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Anyone else regret moving out so early?
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nicoga3000
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If I COULD have lived at home longer, I would have. But I got a job right out of college in another state, so I didn't have that option. 3+ years later, I'm doing OK, but I definitely can't afford a down payment on a house because student loans. :|
SillyEskimo
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I moved out as soon as I graduated high school and have zero regrets. You can only delay growing up so long and I didn't want to delay it a second longer than I had to. I hit some bumps along the way but they were all invaluable learning experiences. I've come across similar (although not as drastic) problems in my adult life and I already knew how to handle them.
Moving out young is very much a trial by fire. Some people can handle it, others cannot. Circumstances may throw you off course and it is up to the individual to correct those instances themselves. I survived and eventually thrived. I can say with confidence that I am a better man because of it. Plus, it was fun as hell.
Moving out young is very much a trial by fire. Some people can handle it, others cannot. Circumstances may throw you off course and it is up to the individual to correct those instances themselves. I survived and eventually thrived. I can say with confidence that I am a better man because of it. Plus, it was fun as hell.
This is what I have done/am doing.
Well my parents were lucky and managed to buy a house in what has now become a good area. If I were to move out quite frankly I'd probably want to stay around here but prices are well out of my range. At the moment I see no rush in moving out and most people my age are in the same boat.
Lasthope106
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I've seen your posts before, and I'm starting to detect a pattern. You are a professional at posting bullshit. 20-27 prime of your life? Please, perhaps physically if you are an athlete and need every ounce of performance you can get. Otherwise, you can have a great time at any point of your life. Maybe you are one of those guys that believe that's the perfect age to get wasted every day of the week, and be with as many girls as possible.
They've caught you masturbating, admit it.
Read the first two pages. Surprised to see that the majority are saying they are glad they moved out. I think there are advantages to both. I'm currently 26. I took 6 years to graduate college, and lived at home all throughout college. I suppose I missed out on a proper college experience, but, considering I didn't know what I wanted to do for the first two years I was in college, I felt better living at home, saving money, and not wasting too much time figuring out what I wanted to do. I did end up graduating with a Bachelor's in Summer of 2010 with a degree I like (Computer Science), and have been working a decent job for the past year and a half. Finally saved up enough cash to, hopefully, get myself a condo in the city. A bit pricey, but this is such a good time to buy. It'll give me an excuse to finally move out, and will hopefully be a good investment that pays off in the future.
I feel very good for where I am at financially. It's hard to say how living at home has hindered me, since I have yet to live away. I do know that, just because you live away from home, doesn't automatically make you more independent. I know people who moved out after high school, but their parents still take care of most of their stuff. I'd like to think I'm fairly independent. I guess I'll know for sure once I move out. I definitely do feel like I am moving out late, but I graduated college late, and didn't want to just move out because I felt like I was at the right age to do so. I wanted to move out when I was financially ready, and, I was in a position to be able to live at home and not have to spend money on rent so I could save up enough to own my own place.
I feel very good for where I am at financially. It's hard to say how living at home has hindered me, since I have yet to live away. I do know that, just because you live away from home, doesn't automatically make you more independent. I know people who moved out after high school, but their parents still take care of most of their stuff. I'd like to think I'm fairly independent. I guess I'll know for sure once I move out. I definitely do feel like I am moving out late, but I graduated college late, and didn't want to just move out because I felt like I was at the right age to do so. I wanted to move out when I was financially ready, and, I was in a position to be able to live at home and not have to spend money on rent so I could save up enough to own my own place.
I'm not moving out until it's a financially viable thing for me to do. All of that BS about "being a man" and being free means shit all if you have to eat crumbs and turn stuff off to save power because you're spending all of your money on bills and partying thanks to your amazing social life.
I'll take having some spending money over all of that if there's a choice involved.
I'll take having some spending money over all of that if there's a choice involved.
BobsRevenge
I do not avoid women, GAF, but I do deny them my essence.
Yeah, I could've paid off about $10k of student loans over the course of a year and saved a shitload on interest. Student loans fucking suck, especially at 6.8%.
I did stay home long enough to pay off my car though, which was a great decision.
edit: I did move out for college, which was a 4 year deal. I might move back to my parents' for grad school.
I did stay home long enough to pay off my car though, which was a great decision.
edit: I did move out for college, which was a 4 year deal. I might move back to my parents' for grad school.
distantmantra
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Nope. I always came home to my parents' place for summers during college, but then I moved away for graduate school. Once I finished grad school, my now-wife and I moved in together and rented for a couple years before buying a house when we were 26.
