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It sounds like that, in the past few years, you've see this girl about once a year and have texted her maybe a dozen time...so you feel that this isn't enough to make your facebook cut....yet you have 300 people that you talk to and/or see more than a few times a year?

So, each day you're interacting with at least 2-3 of your FB friends away from facebook...and that's 2-3 different people every day?

Somehow I see that as bullshit.


I'll agree with the others...you're being a dick. She sent you a request, essentially saying "Hey, I still consider us friends!" and, instead of doing the right thing and responding, you just ignore her?

With 300 friends, you obviously don't post incredibly personal stuff on facebook, so what's the problem with adding someone who wants to call you 'friend'?
 
Jangaroo said:
Sometimes I feel like sprucing down my friends list but I'm just too damn lazy to do it. Awkward situation there though.
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*defriends Jangaroo on Steam*

Wait, we weren't even friends to begin with??? HUSSY!!!
 
UFRA said:
Instead of ignoring her and making things worse, I'd just confront her about the issues...explain exactly what you explained here. You thought that your friendship was dead and were moving on. See if she wants to fix that. If you lived with her for some time, she's not just some 'random acquaintance' but I see how you can feel she's not a close friend.

This is why I'm glad I don't do the Facebook crap. If I don't want to keep in touch with someone, I can just stop calling them and they get the hint. There's no virtual list of friends that they can check and suddenly see themselves missing from and get all bent out of shape over it. :lol
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This is good advice.
 
AMUSIX said:
It sounds like that, in the past few years, you've see this girl about once a year and have texted her maybe a dozen time...so you feel that this isn't enough to make your facebook cut....yet you have 300 people that you talk to and/or see more than a few times a year?

So, each day you're interacting with at least 2-3 of your FB friends away from facebook...and that's 2-3 different people every day?

Somehow I see that as bullshit.


I'll agree with the others...you're being a dick. She sent you a request, essentially saying "Hey, I still consider us friends!" and, instead of doing the right thing and responding, you just ignore her?

With 300 friends, you obviously don't post incredibly personal stuff on facebook, so what's the problem with adding someone who wants to call you 'friend'?
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I explained in another post on page one that it's not just pure "I see you X number of times a year so you're ok on my friendslist." I take into account how far they live from me, how long I've known them, etc. She lives very close by the standards of the city we live in and she's known me for three years. That's a different situation than someone who lives a thousand miles away or someone I met last month. It's common sense.
 
Yasae said:
*defriends Jangaroo on Steam*

Wait, we weren't even friends to begin with??? HUSSY!!!
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Didn't you delete me off of your list? I swear I thought I had most of the regulars on Java's server down on my list :lol
 
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YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS

But I don't make GAF threads about it
, just derail other ones.
 
Yasae said:
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YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS

But I don't make GAF threads about it
, just derail other ones.
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I'm glad we got to rectify this error here ol' chum.
 
So what's the...problem? Is this a situation? Do you want us to tell you that it's okay to ignore her? Here's our approval: do what you feel is right in this situation.

It's mind-boggling, MIND-BOGGLING that you had the time and will to write THAT MUCH text over something like this.
 
OP, I do the same thing you do, with the regular friends list clean-up and all. I exercise the ignore and delete buttons quit often. I'm at around 200 but I'm sure I could have over 1000. I prefer to only keep actual friends on my list and people who care that I'm on their list(view my page).

I've deleted someone and she requested me again a short while later after she saw I wasn't on her list. I approved her because I figure if your gonna notice that I'm off your list, or you want to be on my list that bad, you can go ahead and have it.
 
Every time I get close to actually creating a Facebook account, I come across stories like this and it just feels like I would be adding so much more of a layer of bullshit and hassle to my life.
 
Vik_Vaughn said:
Every time I get close to actually creating a Facebook account, I come across stories like this and it just feels like I would be adding so much more of a layer of bullshit and hassle to my life.
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I only stop because I know I'll use my condescending sarcasm that I use here on Facebook. I also know that 99.9% of people won't get that and I'll probably end up with 0 friends.
 
