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Annoying friend is getting creepy
- Thread starter Tunavi
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Kill the girl so he has to come to you for permission to the party. This will be your chance to deny him.
IamMattFox
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An important college lesson learned.Tunavi said:
CommonSense
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In addition, turn off the dave matthews, cut your hair, and stop growing the damn neckbear, emo. No real dude (tm) would ever write this shit because he'd feels his balls shrinking as he typed.
wormstrangler
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Haven't seen a Friday quote, like ever. I like you.Ninja Scooter said:
Vicetrailia
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Oh common OP, it's your house and you should have the balls to express your discomfort. Just tell him, seriously. Just say it. Something will come about it.
SouthernDragon
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Why did you accept something free from someone you don't like? Weird.
OP is dumb.
OP is dumb.
Jason's Ultimatum
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Trojita said:
Lisa needs braces!
CommonSense
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Husker86 said:
I've always believed ripping of the bandaid was a better solution than slowly pulling it off. 15 seconds of being uncomfortable is much more viable to me than 5 weeks of sighs, looks between roomates, and snooty texts the OP is planning on.
Alcibiades
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you have a point here... the other guy might be annoying but him asking a party's host if he could go isn't all that crazy...Aselith said:
Salvor.Hardin
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Thinking about the OP's annoying friend, I feel like he could be a misunderstood Good Guy Greg.
SMT
this show is not Breaking Bad why is it not Breaking Bad? it should be Breaking Bad dammit Breaking Bad
99hertz said:
He should only accept if he is willing to give. There's no other way to go about it without being an ingrate in this situation. If the other party was courteous enough to offer his aid in the OP's time of need, so should the OP.
Forfeit the bike, and he will get the message.
wormstrangler
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To all those saying just tell him to fuck off" I live with a couple of very outspoken girls and even they have held their tonuges in similar situations.
Easier to say it on a msg board than real life.
Easier to say it on a msg board than real life.
Lactose_Intolerant
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The guy almost hit a girl, I can see why you don't want to confront him. He might confuse you for one.
This is a ridiculous story. You sound more creepy than the guy you are talking about.
This is a ridiculous story. You sound more creepy than the guy you are talking about.
You and your roommates? A buncha bitches. It's no wonder this guy is taking advantage of you. You let dude stay at your place then refuse to let him play your Xbox? Were you using it? If no, that's another bitch move son. Stop being passive aggressive. I know this will be difficult for you, but learning to be direct with people is your first step towards growing a pair. You think he's annoying? Then fucking tell him you think he's annoying. What is he going to do? Stop coming over and stop talking to you? Well congratu-fucking-lations, mission accomplished.
Jason's Ultimatum
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3N16MA said:
Hahahahaha.
CommonSense
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wormstrangler said:
Conversely it's 20 times more appropriate to speak your mind and let ytour intentions to be known than to whine like bitches behind a dude's back. If dude is trying to force himself on the emo brigade, and lord knows why he would, he should be told it isn't necessarly his best option in person.
Kitschkraft
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I understand not wanting to be confrontation. And in this case, it sounds like you may even be a bit intimidated (No disrespect).
Passive aggressiveness does work in some instances.
If you really don't want him staying over anymore, and you don't want to just come out and tell him, find other ways to get the point across. Start making jokes about it, make it seem like you are just kidding a bit but be straight enough to get the message in his head that he's a nuisance. Something like "Shut up John, your the "guy on the couch" in this apartment!" or "Damn man, are you fucking homeless?" Try to get your friends to join in and try to get some laughs out of it, he may laugh with you but inside he'll begin to understand the "message". Honestly, sometimes people just don't "get" what sticks out about them.
For instance, when he was like "what are you, possessive over your xbox?" You said that you just walked away? I would have been like "Nope, possessive over my light bill, you trying to let me borrow some electric money?"
Of course, it could backfire miserably, and he may just sort of embrace being the "loser of the group", and might take the "good fun" part of the jabs as acceptance.
