet again. This is when he decides to tell her that he's been having an affair for the last month, which she finds strange, since he's been in a coma for parts of that affair. Still, she's heartbroken and leaves. They still go to the same gym. Things are really awkward.

Yeah, I realize why you have to stop going to that gym now, Halcyon.

 

[Amalthea]

Lol probably both

Likely. Creepy. Very creepy.

 

[Halcyon]

Then let those windows close. Who cares? Sure, many people say it's a numbers game. But when you start playing the numbers, you forget to meet the people. That's what this would be.



F) They meet, go on a few dates, end up sleeping together. He's such a stud in bed that he fucks her so good she squirts. She's never done this before, so she's flabbergasted and nonplussed by the mess. Halcyon has to put these sheets away for laundry. On his way he slips and knocks his head. He goes into a coma and gets out weeks later. All his muscles have atrophied. She feels guilty and stays by his side. He gets through physical rehabilitation, and is miraculously back on his feet.

This is when she decides to tell him that she's been having an affair with you, MrToughPants, for the past three months. He wonders how the hell that could've happened, seen how they've been together for two and a half, but she shrugs. He gets bummed out and starts drinking. He punches some random dude at a bar. He gets knocked down, and has to go through the physical rehabilitation again. She's back, this time set to stay at his side, proper. He's later done with physical therapy, yet again. This is when he decides to tell her that he's been having an affair for the last month, which she finds strange, since he's been in a coma for parts of that affair. Still, she's heartbroken and leaves. They still go to the same gym. Things are really awkward.

Yeah, I realize why you have to stop going to that gym now, Halcyon.

At least now you're joining in the humor instead of trying to be pragmatic.

 

[EloquentM]

Why do people say be yourself? Who else am I supposed to be?

 

[Septimius]

Who said that?

It's normally the sign that they feel like there's something incongruent with you. Could be a ton of things.

 

[PlayALLtheGames]

Why do people say be yourself? Who else am I supposed to be?

Well, you're not "supposed to be" anyone else, but some people have a habit of trying, in hopes of impressing the other person with a character they think the person will like, but one that isn't actually them.

 

[j0hnnix]

So last night I started talking with a girl from Tinder, it went on until 1am and she wanted to get some rest and I needed to be up for work at around 5am she initiates the gnight and messages me in the morning(i was still asleep) so I message her in the afternoon with a joke about good morning and she comes back as its almost evening - I found it funny. We chatted a bit and she mentions she is taking her nieces to the movies so I went ahead and sent her my number and told her to enjoy the movie and message me after.. I don't want to be needy, if she does msg me what should be the next step? Coffee/Lunch?

 

[EloquentM]

No, I just told my friends I was nervous and that's the response I got.

 

[Dabookerman]

Ok, how do you guys juggle multiple women that you're dating?

 

[Smiley90]

Ok, how do you guys juggle multiple women that you're dating?

Depends on how many dates you've been on. I'm trying to juggle 3 atm and it's actually not too bad. It makes me less over-texty and "clingy" with just putting my hopes into one. I can be more casual about it, and that's usually a good thing as I tend to get invested too much too quickly.

Just text each one every couple days if they don't make the effort themselves, focus on conversation ON the actual dates.

 

[BIGWORM]

Depends on how many dates you've been on. I'm trying to juggle 3 atm and it's actually not too bad. It makes me less over-texty and "clingy" with just putting my hopes into one. I can be more casual about it, and that's usually a good thing as I tend to get invested too much too quickly.

Just text each one every couple days if they don't make the effort themselves, focus on conversation ON the actual dates.

Same. Dating 3, and currently texting around 7 or 8 outside of the three.

 

[UFRA]

But I can't help it, she's the one! I know it.

Maybe she doesn't know it yet, and you're going to come off as far too attached too quickly.

Take it easy or you could ruin it right off the bat dude...

Edit: saw your other post, ok, I will trust you.

 

[Smiley90]

Same. Dating 3, and currently texting around 7 or 8 outside of the three.

I'm not contacting anyone new atm, I don't think I can handle more than 3 lol. If they don't work out I'll get back to it, but for now I'm happy with what I have. I mean, I don't wanna accidentally have to ignore someone I've messaged because it works out with one of the 3.