Did you attempt to linger?
 
SLYspyda said:
OP, I do the same thing you do, with the regular friends list clean-up and all. I exercise the ignore and delete buttons quit often. I'm at around 200 but I'm sure I could have over 1000. I prefer to only keep actual friends on my list and people who care that I'm on their list(view my page).

I've deleted someone and she requested me again a short while later after she saw I wasn't on her list. I approved her because I figure if your gonna notice that I'm off your list, or you want to be on my list that bad, you can go ahead and have it.
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This. OP be honest, do you hate her? If not just go ahead and click accept.
 
You guys once had a friendship, what's wrong with her now. You don't like her just because you guys don't see each other? Add her to facebook, what harm does that do, it seems really important to her. Maybe she will try to get in touch with you to hang out regular in the future.

If you need an excuse as to why you waited so long, just say you didn't have internet access for a while or something. Or tell her the truth, who cares if she thinks badly about you for that; you didn't really want to be friends still anyway in that case.
 
Accept her and hide her posts. If you care enough, which you seem to, talk to her about this.

faridmon said:
WTF? I have like, 80 frinds in my friendlist. a 1000? Is that normal over there in America?
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Most people add acquaintances and some will add everyone they've ever met and/or strangers. I have about 300, care about half of them.
 
Just tell her what you told us. And stop being such a pussy. Seriously, you pretended to not know her phone number and now you're just hiding from a awkward conversation like you're scared of it.

And I agree with what Mama Robotnik said. It doesn't really sound like you and her are friends. She only got back in contact when she needed a place to stay. And she probably only noticed that you defriended her when her collection of facebook friends by which she measures her self-worth went down in number.
 
FaceBook drama? I don't see why you are making a big deal out of this. You are making it an issue by trying to communicate an abstract point about friendship when you could easily just add her and ignore her. Stop caring about FB. I have friends who have added me, deleted me only to later add me again at a later date. No one uses FB as a way to make a stronger commitment to a friend. It's just a way to get invites to parties, share pictures and stay in contact with extended family.

I had a similar issue with a friend except it was communication via snail mail. I thought, why am I writing to you if we have no plans to ever see each other? I created a whole issue similarly to what you are doing now over something I don't really even care about. If I had to wager a guess, I'd say thay you probably had a crush on this girl at some point and ignoring her is a way to get her to pay attention to you.
 
joeblackisback said:
Jesus, when did facebook get so serious? I miss black planet and migente. Things were so much simpler then.
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Well, it is worth $50 Billion and it's also the focus of a major motion picture. I'd say that's serious. :D

I hate the Facebook obsessive though. Just add and block her OP.
 
Jesus, if you can spend that type of energy on a Neogaf-post, I can't understand how it'd be too hard to explain to her.

Two options:
1. add her, hide her comments, ignore problem.
2. explain to her how you feel.

If you don't care enough about her to have her on your friends-list, you ought to be able to say that to her. If not, yes, you're a dick.

Just link her to this post.


Also, 1000 friends? Seriously. I pruned extensively and I'm down to around 60. I was around 130 tops.

Dunbar says WTF.
 
The only solution is to play wonderwall on your guitar and see how you feel about her afterwards.

fmcato said:
Meh. Each passing day I feel better for having deleted my facebook profile.
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Same.
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Be a pussy or be an asshole, but decide yourself for fuck's sake!

I'll add that 300 contacts in FB is a bit much to really justify the real friends/not real friends thing, I try to always hover around 100 and I feel that's already A LOT.
 
If you really don't like her, don't add her to send that unspoken message; otherwise, you're just being weird. It's Facebook.



Facebook.
 
xxjuicesxx said:
I think people who make facebook cuts are lame. Like super super super lame.
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Eh, it makes perfect sense to do so. The only time it bothers me is when people feel compelled to advertise that they're did so via status updates ("Just purged my friends list, so be happy that you made the cut!").
 
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