dinazimmerman
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can't be more boring than my life.
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Don't know what to do with my boring life.
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Ketchup Boy
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I've been on both sides where I had friends to chill with all the time and times alone. I prefer seeing friends in moderation maybe once every two months or so and being by myself most of the time. I have a nice family though and I spend time with them more often.
But anyways here is my advice:
Create a routine of stuff you have never tried before and set goals for things just for the heck of it. You want to be busy everyday of the week and only take breaks on like Sunday to rest up. You want something to train for. You want something to compete in. Competing and trying to test your limits, seeing how far you can go, how far you can level up is probably the most enjoyable part of life.
You have to really think of life like a game. Treat it like a game. You want to learn how things work, you want to learn how the system works and how you can beat the main players.
Here is a sample routine:
Work - Because you need money. You will feel horrible and pathetic not being able to take care of yourself.
Exercise - Very necessary in order to maintain your health as well as your energy and physical appearance. Necessary to build confidence. You can lift weights, take group exercise classes. Take martial art classes. It is very nice training with other people around. Make yourself known in these places. You'll become a regular and people will recognize and probably will think you're an alright guy and you can start up convos about training with them. Very excellent social outlet.
School - Even if you have a degree, I recommend you take a class every now and then in order to exercise your mind. You want to continue learning new things and keep your mind sharp.
Honestly, this is my current routine and I'm feeling pretty good. Last summer when I had nothing to do and only stayed at home I was very miserable. Taking classes and being forced to do things is a good thing sometimes because you know at least that you're being productive and that you're progressing your life in some way and you week is filled and busy. So then when you actually have free time, it'll make that free time much more special and things you like doing like playing video games or watching movies much more enjoyable.
So try a routine for a good 3 months, nothing less, see how you like it and if you like it and you're not bored, keep going with it. But if there is something that you don't like switch it up with something else. Something different that you have never tried before and looks a little bit interesting to you. But the key is to stick with this routine for a good 3 months. You can't keep changing it up. It's very important to build discipline. It's a vital skill I think we must have. We need to learn to stick with things.
But yeah, best thing I can tell you is don't stand idle and always try to level up in life!
But anyways here is my advice:
Create a routine of stuff you have never tried before and set goals for things just for the heck of it. You want to be busy everyday of the week and only take breaks on like Sunday to rest up. You want something to train for. You want something to compete in. Competing and trying to test your limits, seeing how far you can go, how far you can level up is probably the most enjoyable part of life.
You have to really think of life like a game. Treat it like a game. You want to learn how things work, you want to learn how the system works and how you can beat the main players.
Here is a sample routine:
Work - Because you need money. You will feel horrible and pathetic not being able to take care of yourself.
Exercise - Very necessary in order to maintain your health as well as your energy and physical appearance. Necessary to build confidence. You can lift weights, take group exercise classes. Take martial art classes. It is very nice training with other people around. Make yourself known in these places. You'll become a regular and people will recognize and probably will think you're an alright guy and you can start up convos about training with them. Very excellent social outlet.
School - Even if you have a degree, I recommend you take a class every now and then in order to exercise your mind. You want to continue learning new things and keep your mind sharp.
Honestly, this is my current routine and I'm feeling pretty good. Last summer when I had nothing to do and only stayed at home I was very miserable. Taking classes and being forced to do things is a good thing sometimes because you know at least that you're being productive and that you're progressing your life in some way and you week is filled and busy. So then when you actually have free time, it'll make that free time much more special and things you like doing like playing video games or watching movies much more enjoyable.
So try a routine for a good 3 months, nothing less, see how you like it and if you like it and you're not bored, keep going with it. But if there is something that you don't like switch it up with something else. Something different that you have never tried before and looks a little bit interesting to you. But the key is to stick with this routine for a good 3 months. You can't keep changing it up. It's very important to build discipline. It's a vital skill I think we must have. We need to learn to stick with things.
