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I don't feel guilt, but I don't enjoy it as much as I used to. It comes and goes though, so maybe it's just phase.
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Always feel guilt when playing videogames these days
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BruiserBear
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I turn 36 next month, and I enjoy games as much as I ever have. Got an NES at age 10.
I can't really say I feel guilt about my gaming. Maybe if I go overboard for a week, when a particularly exiting game comes out, I might feel bad I didn't spend as much time with my wife. But she's understanding, and I warn her when a particularly exciting game is coming out, which is only a handful of times a year.
I can't really say I feel guilt about my gaming. Maybe if I go overboard for a week, when a particularly exiting game comes out, I might feel bad I didn't spend as much time with my wife. But she's understanding, and I warn her when a particularly exciting game is coming out, which is only a handful of times a year.
Women hate videogames. Never met a woman who actually likes the idea that their man sits around sometimes playing videogames
don't be sexist, man. i know tons of ladies who love video games.
thetrin
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This is completely and totally untrue. Plenty of women don't mind (or hell, like) a guy that plays video games. I've dated a few myself. They're not GAMERS, per se, but they're understanding, intelligent women that realize that my world doesn't revolve around them, and sometimes I just want to shoot some virtual dudes.
I think working hard and having a career is a waste of time. Life is too short to do shit you don't like.
I know a few that are pretty hardcore, not my gf though.
I know a few that are pretty hardcore, not my gf though.
Not true, I've met around 3. I dated one, she loved mario and things like that. Mainly played PC games though.
thetrin
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One of my best gamer friends is a girl. She plays more games than most guys I know.
(also, no, she is not some sort of maladjusted super nerd. She's gorgeous, intelligent, funny, and scary-good at the games she plays regularly)
(also, no, she is not some sort of maladjusted super nerd. She's gorgeous, intelligent, funny, and scary-good at the games she plays regularly)
RyanReedyMusic
Banned
Im currently 29 going on 30 this July. I have been gaming all my life. I am married, starting up a new recording/music studio. I make sure that all my duties as a husband/self proprietor are completed before I touch my games. My wife seriously enjoys watching me play games as she does her work from her job on the toughbook. Of course I do not game for 10 hours at a time. She has watched me beat Mass Effect 3, Skyrim, Uncharted 3 and more.
You should only feel guilt if there is something you know needs to be done in place of what your doing which is gaming!!!!
Im not sure of your circumstances but I would say there is no reason to feel guilty. In comparison I see adults more and more playing mini games on there Ipad or Phone these days. They are filling there time with something wasteful just as movies or reading a book is. All forms of entertainment can be used to fill a void or be abused. If your doing that then it is wrong. Games are the future of entertainment.
You should only feel guilt if there is something you know needs to be done in place of what your doing which is gaming!!!!
Im not sure of your circumstances but I would say there is no reason to feel guilty. In comparison I see adults more and more playing mini games on there Ipad or Phone these days. They are filling there time with something wasteful just as movies or reading a book is. All forms of entertainment can be used to fill a void or be abused. If your doing that then it is wrong. Games are the future of entertainment.
NaughtyCalibur
Member
I'm 24 and feel guilty when I game only because I have so many things I want to do with my life, many of which require a lot of hard work and sacrifices.
Strangely enough, I see myself having a blast playing games in my 30s so long as I secure myself financially by then. Games are a hobby just like movies and books, and I see no reason to feel ashamed indulging in a perfectly harmless hobby.
Strangely enough, I see myself having a blast playing games in my 30s so long as I secure myself financially by then. Games are a hobby just like movies and books, and I see no reason to feel ashamed indulging in a perfectly harmless hobby.
thetrin
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My point was not that she's hot, but that there are plenty of normal, regular, totally human women that play or appreciate video games.
Hard work and sacrifice is a must for success, but that doesn't mean you can't have fun. In fact, if you don't have fun along the way, you'll go crazy. There's no point trying to cut it out of your life. If you feel it's taking too much of a toll on your ability to succeed, then it's time to cut down a bit.
This. If anyone criticizes you for playing video games, ask them how much time they're wasting watching American Idol or Dancing with the Stars. Games, at least, are interactive and you're developing hand eye co-ordination. What do you get out of television? A couple hours of sitting passively on a chair.
It sounds like this is entirely self-inflicted guilt. If you want to do something more productive, get another hobby. Nothing's stopping you from enjoying games and other things. I like gaming, exercising and photography.