Edit : Far as the party thing goes, if it was truly a small get together, that's a time when maybe you should have stood up and just flat out told him. Kicking/blocking someone from your home is one thing, I can understand wanting to tread more lightly, but unless he's a sociopath he should understand why people don't want him to crash a small party. If it's like a huge house party or something....I think you're overreacting.
Passive aggressiveness does work in some instances.
If you really don't want him staying over anymore, and you don't want to just come out and tell him, find other ways to get the point across. Start making jokes about it, make it seem like you are just kidding a bit but be straight enough to get the message in his head that he's a nuisance. Something like "Shut up John, your the "guy on the couch" in this apartment!" or "Damn man, are you fucking homeless?" Try to get your friends to join in and try to get some laughs out of it, he may laugh with you but inside he'll begin to understand the "message". Honestly, sometimes people just don't "get" what sticks out about them.
For instance, when he was like "what are you, possessive over your xbox?" You said that you just walked away? I would have been like "Nope, possessive over my light bill, you trying to let me borrow some electric money?"
Of course, it could backfire miserably, and he may just sort of embrace being the "loser of the group", and might take the "good fun" part of the jabs as acceptance.
Edit : Far as the party thing goes, if it was truly a small get together, that's a time when maybe you should have stood up and just flat out told him. Kicking/blocking someone from your home is one thing, I can understand wanting to tread more lightly, but unless he's a sociopath he should understand why people don't want him to crash a small party. If it's like a huge house party or something....I think you're overreacting.
wormstrangler
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I agree. But I (and even the more direct/confrontantional people I know) have problems doing that. Same for a lot of people.CommonSense said:
Salvor.Hardin
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Kitschkraft said:
Jeez. Is this a serious post?
CommonSense said:
None of what you wrote has anything to do with being assertive. Some of it even sounds a bit sexist.
CommonSense
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EviLore said:
We are speaking about the same generation of men who have been know to talk on their phone all day, text all day, don't work, live with their girlfriends, and let her drive them around. Where do you figure "assertive" comes into their game, good sir?
weekend_warrior
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You kinda sound like an asshole OP. I don't know all the details because your story was vague, but he gave you a bike and your wouldn't even let him use your xbox? Maybe he is overstepping the friendship boundaries, but at least have enough decency to tell him, instead of talking shit behind his back. And if the girl did invite him to her party, hows that any of your business?
So he saw the party on facebook, meaning that either it was an open event or he was allowed to see it in the first place. Either way, he went to the right person for an invitation.
If the guy is being annoying, confront him about it and set (reasonable) boundaries for his staying with you guys. He's also doing you a favor as much as you are doing him one, so be reasonable and mature about this.
If the guy is being annoying, confront him about it and set (reasonable) boundaries for his staying with you guys. He's also doing you a favor as much as you are doing him one, so be reasonable and mature about this.
victreeb3l
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give the kid his bike back and tell him to fuck off. you did bring this upon yourself by accepting it in the first place
Kitschkraft
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Salvor.Hardin said:
If you don't want to outright confront him, I see nothing wrong with nudging him a bit. Especially if he wants to keep the bike (Which is what I'm assuming).
Sorry I'm not all "OMG, pussified American males! Kill the bugger!"
I understand the OP's situation.
Count Dookkake
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wormstrangler said:
Despite being a bitch, OP is not a girl.
Seriously though, Tunavi, just talk to the dude. Kicking him out because he's kind of encroaching and went behind your back to go to somebody else's party by talking to the host is perhaps a bit too much if you haven't talked to him before.
But at the very least, try to steer yourself in the responsible adult direction and not the nerd-rage manchild direction that some of the other posters in the thread are goading you into.
But at the very least, try to steer yourself in the responsible adult direction and not the nerd-rage manchild direction that some of the other posters in the thread are goading you into.
Kitschkraft said:
The problem is you're being a gigantic asshole and literally doing it the most hurtful way that anyone could possibly devise to the person by doing that. Are you some kind of sociopath that you see nothing wrong with that description of how to deal with the person? You're making him figure out that he's not wanted by treating him like a loser and constantly talking shit about him to his face under the guise of joking. Imagine how the person will feel when it hits him what you're doing if you have actual feelings that is and not just your mask of humanity.
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