But yeah, best thing I can tell you is don't stand idle and always try to level up in life!
Acerac
Banned
Hmm. Seems that like many in this thread I have a severe bout of depression, but at least all the advice seems to correspond with the things I'm trying to do to change the situation. Hurray for meeting up with a new therapist on Thursday!
Smoking weed only masks the problem for reference. After 5-10 years the mask grows really thin.
*Sigh*
I need a blunt.
Smoking weed only masks the problem for reference. After 5-10 years the mask grows really thin.
*Sigh*
I need a blunt.
Fusion Pizza
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Kerub said:
Until it becomes your life, me and my best friend both pulled ourselves back from living in a green fog and are both much better for it, weed enhances, it doesnt make.
Bradlums said:
Except for all the piss on the streets (getting tired of this place) but yeah, come visit ether, i'll get you fucked up for free!
And ether snake, your life is what you make of it, I wouldn't say pack up and leave your life, but maybe save up for a small traveling vacation, a change of scenery can sometimes help.
Fusion Pizza
Member
Kerub said:
Yeah, I'm about to get ready to go to a party with some friends where I will be drinking, its all in moderation, I personally started drinking really young so I never went through a binge phase in college, I still smoke as well, just not nearly as much, plus, math is so much more fucking useful when you can remember it.
Accutane + therapy. Take the next few months to get your skin sorted, while monitoring yr mental health, then try something new. I'd recommend a move to a city if you can afford it, it could be a springboard for new hobbies. Exercise in some fashion too, it doesn't have to be weight lifting or running, but maybe joining a sports league or biking.
Basically, you have nothing to lose besides that job, and it seems like you have the skills to get another one. I'd try making a fresh start.
Basically, you have nothing to lose besides that job, and it seems like you have the skills to get another one. I'd try making a fresh start.
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Computer said:
Even if?
Having that kind of money would prompt me to leave everything behind and travel the world learning languages and cultures.
brianjones
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Ketchup Boy said:
these were key for me
unfortunately im not doing any of them right now since i lost my last job.. ive been in kind of a funk :/
cant even find motivation to exercise
brianjones said:
Go do it, NOW. No, seriously, now. Get off the damn internet and go for a run. Don't even reply. Just go. You will appreciate it.
Here's a motivator: Women will be attracted to to if you're good looking, even if you have no job. It won't be long term but it'll stroke that male ego.
half a moon
Banned
When I was in lower levels of school I didn't talk much and was was unhappy because of social problems and weight.
When I was 19 I had a g/f, job, and was in college. I wasn't really happy then. I obsessed over my social issues and weight still.
I'm 23, no job, living at home, no friends, dying pet, health issues, social anxiety, not working out, never really traveled, failed out of school. Now I obsess over taking care of my old pet, my health issues(probably self induced by stress) annnddd social issues.
All I can say is health is a bigger weight than late 20's.
When I was 19 I had a g/f, job, and was in college. I wasn't really happy then. I obsessed over my social issues and weight still.
I'm 23, no job, living at home, no friends, dying pet, health issues, social anxiety, not working out, never really traveled, failed out of school. Now I obsess over taking care of my old pet, my health issues(probably self induced by stress) annnddd social issues.
All I can say is health is a bigger weight than late 20's.
Ketchup Boy
Junior Member
Also, it is very important to realize friends come and go. They're not your family. They're not blood. It was easy to have friends in high school/college.
But I can understand how you might want to see what its like to go out with buds regularly to the club weekly and try to pick up chicks and all that jazz. Looks very appealing and enjoyable. So try it out and see you how you like it. Personally, I've gotten that out of my system like a year or two ago. Lol but if thats what you want to do heres a great guy to follow, try to be like him, get jacked as hel!, learn how to game and learn how to dance (he doesn't know to dance/game though I think and just relies on his looks lol):
http://www.facebook.com/zyzzthetics?sk=wall
But yeah, honestly, I think everyone wants to try to date a super model tier chick once in their life, so make that a goal, bud! Probably the most interesting goal if you never have accomplished it. But prepare to die emotionally down the road hahaha that's life, buddy!
