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Do you still think about your "first love"?

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I kind of had two "firsts" and one quickly afterward.

One was a really flighty, desperate kind of love with someone I had no right in falling for that was quickly over. Never think about her, though she is on my Facebook.

Other was a really painful, desperate kind of love with someone I had no right in falling for that cost me nearly 6 pining years of my life. Still think about her occasionally, but never for the negative - only for the positive things that shaped me into who I am today. There are few aspects of my interests, hobbies and tastes that weren't created from her. And if it wasn't for her I would have never been able to be compatible with my wife. She also popped my cherry.

My other love after them was slightly painful, not desperate kind of love with someone who I was completely incompatible with because she was too good for me in every single way - one of the most beautiful women I've ever met in my life. For the most part I think of her quite a bit, but only as a friend, since we talk a lot - until she recently got a job we talked every single day for the last few years.Outside of my wife she's probably my best female friend and like a sister to me now. Our families spend time at each others' houses now. I rarely ever think of her from a past romantic angle, though I do regret not sleeping with her. Yes, it may have damaged what we have now, but man, the not knowing is going to dwell in me the rest of my life.
 
My "first love" moved to Canada and became "an artist" with her "artist" husband. Neither of them can do art.

So no, I don't think about her. The first girl I ever smanged though....
 
Not really. It may be rationalizing, but whenever I recall an ex I smirk, say: 'What was I thinking' and then laugh. Then I proceed to never think about them until they randomly pop into my head months later. There's quite a few of them so it's always a different one, except for the super rich one. I'll always remember driving her dad's amazing cars and the bowling alley in her basement.
 
LordCanti said:
My "first love" moved to Canada and became "an artist" with her "artist" husband. Neither of them can do art.

So no, I don't think about her. The first girl I ever smanged though....
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I'm picking up bitter signals here.

No, I try not to think about past love interests. Last one made a more negative than positive impact on me. The previous one before her was offended that I didn't keep in touch with her. She sent me a triumphal email disclosing her new relationship yadda yadda, I just kept thinking "good bye my dear, I never loved you". My life is busy enough as it is, can't afford carrying dat emotional baggage.
 
Yeah I do. I broke up with her 2-3 years ago, and haven't really been with anyone since. I'm completely over her, though I do get a bit nostalgic every once and a while. It was the only time in my life so far that I had ever really felt at ease and happy.
 
My first true love from college who played mind games with my feelings called my phone yesterday. Here I'm eating my oatmeal and browsing GAF before I hit the gym, and I hear my phone ring. I knew it was her, because I selected different ringtones for different people. I was a bit taken back. I didn't answer the phone. She left a message saying she was in town, and a friend of ours came back from Lebanon. They want to me at our campus to eat lunch with an old professor. I was pissed off for the rest of the day. I forgot about her, moved on, and met other women who were better than her.

Anyway, moral of the story is that there is no first true love, really. Lots of fish in the sea.
 
Hard not to when she's on tv here and there and giving interviews to magazines and newspapers on her field. Damn you for achieving success!
 
Trip Warhawkins said:
I'm picking up bitter signals here.

No, I try not to think about past love interests. Last one made a more negative than positive impact on me. The previous one before her was offended that I didn't keep in touch with her. She sent me a triumphal email disclosing her new relationship yadda yadda, I just kept thinking "good bye my dear, I never loved you". My life is busy enough as it is, can't afford carrying dat emotional baggage.
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Not really. Our love literally ended when my family moved a quarter mile away and we were no longer on the same bus route. If anything I'm sad for her, because her parents were incredibly strict, and she's gone from "could have been a doctor or a lawyer or something" to "sells shitty merch on etsy with her bum husband in Canada". I think they squeezed so hard that she popped. I get her facebook updates and they make me shake my head.
 
Sure. She was a Figure Skater.

Sometimes when flipping though the channels there's like an Olympics.

And I'm like "I remember that." She was awesome. Smart, funny, kind and all the best things. Odd posture though. Fell and broke her back or something.
 
