So basically you're like the people who research the effects of violent video games, but you don't actually play any of them. You're only interested in stats and numbers. That's fine, but most of the people you're trying to sway aren't going to take you seriously if that's all you care about. It's one thing to have a good understanding of the problems surrounding guns. It's another to have that same understanding while also putting yourself in the shoes of gun owners for once and trying to understand the other side of the debate. Owning guns is a hobby for most people. It's fun. It's outdoorsy. The history can be interesting. They're good monetary investments. They have sentimental value for many. Once you realize that and experience that, the solutions you think are obvious now may or may not be as obvious, and you may have some more realistic suggestions for regulations that benefit all. Either way, you'll gain a lot of respect for at least trying to better understand the hobby rather than just the problems surrounding it.
If we're going to base what's deemed safe and what's not on stats and numbers, you better get ready to ban alcohol, motorcycles, swimming pools, and a whole host of other things that are not necessary yet result in many deaths per year. In the case of motorcycles and alcohol, a lot more than guns. But society has determined that the benefit of owning such stuff (mostly for fun/hobby purposes) outweighs the risk. Does that mean there aren't problems? No. Does that mean we don't need better laws to reduce the deaths involved with guns? No. But for the vast majority of people living here, it also doesn't mean that an outright ban is the solution. We tried that with alcohol already, and boy did that turn out well!
A lot of anti-gun people seem to think that gun owners feel there isn't a problem and nothing should change. That's not really true. We just don't agree that we should have thousands of dollars in property seized by the government due to the actions of a very tiny minority. Can you really blame us?