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Does it matter how many sexual partners your so had?

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I don't care how many she's had. Hell, the more she's had the more experience she's gotten. Plus I like to hear stories so that's a plus.
 
The more the better, More memories in the fap bank for when your fapping without porn, or extra horny.
 
Yes/No

There are certain generalizations about people that have had large numbers of sexual partners. Keep in mind these are generalizations, and certainly not true of every individual.

1. Exposure to STD's. Aside from the risk of them having one and giving it to you, it suggests they could be a careless risk taker if they have had several dozen or even hundreds of partners. This would suggest the person is very irresponsible. How about pregnancy? Contraceptives/protections aren't 100% guaranteed.

2. This person apparently hasn't taken the other 100 relationships seriously, so how can you really be sure they aren't just using you? Sure, they might seem like they are serious NOW, but in 6 months? A year? 10? How likely is this person who obviously treats sex casually to cheat? (if cheating is even something that bothers you, which it obviously does most people). Someone that views it truly casually might not think before they act when a hot piece of ass/dick comes along.

Basically this person could be a total slut. Granted, that doesn't mean that someone has just had terrible luck in finding someone they really want to commit too, or that it took dozens of encounters before they realized they wanted more in a relationship that just sex and are NOW ready to commit.

So yes, it does matter, but it might not.
 
It used to matter to me when I was younger and stupider. I got pretty obsessive about it with my first serious girlfriend actually, and we were both virgins at the time... so I'd even harp on precoital activity. I was such an insecure mess.

But after her I realized I only gave a shit about it in serious relationships. If it was like a fuck buddy or something, I found I wasn't too picky about their history. It was the long-term girls that got me all wound up with their previous partners. Nowadays I don't care either way though, happily married now anyways.
 
I've hugged so many people in my life. Like, over 100 at least. This means my hugs are tainted and less worthy than the hugs of a girl who's only hugged someone once.
 
I hope not or else no one would wanna be with me
just kidding I'd still get laid
 
I just realized something. If the person is ALREADY my SO, as the original question implies, then no, it doesn't matter how
many partners they've had in the past.

If I'm meeting someone for the first time and just getting to know them, and they feel the need to tell me that they've sexed a ton of people and want to tell me how awesome it was, I'm probably going to move on to somebody else.
 
Yes it matters to me. But only because I held myself to those standards as well. I wasn't much for one night stands and random hook ups when I was dating. I don't see why it would be wrong for me to want the same. Whether this would cause me to break up with someone would likely depend on other factors. I doubt it would cause me to break it off with someone if all other things considered were going great.
 
I can't say it doesn't matter at all to me, It does. I couldn't have a chick tell me she's slept with 100 men and still consider her for a serious relationship. It's not that I don't think women should sleep with whoever they want, they should, it's just something I personally couldn't deal with. It's my loss, but I know I'd be wary of going into a serious relationship who's had that many partners...

Saying that, I've never been in a position where I've needed to consider this seriously. My mind might be changed. :-/
 
No, but what she did sexually with all of them matters in that she'd better do all of that stuff and more with me!
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Short term dating... doesnt matter assuming they dont have std's and tell me they fucked some other dude so I don't get std's.

Long term dating, got to guage if they can stay committed and not have a rock star personality.

This girl I've been hanging out with (28 years old, im 25) has had like 25, active since 16, been married, never cheated during marriage, and has had 3 in the past 8 years.

I'd date her long term except she used irreversible birth control and I want kids.
 
Of course.

Should I know it? Hell no.

How it affects her is the most important, and you can guess what I mean.


edit: ok, so if you can't guess what I mean. More important is the reason behind a high or low number, and what that means for you. Could be she's experienced as hell and wants to be your sex kitten forever. Or you're just another interesting footnote in her journal of life.

I think more important than the answer is the reaction to the subject itself. I would never be one to bring it up, honestly. But she might.
 
When I met my wife 20 years ago I told her that I didn't care where she'd been without me. I didn't care then and I don't care now. All that matters to me is where we go together.
 
ReBurn said:
When I met my wife 20 years ago I told her that I didn't care where she'd been without me. I didn't care then and I don't care now. All that matters to me is where we go together.
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exactly how I feel I don't care, but I don't want to hear about it either.
 
Not necessarily. I for one would prefer to be at the same relative experience level as my partner. That could mean she's had 20 partners and I've only had one, but if we're still in the same place, experience-wise, I don't see why it should matter.
 
As long as she is STD negative, it's not a big deal. If her past partners constitute a number that is a significant statistical outlier for her demographic, then that could be a potential issue, but I feel like the core issue the OP is trying to determine is, "are you emotionally insecure about your partner having had more sex than you?", to which my answer would be not really.

Devolution said:
After reading a few books on this subject matter it was kind of funny (but mostly just depressing) how past cultures were so paranoid of other men fathering their children.
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It's the nature of nearly every sexually reproducing animal. Lions killing the cubs of another male, detachable penises that plug up a female's vagina, balls the size of oranges, etc.
 
If you're a woman, then no it doesn't matter.

If you're a guy and less than approx. 25 years old, then no it doesn't matter.

If you're a guy and older than 25, then no it doesn't matter...as long as your number is not zero.
 
Poindexter said:
you've never asked a girl "where did you learn how to fuck so good?" It's a hot question in bed!!
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I really disagree. In bed?

The implied conversation happening there is "hey other guy, nice to meet you, what specifically did you do to her?" It can be a potent boner killing bonerkiller for many.
 
Poindexter said:
you've never asked a girl "where did you learn how to fuck so good?" It's a hot question in bed!!
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I like to think like this:

"Oh man, this girl like to take one up the ass all night... She asks form the dildo in the other one? SCORE! I'm so lucky I found this girl... now she wants me to tear of her panties so they are rendered useless? God damn... Im a stud...

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Wait, she has dont this before hasn't she?!"
 
I think one has to get to a very specific point in life emotionally to need/want causal, and I mean CASUAL sex - where the rule is that no questions are asked etc. It's just like everything else in life - has a time and a place.

I am not judging, I am not in a place to judge on that because I have been there. Both in times of strength and in weakness.

At that point, a strict NSA/FWB thing, then nobody gives a fuck about numbers. There is no way it would even come up. Health and safety yes. Numbers, no.
 
genjiZERO said:
Also, in my personal experience, girls with low to moderate sexual partners tend to be more successful, smarter, academically ambitious, nicer, have less baggage, have more confidence and self-esteem, and are less selfish. It's not the rule, but it's close to it.
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They're also made out of rainbows!
 
yes, but I hold myself to the same standards.

I don't do one night stands and casual sex and what not. It's just not for me. prefer a steady relationship.

Would prefer somebody with the same views.
 
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