NOt at all. In fact, I kinda feel sorry for people who lived at home during college, missing out on the proper college experience, and didn't move out until their mid-to-late 20s (or even later).
I basically moved out at 18 when I went to FSU. Sure, I came back home during the Summer (if I didn't have an internship), but it was never permanent. Then I landed a job shortly after graduating and moved to ORlando.
Now sure, I didn't always have extra $$ to go out all the time, but that builds character and teaches you to be responsible. Now that I have the extra $$ and the confidence knowing I made it this far on my own, life's pretty great. I wouldn't be the man I am today without going through all that.
I basically moved out at 18 when I went to FSU. Sure, I came back home during the Summer (if I didn't have an internship), but it was never permanent. Then I landed a job shortly after graduating and moved to ORlando.
Now sure, I didn't always have extra $$ to go out all the time, but that builds character and teaches you to be responsible. Now that I have the extra $$ and the confidence knowing I made it this far on my own, life's pretty great. I wouldn't be the man I am today without going through all that.
Saved me over $30,000.
After hearing the "great weekend" stories from other students (e.g.: sloppy drunk), I don't think I missed out on much.
HisshouBuraiKen
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Nope, I do kinda regret moving so far away though (from CT to SC then Japan then FL), I miss my family a lot, and I feel bad that my kid isn't gonna get to see them more than a couple times a year.
diamondstar
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Hell yes I do. I don't regret taking the burden off my mom but everything else yea pretty much..
The biggest shock that I have realized is that no one really cares. Especially women. I have noticed that they don't see it as a big deal if a guy lives at home. If he is good looking and has money, who the fuck cares.
Being out on my own since 17 has only helped me learn how to cook and pay bills. That is pretty much it.
The biggest shock that I have realized is that no one really cares. Especially women. I have noticed that they don't see it as a big deal if a guy lives at home. If he is good looking and has money, who the fuck cares.
Being out on my own since 17 has only helped me learn how to cook and pay bills. That is pretty much it.
JumpingTheGun
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Hell no. In fact, I should've moved out earlier. I left when I was 20 and never looked back. My parents turned my bedroom into a guestroom within a few weeks.
Wyndstryker
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Didn't move out yet, but I'm in a rather unique scenario. Parents leave every 6 months to do whatever they want to do in their retired life. So I basically get the place for myself in 6 month intervals. This helped me pay of student loans as well as have fun.
Although I want to move out to a new place, chances are I'll still end up going with this 6 month cycle until my parents decide to finally stay in their home country.
How I see it, it really depends on the person. Some people will have a hard time going off on their own while others thrive off it. There are some people I know that should have never left home. I also think different cultures have different attitudes about leaving the home and whatnot.
Although I want to move out to a new place, chances are I'll still end up going with this 6 month cycle until my parents decide to finally stay in their home country.
How I see it, it really depends on the person. Some people will have a hard time going off on their own while others thrive off it. There are some people I know that should have never left home. I also think different cultures have different attitudes about leaving the home and whatnot.
Some of the best times of my life were when I lived in dorms and, later, apartments away from home during college. Wouldn't trade those for anything.
There's nothing else like the experience of living with a bunch of your peers who are also enjoying freedom & real responsibilities for the first time.
I had the exact opposite experience. Sure, during your college years, it's OK, but after that? Nah.
Omegasquash
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Thinking about it, I wouldn't have an issue if my children wanted to live with me after school for a year while they looked for a job, or were saving for a house, or even if they were married. If they had the dough and were single though? GTFO.
And I'm being serious. Go live life. You'll see me plenty when I'm old and you're making sure I don't shit myself. 'Til then, go do what your Ma and I put you on this earth to do. Live.
And I'm being serious. Go live life. You'll see me plenty when I'm old and you're making sure I don't shit myself. 'Til then, go do what your Ma and I put you on this earth to do. Live.
Go_Ly_Dow
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Moving away from my hometown in September. Will be 22 by then.
Cant wait as I just want some freedom, but will definitely miss my family and friends (sisters, nephew and my cat especially).
It's only around 80miles away so at least coming backing frequently and visiting them won't be that hard.
Cant wait as I just want some freedom, but will definitely miss my family and friends (sisters, nephew and my cat especially).
It's only around 80miles away so at least coming backing frequently and visiting them won't be that hard.
I'm 26, graduated college, debt free, and working for a year or so more before moving out into my own place. Just saving up as much as I can. I have wanted to move out for a while, but I realize financial security means more to me than having my own place. All in good time. Would have a fuckton of debt if I didn't live at home thru college. I'm grateful I had the option to go to college and stay at home.
