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Asking a question is in no way disrespectful. This is the equivalent of "Would you give me a dollar?" or "Would you help me across the street?" If you take away your own personal hangups about what sex between two consenting adults means or what value it has, the stranger is just asking a question. He isn't being crude or dirty. He isn't pushing the issue. He's just asking a question. It does not matter who's there or how they interpret his actions. Objectively speaking, he has not done anything disrespectful even though some (like you) may interpret it that way.

Context, including social contexts, are important. As i said would this be okay if you went up to a priest in a church and asked him this question? What if you go to someones house and ask in front of the persons children? What if you walk into a random hospital and ask one of the nurses there? What if you go to the local police station and ask one of the officers if they want to have sex?

I understand that you have a very liberal view of sex and all but you can't assume everyone feels the same way.
 
I have a friend who is alittle unstable but pretty hot. (and everything was right with the world)
She was dating some guy that was treating her bad, cheating on her in her own house etc etc.

We went to lunch one day and she's like "I really need your body inside me right now. I really need you physically"

I ate my lunch quickly and left, I ignored her calls for a week. She doesn't really treat me the same since. We are noot as close friends anymore... sometimes i regret not going through with it. but then i realize and thank my lucky stars since she's a head case.

Dude,mad in the head = bad in the bed.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cMXbSaSaR3U

so what's the closest anybody has ever gotten to something like this in real life?

I once had a girl i met in a club, be willing to suck me off in the middle of the dancefloor. That was too much for me, so i tried to fuk her in the toilet. The toilet attendent cockblocked....:(
 
If it's disrespectful to the partner than to me it's disrespectful to both.

I understand.

I think the main issue here is what you and i consider to be disrespect and not everyone will agree on that.

I think that was the quest I originally set out to. To gain knowledge why someone would think of "Do you want to have sex with me?" as disrespectful (to the person asked).

Asking someone by themself may not necessarily be disrespectful, asking someone in front of their partner is always disrespectful (imo of course).

If the person asked the question considers them and their partner one singular entity, as you explained in the first paragraph, I think I have gained some understanding.


What would you think if the people in this video were asking the same question in front of the persons family? Or in front of their own family? Or if they went into the persons workplace? Or what if you asked them when they were at a Sunday service? You don't think there is any situation where asking someone this question would be disrespectful?

Oh there were some scenes with family members where he asked them. I don't see the disrespect, no matter when or where, as long as a romantic partner is not present/known to be the romantic partner of the person asked. And even then, while I have gained some insight as I wrote above, I don't necessarily feel it -by itself- is disrespectful to the person that was asked.

I think different people would draw the line at different levels but surely you can see how at least in some situations this would be disrespectful.

Only if the question was presented to someone the asker knows has a problem with having sex. Be that because of asexuality, being a victim of a sexual crime or something along those lines. But that is a very special situation and you, as the person that posed such a question, would have to actively seek out a person.

That being said the more I think about it, I guess disrespecting the choice of someone not to have a sex with someone, which in a monogamous society such as ours is to be expected probably has to be similar. I think I actually understand, why -if you announce that you have a partner- could feel disrespected if still asked the question.

But when you ask a stranger a personal and confronting question like that you're taking that risk. You don't know how they will take it and by putting them in that position to me you basically don't care. I don't think it's that unique of a situation that a woman may find a question like this confrontational. I guess it probably depends on the person and how the question is asked.

I guess my basic issue is also that I don't think that sex is something that needs to be hidden, is shameful or something to necessarily only talk about in private.
If I break it down, sex itself is a wonderful and positive thing. Yet as a society we still try to shame it to some degree. I don't see the benefit of doing so. Good things should not be treated as bad things.

To me it is. When you approach me like that you basically don't give a fuck how it affects my partner and to me that is disrespecting them. It's kind of hard to reconcile when we both have pretty different definitions of what disrespect is.

No, I think at least with a partner present we actually managed to give me understanding.
 