I sometimes think about past girl friends but I think its more about thinking about the care free days. Sure back then everything seemed like the end of the world or a big event , but compared to the real situations I'm facing now at 30 its a huge diffrence. In highschool my gf and I would just hang around town and bum it. They were great times and when I got my liscense we would just drive all over the place . In college it was all about parties and doing crazy things and then pass out and wake up and just lay in bed all day before a class.


I love my current gf and have a lot of fun with her but its not the same as in the past. We go out for dinner more with other couples , alot of our friends have kids and we work 40 hours of the week so we don't see each other as much as I did my highschool and college gf .

Sometimes I wish i can fill my car up for 80 cents a gallon and grab my gf and just go away for a weekend and sleep in my car and spend $80 bucks the whole weekend on the whole trip.
 
First crush: Not anymore. Outgrew her during undergrad.

First love, girlfriend from 10 years ago: I attended her wedding. It wasn't awkward at first since I brought my really hot best friend along and we had a really good time... but at the end of the night, yeah I did think back to when we first met, our first kiss, and how we're doing 10 years later.
 
Jason's Ultimatum said:
My first true love from college who played mind games with my feelings called my phone yesterday. Here I'm eating my oatmeal and browsing GAF before I hit the gym, and I hear my phone ring. I knew it was her, because I selected different ringtones for different people. I was a bit taken back. I didn't answer the phone. She left a message saying she was in town, and a friend of ours came back from Lebanon. They want to me at our campus to eat lunch with an old professor. I was pissed off for the rest of the day. I forgot about her, moved on, and met other women who were better than her.

Anyway, moral of the story is that there is no first true love, really. Lots of fish in the sea.
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One question that I gotta have answered:

What song is her ringtone?
 
I've never had a first love , I've had sex with girls that were friends of mine but I've never been "with" anybody in any type of relationship. I'm 29 and I seriously wouldn't know how to properly act if I was in a real relationship.
 
Funny story bout the girl I loved in grade school. I graduate, leave the city I live in. Years later, I go back to visit my parents and during that time decide to get a haircut. Grab a newspaper, somehow end up in the announcements section, and see her wedding announcements.

I find it amazing. The chances of me even looking at the newspaper that day were so low, let alone looking at the wedding announcements.
 
LakeEarth said:
Funny story bout the girl I loved in grade school. I graduate, leave the city I live in. Years later, I go back to visit my parents and during that time decide to get a haircut. Grab a newspaper, somehow end up in the announcements section, and see her wedding announcements.

I find it amazing. The chances of me even looking at the newspaper that day were so low, let alone looking at the wedding announcements.
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The universe wanted you to show up and object, thus winning her love. You've failed the universe. I hope you're happy with yourself.
 
My first love came back into my life a few months ago, seemingly changing for the better, then she started hanging out with her old friends who are newly "recovered" cocaine addicts. I know dating-age would tell me not to care, but I still care. There was a time when she wasn't the mess she is now, and I miss that person more than I like to admit.
 
sure!

Actually, it's interesting that this thread is on Neogaf right now. I watched "Adventureland" last night on a whim, and actually enjoyed it. Big surprise for me. It left me thinking about some of the relationship stuff I went through in my late teens. I was a teenager in the early 2000's.

I just really enjoyed the little details in the movie. The awkward pillow over the boner moment (when the parents walk in on them making out), the excitement and crazy emotions around new love etc etc. It really made me think about some of the first relationships I had, and definitely of my first love. We dated for over 2 years when I was 18-20 years old. I ended the relationship, and she was so upset that she's never spoken to me again. Last I heard of her, she married an American guy and moved to the U.S. (I'm from Canada).

I've been happily married for 3 years now, and wouldn't trade any of that for the wold, but sometimes I think back to myself 10 years ago and get a tiny bit nostalgic.

Realistically though, I've grown so much, and accomplished quite a bit. I wouldn't trade any of my current life to get back to 18 years old again. My wife is 100x better match for me :).
 