It is nice though, I have my own space and maybe see my parents for 10-15 minutes a day, tops. There are days where we just say Hi in the morning and that is our daily interaction. Works for me.
It is nice though, I have my own space and maybe see my parents for 10-15 minutes a day, tops. There are days where we just say Hi in the morning and that is our daily interaction. Works for me.
Where would you bang? It got annoying having to meet up at like 2 in the morning for a parking lot handy or going over to my friend's place.
It's kinda the opposite for me. I live at home and save all the money I can. I'm sitting on a nice wad of cash, but, unless you're showing it off, people just assume you don't have much money. So I could be good looking and have money, but, if I'm not spending that money, people assume I have none.
My room? It really never is an issue. My parents are the furthest thing from overbearing/nosy and give me my space when a ladyfriend is around
.I'm in a similar situation, minus the college thing. I've been living in a townhouse with three other friends for the past 2.5 years. One of them moved out recently, and I've been covering for the empty room while we search for a roommate. Not happening, so it seems likely we'll all be moving soon.
As it stands, I make decent money doing what I do, and I've got some debt (~7k and steadily shrinking), but with a car in good condition that's paid off, it's not anything I can't handle. I can certainly afford to live on my own and pay rent for a decent place near work. Not to mention, that I'm at a point, where I'd love to have my own space. No family, no friends, just my own place where I don't have to worry about anyone else when I don't want to.
That being said, I'm thinking I might ask my parents to stay with them for a few months once I move out. Crushing that debt at the rate of $2k+ a month is one reason, and possibly saving for a down payment on an apartment/condo to buy might be a good idea depending on what I see while I'm hunting for a place of my own.
On the bad side, yeah, it's living with my parents again. It remains to be seen how long I can handle that.
Well this is just stupid. There are plenty of cultures where children live with their parents for a long time and they are as much "men". Are you really saying they are just little boys unlike you, the Strong And Independent MAN?
out0v0rder
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my parents have loud sex so i was glad to get out as soon as possible
We also need to throw out the assumption that living with your parents = no bills. I paid probably a good $10k or 12k living with my mother over the course of four years. Sometimes she didn't need rent; most of the time she did.
That's nothing compared to what living costs on your own, but what really got me was the assumption that it cost me nothing. When you say you're living with your parents that's basically a bills-free pass.
But in reality? Not always. Had to pay half rent, half of utilities, buy my own food etc.
That's nothing compared to what living costs on your own, but what really got me was the assumption that it cost me nothing. When you say you're living with your parents that's basically a bills-free pass.
But in reality? Not always. Had to pay half rent, half of utilities, buy my own food etc.
H.Protagonist
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Nope. No regrets. Left at 17, did the college thing, traveled the world, lived abroad and have no outstanding debts thanks to careful management and the luck of not having any financially catastrophic events (yet). Couldn't have imagined living with them past 18 anyway. Got a lot of good experience on my own that has served me well in life thus far.
Conrad Link
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I moved out in what now feels like kind of a hurry, it was for study and I always intended to go back home afterwards then figure things out from there. So at the time I didn't think anything of it cause it was only temp so just rush rush outta there. But now its like 8 years later (shit, time where are you going so fast?? 
) and yeah - I'm probably pretty set moved out now.
I'm incredible sentimental and it feels weird now thinking I didn't do my whole 'oh this is the last meal I'll have living here, wont be doing this living here again blah blah etc' thing I tend to do about everything thats changing.
Also don't feel my Mum had time to process things properly either, I imagine a child leaving home is a big thing? She's still got my little brother for a little while longer at least but still I feel bad about how I ended up moving out.
) and yeah - I'm probably pretty set moved out now.I'm incredible sentimental and it feels weird now thinking I didn't do my whole 'oh this is the last meal I'll have living here, wont be doing this living here again blah blah etc' thing I tend to do about everything thats changing.
Also don't feel my Mum had time to process things properly either, I imagine a child leaving home is a big thing? She's still got my little brother for a little while longer at least but still I feel bad about how I ended up moving out.
Attackthebase
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I made a lot of good connections because I lived on campus for a year. Now, I'm commuting for the upcoming academic year because it makes little sense to live on-campus (all online classes beside one). I'll probably use the remainder of my finical aid money to live on-campus for my final year, since it'll be covered for at least another year.
mugurumakensei
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I have a 2600 square foot home(me and a couple of friends are splitting the cost of the mortgage) so no I don't regret moving out of my parents' place. It's cheap total bills ~500-600/mo which is a very small fraction of what I make in a given month.
