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Reverend Funk

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I've been trying to fix this about myself recently (I bought a pair of adult heelys and I am to self conscious to use them in public) and I'd like to hear some other peoples advice for getting over it.
 
I used to, but as I grew older I stopped giving a shit.

My advice is that while you will always be judged for something, those that judge you will forget about you in less than 5 minutes.
 
Reverend Funk said:
I've been trying to fix this about myself recently (I bought a pair of adult heelys and I am to self conscious to use them in public) and I'd like to hear some other peoples advice for getting over it.
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Working in customer service did wonders for how I interact with random people on a regular basis. Just going out and doing more shit.
 
No one will remember or care about whatever small embarrassing moments you have. The only people who do are those who need to hang onto those to bring you down to their level because in their head they can't raise themselves up.
 
Reverend Funk said:
I've been trying to fix this about myself recently (I bought a pair of adult heelys and I am to self conscious to use them in public) and I'd like to hear some other peoples advice for getting over it.
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Think about yourself, you're more worried about what a stranger thinks about you than what you think about someone else. What's the last awkward thing you remember someone else doing?
 
CarpeDeezNutz said:
Think about yourself, you're more worried about what a stranger thinks about you than what you think about someone else. What's the last awkward thing you remember someone else doing?
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Yesterday I watched a guy drop literally everything in his wallet while trying to put away his change.
 
I do when my psoriasis is flaring up. It's bad on the front of my shins so avoid walking at people in the summer. Every person i pass i am convinced is looking and horrified at my skin.

It's been 10+ years... I am finally just starting drugs that i Hope help. But what strangers think is a powerful thing in my mind because of my situation.
 
I honestly think it's just an age thing. When it comes right down to it, you're the only person in control of how you feel towards things. You find a coping mechanism that works, be it meditation or working out or finding a creative outlet and you just put your energy into creating something. When you boil it right down you either: A) Continue to let your feelings get in your way, or B) accept that you felt your feelings, and move on putting your energy somewhere constructive.
 
It depends, but, generally yes I care about what they think. I always try to put my best foot forward because I’m not only representing myself, but I’m also representing my agency.

When it comes to advice about getting over it; you have to remember people are going to judge you regardless. So do what makes you happy, if that’s what you want to wear then go for it.
 
Yeah, I'm like this a lot. You know what really helped? I occasionally get the chance to spend a couple of weeks or a month in a different city in which I don't really know anyone. Then you start to walk around and tell yourself "I don't know any of these people and I'm never ever going to see them again." And it makes it easier not to care, both there, and when you get back home. I don't know if you can do something like that, but it made a real difference.
 
One thing you realize when you get older is that most people see too involved in themselves and their own lives to worry about what you are doing.
 
I feel this way about people on the internet. If someone online is clearly annoyed or made unhappy by a post/message I made or someone insults me or just flat-out makes it known that they don't like me it can actually ruin my day.

I don't care in real life though.
 
Strangers notice and care less about you than you think.

Even if something funny happens to a stranger, I maty giggle to myself for a sec, but not like I'm going to stop my day to laugh at the guy (unless it's laugh with them). I got shit to do.

And as first poster said, as you get older, the less you care. It'll take time. If you enjoy your heelies, fucking rock them.

Stop trying to impress people you don't even care about, people.
 
I used to care so much what others thought of me, until one day I thought to myself, why does it matter what they think?" I now wear what I want to wear, how I look, and how I behave. It's actually nice to do what I want and not have anxiety about everyone looking at me and what they might think. The only time I still do think of what others think is for people I am close too, but that's mostly because I don't want them to think I'm a failure or something which I think is understandable.
 
Hell yes I do. Way too much. I always want to please everybody, and when people have a problem with me, I feel like I can always tell... and then I feel like I failed, or did something wrong.
 
Depends. I don't care what people think about my jeans and shirt but I always shave, dress normally and shower when going out for grocery shopping or whatever.

My self consciousness turns up to 11 when doing job interviews though.
 
Naww. Depends of whats its about maybe. But often not

My girlfriend otherwise needs really to calm down about stuff like this. Thinks too much about it.
 
Not at all really. Don't really care what anybody thinks at the end of the day.

Nobody really knows you or what you've been thru. Its nice to live life how you see fit.
 
The "I don't give a fuck" attitude is probably number 1 thing to learn in life. It gives an aura of being much more confident and that leads to success in many areas of life (work, dating etc).
 
PixelatedBookake said:
Working in customer service did wonders for how I interact with random people on a regular basis. Just going out and doing more shit.
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This. Made a life-changing difference for me. It's actually amazing how simple interactions with customers, repeated over several months, can break through inhibitions that can't be worn down by thought alone.

For those of you who are poorly socialized, this is your way out. Just feel the discomfort of rote transactions for a while, then get used to your routine, then get bored of it because you've been through the same thing so many times. Gradually your feelings change and facing people is no big deal any more.

Customer service is ideal for this because you can rack up a bunch of those interactions over a short period of time.
 
Sometimes I feel really shy and self-conscious and other times I bark at strangers on the street.
 
Tagyhag said:
I used to, but as I grew older I stopped giving a shit.

My advice is that while you will always be judged for something, those that judge you will forget about you in less than 5 minutes.
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Yep, that's exactly what got me to stop caring. Everything I used to worry about, I'd think "what would I do if I saw someone do/say/wear that?" and the answer was always that I'd probably to a mental shrug and go on with my day if I even noticed at all.
 
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