I've already accepted that's not going to happen with me. Hiding everything behind a level up system while everyone is rolling around with the best stuff and sending 4 tanks and multiple jets and helis at me while I hide in a building wondering what the fuck I'm going to do got old immediately and I only played 1 night. I miss BC2 where the levels were smaller but there were fewer vehicles and less room for people to camp (although it was still a problem in that game). BF4 is just a chaotic mess, which I guess is the selling point for the game.
Getting in a good squad is key to having a good BF4 experience.
Otherwise, you are gonna be doing a LOT of running. I think there's a thread just for people to add each other to friend lists just for BF4.