More than I like to admit. I have this image of myself as Stoic McBadass and she's so far the only person that has gotten underneath that. When we broke up, it fucking destroyed me and I've treated women like shit for a good six months afterwards as revenge against the universe (we broke up in August of 2011). I'm over it now - at least I hope so.
 
Yes, pretty sure everyone does. I don't think about her much now, mainly because I have a great gf. She does pop in my head once in a blue moon.
 
Mine abruptly e-mailed me out of the blue a few weeks ago, after having no contact whatsoever for 4-5 years and having been separated for almost 10 years. We've been exchanging e-mails / chatting on IM and she's pretty much the same girl I fell in love with. As far as I can tell, she's single but I haven't asked directly. I don't know what to think, I would honestly ask her out right now but A) there's a distance issue and B) the last time I brought up the subject years ago, I could tell she felt dismayed and very guilty that I was "pining" over her. I tend to over-analyze these things and it only ends up in disaster.
 
I randomly ran into my "first love" last year while running some work-related errands. I hadn't seen her in about seven years and only thought about her sporadically, but it was always fondly at least.

She spotted me, I didn't even recognize her at first. She had two loud, hyperactive kids with her, she'd gained a bit of weight, and she looked tired. I on the other hand was admittably looking pretty good that day; was clean cut and wearing a suit (again, I was working). We talked a bit, when she asked me what I had been up to all these years her voice filled with a tone which I can only describe as shame or disappointment, she also became a bit visibly uncomfortable. She showed me her kids, one of which looked at least six (we're both 22 mind you), and she told me she lives with her boyfriend.

I don't think about her anymore.
 
Uh... I'd say middle school, but that's probably just hormones, I guess. And I was creepy as fuck then. Didn't know what the hell I was doing. I regret it entirely, and I mostly ignore it now. I used to think about her in the first part of high school, but not any more (thank God). Lovesick didn't even begin to describe it.

At any rate, I'm much better with this than I was. Whole life is a lesson.
 
On occasion, especially since we frequent the same bars. Last time I saw her was a few weeks ago. She was drunk and meeting some guy from a dating website, but also hitting on me at the same time. She slurred that she wished she'd never dumped me all those years ago, to which I replied that she shouldn't have cheated on me once she left for college. Turned around and walked away, all fuckyea.jpg. Felt good.
 
I've only experienced romantic love once (though unfulfilled), so I only have that to look back on in any sort of meaningful way. I think about it fairly often, though not extensively, but the latter is because I haven't placed a high value on it. Though it was a very enriching experience, I have other plans for my life (I want to become a Buddhist monk).
 
Yep. I dated plenty of girls before her, but I didn't love them. I've dated a few girls since her, but I haven't loved them.
 
Sometimes, but I try not to do so. It took a really long time to get over him because he's the first person whom I felt so strongly about. We don't talk anymore which is probably for the best, but there are times when I really want to talk to him.
 
Yes. I've had crushes before which I don't really remember, but my first real girlfriend I remember regularly.

It doesn't help that I moved into the same neighborhood that she lived in and that her parents still live in. For a reason totally unrelated to us, her parents started to hate me. Now, almost ten years ago, I still fell the hatred and contempt in their looks whenever we meet on the street. Oh well, such is life...
 
Yeah, every now and then. But we've kind of diverged in terms of beliefs and personalities. I don't think there is much mutual respect between us anymore. I still care for her though and hope she finds what she wants.
 
Yes, occasionally.

I need to stay away from her though, seeing that if I near her I will most probably do or say very hurtful things.
 
My first love was unrequited, 6 years of torture :(

I moved on but I think I only truly got over him when I met my current bloke, who I've now been with for 5 1/2 years. I'm still kinda in touch with the guy, he got married a few years ago and I'm genuinely really happy for him.
 
Does it count if I'm still with them? I've never been in love before her, but I'd imagine if we broke up I'd feel odd about seeing them with someone else especially if she was the one who initiated the break up.
 
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