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I had sex with a woman...then I found out she was married!

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Dinokill

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Yes, for some reason my life is stuck in one big giant mess I can't get out.

I met this good looking lady about two weeks ago in a club. We hit off right of the bat that night; we danced and we talked for the entire night. She told me "I hope I see you next Saturday!" so last week I went to the club by myself and she is there again. After a couple of hours in the club I told her if she would like to go for a walk and she said yes so after about 15 mins of walking we started making out and I asked her is she would like to go to my place and she said yeah. We go to my house and had sex and she left my house about 4:00 am on Sunday.

I really felt good when I was with her so I texted her Sunday afternoon because she honestly was in my mind the whole day. We texted for like 10 hours straight! then I decided to check her on facebook and that's when I found out she was married(pics, relationship status, etc). I confronted her about it and told her to don't contact me again and she texted me and tried to call me for like two days straight. I never responded the texts nor answered the calls but I gave up and called her and she told me how sorry she is but she is miserable in her marriage and she found me very charming, how she likes me and blah blah blah.

Well after about one hour in the conversation she tells me that she wants to see me and I said no but she insisted and insisted and insisted that I finally said yes.

So, she is coming to my house in a few hours and I don't know what to do. I'm mentally weak at this moment(Shitty 2016) and I'm no thinking straight. I just don't want to fucked up even more and ending having sex with her again.
 
Dinokill said:
So, she is coming to my house in a few hours and I don't know what to do. I'm mentally weak at this moment(Shitty 2016) and I'm no thinking straight. I just don't want to fucked up even more and ending having sex with her again.
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I can tell this is a lie to some extent because you bothered to say it. You're trying to give yourself an out for decisions you yourself deem bad.
 
Dinokill said:
So, she is coming to my house in a few hours and I don't know what to do. I'm mentally weak at this moment(Shitty 2016) and I'm no thinking straight. I just don't want to fucked up even more and ending having sex with her again.
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Are you actually going to listen to GAF unlike the other people who make advice threads?

DON'T SLEEP WITH HER AGAIN.

Tell her that if she wants to see you, to get the divorce. You have an excuse the first time, she didn't tell you, but don't be that guy OP.
 
OP already invited her and is now he is asking, "Oh jeez , I don't know if I wanna sex with her again gaf". I mean, you pretty much know the answer already. And I don't blame you. Knowing that it is wrong only makes it that much hotter.

Edit: In case it's not clear, I am for OP banging the shit of this chick a couple of more times. Horniness is probably clouding my judgement like OP.
 
Congrats on the sex, though.

If she's really as unhappy in her marriage as she claims, it was probably really good.

I hope you used protection, though.

Anyway, she doesn't seem to have her shit together, so you're better off not dealing with it. Bad thing for you is that she knows where you live.

Are you in an apartment or a house? If she needs you to buzz her up to your apartment, just don't answer. Also, you might want to block her number.

If you have a house, you could just leave now or pretend not to be there.

Alternatively, you could sit down with her and have an adult conversation. You can tell her in person that you like her, but you cannot, in good conscience, continue an affair with her while she is married and not in the process of leaving her husband.
 
Don't be that guy willingly, tell her you're done when she shows up. Suggest she try counseling and send her on her way. Keep her away from your TVs.
 
You are going to want to wear a condom, and go ahead and make sure renter's insurance is up to date because she will steal your television.
 
You don't have to make this into some big Morality of Cheating thing.

She's in a different place in her life than you are, it's more baggage than you're interested in taking up, that's enough to walk away.
 
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You did all of the right things the first time and then backtracked on at all. That tells me you secretly do want to have sex with her again despite what you say. This situation will only get increasingly complicated the more you involve yourself in it. Your choice though.
 
I was about to say that maybe she is separated...but it sounds like she is just using you to get what she can't from her bad marriage. Even putting mortality aside for a moment, you don't want to be mixed up in this. If she's sloppy and gets caught, you might have some goon knocking down your door for fucking his wife.

If she's coming over tonight, you'll have sex again. Y'all might argue for a few minutes but be real. It's hot and forbidden and what else is there to do? Stop playing like you don't know that.
 
ginger ninja said:
OP already invited her and is now he is asking, "Oh jeez , I don't know if I wanna sex with her again gaf". I mean, you pretty much know the answer already. And I don't blame you. Knowing that it is wrong only makes it that much hotter.

Edit: In case it's not clear, I am for OP banging the shit of this chick a couple of more times. Horniness is probably clouding my judgement like OP.
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Hahaha, the forbidden fruit tastes just a bit sweeter, don't it?
 
You were ignoring her calls, then gave up and called her yourself? That doesn't even make sense. Either you have sex with her again or tell her to fuck off, this isn't that hard and you shouldn't need the internet's help for a situation like this.

edit: I also don't believe any of this is even true.
 
I don't think you need advice. I feel like you're trying to see if we push you in either direction to remove your agency in the situation and avoid potential guilt.
 
You have two options, you can be that guy who knowingly fucks a married woman, or you can not.

NeoGAF's not going to help you because there's people on both sides of the fence here. Some will say that if she's that unhappy, she'll get it from someone else anyway if you're not willing to give it to her, and there will be people who will tell you that you're a bad person for continuing on with the knowledge you have.
 
bootsthecat said:
He already had sex with her, what's one more time going to make a difference with that? Seems the real issue for OP is him getting 'stuck' on her if they fuck again.
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The first time he had sex with her, he didn't know she was married, dude. Now he does. That completely changes things. Not cool.
 
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