I'm surprised more of the significant others weren't more pissed that someone was asking their boyfriend/girlfriend to have sex right in front of them. I totally respect them for being good sports about it. I guess they figured it HAD to be a joke although that one girl did tell the girl asking for sex to fuck off.
 
Take notes threetri333.

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One time when I was like 16ish me and my friend were hanging out, and some girl around 12ish asked him if she could suck his dick cause she needed to "practice" cause she was going into middle school. He told her the get the fuck out of here. That was weird.
 
:lol this

Why the fuck would you get into a fight over something like that?

If he started groping your GF and attacking her then sure, throw punches. Asking a stupid question? Laugh it off like a normal person.

Right but asking her to have sex would not be something like a normal person would do though. You can't just pretend doing that is normal and isn't going to get a negative reaction. In some states it may even be illegal as disorderly conduct can simply involve speaking to someone in a way that is known to cause a hostile reaction. Saying that to a girl or guy is probably fine, but I'd imagine if you did that down here in the south it might get you shot or stabbed. Then again, the guy might ask how much you are willing to pay and that his daughter is also for sale.

Now, I wouldn't start punching someone if they asked my wife, while I am right there beside her, for a few reasons.
I would be thinking:
A. The guy asking has some kind of mental issue.
B. The guy asking must be part of a scam or comedy skit routine or survey.
C. My wife would probably give him a piece of her mind or start attacking him.
 
I hope it's not thread necroing if it's only 3 months old, but on account of the topic of this thread, I wanted to post this German GQ magazine article I've read long ago:

Guy did the same experiment in Germany, but the women he approached were older than the ones in the video. Here are his results (Google translate)

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The Viennese journalist KURT molzer went - for safety's sake with a pack VIAGRA armed - In MUNICH , BERLIN and HAMBURG on the street and asked strangers women whether they want SEX I have him? Previously, he said, " EXCUSE PLEASE NOTE THAT I speak to them , BUT I WILL FIND YOU BEAUTIFUL AND EROTIC INSANE . " That's it.