SillyEskimo
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Also don't feel my Mum had time to process things properly either, I imagine a child leaving home is a big thing? She's still got my little brother for a little while longer at least but still felt bad about how I ended up moving out.
It can be. It's called Empty Nest Syndrome (not a real term). People suffer this when their child or children are the focus of their lives. Whenthe child moves on, they have a genuine emptiness inside. This can be somewhat preventable depending on the person. For example, my wife and I have a rough estimate for when our 2 girls will be moved out. It will be 2028ish when our youngest will be 19. We'll be 53. We have tennative plans for what we want to do with their old rooms, and have set up savings for our personal travel plans after they have moved on. However, even with all that foresight the house will feel empty without them there. It will be bittersweet indeed.
Dude.
I'm set to graduate from college this week (if I pass all my classes, one is killing me), and then it's back to my parent's house until I can find a job.
I'm not really eager to get out, just exhausted from school right now, but I do want to get a job fast so that I'm not a bum. And when I get a job I'll likely move out.
I'm not really eager to get out, just exhausted from school right now, but I do want to get a job fast so that I'm not a bum. And when I get a job I'll likely move out.
Not sure why exactly, but I figured you for a lot older. I'm 22 as well.
Well, I lived at college for 2 years, but I'm moving back in with my mom and sister and changing to a more affordable school near my house since I'm switching majors and there's no reason form me to keep going to this school when there's a cheap alternative within driving distance of home.
Honestly, I'm looking forward to it. I like living at home a lot more than on my own based on my 2 year experience. My mom isn't controlling and I can do pretty much whatever I want, plus I actually like my family and enjoy living with them and we have a nice house. Plus, I actually partied more my senior year in high school than I ever have a college. I have more/better friends back home and it will be nice having good times with them again.
Honestly, I'm looking forward to it. I like living at home a lot more than on my own based on my 2 year experience. My mom isn't controlling and I can do pretty much whatever I want, plus I actually like my family and enjoy living with them and we have a nice house. Plus, I actually partied more my senior year in high school than I ever have a college. I have more/better friends back home and it will be nice having good times with them again.
It's easy to say live with your parents if there are actual job opportunities in the area but if your parents live out in bumblefuck America good luck getting a real job there. I moved away to college here in Pittsburgh and have had to fight my way to stay here getting jobs because moving back home would mean zero job opportunities.
I just moved out two days ago.
I'm 24, have a good paying job, but regret not saving more while I was still at home. I wanted to amass a down payment for a house during the 2 years I was at home, but only made it 1/4 of the way there. Now, it's going to take me another 5 years to do so away from home since my expenses will increase by about $1k a month (food + vehicle...rent non applicable since I paid my parents the same rent I'm paying now).
I'm surprised I'm feeling a bit homesick at the moment. I guess it's to be expected, since I'm close with my family and have been with them all my life. I'm still only a 10 minute drive away, but it feels strange knowing I won't be a part of my family's daily lives anymore. But, I'm taking this as a sign that I needed to spread my wings so to speak and make it on my own. It needed to happen.
No more safety net. No more excuses for buying everything I want. I'm going to budget, buy less games, make my own lunches, watch out for deals, etc... Plus, I'm going to make an effort to go out more and be more social. I'm going to treat this as an opportunity to grow as a person.
Take my advice. Stop buying shit. Save up now, while you can.
I spent a pile of money on games, media, gadgets...way more than I needed. And what do I have to show for it now? I've basically cost myself 4 years of savings will little to show for it.
I'm 24, have a good paying job, but regret not saving more while I was still at home. I wanted to amass a down payment for a house during the 2 years I was at home, but only made it 1/4 of the way there. Now, it's going to take me another 5 years to do so away from home since my expenses will increase by about $1k a month (food + vehicle...rent non applicable since I paid my parents the same rent I'm paying now).
I'm surprised I'm feeling a bit homesick at the moment. I guess it's to be expected, since I'm close with my family and have been with them all my life. I'm still only a 10 minute drive away, but it feels strange knowing I won't be a part of my family's daily lives anymore. But, I'm taking this as a sign that I needed to spread my wings so to speak and make it on my own. It needed to happen.
No more safety net. No more excuses for buying everything I want. I'm going to budget, buy less games, make my own lunches, watch out for deals, etc... Plus, I'm going to make an effort to go out more and be more social. I'm going to treat this as an opportunity to grow as a person.
Take my advice. Stop buying shit. Save up now, while you can.
I spent a pile of money on games, media, gadgets...way more than I needed. And what do I have to show for it now? I've basically cost myself 4 years of savings will little to show for it.
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