So you have no empathy for people dying by the droves in movies like Saving Private Ryan, We Were Soldiers, Apocalypse Now, Full Metal Jacket, Letters from Iwo Jima, etc.?
What about games that treat each individual deaths as tragedy. Have you ever played Red Orchestra games? The music is quite sombre and you can hear "dead" players shouting pretty ghastly things, like here you can hear
what the American troopers are crying. I think it must make most people stop for a moment and realise that what you are playing many people had to actually live through. I know I am not alone in this simply by reading the comments on that video.