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First Date with someone I matched with on Tinder

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FullMetalx117

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Meeting someone online is pretty common place nowadays and as such I have a date coming up this weekend with someone I matched with on Tinder. She was initially just using Tinder as kind of a joke (wanted to gain followers on Twitter/insta, she has about 1000 matches!), but then we actually started texting, taking about each other's days, friends, etc. We've been texting for about 3 weeks now.

I'm pretty nervous. I've never been on a date before with someone i met online. How does the first interaction even workout? Do I hug her? (I'm not much of a hugger). A handshake? We're meeting at a restaurant and I feel like I've already talked a lot about myself over text. We have a great "online" chemistry and I really want this to translate into real life. Any advice?
 
FullMetalx117 said:
Meeting someone online is pretty common place nowadays and as such I have a date coming up this weekend with someone I matched with on Tinder. She was initially just using Tinder as kind of a joke (wanted to gain followers on Twitter/insta, she has about 1000 matches!), but then we actually started texting, taking about each other's days, friends, etc. We've been texting for about 3 weeks now.

I'm pretty nervous. I've never been on a date before with someone i met online. How does the first interaction even workout? Do I hug her? (I'm not much of a husher). A handshake? We're meeting at a restaurant and I feel like I've already talked a lot about myself over text. We have a great "online" chemistry and I really want this to translate into real life. Any advice?
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Don't do this. A handshake will be fine.
 
Kiss her on the cheek

TS-08 said:
Kneel and kiss her hand.
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A hug if you think your chemistry is good enough.
Otherwise there's nothing wrong with a handshake at all. Just make sure it doesn't come off as too formal. Big smile and friendly yet enthusiastic handshake works just fine!
 
Fist bump sounds risky to me. I would sooner kneel and kiss her hand while making a joke out of it.
 
I know plenty of girls who are not the hugging type. Just do what's natural...if she opens up/approaches like she's going to hug, then you hug her. I'd default to handshake for someone I've just met, though.
 
FullMetalx117 said:
Haha what about a fist bump? That's different
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Just go in for the hug op. You'll know pretty fast if she's at least physically attracted to you when you first meet. Handshakes are for more formal meetings while fistbumps are for best friends. Your SO can be your best friend, but you're still just getting to know each other.
 
FreezeSSC said:
Handshakes are for business meetings. Greet her with a hug.
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DopeyFish said:
A handshake? WTF
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super-famicom said:
A handshake will be fine.
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BossLackey said:
I didn't realize a handshake was off limits. That's what I was going to suggest.
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kai3345 said:
Don't fucking handshake her that's for sure
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I would say a hug should be okay. I've ended a date with a handshake before (I was in high school and had no clue wtf I was doing), and got laughed at really hard. However, this was a girl I had known for a year or so.
 
xtrasauce said:
I do recommend hugging her to break the ice, and while doing so whisper in her ear "there is nothing to worry about" to ease any tension.
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What the fuck. That shit sounds like OP is about to put the SAW III moves on her.
 
Handshakes are for business agreements.

If she doesn't at least smile at you when you go for a fist bump she isn't worth your time. If her first impression of you is you making her smile, well, need I say more?

Team fist bump.
 
Met my current GF online.. talked for a couple months before meeting... I got there first and picked a seat.. when she arrived she just walked up to the table.. first thing out of her mouth "You look like your picture, thank god!"

At the end of the date we hugged.... she commented on how tall I was.... 8 months later she lives with me and we get along great!

So #1.. make sure you look like your pic. #2 just be natural.. and my advice get there early.

Good luck.. enjoy it.. do NOT over think it and just be natural.

Also... again.. make sure you look like your pic !
 
And don't forget to applaud after the meal if you are American. In fact you should rent out the restaurant for just you two so she can judge your clapping in silence.
 
Just treat her like a normal person ffs talk about your regular shit greet her like you would anyone else start a fire at the table if things get awkward just act natural idiot
 
Handshakes are weird and set the tone much differently than how you'd like. Always go for the hug, but make it a quick one.

I'm also a musician and musicians always hug. Always.

Borgnine said:
Swipe your hand over her right breast if her appearance pleases you.
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hahahahahhaaha.
 
The most important thing to do is to show up wearing a fedora, and make sure to address her as "M'lady". Extra points if you bow as you say it.
 
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