 

[Dabookerman]

Depends on how many dates you've been on. I'm trying to juggle 3 atm and it's actually not too bad. It makes me less over-texty and "clingy" with just putting my hopes into one. I can be more casual about it, and that's usually a good thing as I tend to get invested too much too quickly.

Just text each one every couple days if they don't make the effort themselves, focus on conversation ON the actual dates.

Cheers, good advice

 

[freshair]

Welp, I think it's back to square one for me. After a marathon run of first dates in the past 2 weeks (9!), I think I'm taking a step back. I think I was using it as an ego boost to fill a void in my life that I wasn't exactly happy with (job / living situation) so I used it as a distraction.

But when it comes down to it, I need to be happy with myself first before I can let anyone else be part of it. It's good to know that I can be successful in that area (well, as far as securing dates, making a move, sleeping with girls) so now I can divert focus elsewhere, as I was single/in a dry spell (not anymore woo!) for a year after my ex and I broke things off.

I'll still participate in this thread though because I can see it working for a lot of people and I want everyone to succeed!

/end livejournal

 

[Jhoan]

Yeah........ so I'm pretty sure I'm no longer going to be a virgin as of this Thursday afternoon (I'm 26). I landed myself a DTF date with a 23 year old white girl. The girl is coming over to my place since her place is packed with family. She works during the weekends and is in need of some fun (not looking for a relationship) that she sent me a wink.

I took the hint; told I can provide her with fun. It's on like Donkey Kong. Admittedly, I'm kind of nervous as I won't tell her it's my first time but have read plenty of sex tips articles. I know I'm going to finish fast the first time around. Do have condoms in my room but plan getting several more condoms when I go to the gym.

She's been telling me what what positions make her orgasm, what kind of things turn her on (wants her hair pulled hard and wants to be spanked), that she loves sex, what she plans on doing to me and we have been sending back and forth super sexual texts. Then she sent me a bunch of pics...and yeah...... I was cynical at first but then.... Sweet Jesus!

The gifs sum up my reactions in chronological order:

And yes, I have the obligatory "I had sex" gifs ready to go after she leaves and it's all said and done.

So what do I do GAF? Any tips on how to relax? My heart is going to be racing like there's no tomorrow. I'm in shape so I'm not self-conscious about my body thankfully.

 

[Randam]

Yeah........

oh man,

 

[Charlie McCarthy]

Jipan, if your worried about letting go too soon, just jack it a couple of times throughout the day. I used to do this when I was younger, now I have the opposite problem of lasting too long and really have to focus to get over the line sometimes. Also hate to say it but articles won't prepare for the real thing. Admittedly my first time was before the internet so no real info out there, but I remember being quite overwhelmed, there is no way I would have remembered anything I had read.

Also surprised your a virgin man, I have seen pics of you and your a good looking dude. Anyway good luck buddy, you got this.

Edit- Just seen your edit about staying relaxed. I can only speak from my own experience but my first time I was very nervous but so was the girl I was with so I guess this made it easier. I was also 17. Being 26 and more mature will probably make you a little more relaxed and less overwhelmed but its hard to say. Id say unless she somehow has the impression that your some sex god, that you will be fine and if she notices your nerves just say you always get a bit nervous with a new girl. Stick to the basics and don't try and be a porn star and you will be fine.

 

[Jhoan]

Jipan, if your worried about letting go too soon, just jack it a couple of times throughout the day. I used to do this when I was younger, now I have the opposite problem of lasting too long and really have to focus to get over the line sometimes. Also hate to say it but articles won't prepare for the real thing. Admittedly my first time was before the internet so no real info out there, but I remember being quite overwhelmed, there is no way I would have remembered anything I had read.

Also surprised your a virgin man, I have seen pics of you and your a good looking dude. Anyway good luck buddy, you got this.

Edit- Just seen your edit about staying relaxed. I can only speak from my own experience but my first time I was very nervous but so was the girl I was with so I guess this made it easier. I was also 17. Being 26 and more mature will probably make you a little more relaxed and less overwhelmed but its hard to say. Id say unless she somehow has the impression that your some sex god, that you will be fine and if she notices your nerves just say you always get a bit nervous with a new girl. Stick to the basics and don't try and be a porn star and you will be fine.

