Training wheels vs. Badge of honor
You either wear the best because of the stats and forsake the aesthetics, OR you wear what you think looks good despite any shortcomings it may have for your play style.
If you care so much about the aesthetics, suck it up and wear what you think looks the best, THEN learn to play well enough to get along without the min/maxed stats. That alone makes you the bigger badass than how the armor looks. I'm all about badges of honor or pride, and I'll sacrifice stats so that my character has visibly overcome the training wheels provided by stat-focused gear. If you can't do that, then keep the training wheels on and be visibly reminded of your shortcomings.