But I can understand how you might want to see what its like to go out with buds regularly to the club weekly and try to pick up chicks and all that jazz. Looks very appealing and enjoyable. So try it out and see you how you like it. Personally, I've gotten that out of my system like a year or two ago. Lol but if thats what you want to do heres a great guy to follow, try to be like him, get jacked as hel!, learn how to game and learn how to dance (he doesn't know to dance/game though I think and just relies on his looks lol):
http://www.facebook.com/zyzzthetics?sk=wall
But yeah, honestly, I think everyone wants to try to date a super model tier chick once in their life, so make that a goal, bud! Probably the most interesting goal if you never have accomplished it. But prepare to die emotionally down the road hahaha that's life, buddy!
Ketchup Boy said:
This man has it right. The most beautiful women in the world WILL break your heart, and it'll hurt more than anything and make you wish you could force time to reverse with sheer emotional pain.
But you'll still ask for more. We're such shallow creatures, us men.
It sounds like you are depressed or have low self esteem because of your (lack of) success with women. The root of course is that you aren't working towards any big goals but for you I think that goal is being in a relationship. I especially think your problem with motivation will subside if you find yourself someone to love and love you back.
Ketchup Boy
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Zefah said:
lol man, if I had a billion dollars I would do the exact same thing. I'd have a place in like all the best cities in the world and travel there when a sick event is going on and I would spend the rest of my time learning new stuff and trying to make cool stuff and train and beat world records and junk. How cool would it be train for the Olympics, make a big budget special effects action movie or learn how to fly a jet (and own it) and be able to travel to like London in four hours and a have a cool underground lair like Batman...fuuukkkk.
Mikey Jr.
Member
Ether, you are not alone. A lot of people probably have this problem. Me included.
Too bad we don't have a "lonely people" meet up thread which has cities in it. I live in Toronto and would like to meet up with some people who maybe have the same problem. But, truth be told, I would be scared shitless. lol.
Too bad we don't have a "lonely people" meet up thread which has cities in it. I live in Toronto and would like to meet up with some people who maybe have the same problem. But, truth be told, I would be scared shitless. lol.
Ketchup Boy
Junior Member
brianjones said:
There are two things I know of that can usually get people to do stuff. They can either get paid to get something done or they can face a consequence where they'll lose something that is valuable to them if they don't get something done by a certain deadline.
Now, since no one is going to pay you to exercise and I am pretty sure you want to exercise, you'll have to set a goal for yourself and set a deadline to get that goal done. Now, if you do not get that goal done, then you'll have to set a consequence for yourself.
For example, say you're going to hit the gym three times each week for the next two weeks. Now, if you do not get that done, then a consequence is that you'll lose $100. The key is that the consequence has to be large enough that you cannot lose it and do not want to lose it. The consequence cannot be like losing $1. Losing $1 is not a big of deal at all. So make the consequence big.
The other key part is that you need to have something that you trust like a friend or family member hold you accountable. You have to give them the money before you set out to accomplish your goal. You have to text/e-mail them a picture of yourself each day at the gym with the current date and time in order to prove that you actually went to the gym. And if you don't do it three times for each week, then they automatically keep your money. And thats a probably a good enough motivation for them to help you out. lol
So yeah, losing something that is valuable to you is an excellent way to motivate yourself.
jaxword said:
lol Life's not fair.
But whatevz.IsntChrisL
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Now is the time to try something new. Like taking heroin everyday for a week and quitting cold turkey. Or robbing a military base.
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Smelly Tramp said:
But what if my life is 1000% worst than the life of your average alien from the planet Zubibazoo? Can I whine now?
Kerub said:
I don't want to come into a relationship empty handed. It's not a relationship that will fix my problem and it's not what I'm looking for now.
