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[Winterfang]

I had a bot asked me if I have a yahoo account. Who the fucking hell has a yahoo account in the last 13 years?

If you live in some parts of Asia, you pretty much need a yahoo account. Yahoo is very popular there.

 

[Red_taiyaki]

Hey I found a girl whose enemy rating was 99% and it turned out she was this girl I absolutely loathed back in high school. So it seems good to me!

I sincerely hope you had a chance to ask her the "sushi or pizza" question...

 

[grap3fruitman]

After 2.5 years, a woman finally responded to me. Hope I don't fuck this up. Assuming I haven't already.

 

[Spinluck]

I signed up just to try it, I live in the Broward/Miami area, not one good looking girl is a match.

Haha, I was born and raised there. Will be moving to Orlando soon though.

 

[Interficium]

http://www.okcupid.com/profile/lani14?cf=regular_indirect

Bizarre in a unique way that I haven't seen yet, thought I would share.

Unsurprisingly I'm 88 percent enemy with her.

 

[Loona]

I haven't been in the mood to use the site lately - maybe because of Winter, maybe because most new profiles I see either jave practically nothing written on them or the numbers make for terrible matches.

Got a visit yeaterday from a girl that was the rare exception I noticed a couple of weeks back, but wasn't in the mood to message then, let's see how this goes... She's into dancing and similar music, so I asked for tips of places to go to while mentioning personal favorites - I miss going out for that sort of thing.

 

[WascallyWabbit]

I sincerely hope you had a chance to ask her the "sushi or pizza" question...

No, actually I messaged her saying "high five, we're mortal enemies!" then she revealed herself as remembering me from high school, and I cut off all communications haha

 

[Red_taiyaki]

No, actually I messaged her saying "high five, we're mortal enemies!" then she revealed herself as remembering me from high school, and I cut off all communications haha

wuss

 

[dralla]

People actually give a shit about those match numbers? Seems really silly not to message someone because of that

 

[johnny_park]

People actually give a shit about those match numbers? Seems really silly not to message someone because of that

I agree. I went out with a girl that the highest percentage was the enemy category. She was super cool. We dated for awhile.

 

[WascallyWabbit]

wuss

haha actually she messaged me back saying she was friends with so and so. I replied with a "Cool. good luck with OKC." And then she replied with a "Don't you remember me???"

I cut it off there haha

Edit: regarding the match ratings. If you answer the questions a certain way, they can really filter out things you dislike. For me, I made having kids and being extremely religious as mandatory dealbreakers so people with low match ratings probably fall into those categories

Then again, it's not an exact science, you have to make sure you see the questions they did answer

 

[Red_taiyaki]

haha actually she messaged me back saying she was friends with so and so. I replied with a "Cool. good luck with OKC." And then she replied with a "Don't you remember me???"

I cut it off there haha

Edit: regarding the match ratings. If you answer the questions a certain way, they can really filter out things you dislike. For me, I made having kids and being extremely religious as mandatory dealbreakers so people with low match ratings probably fall into those categories

Then again, it's not an exact science, you have to make sure you see the questions they did answer

Dang, bro. Seems like she was one step away from pulling out the entire childhood crush thing xP.

Yah, that's what I've found out. There's a huge difference between "very important" and "mandatory" when answering the questions. Still, like I like to say percentages be damned.....the only way to measure "true" chemistry is to meet each other face-to-face ASAP. I'll be asking out both of my 95%ers soon.

 

[NobleGundam]

If you're positive that she doesn't deserve another chance, then by all means move on. HOWEVER, if there's any lingering doubt ask her out again. Sometimes it takes people a bit of time to get warmed up to strangers. Don't make the same mistake I did the first time I got a date off OKC two years ago. I built this Godly image of this one girl I was talking to over messaging that she couldn't possibly live up to and ljbf'd her...and I was in a very similar predicament as you (no date in five years).

hah, this happened to me before. I decided to ask her our for a second time and give it another shot, and nope..same thing happened, trying to talk to her was like pulling teeth.

Jedi Masters at sharing experiences in this thread..

I gave eVow a try aannndd doesn't come close to Okc's features and how many girls/ladies within my area. But that depends I guess.

 

[Pastry]

Welp everything is going great with the girl I met from OKC. We agreed that we should be dating each other exclusively while we were out getting drunk last night. She's hot and awesome so don't give up GAF. Don't be afraid of messaging a girl if you think she's out of your league and being bombarded with messages, you might just get a response back.

 

[Wazzim]

I think I might have actually found a cool girl, meeting over 2 weeks (because of work).

Not too long ago I was hating on online dating, joke's on me I guess.

 

[Red_taiyaki]

Jedi Masters at sharing experiences in this thread..

I gave eVow a try aannndd doesn't come close to Okc's features and how many girls/ladies within my area. But that depends I guess.

Heck, I prefer OKC OVER paid sites like eHarmony and Match.com. Also lol Zoosk.

 

[WascallyWabbit]

Welp everything is going great with the girl I met from OKC. We agreed that we should be dating each other exclusively while we were out getting drunk last night. She's hot and awesome so don't give up GAF. Don't be afraid of messaging a girl if you think she's out of your league and being bombarded with messages, you might just get a response back.