I'm still looking over the pics she sent me in disbelief; definitely hiding them in a secret folder outside my phone. She looks so different once the clothes are off compared to when she's clothed in Tinder! Holy crap! Bras do boobs wonders so when they come off and physics does its thing, it's a different ball game. She told me she's shy in person but once her clothes come off, a whole new different beast comes out to play. Also said she's self-conscious about giving me a lap dance when I asked her because doesn't like wearing underwear but said she would warm up to giving a lap dance in the future (FWB/weekly booty call confirmed).

She also told me that she's insecure about her boobs which I told her look nice. After all the naughty things I told her I was gonna do to her, she definitely does have the impression that I'm a sex god. When she asked me what my favorite positions are, I told her doggy style and reverse cowgirl. Oh brother.

She wanted me to send her some nudes so I obliged and emailed her some. I immediately deleted my sent folders and inbox to clean my tracks. I don't want that thing coming back to bite me in the ass.

Admittedly, I have a serious confession to make: I've never masturbated before. Not even trolling. I've gotten super strong sexual urges to watch porn every now and then to the point where I've gotten excited and climax but never got the urge to fap. Last time I saw porn was early last month. I tried to fap but couldn't bring myself to do it beyond a few seconds. Usually my will power not to watch porn is super strong that I can go several months without watching it since I know the deal on porn induced sexual dysfunction.

As a side effect of not fapping, I get wet dreams regularly at least twice a month. On the plus side, I can get excited super easily by using my imagination/fantasizing, touching women, and reading other GAF members' sexual experience posts. Like her, I have a ton of sexual energy pent up ready to explode (she hasn't had sex in 2.1 months) . Unlike her however, it's been a damn year and change since I almost had sex but got the misfortune to experience the misery that was blue balls for the first time instead and posted about it on GAF. It makes me cringe just thinking about how god awful of a pain it was as I type this. Hell, I haven't kissed a girl in over a year as well and have been longing to experience it.

And thanks man. You don't believe how many times I've gotten "You're a virgin!? But you're so handsome! Why if I were in shoes, I would have been getting laid everyday!"

Regarding your edit, I think you're right. Ultimately actions speak louder than words so I'll have to apply everything that I've learn to practice. Licking the area underneath the breasts, tons of foreplay and teasing before getting down to the action, running the hands along the curves, and massaging. I think I'm going to ask her to give me a massage if I'm feeling tense/nervous. I need to learn how to put on a condom before then.

Funny because my I saw my doctor last week and when she asked me if I was sexually active yet, I told her that maybe soon, and she said that I'm going to have to get tested from every check up in the future and to use condoms. Not look forward to that but hey it's for my health. =/

Any way, it's day light here in NYC as it's almost 7:30AM. I better get off GAF, put away my dinner, floss and brush up, and get some shut eye. My brothers are going to be incredibly happy when I tell them that their little brother is finally handing in his V-card. Thank you based Tinder.

 

[GK86]

My advice: Don't be in a rush to fuck like a jack rabbit. Since it is your first time, let her control the tempo of the whole thing. If you don't last the first time, don't let it get you down. Just regroup and go for another round.

Also beer might help. Have one or two before doing the deed.

 

[Funky Papa]

And the world loses another wizard.

 

[jb1234]

Depends on how many dates you've been on. I'm trying to juggle 3 atm and it's actually not too bad

WHAT? NOW THERE'S THREE?!

 

[E92 M3]

-Snip-

I am happy you for you, man! What's her name? We got a put a name to this person

 

[Jhoan]

My advice: Don't be in a rush to fuck like a jack rabbit. Since it is your first time, let her control the tempo of the whole thing. If you don't last the first Tims, don't let it get you down. Just regroup and go for another round.

Also beer might help. Have one or two before doing the deed.

WTF?! You're up?! I had a feeling you would be lurking. Was going to text you the news but figured it'd be best to let GAF know since I've chronicled a good chunk of my dating life in my 20s on GAF.

To answer your post directly, I think I'm definitely going to have to buy a case of beer for sure. We also have a half a bottle of Brugal that my older bro brought us from his trip to the D.R. last month.

And in slightly other news, I was so close to getting another date off Tinder before I got my first block simply for asking the girl if her family event was on both Saturday and Sunday since I told her I was confused. She probably got frustrated, said can't deal with it, and pulled the plug. Oh well, I'm not even made because of the said event so zero hoots given.

