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[FYC]

To make a long story short, my parents were recently divorced. Lately my Mom has been trying to buy us stuff since she thinks it will make us feel better. I'm... Fine, actually but she simply won't take no for an answer. Trust me on that. She's bought a couple of gifts already and she wants to go shopping with me and my siblings today. Let me make it clear I am extremely grateful, I just can't help but feel a tad guilty accepting this stuff. Certainly don't deserve it. I've sort of been spoilt a lot growing up and I'm trying to save up the money to pay my parents back.

 

[Kitsunebaby]

Unless she's hurting for money I don't see the problem. Sometimes doting on others makes you feel closer to them. So long as she knows she doesn't need to buy your love and you occasionally return the favor in some small way I wouldn't feel guilty.

 

[Phat Michael]

i like buying gifts for people i love. If they feel bad, it means they are a good person and realise that what you are doing is important. If they take it as the norm and go "is that all?" then you probably stop buying them gifts.

 

[snacknuts]

Give me one and I will let you know.

 

[Joni]

Unless she has financial problems, don't feel bad. And even if she is hurting financially, she is trying to show she can still do everything she wants for her children.

 

[Wubby]

Lol it was opposite when my parents divorced. Asked mom for new NES game her response "Ask your father, he has all the money." His response: "Ask your mother, she's getting the child support." Sigh...

 

[blame space]

I feel bad about everything.

 

[Yado]

It depends on who I'm receiving it from.

 

[Empty]

hmm. i have real problems with this. i feel i haven't deserved it, that people will inevitably resent me for having something flashy/luxury that i haven't earned myself and a sense of guilt for people who toiled to buy the same thing i'm getting by random luck.

i've sometimes taken this to gross extremes and refuse to even use the gifts or hide the fact that i have them but i'm trying not to do that anymore because it's really unfair to the gift giver :/

 

[PirateKing]

Gifts? What are those?

 

[CarpeDeezNutz]

Gifts are not as bad as when I stay with certain family members who refuse to let me pay for anything but they are great people so I learned to just enjoy it.

 

[Doctor Ninja]

No because I usually give my friends gifts of my own in return.

 

[sixteen-bit]

I'm worth it.

 

[Kurita]

Depends.
My girlfriend bought me the limited edition of one of my fav bands' latest CD for my birthday.
We've only been together for a month so I was really surprised... Not guilty but still...

 

[LiK]

Nope.

 

[General Choomin]

The truth is that expensive gifts buy love and you should be grateful for all the love your mom is giving you.

 

[Miss Riot]

I really like expensive gifts, but I hate the implication that I owe them. it all boils down to the gift giver, and that's the bottom line.

 

[User 100115]

I feel guilty when anyone gets me anything.

 

[battousai11]

It depends on my relationship with the person; an expensive gift from someone I'm really close to isn't as big a deal as an expensive gift from an acquaintance. I will definitely appreciate the gift, but I probably wouldn't be able to accept the one from the acquaintance.

 

[Giard]

I feel guilty when anyone gets me anything.

Same here.

 

[SolsticeZero]

I feel guilty when anyone gets me anything.

Yep. I keep telling people that I don't need things. I mean, I'm always very appreciative when they do, but being friends / family is all I need.

 

[SBH]

No. They want to give it to me. If I'm happy to receive it, it will also make them happy.

If I would buy someone a gift I have really given thought to, it wouldn't feel good if they rejected it by saying "I don't need it" or "I don't want gifts".

 

[Autumn Wind]

Half and half. Half very grateful and half bad.

My parents bought me my first computer at 13, I worked for my second at 16, they bought me my laptop four years later (which I wish I could have picked out myself), and my flat screen TV two years after that. I bought my Mac mini two years ago on my own.

These days I try and pay for as much as I can when I can. I'd prefer buying my own stuff and if necessary just getting cash.

 

[TheRedMan]

Seems like your mom is trying to bribe you and your siblings into loving her more than your father through the divorce. If your dad notices, maybe he'll also do the same, meaning more expensive gifts for you.