Same here, I prefer not thinking about it.
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Do you still think about your "first love"?
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Same here, I prefer not thinking about it.
Yeah she and I go to college pretty far from each other now, and both very very far from our home town. I'll be going home at some point in June for a week or two and part of me really wants to ask her if she'll be around...
She has a new boyfriend now but more than anything I want to sit down and have a frank 'realtalk' discussion with her to see if everything is going well for her. Problem is the tendency is to bullshit each other since the trust is gone at this point.
She has a new boyfriend now but more than anything I want to sit down and have a frank 'realtalk' discussion with her to see if everything is going well for her. Problem is the tendency is to bullshit each other since the trust is gone at this point.
Discotheque
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yo brah you're like one of the trillest posters on this forum.
Sohter.Nura
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I still have a thing for her, and I think up until recently she had something for me. She found a guy, I got married and had a kid.
I know things wouldn't be the same, so I just reminisce. I do love my wife
I know things wouldn't be the same, so I just reminisce. I do love my wife
Conrad Link
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Well I wasn't till you bought it up.
THANKS A F**KING LOT PAL.
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THANKS A F**KING LOT PAL.
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Yeah, I definitely do. I did for a while after that relationship ended, because it lasted so long (2 and a half years), and it always felt a bit unfinished. The problem was that I was still quite a bit in my shell and afraid of things when I met her, and we grew together. Sexually we did a whole lot, but we never had sex. We did everything up to it, though, but I was too chickenshit to agree to sex. When I was finally ready after 2 and a half years the relationship was over. That's still one of my biggest regrets of my entire life. I feel dumb, and I feel like things just never finished. It feels a bit like getting to the last chapter in a book, and then putting it off because you don't want it to end. Then that book is lost in a fire and there's no other copies in existence. It's just this weird unfinished and what if sort of feeling I got from it.
Nowadays I think about her a bit because she kind of disappeared off my radar. Unlike the other girls I've dated she doesn't have a Facebook or anything like that. I can't see how she's doing or anything. I have no idea if she's doing well. I think she got married a bit ago, but I really don't have much of a clue, and that kind of saddens me to lose all contact with someone that was so important in my life.
Nowadays I think about her a bit because she kind of disappeared off my radar. Unlike the other girls I've dated she doesn't have a Facebook or anything like that. I can't see how she's doing or anything. I have no idea if she's doing well. I think she got married a bit ago, but I really don't have much of a clue, and that kind of saddens me to lose all contact with someone that was so important in my life.
thekillingjoker
Banned
Of course. Less though than ever before and we rarely talk. She was my Betty Draper. I have my younger hotter woman now and I am much happier.
Dreams-Visions
Member
On a very rare compassion.
She's still one of my best friends. She doesn't even know that I loved her in that way back in the day. Things were always too complicated with her and I ended up just kinda kicking back and being her support when she needed it.
Funnily enough tho, we did have a conversation not too long ago how crazy of a relationship we'd have if we did ever get together. Not a healthy crazy either... We know far too much about each other at this point and while we love each other it'll never be in that way. I'm ok with that.
Funnily enough tho, we did have a conversation not too long ago how crazy of a relationship we'd have if we did ever get together. Not a healthy crazy either... We know far too much about each other at this point and while we love each other it'll never be in that way. I'm ok with that.
Sounds like you still have a thing for her and you're trying to convince yourself it's a dumb idea...
Basically this.
WanderingWind
Mecklemore Is My Favorite Wrapper
Yeah. It's my view that if you truly loved somebody, you're not really going to forget them. That dull ache is more of a memory, but it's still there.
Having a good woman by your side makes it a bittersweet memory, to be sure.
Having a good woman by your side makes it a bittersweet memory, to be sure.
Bay Maximus
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Yeah well I see her around town every so often and things remind me of her, went out for almost 2 years. Longest relationship I've had and was so good for the first year. Like, when I think about it right now, I think in my head I'll never get that feeling again...
But my more recent relationship.... I miss tht more because I thought we were made for each other, obviously not ):
But my more recent relationship.... I miss tht more because I thought we were made for each other, obviously not ):
I thought so to for awhile, but I dunno, that spark when me and her would hang out and just be alone together for a long time just wasn't there. I've got my hands full with another thing at the moment and those feelings are much more apparent there than they would be with my friend.
Plus she's leaving with her current boyfriend for Arizona next month. Even if there were something still there, it's honestly too late. I know she's happy and I wouldn't want to mess that up for her. She's finally doing what I've told her to do which is to get out there and move around a bit. She was about ready to stay in our shitty town for good and that would have been pretty awful for her.
The Last Wizard
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No more.
So true.
paparazzo
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This, sadly. Though I did start to get close to a girl a few years ago but the whole thing blew up after I took too long to make a move and she lost interest. In hindsight, I'm glad it didn't work out since she's kind of crazy, but I still wonder from time to time how things would have gone.
Live and learn.
Very occasionally. From what I understand she's nothing like the person who I fell in love with any more. That and she tore my heart to pieces.
Never mind, moved on and found something much better
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Except for the finding someone better part. All in due time though.
It was a long distance situation. Knowing that I did all that I could to maintain that connection, gives me peace.
The Mana Legend
Banned
Considering my first love is my first fiance and first wife in a few months, then obviously yes. We've been going out for 7 years since we were 16, and are incredibly happy together.
wickedcapedkid
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If she didn't play in a somewhat popular band at the moment, my answer would be "no".
WanderingWind
Mecklemore Is My Favorite Wrapper
...Scott?
victreeb3l
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not really but once every few months when she suddenly pops in my head, i remember how much i fucking hate her
what's in a name
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I don't want to seem shallow but she got fat so that makes it easier to not feel nostalgic.
My friend has this. I'm friends with all my exes, but I could never pull this off. Never wanted them to be best friends, but friendly towards each other would be good.
clearacell
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only think about her if I get reminded specifically of her name...otherwise never in my thoughts.
More often than I thought I would at this point. Its interesting to think about back then and if things went differently, how different would my life be? Thats always a fun prop to occupy my time, think about stuff in your life that might have gone a different direction, where would you be? The key is knowing that your life may not be any better, in fact it could be far worse, but the difference is intriguing.
I don't think my first girlfriend and I would have ever gotten married unless I accidentally got her pregnant. Our relationship really only had a sort of 2-3 year max before we would have broken up and gone our separate ways anyway.
Its strange to think about how you had these super intense feelings for this person back then, they were arguably the most important person in your life....and now they have no place in it.
I don't think my first girlfriend and I would have ever gotten married unless I accidentally got her pregnant. Our relationship really only had a sort of 2-3 year max before we would have broken up and gone our separate ways anyway.
Its strange to think about how you had these super intense feelings for this person back then, they were arguably the most important person in your life....and now they have no place in it.
It's been almost 4 years, and yep. She pops into my head on most days and occasionally haunts my dreams at night. 
Been with 4 other girls since, but they all ended shittely and never got to the point where I loved any of them, so I never really had a chance to get over her.
Feels bad man.
Been with 4 other girls since, but they all ended shittely and never got to the point where I loved any of them, so I never really had a chance to get over her.
Feels bad man.
K
kittens
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Yeah. We're friends on Facebook, hah. We exchange messages every so often. We're VERY different people now, but we still get along pretty well. We dated for four years (during high school, mostly), and we still have a certain special understanding of each other.
BrLvgThrChmstry
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All the time bro. All. The. Time.
...Not really.
...Not really.
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