LMAO! at Funky Papa's post. Si no habia sido este verano, entonces Yo no iba tener tiempo salir con mujeres durante mi ultimo semestre de universidad en el otoño. Entonces me iba quedar virgen por otro vario meses.

EDIT: @ E92 M3, Christina is her name. She's my first, my last, my everything.

All right enough. GAF is too much of a drug. I'll be back in a couple of hours. I await the inevitable half of NYC GAF popping in with congratulatory posts. I'm gonna do it number47.

 

[DoktorEvil]

Uh Jipan I think you might've bitten of more you can chew here.

You don't want to tell a woman you can fuck like a pornstar when you've never did it. All the porn in the world doesn't prepare you for the real thing. Trust me, porn sex =! Real sex.

I'm also really surprised you're a virgin. Figuring with the amount of dating you do, you'd crush on a regular basis.

Just realize foreplay and communication are going to be your best friends here. If she's not a virgin and she's a little insecure, let her guide you first so she's in control. Take your time between going in and out, don't go too fast if you're not used to it, and while positions are great to throw around, stick to 2-3 positions that will be easy for you and make her feel good. Less is more. Mish, CG, and doggie are common ones.

Also, I'd highly recommending measure yourself to figure out a right sized condom for the deed. The smaller & tighter the condom is, the most restrictive your blood is going to be down there and you'll feel nothing.

 

[GK86]

Don't drink brugal and don't have more than two beers. You don't want to get to a point where you can't really remember or enjoy the experience. The beer is just to relax you (and her) a bit.

 

[E92 M3]

WTF?! You're up?! I had a feeling you would be lurking. Was going to text you the news but figured it'd be best to let GAF know since I've chronicled a good chunk of my dating life in my 20s on GAF.

To answer your post directly, I think I'm definitely going to have to buy a case of beer for sure. We also have a half a bottle of Brugal that my older bro brought us from his trip to the D.R. last month.

And in slightly other news, I was so close to getting another date off Tinder before I got my first block simply for asking the girl if her family event was on both Saturday and Sunday since I told her I was confused. She probably got frustrated, said can't deal with it, and pulled the plug. Oh well, I'm not even made because of the said event so zero hoots given.

LMAO! at Funky Papa's post. Si no habia sido este verano, entonces Yo no iba tener tiempo salir con mujeres durante mi ultimo semestre de universidad en el otoño. Entonces me iba quedar virgen por otro vario meses.

EDIT: @ E92 M3, Christina is her name. She's my first, my last, my everything.

All right enough. GAF is too much of a drug. I'll be back in a couple of hours. I await the inevitable half of NYC GAF popping in with congratulatory posts. I'm gonna do it number47.

Nice I expect a full after-action report on Friday.

 

[Funky Papa]

LMAO! at Funky Papa's post. Si no habia sido este verano, entonces Yo no iba tener tiempo salir con mujeres durante mi ultimo semestre de universidad en el otoño. Entonces me iba quedar virgen por otro vario meses.

Eh

I know desperation better than anybody. I was a sexless being for over five years and nearly had no contact with the opposite sex for close to 8 years. I'm immensely looser these days, but I'm still the spitting image of the awkward penguin meme.

Never marry to your job.

 

[Kyne]

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o_o yeahhhh I'm going to need a full recap whenever that evening is over.

First off, every girl knows when it's a guys first time almost 99% of the time. Just try to be calm about it when the cat gets out of the bag. Don't make it a big deal or you might scare her off. I'm sort of in disbelief on the masturbating thing.. but yeah.. you might want to regulate that before the whole evening happens.

goodluck!

 

[Charlie McCarthy]

I will break your post up and reply bit by bit.

I'm still looking over the pics she sent me in disbelief; definitely hiding them in a secret folder outside my phone. She looks so different once the clothes are off compared to when she's clothed in Tinder! Holy crap! Bras do boobs wonders so when they come off and physics does its thing, it's a different ball game. She told me she's shy in person but once her clothes come off, a whole new different beast comes out to play. Also said she's self-conscious about giving me a lap dance when I asked her because doesn't like wearing underwear but said she would warm up to giving a lap dance in the future (FWB/weekly booty call confirmed).

Haha all girls love to pull the "im shy" card, but clearly she isn't too shy if she is sending you nudes. Also from what I read in the rest of your post (which I will get to), even a lap dance may push you over the edge, but not wearing underwear? Gotta love that!