Yeah, this made me pause as well. Books and films are, first and foremost, an entertainment media. Though this could really just be down to a classification issue, but if you're only searching out media that's considered "intelligent" then you're probably misappropriating your time. Now, avoiding media that's considered stupid, on the other hand, isn't. I'm not going to fault anyone who doesn't have the time of day for Twilight.
Kandrick
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I am 31, and i feel the opposite. I feel guilty when i do something else than play. Like, i get home from work or when i have free time, and i feel like playing some games, but then i just fuck around, read GAF, and don't play. And when i hit the bed, i'm like: "sigh, i wanted to play x or y game, but didn't"
stealth edit, the only cure i found, was to play while browsing gaf... so i have to always have my laptop nearby when i play.
stealth edit, the only cure i found, was to play while browsing gaf... so i have to always have my laptop nearby when i play.
it's almost as if women are people, too!
Sir_Crocodile
Member
No. approaching 30 here too, and the only thing I feel guilty about gaming is that I don't have enough time to do a great deal of it.
I am a woman who not only loves video games, I also never wanted to be with any guys who didn't at least have a passing interest in them.
The Albatross
Member
My girlfriend is pretty reasonable about videogames, like she doesn't give me shit for having a 360, PS3, PC, etc., and she doesn't give me crap about playing in general... but let's say that she went shopping for 6 - 8 hours one day, with her girlfriends, to a mall. I'd be perfectly okay with it, I'd be happy she's out doing shit having a good time, don't care if I'm not involved. However, if I happened to play videogames for 6 - 8 hours in a day and she found out about it... Or like I didn't do something else and did that instead, we'd have a talk.
ONCE in a while she'll give me flack for playing Skyrim or something, but I've long maintained, the day she gives up trash TV (she watches every Kardashians, Texas Housewives, JErsey show, etc) is the day I give up videogames.
This will probably get a lot of "my gf doesn't mind," "I'm a woman and I love them" replies, but I find this much more typical -- at least of the women that I date and prefer to date. My GF's have always tolerated my ownership of games and I never hide that I love videogames, but it's always something considered sort of laughable if I'm doing it... Like if she goes out with her girlfriends, she'll make fun of me for playing videogames to them. But, like, if I went out with my friends and she stayed home watching movies, painting her nails, and doing stuff like that, I'd be like hell yeah, supportive of it.
I only feel guilty if I am procrastinating on doing something else that needs to be done. But I would feel that same guilt if I was doing any leisure activity.
I am also 30, but also married. My wife is fine with my gaming habits (as long as I am not blowing off household duties), and will often participate by watching with me or playing co-op. I don't care what anyone else thinks.
I am also 30, but also married. My wife is fine with my gaming habits (as long as I am not blowing off household duties), and will often participate by watching with me or playing co-op. I don't care what anyone else thinks.
Depends really, are you single still? Are all your friends still doing the bar scene? Are you having trouble meeting women through your social cirlces? If so, going out and socializing would be better if you're looking for a mate. Nothing wrong with gaming, but if you're in your 30s with and stuck in the a similar female rut you were in during you 20s ... perhaps its time to reevaluate were you spend your time.
For me, I'm 32 .. married with a child and another on the way. I game more now than when I was a teenager. I play everyday for 3 or so hours after the house goes quite and life is great. I have a friend who is 32, single, wants to have a gf/wife and start growing up. Problem is, he turns down every chance he gets to go out, meet women etc.. to play video games. Nothing wrong per say, but um ... he's still making the same mistakes he did 10 years ago and is not making progress towards his goal of finding a woman.
thetrin
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Let's be fair. If he's having trouble meeting women in his social circles, playing less games isn't going to make it easier. He needs to make major changes to his entire life (not just his gaming habits) to meet potential mates.
Oh my god, you might be on to something.
I'm 34, married, with one kid (5 years old). My wife accepts my gaming hobby, and I've even gotten her into games like Morrowind, Civ 4, Dragon Quest, and Harvest Moon/Rune Factory. I don't have an issue with guilt.
What I do have is a lot of frustration because the games I like to play aren't suitable for a 5-year old to watch/play. Games used to have settings for things like that, but apparently there's no room in the budget for a bleep filter. I'm less concerned about blood & guts than learning offensive language while he's still in "repeat everything he hears" mode.
What I do have is a lot of frustration because the games I like to play aren't suitable for a 5-year old to watch/play. Games used to have settings for things like that, but apparently there's no room in the budget for a bleep filter. I'm less concerned about blood & guts than learning offensive language while he's still in "repeat everything he hears" mode.
tkscz
Member
A ton of homework, mainly from my Unix class. Oh that makes me feel guilty. But like someone else said, it's a hobby, enjoy it. Sure you could go out but if you go out and not have that good of a time, then why did you go out?
