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Dinner with your date, who pays the bill?
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xxjuicesxx
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My GF pays the tip as she usually has tip money on her, I card the bill, I literally never carry cash.
What did you she do when you called her out on her BS? Have you shown her that 4chan privilege pic?
I don't really consider girlfriend/wife as dating any longer.
My girlfriend even before we were serious paid half the time.
If my company means so little to you that paying for an occasional date is a deal breaker you are either a gold digger or clearly do not enjoy my company.
Now my gf makes waaaaaaaaay more than me she pays for more dates than me by a large margin.
This is how I feel for FIRST dates as long as it isn't something crazy expensive.
(I once had a "first date" with a long time friend who happened to be female, was dinner+ a concert, tickets were like 110$ total so we split it)
If my company means so little to you that paying for an occasional date is a deal breaker you are either a gold digger or clearly do not enjoy my company.
Now my gf makes waaaaaaaaay more than me she pays for more dates than me by a large margin.
This is how I feel for FIRST dates as long as it isn't something crazy expensive.
(I once had a "first date" with a long time friend who happened to be female, was dinner+ a concert, tickets were like 110$ total so we split it)
Mr. Enigma
Member
Yep. There's this smoking hot redhead I know and she will downright get violent if a guy tries to pay for her meal.
Funky Papa
FUNK-Y-PPA-4
I am the higher earner*, so more often than not I feel compelled to foot the bill.
*I'm not a baller, it's just the unfortunate combination of having a stable, grown up job in a shitty economy and dating younger girls.
*I'm not a baller, it's just the unfortunate combination of having a stable, grown up job in a shitty economy and dating younger girls.
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Deleted member 22576
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I like it as even as possible. Though sometimes if you're dating someone without a job it can't be. Paying for things feels nice, but you have to be super super conscious of not setting a precedent. It does create a certain distance between the two of you when you each pay individually so I like to say "oh no, I'll get these drinks. You get the movie tickets." Or what have you. Idk. You can always tell how frequently someone dates by how awkward they are when the bill comes. In reality it doesn't matter. Period.
When you are in a relationship sure split/divide/sort it out however you want.
When going on dates and it's still in the early phases and no real relationship has been cemented? Man always has to pay sorry.
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kittens
Unconfirmed Member
I pay sometimes, she pays sometimes. We try to keep it pretty balanced, but sometimes one ends up covering the bill more often than the other. We don't really worry about it.
In Britain tipping is not required...and if it is they include it as service charge on the bill...
Mr. Enigma
Member
Hmm, I wonder if we know the same redhead.
Maybe if you live in Georgia...
FalsettoVibe
Member
True 90% of the time.
Man, chivalry is dead on NeoGAF I guess.
I always pay when dating. I also try to drive as much as possible so that my date doesn't have to. After dating for a while, if my girlfriend offered to pay or to help out, or whatever, I would occasionally let her.
Do you guys make your date open the door for you 50% of the time too?
I always pay when dating. I also try to drive as much as possible so that my date doesn't have to. After dating for a while, if my girlfriend offered to pay or to help out, or whatever, I would occasionally let her.
Do you guys make your date open the door for you 50% of the time too?
I'm an expert
Formerly worldrevolution. The only reason I am nice to anyone else is to avoid being banned.
Yeah I dunno if it's chivalry or not, but I don't think a woman, date or friend, has ever paid anything when they were with me. Been that way since I was like 13 lol. Kinda like that with all of my male friends, so the responses here are pretty interesting.
BakedPigeon
Banned
I started off paying the bill every time, never even thought about it. After a while she wanted to pay some of the times, then it just got to a point where we both would take turns paying.. Made it pretty easy and stress free.
Devolution
Member
Chivalry being dead is awesome. I'm a grown ass woman. I can pay for my own damn meals.
Deathmistress
Member
Depends on the couple. Most of my friends expect to pay for their portion. I never expected a man to pay but it was nice to get a free meal sometimes. Some men I knew I would get a free meal out of and I went on dates with them when I ran out of money (I was dirt poor and a bitch in 14-17).
With my current boyfriend, I started off almost always paying. I made more and it made sense. Almost 9 years later and I still pay most of the bills, he just transfers me money.
With my current boyfriend, I started off almost always paying. I made more and it made sense. Almost 9 years later and I still pay most of the bills, he just transfers me money.
User 100115
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There are options here, like in everything, in my mind.
1. Alternate the bill or split it. This is the best choice whenever possible.
2. Whoever asked the other out, pays (this is an old fashioned thing, yeah, but my girlfriends do this too; the girl who calls all the others and says 'Let's go to the bar tonight!' usually pays)
3. My own personal one, whoever is less well off pays less often. Simply because I don't think going out with me should be a burden to someone who is struggling to eat.
Also, whoever doesn't pay usually handles the tips.
1. Alternate the bill or split it. This is the best choice whenever possible.
2. Whoever asked the other out, pays (this is an old fashioned thing, yeah, but my girlfriends do this too; the girl who calls all the others and says 'Let's go to the bar tonight!' usually pays)
3. My own personal one, whoever is less well off pays less often. Simply because I don't think going out with me should be a burden to someone who is struggling to eat.
Also, whoever doesn't pay usually handles the tips.
Empyrean Heaven
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Whoever has a penis.
BrightEyedPanic
Member
I like the taking of turns. I'd be ashamed for myself if I let the guy pay all the time.
If you want to, then that's totally cool, however I don't think it should be expected of a female date to pay. Especially if the male asked her on the date.
pelicansurf
Needs a Holiday on Gallifrey
Always Dutch, unless it's a special occasion/big event/first date. I usually date successful women with good jobs, so there's no stigma with splitting the bill. The couple girls I've dated that have given me excuses to get out of multiple dinners have not lasted much longer after that.
speculawyer
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I don't think the lady has ever paid the bill for me. But they have offered.
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