She also told me that she's insecure about her boobs which I told her look nice. After all the naughty things I told her I was gonna do to her, she definitely does have the impression that I'm a sex god. When she asked me what my favorite positions are, I told her doggy style and reverse cowgirl. Oh brother.

Yeah doggy is always a favourite but its probably one of the positions which will make you come quickly as a beginner (that view when her head is down and the curve in the back). For me girl on top pretty much guarantees I won't come. I have never came with the girl on top, so this may be a good place for you to start. Best position for me personally when I need to finish, is a variation of doggy where the girl lays on her stomach with her legs together. Pull her hands behind her back for extra leverage haha. But really there are no "bad" positions, even the not so good ones, there are far worse things you could be doing

She wanted me to send her some nudes so I obliged and emailed her some. I immediately deleted my sent folders and inbox to clean my tracks. I don't want that thing coming back to bite me in the ass.

That can be risky if it all goes pear shaped but you have nudes of her so I guess it will be ok, but you never know.

Admittedly, I have a serious confession to make: I've never masturbated before. Not even trolling. I've gotten super strong sexual urges to watch porn every now and then to the point where I've gotten excited and climax but never got the urge to fap. Last time I saw porn was early last month. I tried to fap but couldn't bring myself to do it beyond a few seconds. Usually my will power not to watch porn is super strong that I can go several months without watching it since I know the deal on porn induced sexual dysfunction.

Now this part just blew my mind! I seriously cannot imagine getting to 26 years old and never blowing a load. Not having a go or anything man but why? This changes everything, just seeing a vagina or touching boobs could send you over the edge. I, like most guys I assume, have been masturbating since we were teenagers and the sexual urge being so strong that I just can't imagine this. Again man hope you don't think I am having a go at you, because I'm not. I sometimes wish I didn't have such a strong urge for sex, as I would get a hell of a lot more done. It really does consume a lot of my life and thoughts for better or worse.

As a side effect of not fapping, I get wet dreams regularly at least twice a month. On the plus side, I can get excited super easily by using my imagination/fantasizing, touching women, and reading other GAF members' sexual experience posts. Like her, I have a ton of sexual energy pent up ready to explode (she hasn't had sex in 2.1 months) . Unlike her however, it's been a damn year and change since I almost had sex but got the misfortune to experience the misery that was blue balls for the first time instead and posted about it on GAF. It makes me cringe just thinking about how god awful of a pain it was as I type this. Hell, I haven't kissed a girl in over a year as well and have been longing to experience it.

Yeah I still have sexual dreams from time to time but haven't had a wet dream since I was in my early teens. If she has a ton of pent up sexual energy after 2 months, you must have a volcano building up inside of you. Yeah blue balls aren't fun, but for me the cure was just jacking off lol

And thanks man. You don't believe how many times I've gotten "You're a virgin!? But you're so handsome! Why if I were in shoes, I would have been getting laid everyday!"

Yeah, I'd believe you have had that comment before.

Regarding your edit, I think you're right. Ultimately actions speak louder than words so I'll have to apply everything that I've learn to practice. Licking the area underneath the breasts, tons of foreplay and teasing before getting down to the action, running the hands along the curves, and massaging. I think I'm going to ask her to give me a massage if I'm feeling tense/nervous. I need to learn how to put on a condom before then.

The problem with articles is that every girl is different. Some love having their nipples sucked, others it does nothing for them. Some girls only get off on clit stimulation, while others penetration and others a combination of both. Some love being pounded porn style, others love slow and sensual. One thing about asking for a massage though, she may be expecting you to be a "take charge" kind of guy. This puts her in charge and could be a turn off to her. Not trying to be discouraging, just putting that out there.

Funny because my I saw my doctor last week and when she asked me if I was sexually active yet, I told her that maybe soon, and she said that I'm going to have to get tested from every check up in the future and to use condoms. Not look forward to that but hey it's for my health. =/

I honestly think the whole STD thing is very overblown. Yes, there are risks but provided you take the necessary precautions you will be fine. Don't let that play on your mind, pregnancy is by far the greater concern for me.

Any way, it's day light here in NYC as it's almost 7:30AM. I better get off GAF, put away my dinner, floss and brush up, and get some shut eye. My brothers are going to be incredibly happy when I tell them that their little brother is finally handing in his V-card. Thank you based Tinder.

Alright man, godspeed