I think I might have actually found a cool girl, meeting over 2 weeks (because of work).

Not too long ago I was hating on online dating, joke's on me I guess.

Props, friends! Love to hear these kind of stories

 

[Red_taiyaki]

Props, friends! Love to hear these kind of stories

Indeed! I'm excited to see how this current batch of girls works out for me for the better or worse....either way I'll learn something .

 

[Ramirez]

I tried this out of sheer curiosity. My only visitors have been fat chicks who are not attractive, but I did find one really cute girl who lives close and we have like a 87% match, for whatever that's worth. It said she replied very selectively, so I never expected a response, but she actually did. Be interesting to see where it goes, we've only exchanged 3-4 messages so far, but she seems interested.

 

[johnny_park]

Messaged a girl on pof.

Under first date she wrote: Pfft I'm the girl you plan it.
My message: First date...nice homemade meal. Since you're the girl, you cook it.

Got a laugh out of her. Hopefully I'll get a date out of it.

 

[zlatko]

Messaged a girl on pof.

Under first date she wrote: Pfft I'm the girl you plan it.
My message: First date...nice homemade meal. Since you're the girl, you cook it.

Got a laugh out of her. Hopefully I'll get a date out of it.

HAHA! That's funny. Surprised it got a good response and she didn't get upset by it.

 

[Lasthope106]

This site has been a complete failure for me. I've never realized I'm hideous, live a boring life, and can't communicate worth shit. Hey, but at least Okcupid gave the consolation price and asked me to be a moderator. So I guess there's that...

 

[zlatko]

This site had been a complete failure for me. I've never realized I'm hideous, live a boring life, and communicate worth shit. Hey, but at least Okcupid gave the consolation price and asked me to be a moderator. So I guess there's that...

Your PROFILE may come off this way, which you can always fix, but you're probably none of those things.

GAF has seen some hideous women on these sites, so the good news is if you really are an average/below average looking dude, there is tons of options still available when it comes to women.

As far as your life you don't need to be some superman who does everything. If you have a solid paying job, have some goals in mind for yourself, friends, and interests then you live a good life. If you feel something IS lacking with it though, then you need to build up on that and yourself before trying to branch out to bring someone else into it.

Also, communication is tweakable. You just have to ask for help here and we can see where the few kinks in communication or your profile are.

Don't give up when you have tools available to remedy issues. Most people don't have a OKC GAF thread to help them out with these kinds of things.

 

[Leeness]

So... I'm on POF again. I don't really know why. But it doesn't make me sad when guys stand me up now! Thicker skin, mostly just get annoyed.

But seriously, guys, most of you are men here.

So WHY does "Let's meet! This is where we are meeting! See you at 7!" from YOU, mean "lol I'm gonna stand her up, this is awesome"?

Seriously. I've had four "dates" and been stood up on all of them? Is it THAT horrifying to meet me?

I just don't get it. None of my friends deal with this.

I just don't understand what is so wrong with me. :/ I'm trying to get out there and just put myself out there and have fun and get to know people and get more comfortable.

I am worth getting to know. So why does no one want to?

 

[Sadsic]

So... I'm on POF again. I don't really know why. But it doesn't make me sad when guys stand me up now! Thicker skin, mostly just get annoyed.

But seriously, guys, most of you are men here.

So WHY does "Let's meet! This is where we are meeting! See you at 7!" from YOU, mean "lol I'm gonna stand her up, this is awesome"?

Seriously. I've had four "dates" and been stood up on all of them? Is it THAT horrifying to meet me?

I just don't get it. None of my friends deal with this.

I just don't understand what is so wrong with me. :/ I'm trying to get out there and just put myself out there and have fun and get to know people and get more comfortable.

I am worth getting to know. So why does no one want to?

maybe yr too beautiful

 

[Movement]

So there's an agoraphobic girl who wants me to come over and 'abuse' her. Definitely not something I'd normally be into, but on the other hand it could be fun and I've been wanting to try new experiences. Yay or nay?

Verified she's who she says she is, btw.

 

[Leeness]

maybe yr too beautiful

Funnyyyyy

But really. Why does making plans mean not going through with them?

 

[johnny_park]

Funnyyyyy

But really. Why does making plans mean not going through with them?

Happens to everyone.

 

[Leeness]

Happens to everyone.

Yes, but four times in a row?

I'm 0/4 so far on this site... lol

 

[Sadsic]

Funnyyyyy

But really. Why does making plans mean not going through with them?

kids these days are so invested in their ipads and iphones and super nintendo chalmers that they barely even remember what day it is! yr lucky they even remember to blink

 

[Lasthope106]

So... I'm on POF again. I don't really know why. But it doesn't make me sad when guys stand me up now! Thicker skin, mostly just get annoyed.

But seriously, guys, most of you are men here.

So WHY does "Let's meet! This is where we are meeting! See you at 7!" from YOU, mean "lol I'm gonna stand her up, this is awesome"?

Seriously. I've had four "dates" and been stood up on all of them? Is it THAT horrifying to meet me?

I just don't get it. None of my friends deal with this.