SiriusTexra
Banned
If you don't know how to play an instrument, learn one. Devote your time to it.
I think everyone on the planet should be made mandatory to find an instrument they like to play, and learn it. Be it the piano or the fucking koto.
It's just so rewarding, to sit with other people, and play music.
Basically what I mean is, you need something, a purpose to create. Be it art, writing, music, shooting your own short films.
You'd be surprised where a path in life can take you if you follow it furiously to it's end.
I think everyone on the planet should be made mandatory to find an instrument they like to play, and learn it. Be it the piano or the fucking koto.
It's just so rewarding, to sit with other people, and play music.
Basically what I mean is, you need something, a purpose to create. Be it art, writing, music, shooting your own short films.
You'd be surprised where a path in life can take you if you follow it furiously to it's end.
Volunteer for some animal organization or something that might interest you
Join a religion
Join a car club
The point I'm making is try to find a small knit community and join it. The things that make us the happiest are the social connections that we make with people and also sex. It is very difficult to change who we are but if you don't try then you will have the same troubles.
Join a religion
Join a car club
The point I'm making is try to find a small knit community and join it. The things that make us the happiest are the social connections that we make with people and also sex. It is very difficult to change who we are but if you don't try then you will have the same troubles.
Ketchup Boy
Junior Member
SiriusTexra said:
Yeah, man, I want to create this sick story by the time I hit like 60 or 70 and then at the end say it was a true story and it was mine.
Wouldn't it be sick if you were able to pick yourself out of a rut and become somebody/something that did something sick and made the world for the better like Batman? Batman Begins and The Dark Knight are my favorite movies.
Okay, I posted in this thread way too much! lol I'll stop, now.
plasticpassion
Member
Life is pretty boring. I encounter the same issue fairly often. Wish I had advice for you
beelzebozo
Jealous Bastard
do things for others.
focus on things besides yourself and your boredom all the time.
that'll fix most of it.
focus on things besides yourself and your boredom all the time.
that'll fix most of it.
wandering goat
Member
I feel like a lot of your post describes me as well (I'm 27 now). Virtually all of my old friends have moved away, past where I can see them with any kind of regularity, and I have almost no one that I hang out with now, bar a rare time or two a month at most. I had a girlfriend about a year ago, but even then I wasn't too interested in her and the relationship only lasted like a month (she also moved away, and a long-term relationship wasn't enough with how little time we had spent together). The only reason I even got into a relationship was that she basically went after me herself.
Out of curiousity, do you feel like you're also far less emotional than other people? Myself, besides feeling an almost complete lack of motivation for most things (including things I used to love to do), I also feel like my emotions are almost always just completely flat and I just take everything with a completely calm, logical (boring) perspective. I've considered multiple times whether these things are something chemically wrong with me and if I should see a doctor or something, but never have yet. Things can't hold my interest for very long, which kind of makes even solitary activities only engaging up to a certain point. And I'm in general very introverted, and often feel as if I'm happier alone than with others, which kind of disinclines me from making more friends if I have a chance - probably a vicious circle, that. I do feel that I currently kind of suck at just easily making small talk and carrying a conversation myself unless I know the person well, or feel really comfortable with them.
Out of curiousity, do you feel like you're also far less emotional than other people? Myself, besides feeling an almost complete lack of motivation for most things (including things I used to love to do), I also feel like my emotions are almost always just completely flat and I just take everything with a completely calm, logical (boring) perspective. I've considered multiple times whether these things are something chemically wrong with me and if I should see a doctor or something, but never have yet. Things can't hold my interest for very long, which kind of makes even solitary activities only engaging up to a certain point. And I'm in general very introverted, and often feel as if I'm happier alone than with others, which kind of disinclines me from making more friends if I have a chance - probably a vicious circle, that. I do feel that I currently kind of suck at just easily making small talk and carrying a conversation myself unless I know the person well, or feel really comfortable with them.
umop_3pisdn
Member
Live life in the pursuit of wisdom. It's rarely dull, if not meaningful, though I'm sure it's sometimes agonizing. But agony isn't really 'boring', either, at least it isn't complacency. And it's the good kind of agony granted it's in service of something beneficial or worthwhile. Likely if you do choose to follow this path, a lot of the things you mention in the OP will seem insignificant.