Sandra Bullock - type, Hamburger Bahnhof . Let's go there . But it is not. I freeze as a grizzly : racing heart, wet hands , dry throat , fear ! Break the attempt off driving into the city , buy me a flask and fill it with vodka. Vodka flushes the fear out of the body such as rain the dirt from the trickle. Vodka does not smell .
Goose Market Passage, a woman is like a cathedral , great, noble, approximately 40 She shows me the bird. Stay in the passage , increasing slightly the alk- dose.
Spicy blonde angel in transparent summer dress : "No, I want nichhhh ! What is that all about? "
Bespectacled brunette , low-cut T -shirt, about 30 Stunned , she laughs or cries it ? "Do you want me actually totally kidding ? "
Bored Black hair , early 40s : "Make for that every woman like that? " Me: " yes, you are already the fifth . "
Underground, on FahrstuW , Gucd woman in fear : " If you come closer to me , I'll scream loud! " - " I will not kill , madam, I will still only quite common to sleep with you. " She fled up the stairs.
Back in daylight, Exotin , almond eyes , the end 20: She does not understand me, " Sorry" - "Miss , you are so beautiful and erotic . Since you what to sleep with me? "-" What did you say , bloody bastard " ?
At the pedestrian crossing , woman with black pageboy , early 30s : " Why do not you go straight to a prostitute ? "
Karstadt - department store cosmetics department , vulgar blonde with high heels : "Should I pass the question to my husband , you pervy crap Bock ? " If uncomfortable. But this is a mission. Persevere.
Paper goods, They are in stretch pants , mid-20s , "Who are you, anyway ? " - "I am a gentleman from Vienna. " You : " Good for you and good-bye ! "
Food department , mature and attractive woman with cucumber in his hand : " What else are you feeling well , young man? "
Frozen food , secretaries type : " Does it have to be the same as now? " Me: " Not necessarily now, but still . " But if anything.
Bread shelf , tightened Pippi Longstocking in the wrap skirt . Look at me aghast , goes without saying a word of it.
Sweets , Black Hair in linen dress , early 30s , "No, thank you. "She says that so unimpressed , as if I had offered her a brochure Jehovah 's Witnesses .
Household goods, slightly narrow-minded lady with plaid blouse, great legs, around 40 : " You are probably not quite right in the head"
Hi- Fi department, brünetter mop of curly hair , mid 20's , "How are you for it " - " Good," I say. " A little too well, I would think . "
Magazines, bobbed hair with Marlene Dietrich trousers , mid-20s : "Nice compliment , but the rest , well ... " wars their phone number.
Intercontinental lobby , redhead , pantsuit, mid-30s , intense eye contact , "My God , that there are men who believe in themselves so " I play the philosopher : "I am in the world , to get everything . "I wonder if she lived here . " Yes . "Me: " You excite me "-" You luch me, my goodness, " but you must still be a short meeting. . . As long as I could wait just yet. When she returns, she asks: "You are not evil , and you will not do anything to me ? " - "I will do you only good. " We climb the elevator and go to her room. After an hour I leave the temple of love. I have drunk from the cup of Woillust , I'm immortal!
The next " hour hotel " , Atlantic , Lobby, woman with braids in her late 30s , determines the mother of three lovely children : " No need "
Airport bar , two women. I speak to the prettier . Both laughing my ass to my chosen one shakes his head.
Departure Lounge, Business Woman with Briefcase, shimmering tights , glasses , early 30s : "This is stupid , my plane leaves the same. "
Arrival area , white blond Schwedinnentyp , mid 30th Just go without a word and lets me be stupid here .
Redhead in flower dress , bright green cat eyes and large breasts to the 40 : " It does not work in women. "
Schoolgirl type with blue skirt and pigtail, mid-20s : " You can be happy that I will not cut it down ! "
Brasil bar, pretty brunette , late 20s , already quite a list . Immediately says yes , do naughty things. We say goodbye to her friend. Half an hour later we are with her . In Wohnzimmeschrank are miniature skulls . Number 25 was a sad - demonic lover .
Berlin, Cafe on the Kurfürstendamm, bombshell at the next table , end 20: "Thank you for the compliment, but cometh my friend."
One that looks like Franzi van Almsick , only older, with miniskirt and tight T -shirt : " Find yourself but a bitch . "
One with dark blond hair to the Po , small and delicate , in jeans and sneakers , mid 30's , " You Spin woh1 ! "
One with platform shoes and red toenails , early 20s : "Well I never! But that costs 100 euros with me. " Back thanks.
One in white summer dress , brunette, early 30's : " You should have asked me a month ago. now I have a boyfriend. "