This I understand all too well. Bought a friend of mine an N64 for her birthday (she really wanted one) and her two kids love to play Mortal Kombat Trilogy (their father's and my favorite MK). The blood and guts don't bother us because we teach them the difference between fantasy and reality, but cussing is a different story as sometimes when they lose, they let things slip.
the "Women hate it when their men play videogames" thing is usually related to their man's choice of gaming time over domestic duties, rather than act of playing games itself. If your girlfriend or wife gets pissed when you choose to play a game at around the same time that she would choose to watch TV or read (aka leisure time), you chose wrong.
I am sure that I will have less time for gaming when we finally have kids, but right now, I typically have free reign to play games after 8-9pm or so (depends on when I get home in the afternoon), and for one of the two days on the weekend if we don't have obligations. Of course, sometimes I am extra busy with work stuff, or don't have the urge to play a game, so my actual gaming time per week probably averages between 5-10 hours. Some weeks less, some weeks more.
I am sure that I will have less time for gaming when we finally have kids, but right now, I typically have free reign to play games after 8-9pm or so (depends on when I get home in the afternoon), and for one of the two days on the weekend if we don't have obligations. Of course, sometimes I am extra busy with work stuff, or don't have the urge to play a game, so my actual gaming time per week probably averages between 5-10 hours. Some weeks less, some weeks more.
As I said, I enjoy stuff that pushes boundaries, I like to have knowledge of the canon. I like things that have something to say. I don't know why there's something wrong with me using Ebert's great movie list as a guide rather than the IMDB top 100 or whatever. I'm basically saying that most game developers seem content with making populist pulp and that's fine, but I'd rather read a penguin classic or watch a Charlie Kaufman movie. I don't want to always have to turn my brain off when I'm entertained.
Edit: reading about game design and theory is almost as interesting as playing the games themselves these days.
thetrin
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Only one TV in the house? Amateur mistake. There's no reason not to have a dedicated video gaming TV, so your SO can watch whatever they want without interrupting you, and vice versa.
i think it's because browsing the web is "passive"; you could be doing something else at any moment without an issue. gaming is much more interactive, so you're actually focusing on it and "doing" something.
Messofanego
Banned
Sort your life out, mate. Or get better parents who don't deride your gaming.
thetrin
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Shouldn't he feel the opposite then? Shouldn't a passive activity make him feel MORE guilty?
famousmortimer
Banned
By the time you reach your 30s you really should be over things like 'societal pressure.' I think that you aren't is the bigger issue here.
teruterubozu
Member
I don't feel guilt, but as a grow older I find games to be less satisfying. Beat a boss, get #1 in multiplayer, earn an Achievement - yawn, boring, boring. I used to play for hours, but now all I see are gaming cliches that bore me to tears and I quit after about an hour.
well, with a passive activity, at any moment you can get up and go do something else. you're not quite as invested. in the end, of course, you're still wasting time just the same. ;p
Messofanego
Banned
Get into art games.
Well I do live with my mother still but got a new job which I commute 1hr to every day so have postponed where I want to move to. Plus I wanted to save enough to maybe buy something rather than renting my life away. Fuck I think I just need to get away from my mother
thetrin
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I guess I feel more guilty doing something passive, because I can't even say "well, at least I'm doing SOMETHING."
I lived with my mom for a year after I moved back from Japan because the job market tanked right as I arrived back in the states, so I know how it is. All the same, you need to get your life in order. Instead of what people think about your game playing habits, do something about it. Go be more productive. Your guilt sounds like it stems for the fact that you haven't accomplished what you feel you should by your age, and gaming is only making it worse.
Stop playing games for a while. Sounds like you play too much. Get some other hobbies. Go outside. Meet some new people. Then return to gaming in a few months, and see how you feel.
No, because he's made the active choice to do something that's not productive, he's shunned it rather than just ignored it. I do it all the time, Coachella has fucked up the assignment I was meant to be doing
Herbspiceguy
Member
No guilt, but it does make me feel irresponsible at times. I guess it has to do that it's a form of escapism and that there's real life stuff/issues I don't want to deal with.
teruterubozu
Member
Flow, Flower, Journey, blah, blah. Played those too.
chadderbox77
Member
This exactly. That's why I always have either two laptops going at once upstairs, or bring a laptop down to use with my desktop downstairs. If I don't, I"ll read Gaf and Foh all night when I get home from work and never actually play anything, and then feel guilty about wasting my game time.