POWERSPHERE
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lunarworks said:
This is bullshit. I've made a bunch of important friends in my 30s it's just being open to it. The magical secret to making friends is having a passion, because pursuing that passion puts you in touch with others with the same passion. Mine is music and i've totally washed out all of my bullshit friends from my early 20s and have an amazing crew of friends & girlfriend that I made from 27 onward, with many made in my 30s.
Have dreams, follow them. Shit is corny as fuck, but if you do it, it's just life. And you get one stab, so it's never to late.
Good luck.
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dem said:
Yeah I started watching hockey this year. I like it, it gave me a reason to hang out with colleagues. It's better than when I didn't, but it could come down any minute since we're at an age where people tend to hang out with their s/o or with their friends and their s/o.
SiriusTexra said:
Been doing illustrations for a while but I got exposed to so much of it that it bores me and I lost my motivation, and what doesn't bore me are things I don't do.
Kurashima said:
I used to think that but I know it's not the case. Yes I am not a jumping sac of excitement but that's normal, plenty of people aren't. Doesn't mean I don't laugh or can't cheer for my hockey team and what not, but I'm a calm person so I don't get highly excited about anything in general. I don't put much thought to it really.
BTW thanks for all the replies I read all of them even if I didn't reply to everyone.
I guess the most important thing I feel I need to do is get my driver's license. Then I can travel again even if it's alone (more fun with being able to drive where I want when I want). It will at least give me more mobility, which means I would be more likely to do stuff I don't usually do. I'd love to own a motorcycle. I don't care for a car, but it would be useful too. Having both would be costly though. I'd go for the motorcycle first
Buying my own house would bring its share of weight on my shoulders but it would also force me to do something and take some responsibilities. It's not something I want to do, but I don't want to wash the dishes and I do it anyway, and it's probably more rewarding than doing the dishes. I want a backyard so I can plant some fruit tree and have a pool for the summer
I need to keep making art even if I often feel bored with it. I know I never regret it once I'm done.
Friends and relationships will not be worth trying to keep a hold of as long as I don't do anything. If some pass by and stick around good, but I'm not going to make the effort of keeping them. I find it more important for me to have the above than try to make friends and get a girlfriend, those can will come naturally if I'm actually doing something with my life. It's more important for me to actually do those things I listed than my friends or a girlfriend. I'm not looking for other people's validation of myself, and I think any positiveness from others will have to come from me changing my own life first.
I feel tired having had no actual family, no siblings or friends during my childhood so I had to realize everything myself and always turn things around myself. I think it has started to take its toll on me, it's not fun always having to do everything yourself. But I know I could be at a turning point if I push a bit more, I think.
when people say 'travel', they don't mean going around your native country like you've been doing (on a bus, no less). think of a country you've always wanted to go and fly there. once you've been, you'll probably realise there are more and more places you are interested in. traveling by yourself will also force you to meet people along the way.
friskykillface
Banned
If money wasn't a option I would travel around the world starting with Europe.
Idk I just cant see myself staying in one place and I want to explore the world, at least I'm going ti San Diego / maybe Vegas in august
And I'm with you op, I have a boring life and don't know what to do with it.
Idk I just cant see myself staying in one place and I want to explore the world, at least I'm going ti San Diego / maybe Vegas in august
And I'm with you op, I have a boring life and don't know what to do with it.
Silentagony
Member
Do you have any close relatives that you talk to?
I think you sound like a younger version of my dad. He just does stocks and doesn't really have any friends. He talks to family.
Anyway, I am much the same way. I never had a lot of friends and disconnected with the ones at school. I have one, maybe, who I really did enjoy, but now we're about 300km apart.