Early - forties would be like to meet only a few times with me before she sleeps with me. I say, " It's against my religion. "
Sporty model , midriff-baring t-shirt, early 30s Would have liked because her boyfriend has cheated on her . But does not dare .
In Japanese , intellectuals, silk dress , black edged glasses , End 30 Will unfortunately not a quick adventure.
Cafe Einstein, Blondie, early 30's , looks to me . Do not trust me to their table . Drink vodka again . Can not do it anyway. Wait until she pays , they speak to outside. You : "I am not pleased ' beautiful, so, why . "In her bedroom is an empty condom package.
KaDeWe ( KaDeWe ) , mulatto woman , early 20s , do not get me . English is not well . Unique hands I would rather not make . But stay here .
Blonde with perm and high heels. She has a beautiful tooth gap as Vanessa Paradis, mid-20s , "Did 'ne Meise , type? " It is not good for birds.
Beauty woman with lush stem and short skirt : "No, you are too thin. " Too bad .
Woman with cigarette in his mouth , has something of my dream puberty Kim Wilde: " I can piss myself "
Young black-haired , long pink fingernails and lots of gold jewelry , early 20s : "So what have I not necessary . "
Dark brown leather skirt with average woman in her late 30s : " You would not think that you are a pig 'are ! "
Maturity Silberblick beauty : "This is something you do not ask a lady. " - " What do you ask a lady ? " - "You will hopefully learn. "
Black -haired , blue linen dress , early 40s , "No, you're wasting your time. " That's what I do here obviously .
Metro station , blond curly hair with blue eyes like the most beautiful summer sky , early 20s : "No, I do not like Austrians. "
Shoe shop , reddish blonde temptation in jeans, top 20: " Something like this is never happened to me , sorry , I'm too fast. "
U - Bahn station , sad woman with a pale complexion type , ordinary short hair , mid 20th Briefly considered : "Have I heard correctly ? Nah , thank you. "And again .
Petite beings , denim skirt, mid-30s : " yes, of course , right here " Just joking , but I wanted to make an appointment with me.
Cobra , great body , tight dress , perhaps 40 : " No, no , but here goes with a hidden camera . "
Attractive BBW in costume , heavy makeup , mid 30th Will not immediately learn to know them .
Cool blonde with baseball cap and sneakers , early 30s , "I thought , so what it 's only in the movies. " Tell me from .
Hair like an Australian bush fire , deep neckline , nice round butt, mid-30s : "No" Me: " Please ! " You : "No." Me: " Why not?" You : "So stop . "
Blood Young blond thing , model quality , maybe not even 20 But already guaranteed 16 Shaking his head wordlessly .
Page head end 20 " . I can imagine , but we would have to arrange to meet only once more " Do not count .
Tanned Bodybuilding , slightly masculine impact , angular facial features, early 30s : " Go away ! "
Older model , gray strands , culottes , "You are naughty , but very attractive. " Wish me a nice day .
Pout , deep neckline , mid-20s : "I could think it over . " Will arrange to meet only . As I said, does not count.
Komische Oper , foyer, about 40 - year-old in fancy dress , apparently with friend here . "I will now definitely not sleeping with you. But you may also enter your phone number to me . "
Riva Bar, Berlin -Mitte, black-haired brush in the slotted skirt in her late 30s : "I 'm not into men. "
Victoria Bar, Pony blonde with chin piercing end 20: "Thank you, no need"
Green - Door bar, brunette with a thick necklace, skirt, end 30: "Am I in the wrong movie ? " Me: not " No, Adult program." Will.
Paris bar , intellectuals with short hair and endless legs, end 30: "So I was right the never asked , I would have to try it. "We've tried it once . In her apartment , Kant road. At breakfast, I embrace it and think of number 6I .
Munich, pedestrian area , about 30 year old with her hair , costume : " I think my boyfriend would not find it so great. "
Bookstore, beauty with perm , early 40s : "At the moment it is quite bad. " - " Later " - " even worse . "
Large slender woman with aristocratic features, black trousers, white blouse, mid-40s : "I feel harassed by you. "
Means Pretty brown haired with a severe side parting : " Very flattering , I'm more than a drink with you. "
Strenger Short Hair type with giant earrings and full shopping bags, round butt , mid-30s , "No, thank you. "
Blood Young, pale , beautiful. Lascivious look, a transition such as a pelvic exercise : "No .
Subway, brunette in backless sundress , late 30th Busty , bigger butt , "Well you heard mall "
Subway, Sonja Kirchberger - Double : "You have now said very nice, but I 'm in feste.n hands. "
Subway, brunette, Roman nose , mid-20s : " Happened a not every day . I think for you is the routine. No, I do not want . "