I just don't understand what is so wrong with me. :/ I'm trying to get out there and just put myself out there and have fun and get to know people and get more comfortable.

I am worth getting to know. So why does no one want to?

Let's go out. I'll make it up for the four times you were stood up.

 

[(._.)]

wat

 

[johnny_park]

Yes, but four times in a row?

I'm 0/4 so far on this site... lol

Four times in a row? Geez.

Their loss though.

 

[Leeness]

Four times in a row? Geez.

Their loss though.

It is their loss.

But still. lol...why is this happening?

 

[Count Dookkake]

Perhaps you are subconsciously attracted to flakes.

Or maybe you live in flaky area.

 

[Movement]

It is their loss.

But still. lol...why is this happening?

My guess is that they're extremely nervous to have a date with a woman, and backing out is easier than trying to make it a pleasant experience.
Could be that they have anxiety as well. Any who, you wouldn't want to date someone like that anyway, so it's a way of weeding out someone who wouldn't have been a reliable partner.

 

[johnny_park]

It is their loss.

But still. lol...why is this happening?

No idea. Tell me what the process is usually like. Meaning from pof to the planned meet up.

 

[Liu Kang Baking A Pie]

Gonna be that person and wonder if the story's even legit. We know your anxiety and validation problems, so it's strange that this has happened to you FOUR times before you come in here to talk about it.

 

[Ramirez]

http://www.okcupid.com/profile/StephenERC3?cf=regular

Anything stick out as unneeded or stupid here?

 

[Leeness]

No idea. Tell me what the process is usually like. Meaning from pof to the planned meet up.

I talk with them on POF for a bit, they usually give me their number...we text for a few days. I suggest calling to just get a feel for how we actually speak. They say let's meet up! I say okay. We plan a date and time. And then I go, and they don't, and I never hear from them again lol.

Gonna be that person and wonder if the story's even legit. We know your anxiety and validation problems, so it's strange that this has happened to you FOUR times before you come in here to talk about it.

I'm trying to be less annoying in here lol. I know I'm a pain in the ass so I don't want to be like that on here anymore.

 

[WascallyWabbit]

It is their loss.

But still. lol...why is this happening?

Shit happens, you know? I've been stood up/had girls bail on me many times on this site, and if the timing was slightly worse, i'd prob have 4 times in a row as well

http://www.okcupid.com/profile/StephenERC3?cf=regular

Anything stick out as unneeded or stupid here?

I'm humble, down to earth, and just so easy going it will make you wonder where I've been all you life (your*). ;P

Other than that mispelling, seems fine

EDIT: Why won't you date anyone that's even one year older than you? just curious

 

[Count Dookkake]

I talk with them on POF for a bit, they usually give me their number...we text for a few days. I suggest calling to just get a feel for how we actually speak. They say let's meet up! I say okay. We plan a date and time. And then I go, and they don't, and I never hear from them again lol.

All that talk gives them time to find someone else faster.

 

[Ramirez]

EDIT: Why won't you date anyone that's even one year older than you? just curious

Hmm, only age question I remember answering was double my age. >.>

Thanks for pointing out the typo, I hate that shit.

 

[NobleGundam]

Heck, I prefer OKC OVER paid sites like eHarmony and Match.com. Also lol Zoosk.

Used Zoosk a year or two ago. Never Again lol

I've had 5-6 dates with Girls that I met on a Gaming site than a Dating site.

 

[Leeness]

Shit happens, you know? I've been stood up/had girls bail on me many times on this site, and if the timing was slightly worse, i'd prob have 4 times in a row as well

I guess this is true. D:

All that talk gives them time to find someone else faster.

Nooooo, but I'd like to not get stabbed or anything.

 

[johnny_park]

I talk with them on POF for a bit, they usually give me their number...we text for a few days. I suggest calling to just get a feel for how we actually speak. They say let's meet up! I say okay. We plan a date and time. And then I go, and they don't, and I never hear from them again lol.

That's how it usually goes for me, minus the being stood up part.

 

[Smiley90]

Nooooo, but I'd like to not get stabbed or anything.

(I hope I'm not giving out confidential info here, if so I'll edit)

My advice for that:

 

[Leeness]

That's how it usually goes for me, minus the being stood up part.

Sigh.

(I hope I'm not giving out confidential info here, if so I'll edit)

My advice for that:

http://www.vancitybuzz.com/image.php?src=http://www.vancitybuzz.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Akf2gV2CMAAVS6G.jpg&w=650&a=t[/img]

I'm dying hahahahaha. Yep!

 

[WascallyWabbit]

Hmm, only age question I remember answering was double my age. >.>

Thanks for pointing out the typo, I hate that shit.

Yeah give it a once over for spelling, in my experience when I find one typo, it means i have more

 

[snoopeasystreet]

wat

I dunno, I got this is an email a couple of days ago:

Your personality: Really great
How bad girls want you: So bad
Your profile, as of 8 milliseconds ago: Approved!


Check out our matching system. It's a no pressure, massive game of question and answer with millions of people at once. The more you answer, the better your matches will be!

I just assumed it was marketing to get me using the site more.