I moved with my boyfriend to another city and we haven't tried making close friends. We have co-worker friends, but those friends we don't hang out with much outside of work anyway. I would say if you want to start anew, you can always move. No one knows me here and I don't see so many familiar faces now in this city, which is nice (hate bumping into people I knew). I also like to volunteer a lot, I don't really meet "friends" but its something to do. Lately I have also been training to run a fun-race (I'm supposed to collect pledges for the Alzheimer Society)... I haven't ever been in one and I wanted to challenge myself, so that may be something you want to do? It takes up some time too, and I don't meet people that way either, but its something to do. So those are my few ideas.
Any of that sound helpful? Once in a while you will get in an unmotivational rut in your life and that's totally normal. I've been there too where I'd just hang out on the internet all day long. But it was good too cause I met some really cool people off the internet and then started to do things outside!! :0 And that's where you can break the vicious cycle. Does that help?
I think you sound like a younger version of my dad. He just does stocks and doesn't really have any friends. He talks to family.
Anyway, I am much the same way. I never had a lot of friends and disconnected with the ones at school. I have one, maybe, who I really did enjoy, but now we're about 300km apart.
I moved with my boyfriend to another city and we haven't tried making close friends. We have co-worker friends, but those friends we don't hang out with much outside of work anyway. I would say if you want to start anew, you can always move. No one knows me here and I don't see so many familiar faces now in this city, which is nice (hate bumping into people I knew). I also like to volunteer a lot, I don't really meet "friends" but its something to do. Lately I have also been training to run a fun-race (I'm supposed to collect pledges for the Alzheimer Society)... I haven't ever been in one and I wanted to challenge myself, so that may be something you want to do? It takes up some time too, and I don't meet people that way either, but its something to do. So those are my few ideas.
Any of that sound helpful? Once in a while you will get in an unmotivational rut in your life and that's totally normal. I've been there too where I'd just hang out on the internet all day long. But it was good too cause I met some really cool people off the internet and then started to do things outside!! :0 And that's where you can break the vicious cycle. Does that help?
I'm 32 and have the same issues. I set goals for myself, work hard to meet them, and then when I get there I just feel like.... "That's it? That's what I worked for?"
Anyway, moving to, living in, and working in a foreign country does not make things better. I currently live in China, still have no friends, and feel just as isolated as I would if I was back home in the states.
I'm single and bored with just about every girl I meet. I just don't feel like putting in the effort to be in a relationship with anyone.
All the people I meet just seem to be young, irresponsible and immature idiots who just came here to drink and fuck the locals. Not my scene anymore.
I just take things one day at a time and try not to even think about it anymore. I'm not depressed but I'm not exactly happy. It is what it is.
Anyway, moving to, living in, and working in a foreign country does not make things better. I currently live in China, still have no friends, and feel just as isolated as I would if I was back home in the states.
I'm single and bored with just about every girl I meet. I just don't feel like putting in the effort to be in a relationship with anyone.
All the people I meet just seem to be young, irresponsible and immature idiots who just came here to drink and fuck the locals. Not my scene anymore.
I just take things one day at a time and try not to even think about it anymore. I'm not depressed but I'm not exactly happy. It is what it is.
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Jake. said:
Errr I traveled from Canada to Europe for a month and a half, by myself. Didn't plan anything other than my first destination, and kept on going planning along the way for six weeks. Traveled by plane, bus, boat, and walked a lot.
friskykillface said:If money wasn't a option I would travel around the world starting with Europe.
Idk I just cant see myself staying in one place and I want to explore the world, at least I'm going ti San Diego / maybe Vegas in august
And I'm with you op, I have a boring life and don't know what to do with it.
I'll travel more when I get my license, for sure.
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Zeth said:
I'm not in PA! Where do you guys keep reading that?
But yes thanks for the reply
Silentagony said:
I talk to my mom and my dad sometimes, and once in a while my cousin.
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