Subway, woman with briefcase , early 40s : "Now I 'm speechless! " She wants to call me, but has not yet been reported .
In Dallmayr delicatessen , Rehaugenschönheit in costume in her late 30s : " You did a bet ! Not with me . "
Beauty at the bank counter , tight T -shirt, knee-length skirt , mid-20s : "I'm sorry , but I'm busy. "
Pout in the North Sea , the end 30 of the poor falls almost the cod out of the mouth : "Am I the same on TV? "
Workers in a cleaning shop , striped sweater, mid-30s : " How would it be if you get to know each time ? "
Beer garden , next to me at the table , naughty freckled face, 20 to 25 : " No, you do look like Cyrano . "
Lawn in the English Garden , half-naked brown haired with glasses and book , "they disturb . "
Lobby at the Park Hilton Hotel, mature Schwäbin with a lot of makeup , " you could please me but my husband is the same. "
Leopold Road , Wildcat in leather pants , "No, you look like a Turk . " Stay still in the street.
Dream Body in white linen pants , midriff-baring t-shirt, tall, blonde , 25 to 30 : " You kidding me . " We'll just go have a drink .
Brown -haired , older model in Capri pants , see-through blouse : " I'm really sorry for you, but since I'm the wrong person . "
Alternatively tinged her mid-thirties with short hair and sandals. Somehow, sexy, somehow very naughty : "Idiot ! "
Blonde Mane, sun hat, long pants , top 30: "Now I 'm totally speechless! " Will away from me .
Elegant woman with lots of costume jewelry , very attractive, mid-40s : "But that is not the fine English Article "
Blonde in her late 30s , Costume, Glitter jewelry, handbag, squeezes black Porsche. I follow and stop them. Tell my Balzspruch . " Unfortunately I have it in a hurry. "
Roma Bar, Cleopatra - type in red skirt . " For such a saying I 'm much too sober . "-" When can I stop by " you ," No, no , please no more ? . "
Maximilian street , Bavarian blonde Vollblutweib with buxom forms , packed full of shopping bags, End 30 Peals of laughter , nothing else.
Odeon Square , maturity in stretch dress : " An honest answer to an honest question : yes . "She wants to prefer to two fine equal to bed with me , but I 'm starting suddenly . Sage from me but one track is too ripe . The whole thing has limits somewhere .
Residenzstraße , Almsünde with braids , in costume : "Good joke , you're on television ? "
Marienplatz, redhead in asymmetrical summer dress to the 40 : "You saying what, but he is to me directly . " "I'm just being honest . "-" And unfortunately, I am married. "
U - Bahn , tomboyish in linen trousers , mid 30's , "That's never happened to me . Somehow nice but strange. " Still wants to date me because they find me attractive.
Subway , light vulgar blonde in tight jeans and a transparent blouse, early 30s : " Spinner " delivery somehow better. Let's see what's coming . I soon arrived.
Subway, reputable, pants , blouse, End 30 It is bright red and whispers, " I am the terribly embarrassing , please stop that! " Do her a favor , I'm not a monster .
Lechthaler bar, Prada blonde model in her late 30s : " Well, well , well I have to teach manners! " We are on first name terms soon. Then I insist , "Well, do you sleep with me? " - " And I 'm going to sleep with you, Casanova , you! " Number 93 , it has suddenly in a hurry. We get into their Saab , on the way to her homecoming she runs over two red lights .
Milk bar in the entertainment district Kunstark East , sweet girl . She acts as if she would not understand anything because of the music . She understood every word , definitely .
Milk Bar , Dancing Queen , glittering blouse, mini skirt, top 20: "No, I want to dance only . I also find your pickup line not so great. "
Central Station , line at the ticket office , attractive woman in her early 40 : " About your compliments I'm very happy ! But do you mean can not be serious , what did you say ? "-" Dead serious , I mean what I said there. " - " Well, then we arrange to meet us about it . "
Central Station , in the Segafredo bar , serious lady with Hairband , about 40 " . That's what you said but nice " arrange Only times . Make appointments . I can not hear it.
Post office, opposite the train station , large slim model with long red hair , mid 30's , "Thank you for the nice compliments , but I 'm married. "
Hertie department store, food hall , Tanned in mini skirt , blonde, hot , mid-20s : "I'm sorry , that's too clumsy. "
Pedestrian , 08/15-Gesicht , but the body ! Unbelievable . These shorts , light blouse , top 30: "Have you been drinking " I do not understand , that the vodka was long ago.
http://sassen.org/kurt-molzer-wollen-sie-mit-mir-schlafen/

Also: Here you can read his account on how he tried to convert a lesbian:
http://www.gq-magazin.de/unterhaltung/erotik/kurt-molzer-stich-ins-lesbennest
 
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